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#tbh I'm over it πŸ’€
skullsandcorals Β· 2 years
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY @tomura-nii πŸ₯³πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰βœ¨βœ¨βœ¨ I love you so much πŸ’œπŸ’žπŸ’œ
I hope you enjoy whatever I managed to put together βœŒοΈπŸ’€
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apatheticlexicographer Β· 10 months
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i'm about to get mauled ALIVE for saying this but here goes:
i think m'leven's relationship should be based on a mutually requited crush. both the implications it would have on their personal development as characters and the message it would send to the audience would be substantially more impactful, healthy, and progressive than if they only dated out of obligation. in fact, the thematic message of their relationship SIMPLY DOESN'T MAKE SENSE without a foundation of genuine romantic attraction.
still with me??? okay, good.
when shows deal with romance they tend to fall into the categories of either having pretty much every character shipped with every other character at some point, or of having the endgame ships be the most obviously pushed from the start. byler has definitely been built up from the start, but the majority of the show's audience didn't consider it as an option for canon until s4, when they started making it blatant. hell, a lot of people didn't even realize WILL was queer until s3 (again, when the show started to place heavy emphasis on it), and even then a lot of people thought he might be ace rather than gay.
mike and el, on the other hand, were practically the show's flagship couple for the first 2 seasons at least. it wasn't until s3 that their popularity started to dip and their relationship began to receive a lot more criticism. which makes sense, considering they hadn't actually been IN said relationship in the previous seasons. they had a couple of romantic interactions, sure, but we didn't see how they would interact *as a couple*. people obviously couldn't predict how their dynamic would actually pan out!!! that isn't to say that the negative aspects of their relationship were a bait-and switch, though: red flags were visible since at least s2, but they were far from being the focal point and a lot of shippers interpreted them as being cute (like el's jealousy over max).
having a show acknowledge the fact that the first person you get a crush on (because correct me if i'm wrong, but i'm pretty sure they're canonically each other's first crush???) isn't necessarily your ~soulmate~ is a great thing. even better when they go a step further, and play with the concept!!! the text of stranger things doesn't actually push m'leven as a paragon of romantic love. if you listen to what the other characters say about their (romantic) relationship, their opinions are entirely neutral/negative???
lucas teases mike about his crush in s1, but calls him hopeless in s3. hopper is out of line with how agressively he acts about their relationship, but the resolution of that character arc for him is about him acknowledging that he's been overbearing and accepting that he needs to let el grow up, and NOT some hammy realization that "what they have is true love, i was wrong to interfere!!!" max thinks their clinginess is sweet at first in s3, but she isn't very close with either of them. once she and el start to bond AND SHE LEARNS THAT EL HAS NO EXPERIENCE WITH ROMANTIC ATTRACTION OUTSIDE OF MIKE she encourages el to assert her own self-worth and dump him. [which... actually mirrors the progression of opinions in a lot of audience members??? πŸ€”πŸ€”]
and those are just a few examples!!! i won't go on an exhaustive list, because honestly we'd be here all day.
furthermore, m'leven's steady downward trajectory is not the only instance of the show basically dunking on the trite expectation that a character's first love interest is automatically their happily-ever-after, AND the recurring motif that any relationships a character explores before their endgame ship are wrong because the alternate love interest is Bad.
dustin has his first crush (onscreen, anyway) on max in s2, but ends the season happy despite his sadness over rejection and later gets together with a girl who's basically his perfect match. in s3, robin confides to steve about how she was so far gone for tammy that she would cry into her pillow. in s4 she's able to laugh over just how bad her singing is without denying it, and is tentatively flirting with vickie. joyce was genuinely really happy with bob, but after having time to heal from the tragedy of what happened to him she's ready to move on with hopper.
again, not an exhaustive list. why??? because outside of m'leven, the only relationships where the characters ARE each other's first love interest are: lumax, whose entire arc together is about growing up as a couple (you know, the exact arc m'leven shippers pin on mike and el, as if it would make sense for 2 couples to have the same format and message...); stancy, which is only one prong of Love Triangle Hell and the controversy around it speaks for itself; and TED AND KAREN. WHO ARE POINTED OUT EXPLICITLY BY THE TEXT OF THE SHOW IN S1 NO LESS, TO BE AN EXAMPLE OF A WORST TIMELINE FUTURE THAT CHARACTERS DO NOT WANT TO REPEAT.
but if you're reading this, you already know all of that.
