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waspsinyouryard · 1 year
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The tragic reality of Tumblr is that I am presumably supposed to actually interact with other users but I just don't feel like it ever
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batknot · 4 months
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Internet Etiquette
Devastating! You just saw a take that you don't agree with! This is a check for reading comprehension and the practice of good faith. 
Analyze 
What emotion was this intended to inspire?
What was the goal the speaker was trying to achieve?
How could this be interpreted differently?
Is there context that would change the meaning?
Is the speaker qualified?
Reflect
What is your first reaction and why did you have that specific reaction?
Is it an issue that is harming you and/or did the group being harmed directly state that this harms them?
Do you accept the consequences that could result from interacting?
Is the speaker someone you can reason with?
What assumptions are you making about the speaker?
Speak
What is the goal of your words?
What audience are you catering towards?
Are you talking to the person with respect?
How could your words be interpreted differently?
What reaction will people have towards your words and how is it being achieved?
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visgrapplinghooks · 7 months
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I've noticed this thing with autistic people where people never know where our attention is. If I'm looking directly at you, I probably didn't mean to!
I'm not staring at you, I just thought the spot on the wall next to you looked interesting or my neck happened to turn that way.
If I am looking to your side but my ear is facing you then I AM LISTENING AND PAYING ATTENTION! I'm angling my ear to process what you're saying better.
Many allistics seem to think eye contact is the sole or most important determining factor of attention in conversations. Not everyone can pay attention in the same ways, though!
This is why I'm so against the demand for eye contact by society and other people. You're asking me to sacrifice my ability to actually pay attention to you so you can have the outward aesthetic of feeling like someone is paying attention to you.
I mean this leads to a broader discussion on how neurotypical social norms are built around aesthetics of function over true function, but that's a topic for another day lol.
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theambitiouswoman · 8 months
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How To Network 🤝📱💬
Have a Plan: Because everyone is important, it's really important to know what you're good at. Before you go to any networking event, figure out what you're good at – like things you can do well, what you know, and the people you know. Plan what you want to talk about, especially how you can help others, either now or later on.
Start with Who You Know: Talk to people you already know, like friends and colleagues. Ask if they can introduce you to others.
Go to Events: Attend conferences, seminars, workshops, industry meetups, and social gatherings related to your field of interest.
Use Social Media: Make profiles on websites like LinkedIn or Instagram to meet people in your niche online.
Elevator Pitch: Create a concise and engaging intro that highlights who you are, what you do, and what you're seeking. This way you can make a strong first impression.
Ask Good Questions: When you talk to someone, ask questions that show you're interested in what they're saying.
Provide Value: Networking is a two-way street. Offer your expertise, assistance, or connections to others whenever possible. When you start paying attention to what people can do, you might see that one person could help another person. Try to introduce people who you think have something valuable to share. When you make these good connections, you're helping the networking event go well. This will help you establish a good reputation and create strong relationships.
Say Thank You: After meeting, send a message to say you enjoyed the talk.
Follow up & Follow Through: If you said you would talk to someone later, make sure you actually do it and let them know you're still happy to help. If you promised to introduce one person to another, take a moment to make that introduction.These small things really matter to people, and just one introduction could make someone's life better.
Meet Different People: Don't just talk to the same kind of people. Meet people from different jobs and places.
Never dismiss anyone as unimportant: Don't think someone is not important just because of their job title. They could know important things or have helpful friends you wouldn't know about if you didn't give them a chance.
Join Groups: Be part of clubs or groups related to your work. You can meet more people there.
Be Yourself: Just be you. Don't pretend to be someone else.
Learn New Things: Keep learning about your interests. It helps you have better conversations.
