Quickly following up on my meta thoughts from last night: an important point that the EAW writers (I think) are making.
Like I mentioned previously: the budding relationship between Young-woo and Jun-ho is making his friends in the show, and maybe even real viewers, wiggly. Another item to remember is that Jun-ho has that one colleague who seems to think that Young-woo is part of an organization of disabled individuals that Jun-ho previously volunteered for.
The fact that Jun-ho has volunteered in the past with disabled individuals is important. As soon as anyone -- volunteers, social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. -- works with individuals with intellectual or mental disabilities, you recognize the spectrum of the condition. BUT, you also recognize that many (I might say, almost all, proportionally) have the ability to engage in their own agency to make their own decisions in some capacity.
Meaning: Jun-ho KNOWS that Young-woo has the capacity to exist relatively “normally” in the everyday world that he, as a non-autistic individual, also inhabits. He knows the following: he KNOWS she has agency, and the capability to exercise that agency, because he’s seen it in his volunteering past.
Like I said before, this is really big! This show is demonstrating agency for a person (Young-woo) that many of us may have implicit sympathy for. That’s why Jun-ho went off at the bar with his friends. He KNOWS Young-woo isn’t pitiful. He knows she’s not needing his sympathy. He’s seen individuals like her, engaged with them, and he KNOWS they can live in his same world. With more struggles? Sure. It’ll be harder for him to love her, as she states. But damn if she’s not exercising her agency to get him to admit that to her in words. And he bites! He takes it. He knows it. Because he knows the world isn’t fair to her, but that she can live in it anyway. She’s a badass. He recognizes. He knows she’s kicking and is gonna kick ass, and he loves her for it.
I’m seeing the memes of Jun-ho as a Jane Austen-like dude, and other assumptions that he’s in this for marriage, but I THINK, rather -- he’s recognizing that Young-woo has been empowering herself since day fucking one. (Attorney Jung also knows that -- he knows that she’ll show off her talent, and she knows that he knows. Badass!)
I just think this show is playing beautifully with ideas of agency in the face of disability discrimination and misogyny, and that Young-woo and Jun-ho are excellent foils in all of it.
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The fact that she breaks up with him because she thinks he deserves someone who won't make him feel lonely, then proceeds to leave him heartbroken and alone begging for a reason while she walks away to continue working is peak self-fulfillment.
The fact that he becomes quiet when he notices that she is distressed but believes it is because he is yelling and not because she is upset at what she did and that he believes she is breaking up with him due to external reasons like Attorney Jung being sick or not being able to see the dolphins is the epitome of self-denial.
The distance between them exists because they love each other too much yet don't love themselves enough to know they deserve this love.
Much like the dolphin, they are so focused on seeing the one aspect that they miss the big picture. They care so much about the other person's individual happiness that they don't realize they are essential to that happiness.
What you see isn't everything. Don't be blinded by what you see. Keep in the mind the essence of what lies beyond that.
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Alright. SPOILERS. It might take me a couple posts over today and tomorrow to process EAW ep. 14. I’ll try to keep things organized. My Big Thoughts on Young-woo are at the bottom. Long post warning.
1) I’m going to sound a far different bell than the reviews I’m seeing on the tag. I think the writing of ep. 14 was absolutely FANTASTIC. I am giddy over how good this writing was and I can’t wait to re-watch this episode.
I think ep. 13 needed to set up a lot of conflict very quickly to get to the important penultimate episode next week, which we know can be huge. Today’s (Thursday’s) episode, for me, ironed out a lot of the sudden conflict we saw, including contextualizing Attorney Jung’s illness. When he says that South Korea has the best treatment for stomach cancer (a relatively common ailment in those parts of Asia that we don’t see as much in the US), I believe it, and I think the writers intentionally put those lines in there to give viewers who know that background a touch of relief (but we’re still worried about him).
2) Content-wise, obviously, things are not going as linearly as us viewers would have liked or expected. But y’all -- I believe the writers know this and are doing this to us. Look at what Su-yeon said to Min-woo: “I almost reported you to the police for the crime of not staying in character.” The writers know what they’re doing!
Another way I think the writers are injecting lightness here -- when Jun-ho said he wouldn’t drink, and then he got plastered. I think it was set up to be cute. I’m not reading a forever devastation and finality to the break-up, partially based on the existence of that scene. More on this below.
(Also, side note, now we know that Min-woo knows. And, whoa, seemed to actually be supportive of his homeboy in the relationship -- Min-woo hadn’t tried to get them to break up, I guess?)
3) I believe the writers are setting up a moral dilemma conflict for Min-woo that I might be here for. NOT a hard bet, because I think he’s still scheming, but I wonder.
