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i've been seeing this around a lot lately as like a little memey jokey thing but "this is what they took from you" is a fascist meme.
"they" are jewish people/"the global elite"/"cultural marxists"/"globalists"/"the woke left" etc.
and it's basically the same as "RETVRN" like this is explicitly a fascist thing that fascists say about their fascist beliefs
please don't go around saying it
you can talk about capitalist enshittification without invoking fascism, and just because YOU mean something different doesn't mean it's not invoking those things it's explicitly meant to invoke
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Imagine being this mad over the fact that people changed their minds.
Imagine calling other people “fascist” while you support government mask mandates and they oppose them.
Imagine portraying people as petty for disagreeing with you while you get really mad at them for disagreeing with you on such an important issue.
Imagine blaming the other side for “shifting the Overton window” instead of accepting that your team was wrong about stuff.
Imagine blocking everyone and reblogging yourself because you can’t take criticism.
Imagine implying you have “principles” without being able to name a single one, and being blatantly partisan.
Couldn’t be me.
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Happy bday!!! I hope the year ahead is the most fulfilling & fun one yet!!
thank you 🥰🥰🥰
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@thatdiabolicalfeminist replied to your photoset: Avoiding triggers is great and all...
WHAT APP IS THAT?? It looks absurdly useful, way better than my spreadsheet approach.
Flaredown!! It’s for all kinds of symptoms & lets you make your own patterns and enter basically any info you want. I use it to track fibro, migraines and mood! and i enter food, where i went any day, what i did, if i had other symptoms like brain fog. and it doesn’t ask you to rate pain, but rather “Activity” eg. “My fibro has been very active today”
For just migraines I found Migraine Buddy very good, it lets you get very in depth about triggers, medication, timing, etc. but i don’t really have a lot to learn about my migraines right now other than sometimes identifying new possible triggers.
also sometimes i open migraine buddy to enter a new migraine and i see the part where it says “It’s been 22 hours since your last migraine” and it fills me with rage, but that’s not really migraine buddy’s fault
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Medical Misogyny
I have various medical issues including a chronic pain disorder and a lot of unpleasant symptoms I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis for.
On Tuesday I had an appointment to see my GP (General Practioner) and so I went to the automated check-in point, but it had an error. I checked in at reception but there was some scheduling issue so I ended up being seen by this male doctor I’d never seen around my surgery before.
When I went in to His office, I tried to talk to him about several issues that needed attention soon but since he was not familiar with my case, he just kept rewording and repeating that he could not help me.
I had mentioned a referral for Rheumatology that I had been told the hospital had not received, so after repeating, unhelpfully, that a referral was written down in the system and acting like I was too stupid to understand, he finally told me to ask reception about it. He hadn’t even looked at my medical record until I had repeated that I wanted to know the results of a recent Gynaecologist appointment, so I knew he was uninterested in providing much help.
After I tried to discuss these quick-ish issues I tried to talk about a possible allergic reaction I had several days ago which left my hands and lips swollen for at least 36 hours. He stopped me and told me I was out of time and he wouldn’t help me. He lectured me that if I wanted to discuss more than one issue, I should have booked a longer appointment, (despite him likely knowing appointments with specific doctors are almost impossible to find, let alone two in a row). At this point he shut me down, repeating “Goodbye” and “I cannot help you” until I left his office, nearly in tears.
I asked at reception, got my referral letter, and booked a Rheumatologist appointment, as well as managing an “apology” GP appointment on Friday with my actual Doctor. When I saw her she confirmed what I needed to do and helped me with all my questions, agreeing with and that I still needed these appointments. Then today when I went to look at my appointment, I find this on the screen:
Now I know my doctor didn’t cancel the appointment, and I doubt the receptionists could have or would have. So I’m led to believe that this male doctor who doesn’t know about my case, my pain, my severely lacking Quality of Life, and my disabilities, decided that he knew better than my regular doctor and decided my referral needed reviewing.
So I’m kind of on the edge of a mental breakdown trying to process why my appointment, which wouldn’t have even been until mid July, is yet again being messed with.
