My daughter is four. She came home from school and told me she was playing a game called “Princess Gets Rescued From a Tower”. The kid of two feminists, living in a liberal city in a blue state, at the age of four, has internalized the idea that princesses need rescuing.
I did four years of residency in ObGyn and three years of residency in Psychiatry. I am an MD and a practicing psychiatrist. I don’t have the bandwidth to look at the numbers right now, but I will tell you from personal experience with hundreds and hundreds of patients that women are the strong ones. Most of the babies of teen girls I delivered had no support apart from their own mothers. I wrote “father of baby not involved” in the chart more times than I can count. Most of the pregnancy terminations I performed were for girls and women on their own. Nothing made me feel like I’d made more of a difference than providing a desired termination for a teenager and placing her IUD. Now that girl gets to continue her education, develop her frontal lobe, and decide who she wants to be and what she wants to do. She doesn’t have to be a baby trying to raise a baby. She doesn’t have to be another cog in a system that perpetuates the cycle of poverty in order to keep women and people of color from working towards equality, equity, fairness and real change.
Make no mistake. The overturning of Roe vs. Wade today is not about saving the lives of the unborn. It is about control of women’s bodies and agency, particularly poor women without the resources to travel out of state for a pregnancy termination. Women are meant to be property. Don’t believe me? How many letters have I received addressed to “Mrs. Husband’s First Name – Husband’s Last Name” instead of “Dr. My First Name – My Last Name”? How many people think my kids have their dad’s last name, because he’s the man and when you get married you’re supposed to give up your identity? Yes, it’s only a name. Yes, it’s tradition. But try speaking up against it— even that one, small thing— and see how much resistance you run into.
Now women want more than our own names. We want to be paid the same as our male colleagues. We want our voices to be heard in legislation and government. We’d even like to be the president someday. At bare minimum, we’d like to decide the timing and circumstances of when we become parents, because women still carry the majority of responsibility for raising children today, with rare exceptions. We are on a tightrope with no safety net, because there’s so little in the way of institutional support for people who end up with a baby to support and no way to put food on the table.
People who are thinking about how to get from one day to the next aren’t in the streets protesting. People who are terrified that they’ll be beaten or raped by their partner aren’t rallying for change. People who are trying to raise a child on a minimum wage salary with no parental leave benefits, without any sort of support, aren’t getting an education. People who are working two jobs to keep a roof over their heads aren’t voting.
And that’s the goal.
The princess in the tower may need a rescue now, but ask yourself who put her there. Ask yourself who robbed her of the tools to escape, because she’s strong and capable. If you’re a woman, stay safe. If you’re a woman of privilege, help your sisters. If you’re a man, speak up for us. And if there’s any part of you who feels that this is a move that will help any human beings at all, including the unborn children who are the proposed beneficiaries, I cheerfully invite you to get fucked. Nobody wins when women are forced to have kids they can’t or don’t want to support. Not them, not the kids… and not you.
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I’ve seen many very aggressive anti-porn posts here, which on one hand I agree with, but on the other hand I feel the need to show sympathy to anyone that’s struggling with it. (And I don’t mean people that consume porn without care, I mean those that know it’s wrong and are trying to do better even if it’s really dang hard, like any addiction is)
Maybe I’m just a softy, but to anyone out there trying to do better, even if it’s difficult, even if you’re slipping - thank you. Thank you for recognizing and admitting it’s a bad thing (going against the grain of this day and age) and trying (and even succeeding!) to do better. Please get someone to help you out, please take it seriously, and please don’t give up. You’re brave, and strong, and you’ve got this.
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You know, sometimes I wonder if the rest of Amity knew what the Fentons had done. If they knew about the portal at all.
Sure, Jack and Maddie are always raving on and on about ghosts, showing off the craziest inventions you’ve ever seen, and being a general menace, but they’re quacks, just the town weirdos, right? They make funny laser guns that don’t actually hurt people too bad and those Goop cannons. The biggest threat is their armored tank of an RV. But actual ghosts, no way.
It also wasn’t like Danny or even Jazz had the social connections to spread gossip about their parents inventions around. Danny had explicitly and reluctantly told Sam and Tucker about the portal, they didn’t know what was actually going on in the basement until they’re were watching their friend get fried crispy inside of it. Neither wants their parents newest, craziest invention to become the local gossip. So, it’s safe to say most of Amity doesn’t know what goes on in the Fenton Basement until it breaches containment.
But then, all of a sudden, they’re are actual ghosts running around the town, and the Drs. Fenton are full of mad-scientist glee about it. Not shocked or disheartened, but glad and malicious. There are attacks and destruction in the wake of the ghosts arrival all from all sides of the conflict.
Wonder if anyone actually knew it was the Fenton Parents who brought the dead to Amity Park, more intentionally than not.
