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guilty-feminist · 6 months

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#guilty feminist #the guilty feminist #feminism #feminist #women’s rights #human rights #deborah frances white #woman’s rights #uk politics #uk news #trans rights #nhs #conservative conference 2023 #women and trans women #politics #fuck the tories

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justzawe · 2 years

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Deborah Frances-White insta story - 8/22

#zawe ashton #deborah Frances-white #the guilty feminist #mml london premiere

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girl-spiral · 9 months

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how do you forgive yourself for the hurt your psychosis caused

#girlblogging #lana del rey aka lizzy grant #psychosis #bpd recovery #bpd girlies #the guilty feminist

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margielamoon · 1 year

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I carry guilt with me

I wasn’t born with it, but I want to say it started when I was 3. I was the third child, first girl. An itty bitty thing with blonde hair, and you know how white Catholics feel about small girls with blonde hair. Cream of the crop.

My first younger sibling, a sister, was born when I was 3. She was less small and had dark hair.

My mom is pretty small too. Size 3 when she was pregnant with her 2nd. This was a source of pride for her. When I was in high school, I wanted to raid my mom’s closet for anything cool and vintage. She brought out this tiny leather skirt that she wore when she was pregnant with my older brother. I couldn’t pull it over my dancer’s ass. I immediately felt ashamed and overweight.

Instead of inadequacy washing over me, it was something else. Guilt.

Throughout my entire childhood, I was constantly praised for being so small and so blonde. My parents would tell me, “You’re so lucky. So many people would spend hundreds of dollars to be your size/have your hair.” “You’re going to have a line of boys out the door wanting to take you out”.

I can’t remember anything of the sort being told to my sister, the larger, brunette one. Nothing about her beauty or her body or her hair. She was abnormally smart, though, so she did get praise for that. Briefly. It didn’t take long for intellectual excellence to become expected from her. She was no longer praised for her academics and was, in fact, dismissed with comments like, “as you should.”

When my parents would make these comments about my appearance, my sister was almost always within earshot. Here I am, getting care and affection for being small and blonde, and she’s over there, listening, being of average size and brunette hair. How is that supposed to make her feel?

As you can probably imagine, this inspired comparison in my sister’s mind. In comparison to me, she was fat. In comparison to me, she was boring. Average. Smart, but does the patriarchy care? Are women and girls socialized to think their worth comes from intellect or character? No.

We unconsciously tie our personal value to our looks because the patriarchy teaches us that’s all we’re good for. Parents are not immune to these unconscious biases and often perpetuate them.

She’d complain to me about how she felt fat and ugly, and all I could think was how sorry I was to be her benchmark. I’d tell her she’s not fat. She’d say, “but look at you!” Telling her our bodies are just built different didn’t help. Why would it? As far as she saw, I was lovable because I was little. If that was the case, what made her lovable?

This is the source of my guilt. She will most likely have lifelong body image issues all because I’m her sister.

I’m sorry.

#childhood #patriarchy #catholic guilt #the guilty feminist #siblings #sibling rivalry #eating disoder trigger warning #disordered eating mention #body image #bodypositivity

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onlyfluffythoughts · 4 months

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valoa jooko

#ruger hauer #tyler the creator #elolliset #the guilty feminist #onlyfluffythoughts

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mrsvoldemort · 9 months

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I have always tried to fight my mother’s battles for her. I thought by doing that I would be exempt from fighting those same battles. I intervened when my parents would fight, would not let my brother patronise her, would do everything in my power as a desi girl to make sure my mother understood how brilliant she was, and how she wasn’t in any way lesser than my dad.

But in all of this, in all the times I chose her, she never chose me back. For her I was a misbehaved daughter who had no idea where her boundaries were. When I tried becoming a source of strength for her, she was being disgusted by my core.

The upholders of patriarchy in desi households are mostly mothers. They guilt you, brainwash you, and kill you into accepting that you’re inferior to your male counterparts. And they have no guilt about doing it either.

The loneliness I feel by being the only one left standing when she leaves me alone. The guilt I feel when she calls me names in front of my father when I take her side. The amount of times she has shouted at me for asking my brother to respect her.

I am a 23 year old. Alone. Abandoned. All because I believe in my principles and in the only woman who was supposed to make sure womanhood for me was a happy existence and not this abyss.