the point i'm trying to make is that stranger things shows a consistent palette of themes across all the relationships it portrays. i've obviously been going over the romantic ones, but this applies at least as much to the plationic bonds as well. those themes are of GROWING AND MATURING, of SHIFTING DYNAMICS, and of BECOMING SECURE IN YOUR PERSONAL INDEPENDENCE.
i'm sorry but to present a pair of characters with apparent mutual feelings; to elaborate on how dysfunctional their relationship is; and to ultimately reveal to the audience that actually they were both just confused, they never had feelings for one another in the first place and that's why their relationship didn't work out; sends an extremely mediocre message, to put it nicely. all the characters learn from that lived experience is "don't date people you don't have feelings for, and if you were unsure about how real those feelings were... get good???" meanwhile, all the audience learns from that VIEWED experience is "if the relationship doesn't work, it's because the people involved don't like each other enough." if byler goes on to be canon and is immediately much healthier, that only enforces that shitty message. in that situation the only reason THEIR relationship works while mike and el's didn't is that they actually have feelings for one another!!!
from a show which has explored complex arcs and messages with *LITERALLY EVERY OTHER RELATIONSHIP* they touch on, this would be beyond disappointing. particularly as the central message for the arc of 2 of the mainest main characters in the whole show!!!
on the other hand, to present a pair of young characters at the start of the show and flag them as having an obvious mutual crush; to allow them to explore that crush as a serious prospect; to have them realize that their relationship is dysfunctional; and to have them move on as friends; sends???
a great???
fucking???
message???
they both get to progress and move on as more enriched people than they would have been without their time in a relationship, and that is fucking wonderful.
el has a deeper understanding of romantic interactions based on actual lived experience and not just TV shows. she's able to develop into her fledgeling sense of identity more securely with the knowledge that relationships can change, and that's okay. not everything has to be forever.
mike understands how to process and manage his own feelings much better, and is equipped with a firsthand understanding of how a relationship can become emotionally dysfunctional without proper communication, making him ready to enter a new, healthier relationship. he has displayed the same overprotective behaviours towards will as he has to el, but he's begun to learn how to manage them so that he doesn't stifle his partner. after previously failing to communicate his feelings to both el and will in s3 when he fought with them, he's been making a deliberate point of doing so in s4. this didn't work with el when he tried to open up about his own experience with bullying, but it DID work with will when he admitted to his failings in balancing relationships.
are either of them finished in their personal arcs??? no, of course not!!! they're not even fifteen!!! but they have both grown as people, not in spite of their romantic relationship, but BECAUSE of it. you don't change as you grow up, so much as you start to understand yourself better. but self-discovery and subsequent self-acceptance CANNOT come without self-explaration.
it's okay to try things out, and it's okay if they don't end up being right for you.
meanwhile, the broader message about relationships that this imparts on the audience is an extremely important one. one which gets overlooked continually by storytellers in every industry. one which the show itself has brushed on, but not explored in depth.
one which fandom, in particular, likes to ignore.
ATTRACTION β‰  COMPATIBILITY
(...and that's okay!!!)
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batfamfucker Β· 1 year
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There are four main types of Batfam fans in regard to how people interpret Bruce Wayne as a dad (/Joking. This is mostly satire and should not be taken seriously):
Fans that think Bruce is emotionally constipated and isn't the best at being a parent but still tries (Differs per person). Don't necessarily think he's absuive but thinks he can be toxic or have unhealthy expectations for the Robins. Can smell the Oldest Daughter Syndrome coming from Dick and have Family Line (By Conan Gray) as their top song on their Dick inspired playlist and Daddy Issues (By The Neighbourhood) for Jason.
Fans that choose to believe Bruce goes to therapy in their own canon. Love B:WFA. Thinks the comic can be cheesy at times and so find a balance between B:WFA Bruce and Please Go To Therapy BruceTM as their middle ground. He struggles. They advocate that Bruce is not a bad parent, he just has bad writers that seem to forget Bruce wouldn't hurt kids, especially not his own. Love the humane moments and scenes he has in BTAS and the early JL cartoons. He may not be perfect but he's not literally abusive. Whores for Bruce being able to admit when he is wrong and for Jason and Bruce reconciling. I recommend Grow As We Go by Ben Platt for this one.
