Ohhhh my god saw a short recommended to me on YouTube of a woman talking about how she wears shapewear to make her daily outfits “fit” better and the comments were full of people saying “yes the point of these garments is to make you feel more confident! ☺️ Where can I get this piece?” And it made me want to scream like
If you need to hear this: shapewear should not be daily wear shapewear should not be daily wear you do not need these garments, they’re expensive and they can cause soreness / pain with longterm use, and if you see a video of a beautiful woman talking about how a specific garment from a specific company makes her feel Better and More Confident, she’s not your gal pal letting you in on a secret, she’s selling you a product. You don’t need a flat stomach, and no one has one anyway.
Advertising is getting sneakier and more insidious because younger people are becoming more resistant to traditional forms of advertising. When you see videos like this, ask yourself: is this person really more confident because they use this product? Or is this supposed to make me feel less confident in myself because I don’t?
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Reblog if you grew out your armpit hair, would date someone who was growing theirs out, have a partner with arm pit hair or think anyone can have and grow armpit hair regardless of gender and they can still be cute :)
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rant post incoming because i just have very strong opinions on this one specific topic and i need to get it out before i explode:
lately i have been thinking a lot about the common perception of intrusive thoughts …which is to say, the common perception of intrusive thoughts and, more importantly, what they think of People with intrusive thoughts. and honestly, it is just. abysmal. especially with the whole recent (ish) …trend? i suppose of “i let my intrusive thoughts win” which is an Incredibly damaging statement like you cannot believe..now i don’t have tiktok (thank god) nor do i use twitter anymore so i cannot verify the lasting impact for myself, but from what I’ve already seen and been told , the fact that people have managed, through that trend, to warp the meaning of intrusive thoughts in the the eyes of many people as “intrusive thoughts = impulses you get that you know are bad but secretly kind of want to do (ex. eating a whole chocolate cake or dying your hair a super neon colour at 3am)” has just….probably set back this whole conversation several years. and like the fact that it was a trend on social media of all places has probably just made it worse. i mean, think of it, if someone who has actual intrusive thoughts, like the “really bad” ones, goes “yeah, I get intrusive thoughts about hurting my friends and family”, the people whose understanding of intrusive thoughts that have been shaped by this trend of “letting the ‘intrusive thoughts’ win” are probably gonna come along and think “oh my god, you secretly really want to hurt your loved ones? you must be a sick and horrible person!”
which. no!! absolutely not!!! not only does that further demonize people who get intrusive thoughts (and especially the ones that are, you know, serious crimes and horrible moral violations), but further confuses people on the difference between what an intrusive thought is and what an impulsive thought is. like just think about the word “intrusive” for a second. it intrudes. its going somewhere it shouldn’t be; it’s a nuisance. in this context, a thought or image entering someone’s head that the person REALLY doesn’t want being there. because if a statement like “oh haha i let my intrusive thoughts win” became true, a lot of horrible things would happen. the point is that you DO NOT want “the intrusive thoughts to win”, because that would mean - as an example , serious harm done against other people or the person experiencing these thoughts themself.
the phrase “if I let my intrusive thoughts win I would be in jail or dead or both” is exactly it for many people. yes, it’s uncomfortable to talk about, yes, these subjects are very hard to think about but that is the Point. this is why people think they are monsters because of their intrusive thoughts. this is why people isolate themselves because they think they will somehow do harm to others because their brain is making them think terrible things. and let me repeat that. Their Brain is making them think terrible things - not the person themself.
my point being, this whole thing about people misunderstanding what exactly an intrusive thought is can be directly harmful to the actual people who experience them, and this really needs to be remedied somehow. and i have no idea how, but people at least need to Know. I’d be happy if at least one person comes to the realization that what they’d been taught from an Internet trend (or some other misconception) is wrong, and can change their beliefs for the better.
and before anyone goes after me for this , this is coming from a person who gets intrusive thoughts very frequently
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in general I think things might be better if queers could try to remember that identity labels are useful words with flexible meanings and not magic spells that only work if you execute them perfectly
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