OC: Roh [they/them]

like are you kidding me

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Something to remember

COOPER KOCH They/Them (2022) dir. Josh Logan

HAPPY DWARFISM AWARENESS MONTH ✨️

Elliot (they/them) here, I have achondroplasia dwarfism and run a blog on it and disability! Give me a follow and send me an ask!

sometimes i forget im trans and then i go "damn how come im experiencing such negative feelings about my body and identity" and then like two days later i remember that dysphoria exists

When I mentioned my (apparently hot) take that I believe self-diagnosed people are valid, I got a handful of (my first!!!) hate comments.

So I thought I'd elaborate.

People who are self-diagnosed with anything might just end up being default settings. That's okay. What's not okay is denying someone aid on the basis that they don't have a diagnosis.

I always carry earplugs because a bunch of my friends have auditory sensory issues. None of them are diagnosed with anything, but I've helped them through panic attacks nonetheless.

If a stranger came up to me at a loud event and, seeing I have earplugs, asked for a pair, I wouldn't hesitate to give them. Don't bother giving them back, I buy in bulk.

Maybe that person was a neurotypical with sensitive ears, or maybe they were an autistic person with auditory sensory issues. I'll never know. But if my response was, "Do you have autism?" that would just make me a jerk. If their response was "Yes," and I then demanded paperwork as proof of their autism and therefore eligibility for ear plugs? That would mean I'm violating their privacy.

One of my friends had a panic attack at a loud event where she was working, and someone took her shift without question when they asked if she was okay and she said she wasn't. That's being a cool person. Saying "Well, you're not diagnosed with autism," and refusing to help her on that basis while she is clearly in distress is not cool. Even if she is neurotypical, anyone in distress merits help. Just because someone can swim doesn't mean they need breaks to keep from drowning, and refusing them a lifesaver on those grounds is just being a jerk, especially if there's no one else who could use the metaphorical lifesaver.

One of the main reasons I'm pursuing being a psychiatrist is so I can give my friends the diagnoses that I know would make their lives easier. I have the privilege to be diagnosed. They do not. I want to help give people free therapy and diagnoses since, at least in the United States, money is a huge barrier keeping people from diagnoses.

in another life we were arsonists

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Oh god. Oh god that hurt.

No, no I am not okay after watching the first three episode of The Boys’ spinoff, Gen V. It is because of this character arc. I am a trans woman currently navigating difficult waters with my father and good GOD THIS SCENE HIT ME LIKE A TRUCK. “I’m just… the kid addicted to their PlayStation. Who goes to Olive Garden just for the breadsticks, who binges Property Brothers. I’ve never changed Dad. I’ve always just been me.” DEAR GOD I was torn to shreds by that scene. That’s all I’ve ever wanted anyone to ever see. Especially my father. I’m still me. I’m still the kid addicted to video games, the one who can talk your ear off about Star Wars or Nintendo. I’m still me, Dad.

Jordan Li rocketed to my favorite character for obvious reasons but still overall I’m extremely eager to see where things go for them. They deserve the world dammit and I will fight till my last breath until they get it ON THEIR LAP!

nostalgia is a LIAR sometimes!!!

silly little fanart for my second chapter of my fanfiction Love Infatuated !! updates are slow but ✨🙈 it's fun, give it a read if ya like! 💜

what would you do if someone came out to you as a term you had never heard of before? many people, including me, would ask that person what that term meant, or maybe you might go home and research that term so that you knew and understood that person's identity and could also understand their boundaries that might come with that term e.g. if your friend came out to you as asexual and told you that they were uncomfortable with people making sexual jokes around then, then you would stop making sexual jokes around them.

not one of my "mates" at college. she's a few months older than me and she's bisexual. i told her yesterday that i have put a lot of thought and research into figuring out my identity and that i might be aro-spec, i'm just not sure where on that aro-spec i might be. she turned to me and said "pip, i'm going to be honest, i only know the basic terms like bi, gay and lesbian." and then she laughed, and i had to awkwardly smile as she then proceeded to change the conversation.

she didn't ask me what that meant. she didn't message me later on that day asking what it meant or if me coming to terms with this might change any boundaries i have at all. she hasn't brought it up since. and i know for a fact that she hasn't even googled a "basic" definition of aromantic.

and that hurts. it hurts because i've told her before about the fact i'm genderqueer and that i'm asexual. they aren't "basic" queer terms like she said that she knows. and that made me question if she even understands any of my identity or respects me in any way. part of me thinks that she doesn't know about these terms because of the lack of media coverage of them, but i am constantly sharing posts on my social media about queerness and my identity.

so, to any allies reading this, maybe reconsider the way you react when somebody comes out to you, because your reaction is vital in making sure that person feels accepted.