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femmefatalevibe · 8 months
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Femme Fatale Guide: Tips To Become More Emotionally Intelligent
Embrace self-awareness & self-reflection: Observe how you feel, behave, and how people generally respond to your words/actions in different situations
Practice self-regulation: Learn to differentiate between your feelings and the actions that would be appropriate in a specific setting or interaction. Internalize that feelings are fleeting and non-factual. You're in control of how you respond/(don't) act on these emotions
Engage in active listening: Pay attention to what others are saying with the intent of understanding, not responding
Focus on emotional differentiation: Understand where your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and opinions end and another person's identity/perception begins
Display radical empathy and acceptance: Understand that almost all people's words and actions result from their own beliefs, past experiences, and current life circumstances/priorities. Put yourself in their shoes when attempting to understand their choices, behaviors, and times they come to you to discuss a problem, success, or major life decision. Accept that you can only control what you do. Very little of other people's actions/the world's workings are personal. Things are happening around you, not to you
Let go of your ego: View yourself as objectively as possible with the potential for improvement. Abolish any superior complex or overwhelming desire to prove your self-importance in others' lives and decisions
Remain open-minded: Question your own beliefs and opinions. Stay curious as to why you believe them to be true/authentic to you. Allow your opinions to change or have the capacity to modify your beliefs upon hearing new information. Understand your worldview and values are valid, but they're not definitively correct beliefs, just because they resonate/feel comfortable for you
Be receptive to feedback: Embrace constructive criticism as a self-improvement tool. Approach it with curiosity and optimism, not as a personal attack
Differentiate between your feelings and capabilities: Your thoughts are not facts. Remember you can do things you don't feel like doing most of the time (work, waking up in the morning, working out, etc.). Learn the difference between being a slave to your emotions and genuinely running out of energy
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bisexualbaker · 5 months
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All About Lurking Poll
Voting in polls can go either way for the purpose of this question, if only because I was running up against the text limit on a lot of options already.
Reblog so all the lurkers can (anonymously) let themselves be known! And sample size, or whatever.
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tumbler-polls · 4 months
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losersage · 15 days
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There is something generally wrong with me
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Anyway ART
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my-autism-adhd-blog · 2 months
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Embracing Neurodiversity: The Beauty of Autism and Friendships
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The Autistic Teacher
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I know this posts mentions autistic people having empathy, but I wanted to add that there are autistic people out there who don’t experience empathy. This does not make someone a bad person. It just means that they don’t understand why people feel the way they feel. And that’s okay.
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layla4567 · 5 months
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Fluff person prompts/scenerios/interactions
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Character A listens attentively to Character B by tilting his head with puppy eyes and saying "uhm?"
Character A blushes tenderly when Character B hugs her/him/they
Character A is a shy touch starved and babbles incoherently every time Character B touches him/her/their
Character A is shorter or has shorter legs than Character B and has to jog to his side every time they walk together.
Character A laughs heartily at Character B's bad jokes.
Character B loves to stroke Character A's hair when he has his head resting on his lap just to see him smile sweetly.
Character A doesn't drink alcohol so every time they are at a party, character B doesn't drink alcohol either so as not to make her feel alone.
Character A told character B that he always wanted to learn to play the guitar so character B bought him one and taught him how to play it.
Character B really likes comis, one day character A buys him a special edition that he always wanted.
Character A really enjoys going bowling, Character B doesn't like it but does it for her.
Character A is bothered by loud noises so Character B covers his ears every time that happens.
Character A once gave a macrame bracelet to character B and he still keeps it fondly even though a lot of time has passed and character A does not know it.
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ineffectualdemon · 1 year
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Bit of advice if you really struggle with social interaction especially if you're young
Do not comment on anything about a person that involves a number
Examples
Age
Weight
Height
Income
Etc
Basically if it's something about a person you can write down in numbers then it's probably considered sensitive
That includes the price of anything they own. Unless they offer a number up themselves you do not ask and most importantly you do not guess
I know a lot of people are going to think this is obvious but it's not obvious to everyone so I wanted to share
Also if you accidentally tread on one of these topics the best way to handle it is to say "I'm sorry, that was rude of me. I didn't mean it rudely but I shouldn't have said that." And then change topics. Lingering on it, even to apologise, will just make it worse
Just words of advice from a 39 year old autistic person who fucked this up a lot as a teenager. Learn from my mistakes
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just-a-blog-for-polls · 2 months
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snakeautistic · 5 months
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I don’t really get the point of saying “hello” and “goodbye” to people, so I pretty much never do. If I’m starting a conversation, I start with the topic I wanted to talk about, and if I’m done with the conversation I’ll stop talking/ walk off. I also find it very unnatural to acknowledge people I know when running into them unexpectedly. I usually just stare down at the floor and try to act like I didn’t see them. If they wave or say hi to me, I try to reciprocate, but I sometimes forget or take way too long to respond.
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fixing-bad-posts · 1 year
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I'm not a dick to people online. that is just being a good person. you can have social interactions where you can BE NICE AND POLITE.
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sotwk · 2 months
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A person can be told "I love you" literally every single day of their life, and still live their whole life feeling wretchedly unloved.