A mix between the first two. Was fine-ish when Dick was younger. Didn't help him in the healthiest way but eh. Still emotionally constipated but that happened more so after Dick left and Jason died. Started getting better when Tim came back but was still closed off. Should probably go to therapy with the kids so they can drag his ass about all the things he's done that have actually affected them negatively. Understands his mistakes and is also able to admit when he's wrong, eventually. It's not easy but he starts to do better and learns to be more emotionally available. Still has to get chewed out by Alfred sometimes but definitely better than he used to be and it shows. Reconciliation is slow and gradual but progress is made for everyone involved.
The one's I personally avoid for my own sanity and wellbeing:
Think Bruce is a complete bastard and abuser. Want him to choke. Hate any and all interpretations of him. Some of which will refuse to understand how anyone could have a different interpretation. Will point out comics where, in all fairness, he is a dick but forget that characterisation can significantly differ from one series to the next, as comic characters are constantly passed around to different writers and have been for decades. Not to mention movies, shows, etc.
#Bruce Wayne#Batman#Batfam#Batdad#I'm not tagging everyone in the Batfam I can't be assed#Sorry there's like 500#Bruce has a child for every mental disorder he has#Dick is his ADHD. Jason is his C-PTSD. Tim is his Anxiety. Cass is his OCD. Damian is his Autism.#Like bro the therapist is RIGHT there#You have the money just GO#I am a mix of 2 and 3 tbh but more so 2 because he is my comfort fictional father figure. I already have a shit dad irl#I'm not dealing with it in my favourite media too#Type 4 fans scare me I lowkey see so many people like that and I'm like. If the block button wasn't free. I'd be in debt by now#I get that you saw Tom Kings work. So did I. I hate that fuck. But I personally prefer the scene of him in JL with Ace on the swings#Or the one with him playing with shape block toys with a baby whilst Supes and WW handle the questioning#Or when he hugs literally any of his kids#Or the one of him and Jason watching a movie and eating popcorn when Jason's ill. And they have the picture of them posing#Or when he cried in Flashpoint over the letter his dad left him because the little boy in him needed that#Plus any time Bruce and Clark interact as Best Friends. The Golden Age comics where they were basically Dick's gay dads πŸ’€#But yeah. I could make a poll from this tbh.#This is a generalisation on purpose genuinely do not take it seriously#If I see ANY disclosure. It's delete and block on sight#Bruh I'm still recovering from the notes of my Fallout 4 John Hancock in a Drag Race outfit crossover post#I know it sounds like I'm being paranoid but that's because I am. You have not seen the things I have seen in my notes#You do not know of the wars I have fought of over ghoul dicks and high heels#I have seen things I can never burn from my vision. Read things I will never have the mercy of forgetting#Over silly little shitposts. Lmao. Anyway. Here. Have some food.
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hystericfae Β· 21 days
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I should marry for money
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unhingedlesbear Β· 10 months
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Honestly I can't lie, as much as I love Mark and as much as he is LiterallyMeβ„’, I do think Kate might be slightly above him as my personal favourite in TDIM. (I was doomed for this the second she was described as a "bitch" like OH BOY OH BOY ANOTHER COOL FLAWED WOMAN FOR ME TO DEFEND <333)
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irritablepoe Β· 1 month
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Yk my life is just sad, not in a tragic way but in such a deeply pathetic way, they say the real you is who you are when you're alone but literally in that case I'm a mole hiding in the earth and that only comes out when it has toπŸ’€
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mountain-lion-gremlin Β· 2 months
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GUYS SO YOU KNOW IVE TALKED A BIT ABOUT HAVING A LOVER
AND I JUAT GOT THE WONDERFUK OPPORTUNITY TO TALK WITH HIS LAZY ASS PARENTS
(GUYS HE GOT HIS PHONE TAKEN AWAY I AM SK SAD)
BUT LIKE THIA BITCH IS SO LAZY COULDNT EVEN BOTHER TO TRY AND REPLICATE HOW MY PRETTY BOY TALKS
like from the get go I could tell it wasn't him it was SO FISHHYYY
(*gossip girl voice is fully activated btw*)
But also I am so worried for him. I hope they weren't snooping, and I'm glad I followed my gut and didn't try to make contact immediately again outside of the one chat we have
Because if they found out he would be in absolute HEAPS of trouble.
I hope he gets his phone back soon. I can't wait for him to return.
