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you-fuckin-judas · 1 year
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A discussion of unwanted physical touch in Young Royals
[specifically between Wille & Simon ]
| TW : discussion of unwanted physical touch, I'm aware this discussion is sensitive for some. If this is something that could make you uncomfortable, please take caution while reading this analysis! |
While the conversation of Physical Touch is EXTREMELY special and vital to the relationship Wille and Simon have, that doesn't mean it's always welcome.
There are many times where Wille will reach out to Simon, or vice versa and that love language will get rejected. It's very rare, but it's important to discuss.
This is a kind reminder that just because someone may have physical touch as their love language, that doesn't mean they owe it to you, or welcome it.
I can't be around you right now.. [ Season 2 EP 1 ]
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This is a really good example of Simon making it clear to Wille that his love language isn't welcome in the conversation between them, at that moment. That has a really intense effect on Wille, and it makes him realize just how badly he's messed things up.
This is also a rare occasion where Simon is using his words to express how he's feeling to Wille, which he doesn't do a lot. He's very guarded. He almost gets irritated at Wille for him not really listening, and just acting like they used to.
Wille isn't understanding what he's saying UNTIL Simon makes it clear that he's not really allowed to reach back out like he usually would. That he needs space and that's something Wille isn't good at handling.
Please I just want to go home. [ Season 2 Episode 6 ]
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The relationship is healed for the most part, well more than what we started the season with. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean Simon will always allow Wille into that physical touch space.
Simon has just been absolutely hit with a BOMB of horrible information, and he can't handle it. Wille can't really express his feelings with his words, so he tries to with his actions.
We just saw this hug happen in a previous episode, and it was beautiful and consensual and loving.
Wille genuinely thought he could recreate that here, but this situation is VERY highly charged with emotions and trauma. That isn't something Wille took into account.
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In this instance, he gets rejected because this is too much for Simon to handle and he can't have Wille pushing for that connection. It doesn't mean he doesn't love Wille, it just means he's overwhelmed and that's okay.
This is a really good example of their communication not being the best across the board. We love to talk about the physical touch love language discussion between them, but not the other love languages and how important those are.
I'm going outside, do you want to join me? [ Season 1 Episode 1 ]
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This one is left out of the discussion a lot which is kind of a bummer, because it's just as important as the others.
Wille and Simon are just starting to interact right, but we know Wille is already whipped as hell for Simon. He is ALREADY bringing the language of physical touch in between them, but Simon is caught off guard almost by it.
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Simon is genuinely looking around at what is going on almost wondering why Wille is already so casual with him, since they just met really they barely have a relationship.
That causes Wille to react, by looking over at him when he takes his hand down. The love language has already been cut short here, and it catches both of them off guard.
could you lend me a pencil? [ Season 2 Episode 2 ]
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This one makes me so sad because we see Wille try to emulate that moment they shared at the manor house watching that horror movie, but here that doesn't work.
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It almost actually does the opposite, because the memory of that is painful for Simon right now.
Wille is really TRYING to get Simon to communicate, and seriously it's making this whole thing worse. He's doing everything he can to either get physical communication out of Simon OR he'll even take verbal at this point. Because he is that desperate.
Yes Wille uses physical touch to communicate, and yes Simon usually does as well.
HOWEVER, that doesn't mean it's always welcome regardless of if you're in a relationship or not.
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depressedtotheleft · 6 years
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I am so grateful for parents [edit. Not exactly my parents] that understand it is awful to make your children give relatives hugs if they don't want to.
I don't care if grandpa might die soon. If my kid doesn't want to be touched, demanding that touch isn't going to improve the relationship it's going to make them dread seeing these relatives at best.
ANY unwanted touch is a violation. As an adult, I only like being touched by 3 people in the world. Any other person feels like seaweed in the ocean. But rather than risk offense, I give tons of hugs that hurt and drain me. That isn't the future I want for anyone.
Especially this holiday season, may we remember that a blood relation does not entitle anyone to our bodies or lives.
Also gentle reminder that just because someone doesn't want you to touch them doesn't mean they hate you. I love tons of people who I cannot stand hugging. There are alternatives. Might I suggest asking for:
A hi-five
Knuckles
Hand hug
A smile
ALWAYS ASK FIRST! It's so important to ask a child's permission before touching them. It's very healthy for their development and your relationship. #Ireadbooksonchildpsychologyforfun #thereare3onmyChristmaslist
A totally respectful "hey if you don't want me to touch you, I defs won't do that, don't worry." Is sometimes necessary and will engender a feeling of safety. Like who is the mature adult here? Kids don't need to be taught they owe ANYONE any touch. Not even an innocent hug.
Is your perception of the relationship worth risking the emotional/mental/physical health of this kid who is currently healthy enough to share that they don't want to be touched?
No fam. No it's not.
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ameribrahim · 3 years
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rodneyandfriends · 6 years
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That nice man made me think of something...I like getting petted and belly scratches but it would be better if people asked first if they could come over and touch me, or my human. If someone touches you, you can always tell them to stop. And if they don’t, you can go tell someone else...like family or a police officer or a fireman or...well anyone that you trust enough to talk to. And if those people touching you are also hurting you, make sure to tell someone fast! #unwantedtouching #warning #raccoon #help #protect #counsel
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laprogressive · 6 years
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juliefederico · 10 years
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Some Parts are not for Sharing by Julie K. Federico, published by Tate Publishing is available online for sale. (ISBN 978-1-60696-603-7)
Some Parts are not for Sharing by Julie K. Federico
Travel with a pair of friendly fish as they learn about what parts of our bodies we share with others. Children will learn what the boundaries of appropriate touching are in a very non-threatening way. School Counselor Julie Federico begins the imperative conversation of personal boundaries in Some Parts are not for Sharing. Children will enjoy learning about their bodies as they get some important information from a pair of fish. Parents will marvel at the simple straightforward language and use of sea creatures that create this message all children must hear.
Julie Federico has been a middle school counselor since 1993. She holds a bachelor's degree in social work and a master's degree in counseling from Indiana University. She is also a certified, level III alcohol counselor in the state of Colorado. She knows first hand the ramifications of childhood abuse. Federico wrote Some Parts are not for Sharing as an early intervention strategy for young children, so they would not suffer in silence. Telling a trusted adult is the first step in stopping abuse.
Spanish version available as well.
24 pages - $6.99 (paperback)
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steadypiratesublime · 10 years
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"Here's a tip. If you touch a girl, even as a joke and she pushes you off, leave . . . her . . . alone. Don't touch her. Anywhere! Just stop. Your touch does nothing but sicken her."
Thirteen reasons why
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laprogressive · 6 years
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