#mothers and daughters #patriarchy #pick me girl #yearning #the guilty feminist #i feel so guilty #left alone #loneliness

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poepenoleke · 1 year

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#thanks #the guilty feminist #the binge

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nothing0fnothing · 7 months

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"Innocent until proven guilty."

Yeah bro. I agree.

So when 5 different accusers and 20 different colleagues all agree he's a rapist guess what? That's proven to me that he's guilty.

#russell brand #dispatches #Channel 4 #Russell Brand Dispaches #sex offender #innocent until proven guilty #male manipulator #Fuck men #fuck the patriarchy #feminist #men are trash #i hate men

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neechees · 3 months

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I just found out that Greta Gerwig is a homewrecker bc she was sleeping with the director of "Marriage Story" starting from when his wife was pregnant & the cheating plot line in that movie is likely based on Bombauch's divorce from his wife because he cheated on his wife with Greta Gerwig

#usually i dont care about Celebrity shit like this but just the fact that Gerwig has this image of being ww's fav (white) feminist #only to have also ruined another woman's marriage (& the dude is also guilty obviously)#like so much for being a girl's girl!

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sataninsparkles · 8 months

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I don't understand why people seem to dislike "Girl Dinner" and "Girl Math" so much.

Like, it's not about girls being unable to take care of themselves or make smart financial decisions. Girl Math is literally just about how under the capitalism small purchases that add up to a large number don't feel as expensive as one large purchase. It's the same phenomenon as being willing to pay $10 for a product but not $8 + $2 shipping. Or spending cash feeling different from spending on a credit card.

Or like why a bunch of people just started talking about how being a bimbo is just quirky sexism.

Yes, women can achieve great things, and they can be smart. We all support women's rights. But we gotta support women's wrongs as well.

After being told that you have to be smart and strong and do everything a man can do or you're a bad feminist and you're setting the movement back fifty years, the ability to just be dumb and carefree feels like taking off a bra.

Yes, women can be smart. But they can be dumb too. We can be weak and dumb and that doesn't make us "bad feminists" or "quirky sexists". It makes us human. And shaming women for their freedom to enjoy their life however they want is counterproductive. Men get to be as dumb as they want without shame, so why is it that when women are the ones who are dumb, you get offended and try to shame them into acting the way you want them to?

We can't have equality until you guys stop shaming women for every little thing they do. We can't have equality if we don't support women's wrongs.

#yes this is about that one post #I'm sick and tired of everyone acting like not knowing how to change a tire as a woman is “bad feminism”#Like if you can't understand complex historical concepts and code and do mental algebra and speak a dozen languages and lift your weight #then you're setting back the movement??#I'm just generally sick of people saying that the expectations placed on women by society is unfair and then turning around #and making women feel bad for not being exceptional #I don't have to get 3 degrees and a doctorate and also lift cars in my free time #Everyday I understand Marina's lyrics better #You want me to write a feminist anthem? I'm happy cooking dinner in the kitchen for my husband #that lyric used to make me so angry but now I understand #Enjoying something or not being able to do something doesn't make you lesser #And you don't have to feel guilty for enjoying things #girl dinner #girl math #Some of you need to listen to Gloria's speech again and it shows

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guilty-feminist · 1 year

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#guilty feminist #the guilty feminist #feminism #feminist #women’s rights #deborah frances white #human rights #woman’s rights #trans rights #instagram #uk politics #uk news #april 2023

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devilsbackbone · 10 months

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I love the cast of djats but I can’t with this narrative that they constantly try to sell of mutual respect between daisy and camila as if:

1. daisy didn’t kiss billy after meeting his wife and kid (and after being very well treated by the said wife)

2. then tried to make him leave them (not once, but TWICE) and in one of these moments they weren’t away from everyone in a studio, but in billy’s family house where anyone could walk on them (and this came after she saw camila and billy with their family and basically went i want what she has) and

3. later jumped on billy on the first opportunity, with only the knowledge that his marriage was on crisis, not that camila left him.

just because they didn’t fought or called each other names, doesn’t mean that there was love and respect from one character to another.

so yeah I think daisy had a lot of affection for camila, but in her actions she didn’t respect her. so can they stop pretending that the show wrote this beautiful relationship between two women, when what happened was that they made something that was already bad in the book, worse.