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femmefatalevibe · 8 months
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Femme Fatale Guide: Types of Relationships To Help You Thrive In Life
Table of Contents:
Healthy Relationship With Yourself
Peer-To-Peer Relationship
Mentorship Relationship
Goal-Oriented/Accountability-Focused Relationship
Emotionally-Intimate Relationship
Physical/Sexually-Intimate Relationship
Acquaintance Relationships
Second-Degree Relationships
Types of Relationships:
Healthy Relationship With Yourself: Internalize and act with the knowledge that you're worthy of love, care, and nourishment, and have unconditional permission to work towards your goals & dream life. Eat healthfully, drink plenty of water, remain well-rested, move your body daily, maintain proper hygiene/a clean home, invest in your appearance to feel your best, live as a life-long learner, establish healthy habits/routines, get your finances in order, establish and maintain boundaries, make positive self-talk a priority.
Peer-To-Peer Relationship: Aka friendships, which are intended to offer mutual support and joy in life. These friendships thrive on having similar values and interests, which makes these individuals your greatest cheerleaders, advice givers/receivers, and partners in crime to have fun or offer platonic love/emotional support during traditional or difficult seasons in your life. Peer-to-peer relationships should add mutual excitement, encouragement, and emotional nourishment, and provide a soundboard for confidential information exchange, ears to listen without unnecessary or superficial judgment, and solicited advice from someone who has your best interest in mind.
Mentorship Relationship: This could be a boss, teacher, professor, aunt, uncle, or another trusted adult(s) who can guide you based on their more extensive life experience/wisdom. You can have one or several mentors at any life stage and for different purposes. These people should be trustworthy (keep your information confidential unless you state otherwise) and express their advice through the lens of your best interest rather than their own personal desires or biases (at least those left unchecked). Ensure you feel safe around these people, and their presence in your life is a mutually-nourishing relationship that allows you to grow personally, professionally, and relationally.
Goal-Oriented/Accountability-Focused Relationship: A coach, mentorship, or friendship based on the achievement of a particular goal or practice. This type of relationship can manifest as an accountability partner or support group. A therapist can also fulfill this role in your life (but like, a coach, this relationship is a one-way street to offer you emotional support/tools & resources). Some reasons for an accountability-oriented relationship include helping you achieve a certain health/fitness goal, establish better routines, advance in your career, let go of unhealthy habits, patterns, or addictions, better manage your finances, or help you get your other relationships (family, partner, friends, self-talk, boss, co-workers, etc.) in order.
Emotionally-Intimate Relationship: Someone with whom you feel an unwavering emotional closeness and connection. This person can be a partner you're involved with sexually/physically intimate with or not. Asexuality exists, of course. And emotional intimacy can definitely exist in close platonic relationships (like your best friendships) without any romantic or sexual feelings. These relationships are important because they allow you to let your emotional walls down and be your vulnerable, authentic self.
Physical/Sexually-Intimate Relationship: This relationship could be with a romantic partner, FWB, with multiple partners, purely with yourself, or somewhere in between. If you have sexual needs, it's important to find pleasurable ways to satisfy these desires in a way that makes you feel most fulfilled and respected. Let go of any shame you experience when exploring this side of yourself. Experiment and learn what you like/dislike/fantasize about. Use this information to elevate your practice and communication with any partner(s) for a heightened, more enjoyable, and potentially closer emotionally-bonding experience.
Hobby/Interest-Centric Relationship: These relationships can extend from co-workers to your friends in a certain class/the one friend you go on weekly walks with, follow a particular TV show with, exchange beauty tips with, "going out" friends, etc. While these connections aren't vulnerable to the degree of a close friendship/relationship, it is important to have some relationships that are purely based on fun, light-hearted conversations, and mutual hobbies/interests/lifestyles. Having someone to share these mutual experiences with helps you feel more connected to your environment/communities, not feel isolated/lonely when your friends, family, or intimate partner has different hobbies, career aspirations, or daily routines/lifestyle compared to you, and provides a mutual soundboard on issues, insights, and exciting moments in this particular area of your life.
Acquaintance Relationships: Everyone needs those friends, co-workers, or classmates they can just chat with when at a party, a group meeting, dinner, a special occasion, to grab a quick lunch or coffee, etc. These people are fun to be around and allow you to indulge in light, easy conversations to offer temporary social support/fulfillment. These relationships also expand your network for professional opportunities, making new friends, finding dates/a potential partner, interest groups/new hobbies, referral services/classes/spaces, and other contacts that can enrich your life.
Second-Degree Relationships: These are friend-of-a-friend type connections who can be/become your future business partners, romantic/sexual partners, co-workers, investors, hairdressers, realtors, stylists, finance managers, etc. Be ready to reciprocate these offers and be this person in others' lives, too. As your network gets broader and more dynamic, better chances and potential there is to connect with the right people to help you achieve your goals, desires, and overall life satisfaction. Success and efficiency rarely – if ever – exist in isolation.
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