Erm... Give me a sec...

what is your opinion on the situation?

I've been at work all day so I haven't been able to sit down with stuff fully, it also seems like Caiti is planning to release a statement later today with more information I think? So I'd like to get her response there, but based on what I've seen so far I think I fall more on the side of "people made some dumb choices and should learn from them" than anything else.

Consent is messy and it gets messier when people start lying or are drunk. In this case, both Caiti and George were drunk. From what I understand, either Caiti had a 21+ wristband from the vidcon party, or her friend group did and assumed since she was drinking with them, she was also 21+.

Honestly, when it comes to the matter of underage drinking, I don't think it's even remotely fair to place blame on Dream/George for that. The blame there lies with Caiti deciding to drink while under 21, and on her friends, Ghostie and the other person present who were both over 21. Unlike Dream/George, both of them knew Caiti and knew exactly how old she was and were letting her drink. They were also letting her drink with no one sober and no one making sure she got home.

Now, Caiti is 18 and also I'm not a goddamn square, I'm not gonna stand here and be like "oh no drinking at 18 clutch my pearls" but like, if people are going to blame other people for that situation, that very much lies with Caiti's friends who knew they had an underage person drinking with them. I feel like people are weirdly assigning blame to Dream/George for not like, iding every person they hang out with (particularly if she had a 21+ bracelet at vidcon, which would mean she already got IDed). While completely avoiding placing any blame on the people who 100% knew they were taking an 18 year old drinking without a doubt.

Putting that aside, from my understanding George's side is he believed at the time that she was having fun, and the most they did was cuddle on a couch with other people there. He believed at the time that everything was cool, and that she later decided she was uncomfortable with what happened.

Honestly, I don't really think that's an unfair reading. At this same party, her best friend was there and from Ghostie's own words, she also didn't realize Caiti was uncomfortable until several months later when Caiti told her. If her best friend didn't notice she was uncomfortable or see anything wrong, then I find it hard to think anyone else would pick up on it.

There's certainly risks taken here that I wouldn't have taken. I think that George needs to do better with checking for consent and maybe vetting the people you're hanging out with. Although I also understand that doing a full background check on everyone you ever meet is an absurd requirement and if, at the time, they trusted the person that they actually invited, I get how that shit happens. Per consent, given that he was also drunk, I get how it may've appeared to him that he had consent. I do think it's still something to work on, but I'm also perfectly aware that in real life, people are often going off vibes and social cues, and sometimes those don't mash.

I also think that Caiti's friends have been pretty shitty throughout this. They take no responsibility for having let an 18 year old drink and then ditching her. They are absolutely milking drama out of this shit and they have a weird obsession with blaming Dream for shit he had no fault in.

As for Dream, I don't think he did anything wrong here. Full stop. If Caiti's best friend didn't notice that she was uncomfortable or unhappy, it's insanely unreasonable to expect Dream to have managed that. He was also drunk and hanging out with people, and he had no way of knowing Caiti was underage. None of that shit was his fault, and his statement seems very measured and reasonable. People are trying to blame him for things that he had absolutely no part in, and the UK group are absolutely trying to pull that shit.

Overall, sounds like several people involved made dumb choices, I hope they learn and grow. Otherwise all of this honestly sounds like shit that should've been talked out privately and not tossed to the internet for speculation. Human beings are messy and will fuck up sometimes. This feels like a case of miscommunication and people making risky choices that left people with some hurt.

Again, I may change my mind with further evidence presented, but that's how it feels to me.

“Cecil, if it really means that much to you, I’ll tell you. The truth is, this isn’t my first phantom ocean. Before I ever came to Night Vale, there was an incident.”

I once had a friend watch me on discord call as I essentially “streamed” writing a fic because I signed up for an ao3 event and I wanted to write the fic but I couldn’t get myself to actually do it so that was the method we came up with

And having to rewrite a sentence over and over again in front of her felt like the equivalent of knowing you need to double jump in a game but you can’t get your character to do it, they’re just doing small jumps and you have to keep restarting it

I have a script that’s essentially a better cr but it’s exclusively for me to safely explore my kinks and interests

and it is completely fucking unhinged

The crafting plan I had for my pre-vacation weekend:

- finish sewing that REALLY QUICK AND EASY dress I cut out in JULY

- interface that obi I cut out last October and pattern matched in friggin FEBRUARY

Crafting done in pre-vacation weekend:

- pumped 2.5 sticks of hot glue into the trash can lid to McGyver solution until new, more hygienic trash can is sourced, all the while drafting a strongly worded letter to IKEA about creating cavities on the warm, damp side of a trash can.

- tried and failed to spin on the big wheel, but established my 3D printed spool works. Also established one of the the spools my uncle turned for my small wheel is too long to work.

- put 2 skeins of embroidery thread into the stash-busting bag sewing project, bringing the total up to 4 and eliminating all straight pins for now. Might actually be over halfway done with the would-be boro section of this Hedeby bag with glow in the dark handles.

Crafting plan for first week of vacation:

- since the dress and obi should be done, start on that yukata and make a mock up of that summer dress you bought fabric for last May.

- buy fabric for new sauna robe

I was hoping to get some writing done tonight, but instead the cramps are cramping and I feel like I’ve been hit by about seven trucks 🥴

Coincidentally my usable warp is like exactly as long as my dining room. Point is tho, i am finally done thank fuck

But Daddy I Love Him is pretty much a modern AU Sera song

Well-Laid Plans

"I knew this day would come," said Urza. Looking at the destruction, Barrin sighed, "You don't have to revel in it."

Artist: Kev Walker TCG Player Link Scryfall Link EDHREC Link

UGH.

wait its adora's birthday

Oh I am so obsessed with this and majorly disappointed that he's back to being a villain. The idea the Steph inspired change among people, especially those similar and closest to her. That he might have chosen to go the non-criminal path and instead help people because of her. That he in a way continue her legacy in the most backward of ways because he is her father.

And when she comes back?? She already had complicated feelings that he "died with honor" but now that he's alive? That she grieved him and he grieved her even though he hurt her when he should have protected her and she rightfully blamed him but he "died" a hero and she "died" a hero and now they're both alive. That she started the whole thing because of him and to stop him and what now that he is not bad. That he has in some ways ruined her life and hurt her and manipulated her and nearly caused her death a few times. That she has every right to keep hating him and she wants to hate him but she was sad when he died.

And the parallels to Natalia Knight's decision to leave the crime life!!

anyway scars by the crane wives is so insane it's like. there's something really wrong with me and it's ruining you, it's ruining both of us, and i know what it is but i don't know where it came from and i don't know how to fix it. there's nothing that made me this way, i just am. i think i've always been like this and i just didn't see it at first. i don't think there was ever any chance that i could've been anything better than this. this was always what i was going to become. this was always who i was going to be. and then they just PLAYED that at their concert with no warning and said hope u guys like our new song! ❤️

this fic is not horny enough. 🧐

bones once again leaving out some of the best moments :-/ no matter how small they are