#pls pls pls if you know who I'm talking about#do not say or comment about it anywhere else#this is for both of our privacy and pretend you never saw thus#it's just so frustrating that he got his phone taken and they didn't even try hard to convince me#I think his parents thought I was so emotional over it that I was just in denial#like I'm not stupid πŸ’€πŸ’€#my love does NOT talk like that#craziest thing that has happened so far in this relationship tbh#I really hope he's okay and doesn't think I'm really hurt over this#because I'm not I just find this a pitiful attempt from a parent#I also made sure to contact some of his close friends that i know of to not contact him#because he is also a wolf shifter and I really don't want him to be accidentally exposed#I was spamming him though I think they were tired of hearing it every night for the last 6 days 🀠✨️#I didn't know if he was okay I had no warning that his stuff was taken#I was completely in the dark#GUYS IM SUCH A GOOD ACTOR#but yeah#wanted to tell you guys because I did NOT expect this#most likely I will delete this after this whole thing is over#I'm pretty sure he will get his phone back just based on how they talked to me#pretty sure it was his mom or stepmom or something#too nice and passive aggressive to be his dad#plus the energy behind the texts felt more... feminine so to say. MY LOVE IS THE OPPOSITE OF FEMININE#I LOVE YOU HONEY#I'm pretty sure he cut contact with everything he could before his parents took his phone but couldn't get to Amino on time.#I really hope they didn't snoop#that would be horrible for him#I'm really worried#like I was worried yesterday oh hell yes I was#but I am WAYYY worried now
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fumiko-matsubara Β· 2 years
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Since it's Mermay, I drew a mermaid version of Megu as Poisson πŸ’•
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warriorbrevi Β· 1 month
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I think one of my worst toxic traits is that I hate the enshittification of technology to a frankly stubborn degree and it makes my ability to adapt to changing technology extremely varied depending on the change
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spocks-kaathyra Β· 10 months
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well now I am thinking abt how I project onto pythas. I would really rather not be thinking about it. but I am. unfortunately. I take this character who's a bad person. who loves rarely and doesn't know how to do it right. who seems to be built for isolation despite really needing companionship like everyone else does. who grew up too small and too shy and blending into the scenery without trying. and I give him people who love him unconditionally. who see him despite his hiding and light up when they greet him and understand the too-intense way he loves them and drag him out of his shell and forgive him for the things he's done wrong. I take this character who has always quietly acquiesced and swallowed his blood and made himself into exactly who others needed him to be. and I let him learn the strength to fight back and the ability to say no and the joy of choosing for himself. and yk ! I really don't want to know what that says abt me ! tbh ! I really don't want to admit that that's me and that's what I want !
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layla-carstairs Β· 1 year
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I do not understand people who take psych mainly to learn about disorders etc personally. my intro to psych professor talked about anxiety for like 5 slides and it literally made me anxious 😐
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noxtivagus Β· 2 years
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A MILLION THOGUHTS RUNING THROUGH MY HEAD RN !?! sometimes i just think about myself n wonder WHY TF ARE THERE PPL INTIMIDATED BY ME 😭😭
#πŸŒ™.rambles#sometimes it's funny esp when online n these ppl are older than me#ffxiv in particular i think i've encountered several ppl that have been intimidated by me ??#but then w others when they talk w me i swear i'm such an airhead#like i came across a weirdo in ffxiv once n i was just like 'huh?'#idk how to explain but several things just easily pass over my head#even when being direct my overthinking mind is probably gna come up w some bs πŸ’€#i feel like rambling rn#i tried some omegleast night bcs an irl decided to as well#just text ofc n i find it funny how i trolled some random strangers w the uhh ffxiv copypasta#& uk πŸ’€#WAH LMFAO that aside tho#(apollo n i got matched together once n the outcome was chaotic .)#UH I MADE A FRIEND THO !! they like pjsekai n like rui n we have similar music taste omg#sobv whenever i meet new ppl i think the perception they have of me is shy/kind or intimidating#i rmber i used to not talk /a lot/ back on twintania ffxiv a year ago but#my friends wld often call me cute :<<#I WANT TO KNOW WHY?? DONT JUST TELL ME THAT N TELL ME Y PLEASE 😭😭#sorry i slept at nearly 6 am i think n woke up at 10 idk n i'm going a bit insane today but i don't feel braindead in a sad way nymore rn#nah tbh i think i'm going a bit insane#gotta get out of the car rn tho so ill stop typing while walking#hmmm do you ever wonder though abt what passing strangers think and remember of you#that's interesting to me wah n i wonder what music they think i'm listening to#but maybe a lot of people don't think of strangers like that ?