#not to mention them changing their last scene #to that ridiculous 'he is yours' moment #camila dunne #daisy jones and the six #anti daisy jones #ik a lot of daisy's actions come from her not #having examples of good relationships #be platonic or romantic #and from wanting to be loved at any cost #but she has her share of guilty #and it's not a friend to camila #as they almost try to make them to be #they could talk about their relationship #without trying to make this a feminist rep #billy x camila

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marrissacooper · 1 year

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I love the holidays. Just...bringing everyone together.

The O.C | 2x06 “The Chrismukkah That Almost Wasn't”

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zenjestrr · 9 months

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ok someone just made a post about how some women are treated a type of way purely off of vibes (specifically mean girl vibes in that post) and how it's fucked up to presuppose that going off of absolutely nothing and I definitely agree that's fucked up however, they also said men don't get treated this way and I was like H U U U U U U H H H H H H ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? men ABSOLUTELY get treated negatively by absolute strangers based off of Vibes™, are we living on the same planet? you know how many guys have been minding their own business but are called creepy or intimidating behind their back? this is especially common for men of color. bro someone once told me that I gave off serial killer vibes like ??????

#bro I hated myself in my 20s because I felt like I was walking on eggshells around women #cuz I didnt want to come across as one of the bad ones #do you know how EXHAUSTING it is to have to deal with a part of the population #that has their guard up 24/7 by default #and like yea I get it but holy shit #being a man is being accused of being an aggressor by your mere existence ESPECIALLY in feminist-ey spaces #you are guilty until proven innocent so the only way to cope is to defang yourself or just not care #I did the former in my 20s #and now in my 30s I'm the latter #idgaf anymore if you shit yourself that's on you I'm done #anyway they made a good point in their post but that one bit took me out of it #I didn't wanna respond in their post cuz it would derail their valid point but like ???

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papirouge · 10 days

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radfem : "I support women's wrong 🙂‍↔️"

me : you literally bullied & sexually harassed girls for not supporting Amber Heard and went as far as to create a whole ass derogatory nickname ("Deppford Wives") for them which interestingly you never bothered to do so for his male supporters🧍🏾‍♀️

#say what you want about depp stans but most of them didn't pretend being feminists #but it's very embarrassing to see radfem recall this era as the one when they were the *only* to support a ...rich millionaire #and act like they were thee best feminists in the world when you've been yourself guilty of bullied plentiful of women online #ask yourself what makes you different than those mocking amber heard 🤡#papi truths #papi watch #radfem #amber heard #radblr

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starlooove · 8 months

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Reading isn’t enough I need to start beating white ppls asses

#they’re literally everywhere and so annoying all the time I’m so sick #and it’s the quiet racism that’s killing me #ignoring dogwhistles pretending u don’t understand things that blk ppl are finding issue with gaslighting gaslighting gaslighting #and I get why ppl turn to the concept of religion and the idea that these people are gonna get what they deserve but what about now #what about the people they’re hurting and indoctrinating now #what about all the white folk who sit back and let it happen and feel comfortable in the fact that at least they’re not saying slurs #and laws keep getting passed that are literally getting us killed and y’all are making up that blk women are mad about kanekalon fuck y’all #And the LEAST you could do is sit and listen and learn but you need to share ur damn opinion on everything u hear and see #even when u know u don’t know shit #and don’t get me started on fandom it’s supposed to be fun here but y’all are so hyper focused on white characters that u genuinely don’t #see ur own racism #and some of you will see posts about it and scroll on and be guilty or think ur excluded #none of u are excluded this about all of u who make one post or reblog a few about fandom racism and go back to taking character traits from #nonwhite characters to make ur white faves look cooler #this is about everyone who thinks they’re some sort of feminist bc they think propping a female character on such a high pedestal nobody can #touch her isn’t falling into racist tropes at all #like sometimes I genuinely hate y’all so much it makes me sick #so tempted to tag every fandom tag I can find here #but y’all will either ignore it or gaslight blk ppl AGAIN like ALWAYS bc that’s what y’all do #dc #dc comics #tim Drake #bc anyone scrolling through this tag needs to see it I promise #Duke Thomas #Cass Caín #bc y’all pretend ur not racist towards her when y’all treat her like a walking dragon lady kys 💀#Damian Wayne #so sorry to Damian stans faced with ppl who can’t read 💔#and thats It.only main nonwhite ppl in batfam.and u still manage to be this racist.except Dick but u only sexualize him Abt it 💀#see how I turned to fandom to cope with the real shit and it still fucking sucks 💀 I hope some of y’all die genuinely

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