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Happy birthday glorious bean! I hope this year is full of many good things for you!
I have a lot of hummus right now so it’s starting out amazing!
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Can we talk about the fact that the entire reason for the stereotype of "men are smarter than women" is not because men are collectively more intelligent, but because masculine features are used as the gold standard for markers of intellect?
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No one is doomed to abuse people. There isn't an "abuser gene" or "evil chromosome". There aren't "cursed bloodlines".
There's a culture that frequently enables, romanticizes and eroticizes abuse, and individual human beings who choose to take advantage of that, or not.
Even someone who has abused others in the past has a decision about whether or not to continue that harm. Further abuse isn't inevitable, it's a choice.
The idea that abusers can't help it just further enables abuse culture. If someone is abusive, they are making a choice.
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Hey mom/dad, I had a stroke in April, I got denied SSI disability today and was wondering if you might have any advice on the appeals process. I’m feeling really disheartened. Shay
i'm so sorry, honey, that really sucks.
i haven't been through the ssi process myself, but my mother has; she was initially denied but won on appeal. it's really important to know that basically everyone is denied at first. they're pretty much hoping you'll give up and go away. most people have to appeal, and it's best if you have a lawyer for the process.
however, i can't give you much more specific advice than that, since i wasn't personally going through the appeal myself. i sent an ask to someone who i know is familiar with ssi, but i didn't want to wait to answer you until i hear back. since i have your url, i'll forward any reply i get.
in the meantime, if you put "how to appeal ssi denial" into google, lots of helpful pages will come up. there's official government pages telling you what to do, plus this and this are pages with tips from lawyers.
if reading lots of text is difficult for you (it sure is for me), put "ssi appeal" into youtube and you'll get some videos made to help you through this.
the only other tip i know of is that when you fill out your paperwork, describe your symptoms when they're at their worst, not anything less. don't exaggerate, but rate yourself at your genuine worst.
i really wish that i could give you more help than that, dear. the system truly sucks and doesn't want to give you the measly help they can, much less the help you deserve. i know it feels awful to be told you're not disabled enough when you're struggling so hard.
but if you have documentation of what you've gone through there's still a good chance that you can win on appeal, so please don't give up. they turn everyone down at first, so keep fighting.
i'm going to post this publicly in case any of my followers have been through this themselves and can offer any advice. take care of yourself, dear.
eta: the person i asked actually responded immediately! i’m going to copy and paste this answer from @thatdiabolicalfeminist:
I don't have a lot of specific info either, but here's a pamphlet from the SSA about the process: https://www.ssa.gov/pubs/EN-05-10058.pdf
There's also info here your asker might find useful: https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/disability/appeal.html?tl=0%2C2
And this is a guide from a disabled person with tips: https://howtogeton.wordpress.com/social-security-disability/
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Hey I got the bath pouf thingies, thank you SO much!! This is going to make my self-maintenance MUCH easier and I'm very grateful!!!!! Hope you're having a great weekend, you made mine a lot better!!
YAY! I'm so glad they arrived to you! You're welcome <3 <3 Wish it could be more, but was glad I could meet a high priority item from your list.
(Posting so that I can boost @thatdiabolicalfeminist's wish list in case anyone reading this can chip in too.)
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sorry if this is weird but do you happen to know any good autism centred blogs on here? suddenly feeling lonely in my mostly neglected dx and i want some sense of community. thank you
not at all weird, and you’ll be happy to know that there are TONS of autism-centered blogs on here -- check #actuallyautistic and you’ll find a wide variety. Some great ones include:
@neurowonderful @candidlyautistic @autisticadvocacy @k-pagination @thatdiabolicalfeminist
and some mutuals / people i admire who speak often about being autistic:
@metapianycist @cultural-antifascism @borrowedfeathers @cassolotl
there are soooo many more, some of whose blogs are archived but still absolute goldmines. i’m opening this, too, for others to reblog and comment on –– i don’t want to id other friends as having Autistic Blogs simply bc they’re autistic, but if you’re autistic and want to say hi to anon, please feel free to do so. you won’t be neglected for long!!