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~ Monthly BL Breakdown: December 2023 ~
🎆 Happy 2024!!! 🍾
Disclaimer: ALL shows can be streamed here or here, as well as on Youtube and other platforms. For more info on where to watch what, check out this post!
New breakdowns are coming at the end of every month - feel free to add stuff! -> previous breakdowns
What came out this month? (green = seen/currently watching)
🌟 You're My Star (Christmas Special) - December 4th (Philippines)
🌟 Bagan Beginning - December 5th (Myanmar)
🌟 Chains of Heart: The Movie - December 7th (Thailand)
🌟 Cherry Magic Thailand - December 9th (Thailand) ✅
🌟 It's Complicated - December 14th (Thailand)
🌟 Dear Kitakyushu - December 14th (Thailand)
🌟 Colorful Melody - December 16th (Thailand)
🌟 Night Dream - December 16th (Thailand)
🌟 DMD Friendship (reality show) - December 17th (Thailand)
🌟 Scent of Memory (I Feel You Linger in the Air Special Episode) - December 17th (Thailand)
🌟 Dead Friend Forever - December 23rd (Thailand)
🌟 I Became the Lead in a BL Drama - December 24th (Japan)
🌟 Mr. Nice Guy & the Lonely Man - December 25th (Thailand)
🌟 Love on Lo - December 26th (Thailand)
🌟 You and My Stars - December 30th (Thailand)
Monthly likes/dislikes
❣️ Cherry Magic - It's cute so far, this is the first adaption where I've actually seen the original and I'm pleasantly surprised. The plot is familiar but they're adding things to it which is nice. It's extended and more explorative compared to the OG but in an endearing way. TayNew do the roles justice, I couldn't imagine a better fit tbh. And even Mark and Junior make the side couple likable who I really did not like in the original lol. Thumbs up so far 🫶🏻
New series & movie announcements
🎥 Knock Out (produced by Dee Hup) - Date TBA (Thailand)
🎥 First Time Love - Date TBA (Thailand)
🎥 Perfect Propose - Coming February 2024 (Japan)
🎥 The Fridge - Date TBA (Thailand)
🎥 Caged Again - Date TBA (Thailand)
🎥 Likay The Series/Let Me Into Your Heart (novel adaption) - Date TBA (Thailand)
🎥 The Only One - Date TBA (Taiwan)
Other news from the BL world
❗️ GMMTV's upcoming BL We Are has started filming. The show will be directed by New Siwaj and stars PondPhuwin, WinnySatang, AouBoom, MarcPawin and more. It is thus the first production from the 2024 lineup to go into production. Aside from that, many other upcoming BLs have started filming including The Trainee, Only Boo and Wandee Goodday.
❗️This year's Y Universe Awards were held on December 11th. The following BL actors & productions won:
Cutie Pie 2 You - Best Series
Moonlight Chicken - Best Series Script
Aof N. - Best Director (MLC)
Gemini N. - Best Supporting Actor (MLC)
Khaotung T. - Best Supporting Actor (MLC)
Fourth N. - Best Leading Actor (MSP)
ZeeNunew - Best Couple
I Feel You Linger in the Air - Best Series Soundtrack, Best Production
Laws of Attraction - Best Social Reflection
❗️The Japanese BL The Man Who Defies The World of BL is getting a third season to air in 2024. Further details are unknown.
❗️After further copyright issues, the Thai remake of the Japanese BL Cherry Magic had to be removed from youtube and will no longer be aired on the site. The show will continue to only be available nationally on VIU. Viewers with a VPN can still access the site, other streaming options are KissKH, Dramacool and KissAsian.
❗️The streaming platform WeTV announced a new original BL titled Caged Again which tells the love story between a penguin and a panther. Both animals transform into humans while travelling between universes and fall in love. The show is set to air in 2024, the cast is unknown.
❗️The Thai BL production company Domundi announced their upcoming project The Next Prince to release its pilot trailer in the first quarter of 2024. The show stars ZeeNunew and others and has a historical theme. Filming will likely begin later this year.
Upcoming series & movies for January
👉🏻 BL Drama no Shuen ni Narimashita: Crank In Hen - January 2nd (Japan)
👉🏻 Ossan's Love Returns - January 5th (Japan)
👉🏻 Refund Love - January 7th (Thailand)
👉🏻 Time The Series - January 9th (Thailand)
👉🏻 Intern in My Heart (BL side couple) - January 10th (Thailand)
👉🏻 Sukiyanen Kedo Do Yaro ka - January 11th (Japan)
👉🏻 I Wish You Love - January 21st (Thailand)
👉🏻 Beside You (mini series) - January TBA (Thailand)
👉🏻 Love for Love's Sake - January TBA (South Korea)
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