Also like. Sitting with my sadness about the earring and it’s kind of wild to me that I’m able to be sad about it. A year ago I would have just been angry at myself and ashamed at having the audacity to lose an earring and waste money ($10) but I’m able to recognize that that’s not healthy at all, and it’s human to make mistakes, and that it’s ok to be sad about something like a $10 novelty earring.
And on the one hand I’m happy and proud that I’ve come this far, but also so fucking sad that this is a milestone for me, and that I’ve spent so long unable to just sit with a normal human emotion
Anyway I’m tired and mopey and proud of myself and I want to go home
i literally love how humans get so attached to robots we sent to far away planets to learn for us because we can't. we collectively saw that box of wires and went "that's my child now"
…sooo i’m going back to being a hairstylist and i know i said the last time it would be my last time working in a salon buuuuttttt i need the money so bad and i know i can pull good money doing hair again and i feel like maybe this time bc my life circumstances are a bit better maybe when i have a rude client i won’t wanna die now
so the original plan had been that we got married in June, and had a party for everyone else to come and join us in August
back in July, my mother flipped her shit and screamed at me that she wanted nothing to do with it because I told her she couldn't make it all about her (she wanted to pick the venue and invite all her friends???) and she was very angry that it would be "twice the size of what [she] had" (she had about 25 people at her wedding, so again, this is still a small event, and we only had 8 people at our actual ceremony, all blood relatives or in-laws). without her financial help, we couldn't book anything in advance (my quarterly bonus only came in recently) and you can't like, rent a restaurant on short notice, so we're just. not having a wedding reception for our friends and extended family.
anyway, last week she informed me casually that it's absurd to think that people would still be excited about us getting married because we've been together so long that "it's not special anymore", it's just what we were supposed to have done already
I'm genuinely baffled that she expects to have a good relationship with me at this point