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themagical1sa Β· 2 years
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Its totally okay that you replied okay :) sometimes we just aren't in the mood to reply (I had this ask and I was like I'll answer it tmr and to this I have not answered it XDD)
Also living hell of a country resonates with me. There is a part of me that is constantly afraid while living in this country. My family and I are a minority and well,,,it feels like I hear violent acts done everyday so there seems to be this deep seated fear in me now.
(it wasn't so bad before but I guess the country follows its government. if the government heads are violent the country follows)
Toxicity is something I am more or less familiar with I think. But i dont wanna talk about it in case my parents are toxic. I dont want to think about that XDD
BUT OMG YOUR ART IS SO PRETTY!! I LOVE THEm SO MUCH!! THE COLOURS!! THE SKETCHES!! THE MODELS!! SO PRETTY!!
up to something huh πŸ‘€ πŸ‘€ I cant help but wonder
I'm doing okay :))) School has told is submit all our copies on the 2nd so I am just praying for my shoulders on that day. (I haven't completed 4 copies yet ;-;) AND my midterms are gonna start on the 17th. woooo *cries*
BUT ANYHOO! everything is else is going more or less good, teachers day is coming up so I'm thinking I'm gonna make cookies but hey lets see if I go through with it :)
Good to hear you're doing okay! 😌
How was Teachers' Day? Did you get to make cookies or did you end up doing something else entirely? o(>β–½<)o
Thank you for your comments on my art! I'm super glad to hear that β€” I haven't drawn as properly as I did for a loooong while. January to early June has been such a blur... I guess mourning and processing the death of a loved one does that, huh? Not to mention the stress of the national elections–
–BUT either way, I've been able to grow out of it somehow. At this point I just want to make my lola proud of me, even if from heaven. πŸ₯Ή
[pretty rambly about my late lola; you can skip!] Speaking of my late lola, I had a haircut last July a couple weeks before my birthday β€” I decided on a wolf cut. It promoted my natural wavy hair which was a lot like her natural wavy-curly hair (I used to have my hair straightened via rebonding). A few days later, my dad had a dream where lola (aka his mom) told him about how she liked my hair. On the morning of my birthday, my grandmother came to me in a dream, gently patting my head and telling me how pretty I was. I even quote, "Ang ganda ng apo ko." (Tagalog: My granddaughter is so pretty.) πŸ₯ΉπŸ₯ΉπŸ₯Ή πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—
You 🀝 Me living in a hell of a country and government
We sure do live in scary times, Anza... so here's to our survival against the odds! 🍹🍹
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katherines Β· 2 months
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"you wouldn't have any of your ships if not for destiel know your roots!!" man... spn fans still losing their minds in 2024 is the reason why they're having to complain that people are sick of them. I think it's the natural cycle for people to get tired of being bombarded with so much of the same thing when they want nothing to do with it.
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minisodetomorrow Β· 3 months
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happy new year!!! i hope everyone can celebrate it peacefully tonight πŸ’œ may 2024 be a good year for all of us
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idk-i-want-mcl-content Β· 5 months
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beebop
story time to future self, hope you learn from this
#this is so fucking embarrasing but i promised to myself i would embrace my cringe so#there was this guy who i knew since three months ago#he's my classmate we played stardew together like 5-6 hours#not every day just some days#we are in the same group for an assigment and out of everyone i'm the one who talked the most to him#he's taller than me and paints his nails black which i think it's cool#and when we were playing he tried to make a move like thrice#and i fucking moved on because tbh i really don't want a partner rn (what i mean is i ignored his moves completely)#it's like when you like the idea but in execution is a total nuh#in that period we continued talking and he said some weird ass opinions but i though 'well it's normal if we don't think the same whatev'#and like 2 weeks ago we were working in that group assigment and i feel like i opened my eyes lol because he fucked up SO badly#(in the sense of his arrogance just spitted out of his mouth with each opinion he said)#that when he left they even wanted to kick him out of the group because he was that level of annoying#if he was a public figure i would describe him as 'he thinks he's edgy but in reality his opinions are problematic'#which i don't think it's a good sign JAJAJAJA#i have kinda stopped talking w him and he doesn't make an effort either sooo yeah that happened#and tbh after this semester i don't want to continue talking w him he's basically an arrogant classist (according to his opinions)#this is an example of why i keep things 2 myself because if i had spit it out to a friend it would be OVER for me πŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€
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