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hi. i have a physical disability and have had it my entire life, and in order to walk i wear orthopedic leg braces. they’re made out of a really thin, strong metal, but the wrap to secure them is pretty thick. i wear it underneath my pants, but for it to fit the pants have to have a certain width. i’m just really insecure about it because i’m really short and average weight, so i don’t think flared pants look good on me even though it’s the only way. do you have advice on getting more confident?
hey :) I just want to clarify that as far as I know? all the members on this blog (including me) are able-bodied and don’t have any lived experience with physical disabilities. I’m more than happy to answer your q and to try my best to give some advice, but it may also be a good idea to ask blogs like @thatdiabolicalfeminist or @geekandmisandry for more informed support on this.
in regards to fashion and clothing, maxi dresses or jumpsuits could be a possible alternative? especially jumpsuits, they’re often pretty loose around the legs. I’m only 5′2′’ so I definitely can relate to being short, but if you like maxi dresses then go for it :) there’s “hippie trousers” like this or this or this? there’s loose cotton or linen trousers like this that you could buy, overalls / dungarees could be something to think about too, either denim or linen depending on what you like more and the season. there’s loads of alternatives to skinny tight jeans or trousers that aren’t flared, you definitely don’t have to be restricted to just one style.
experiment with some different styles of clothing and fashion and trousers, see what might work for you and what you like the look of! it’s very hard to pull off confidence when you just really do not like what you’re wearing, so the alternative would be to try and find different styles of clothing instead. if we’re talking about confidence more generally? following body positive / body inclusive blog and social accounts can help, as well as any social media accounts that have a focus on disability could help to empower you and find confidence too. take care xxx
- tash
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Holy shit your experiences with sex and dealing with the complicated feelings that come with it deeply resonates with me. I’ve been questioning my sexuality for years now, tbh and seeing other people talk about their experiences really helps. hope this isn’t weird lol 👉👈
i was lowkey hoping someone would reach out and be like “hello you are not alone!” bc tbh it is so heavy and scary to unpack sexual trauma!!! i hate feeling broken and like there’s nothing i can do. but knowing there are others makes it easier to bear. thanks for speaking up 🙏🏾💕✨
idk what parts resonated with you most but at least in terms of the lesbian part here’s a post i just found by @thatdiabolicalfeminist that is helping me understand some things about my past sexual experiences ❤️ check it out!
https://thatdiabolicalfeminist.tumblr.com/post/164526814159/common-experiences-of-lesbians-who-dont-know
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thatdiabolicalfeminist replied to your post “Anyway, the TLDR of today’s horrible doctor experience is: I went to...”
That's horrifying, I'm so sorry she treated you like that, that kind of negligence is so infuriating!! I hope you can find a way to get better care, I'm so sorry awful doctors are making it so difficult for you!
Thank you. I’ve got a really good GP and I’m just.. immeasurably grateful that I’ve got a reliable support system there that will let me say “No, we need to try something else.” If I didn’t have that - and up until I realized I had that option - that was kind of the worst thing I could think of.
#thatdiabolicalfeminist#god. i mean. the fact that without a really good GP i'd be stuck in that dilemma#i kinda wanna throw up thinking about how many people are in versions of that situation#i nearly had to choose between not getting treatment and only getting treatment if i let a bad doctor dictate my body#ah! so many people have to do that!#AH!#health or lack thereof
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I honestly think relationships in general would be healthier, in general, if we didn’t believe they should always, by default, last forever.
When the default is “forever” and shorter relationships are seen as a failure, we miss out on a lot. We stay in relationships that don’t work because they’re not “bad enough” to leave, as though not wanting the relationship anymore isn’t a good enough reason. We deny ourselves happy memories, saying “If it doesn’t work now, our love then wasn’t real.” We pass on relationships we know would be short, because if it doesn’t last forever, what’s the point in joy in the moment?
An ending isn’t a failure. It’s an ending. Most relationships have them. What would our relationships be like if we stopped focusing on our fear of endings and started focusing on what we - and our friends, partners, and families - need and want right now? —thatdiabolicalfeminist
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