People who can watch stuff without subtitles are highly suspicious wdym you can hear

Absolutely wild to me that crunchyroll categorized the ancient magus' bride as SLICE OF LIFE??? Five minutes into episode one and a girlie is selling herself into slavery bro. Like I'm invested but that's some false advertising

me watching lisa frankenstein (i thought it was a silly romcom and had no idea it was a horror movie)

rereading Pink Lemonade cause i cant do Lazarus to myself again @garbagevanfleet

real quick out of all the things i thought the mario movie was gonna surprise me with, “mario and luigi not only have a human father, but also mario has daddy issues from said father that he bonds with donkey kong over” was NOT one of them

so no joetrick?

Consert was awsome but the people weren't

same old married couple, another adopted child

Wow Diana in concert was a shit fest

I like the silly little new indie show

Someone give Pomni a cookie

okay garth greenwell now it is your turn to ruin my life

I think this lil guy reminds him of someone

ignore how messy it is, its like 5 am here n i needed 2 get this out of my system

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

the end of the everest music video hurt my dnf heart

various tango doodles

i am at the point where if i dont finish now i'll newer finish so yeah the rest of the gaaaaaang