I also think that Su-yeon is fixing to be a freaking superhero vis à vis that dilemma. I’m getting that from the preview for ep. 15, where we see Su-yeon protecting Young-woo from reporters.
4) I’m seeing fam on the tag calling out CEO Han for being evil and scheme-y, but we already knew she was, and Young-woo’s dad knows this, too. Her scheme is not a surprise to me. Her hiring of Young-woo was going to lead to something like this. I just want to know their background in law school. Maybe CEO Han has a hereditary competition with Tae Su-mi. I want to know that juicy juicy drama.
(I wrote this before, but this is why I think CEO Han eats Min-woo over this somehow. At least I hope so.)
(Frankly, and I know this is bad of me because it puts Young-woo in the middle of all of this shit, but I hope CEO Han blinks out Tae Su-mi. I think Tae Su-mi is pure evil.)
5) I think the big themes of this episode were: compassion, empathy, creativity, and revelation. Here’s why.
I believe the stories of Attorney Jung and Young-woo are linked. He’s the elder -- a senior partner who ignored his personal life, who ignored the people who loved him personally, to live and breathe the law. As his ex-wife notes, he’s more alive when talking to an attorney than when talking to her.
Wasn’t Young-woo the same as she was breaking up with Jun-ho? She was more energized about her law revelation than about communicating the reasons for the break-up. She kept that part to herself. And Jun-ho, bless him, was asking for that reasoning, continuing to demand to Young-woo that she work on empathizing with him.
We know that communicatively, there is a lot that Young-woo and Jun-ho need to say to each other. But this IS a drama, and the writers need to stave off that content to wrap up the series next week.
However, I REALLY think we saw a lot of compassionate growth in Young-woo this episode. We saw her ignore Attorney Jung’s insistence to not fuss over him. We saw her absorbing the words of the song about the burden of love at the noraebang. We see her looking at Jun-ho on the plane.
I think the way the writers are building Young-woo’s self-awareness and self-growth is absolutely gorgeous. In many instances, it’s wordless. Because -- we see her, as she’s growing into her adulthood, learning the words to use in these moments.
Autistic or not, aren’t we all doing that, growing as adults, learning about our emotions and ourselves? What’s the difference here, between her and Attorney Jung? Not a lot, in this moment.
6) Jun-ho and ex-wife Ji-su, the two lonely left-behind lovers. Ji-su says she left Attorney Jung because of her loneliness. We see Jun-ho in his loneliness on the beach, left behind because Young-woo will not take him to where she thinks she’s going -- to always need to be cared for in her life, leaving her lover lonely.
First, we know she doesn’t need to be as cared for as she thinks, because we know she’s a breadwinning baddie. (She’s confident enough to take care of herself as the rest of the team eats the meat noodles with her take-away gimbap. She’s like -- I got me.)
Second, I don’t believe the break-up is final because of the pep talk Attorney Jung gives to Jun-ho. I think there’s a communication ultimatum between these two lovebirds, and Young-woo will need to decide to step up and believe she’s worthy of love, AND that she’s more independent than general society makes her think she is.
7) This is where I think creativity comes in. After that pep talk, I think Jun-ho is fixing to fight for love. God help us, I think this is finally when some communication will take place.
Also, separately, creativity and empathy: I agree with Young-woo that we saw Attorney Jung at his absolute best when speaking to the Abbot at the end of the episode. Speaking to an opposing client is definitely skirting the edges of legal ethics. But he suggests that the temple work with Hanbada’s government affairs team, which is not technically a legal team. Genius. He wants to proactively help in the best way HE can.
Did you see how proud of the team he was when his rookie attorneys were pitching the noodle restaurant owner? He’s realized he’s passed on his wisdom, creativity, and empathy. A huge law firm pitching a restaurant owner in Jeju. Even Min-woo getting into it. I love how the love for Attorney Jung is deeply spread out here.
8) One more point on empathy and compassion.
Did you notice, when ex-wife Ji-su was speaking to Young-woo, what was behind Ji-su?
It was a poster about women’s health. I can’t read Korean, but I did notice the small pink graphic of a set of ovaries.
(Nothing like that will ever get past a mama.)
That shot almost certainly was not an accident.
Part of Ji-su’s sadness is likely not having a family with Attorney Jung. Yet she cared enough for him to fly down from Seoul to Jeju. And is concerned enough about his health to want him to have an earlier surgery.
Despite their break-up -- there’s still love and caring.
Despite Young-woo’s and Jun-ho’s break-up -- there’s still love and caring.
And, I think by including that poster in that shot, it gives us something to chew on. Young-woo, right now, is thinking she’s not deserving of love because she’ll leave her lover lonely in his caretaking of her.
But I think -- in the most subtle, gorgeous way possible -- the writers have left us asking: can Young-woo deserve love and family of her own?
We all know that answer.
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