"May you be blessed today, may you smile more than not, and may you just have a really soft day.."

I wish on you a thousand blessings of happiness and joy - eUë

,u can be whatever u want ,as long as u are smiling ...

Smiling makes everything better indeed!

PSA no one would ever need but me:

Don’t go through your mail when you are high….

I an high af right now… given in my defense it had not hit me till I was half way through reading a letter from my health insurance… apparently starting Jan 1, 2023 some Rx company that works with them is changing their name and sometime in 2023 they will be releasing an app for patients to use to easily access their digital insurance card, talk to support and other stuff. All fine and dandy… accept it’s almost the end of May… and I thought it was already 2023… but now I’ve spent the past 20 minutes trying to figure out if its 2022 or 2023. My first thought was google than I kept questioning if I typed in the right thing in the search bar… so than I though “Oh well my birthday already passed so lets just add my age to 1994 and there we go.” Accept…. Am I 28 or 29…?

I still don’t know what year it is or how old I am… please help…

Been a while since I did this so... INTERACT WITH THIS POST AND ILL SEND YOU A CUTE ANIMAL TO MAKE YOU SMILE

:)

life being life i guess. 

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i fucken love facetiming my niece bc kids genuinely hold the camera like this and it’s my favorite fucken angle ever

censored bc she’s a child and she can’t consent to having her face on the internet

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Transcript:

LET'S SETTLE THI- Oh hang on. Hang on, Machine, um.

It's 8 PM I need to take my testosterone.

Sorry I'll just be a second. Uh wait here, alright?

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"I hope you find a reason to smile today and I just want you to know that you are my reason.."

You always make me smile, even if it's just a snicker of a smile - eUë

it won’t let me rb but i need to…

So in love with this chalk drawing i saw at the train station 😭 I want to be this happy. creacher….

oh book 1 gaang....... my silly rabbits <333

you know what it's time to spookypost;

HERE'S things i drew a YEAR & some change ago, these little solid caricature tributes that PERHAPS i'll someday polish up & make as charms???? who KNOWS

for now though !!!!! take them, i still like these a lot

Been driving a while. Traffic lights keep this trucker and I together. Look over, this MF is my age. Open sunroof. Get their attention at next light. ....I DID THE THING THE NOISE WAS MADE!!! WE BEAM AT EACH OTHER!!

Hands-hearts and thumbs-ups for the next few lights.