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inikumi · 6 months
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Jalan cerita
Ternyata memasang bounderies atau batasan itu penting sekali. Memberanikan diri untuk speak up dan menerima apapun penolakan itu jauh lebih melegakan daripada bermain atas asumsi kita sendiri.
Batasan itu akhirnya memberiku pelajaran untuk melepaskan sesuatu yang memang tidak “satu” dengan tujuanku.
Sederhana. Hanya perlu menyampaikan tujuan kita. Respon dia yang akan menentukan bagaimana kita bertindak setelahnya.
Aku kembali belajar. Berkali-kali belajar, berkali-kali aku berdoa, berkali-kali juga kesempatan itu ada. Aku tidak tahu, apakah dia sudah menemukan lebih dulu atau aku yang akan menemukan lebih dulu.
Pada akhirnya apapun keputusan Allaah, aku merelakan seutuhnya perasaan ini terhadapnya. Terhadap ketentuan-Nya.
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ultrxlight · 1 month
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i learned this method from my first therapist
write affirmations on a paper , stick that paper beside your bed and read it first thing in the morning when you wake up
its basically reprogramming your subconscious thoughts with new beliefs and thoughts
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vivaciousofficiall · 2 years
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Let’s Talk : How Revenge Harms You More Than Others.
Nowadays, the norm is to ‘match people’s energies’
Someone replies you after two hours, you take three hours to respond.
Your boyfriend cheats on you so you slash his tires & cheat back.
Your friend embarrasses you so you wait for a specific time to throw her under the bus as well.
We’ve been lied to that somehow this compensates for what has been done to us & we are ‘getting’ this person back. This is False.
Let me explain why.
Granted, in that fleeting moment you are getting a temporary satisfaction but it disappears just as quickly. This is because that is not who you truly are.
When you lower yourself to meet others where they are, all you are doing is becoming them. A lot of people leave relationships (platonic, romantic etc.) a totally different person. A shell of who you once were. 
 Now, I'm not saying to become a doormat. I'm saying set your standards & boundaries. I'm saying communicate with the people in your life. Make your deal breakers known. Let them know you will not tolerate mistreatment. If they still continue to disrespect your boundaries, gracefully exit. 
Never let anyone take you out of character.
Xoxo, Vivacious.
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ellawong2013 · 2 months
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This video shares my perspective on sugar babies. .................................................................................................................. * Ella is the founder of EnlitenPath app (enlitenpath.com), which is the first enlightenment educational app. You can download it on app store and play store, to start your self enlightenment journey. Enjoy! * If you like the video and want to support Ella, her PayPal is [email protected] * If your organization needs "EnlitenPath Mindfulness Training" (4 sessions/package), please write to [email protected]
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Tips for falling in love with yourself
1. Show yourself some kindness and compassion – This can be hard at first, but it’s so important to be kind to yourself. Don’t forget that mistakes are part of life and they don’t define you. Treat yourself like you would a best friend or someone you care about deeply.
2. Practice positive self-talk – Try replacing negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Celebrate your successes and acknowledge your progress, no matter how small. Remind yourself of all the good things about you and that you are worth loving.
3. Focus on what makes you happy – Find something that brings you joy and invest time in it every day. This could be anything from reading to writing, drawing, playing sports, cooking, etc. Doing something enjoyable on a regular basis will help build your self-confidence and allow you to enjoy the present moment.
4. Take time for yourself – We often forget to slow down and just be with ourselves. Find a few minutes each day to check in with your emotions, thoughts, and feelings. When life gets too overwhelming, take some time off and unplug from your devices and social media. Taking a break will help clear your mind and allow you to appreciate life more.
5. Make yourself a priority – Give yourself the love, attention, and care that you deserve. Find activities that make you feel happy and fulfilled and make them a priority in your life. Invest in yourself and your well-being by focusing on developing yourself as a person.
6. Set boundaries – Learn to say “no” when something doesn’t make you feel comfortable or happy. Don’t be afraid to express yourself authentically and make sure to listen to your needs and feelings before making any decisions. It’s ok to take some time alone if that’s what you need.
7. Get rid of toxic people and habits – Evaluate the relationships in your life and make sure they are healthy and beneficial to you. It’s also important to let go of any negative or toxic habits that are preventing you from loving yourself.
Loving yourself is an ongoing process and it takes time, effort, and practice to cultivate self-love and acceptance. But by following these tips, you can start falling in love with yourself today!
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hypnodangernoodle · 3 months
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Bluuuueeee Mooon 🥰
Handmade by me 🥰
Follow me on every other platform as HypnoKrafts 🥰🥰🥰
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elowyntheyapper · 2 years
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My new morning routine
6:00; Wake up and pray
6:05; Brush my teeth
6:08; Shower
6:15; Skincare/affirmations
6:20; Breakfast
6:30; Read a book (I do 20 pages)
7:00; Get to work
Wanna grow together?
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Had to learn things the hard way.
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by Francesco Carloni
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ultrxlight · 24 days
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how to reach your fullest potential 🤍
#1 mindset
upgrade your mindset and your life will upgrade too
“ if you focus on other people you’ll never succeed”
focus on yourself only
you are your only competition
work on your studies , appearance, goals
never give away your power
and that includes seeking revenge
the wizardliz once said
“ god always blesses those who dont take revenge , always”
make prayers if youre religious and spend time with
ask him for what you want
that alone drastically upgraded my mindset
repeat affirmations like :
I am amazing
I am glowing
I constantly glow up
I am in infinite abundance
I aim the highest
connect with your higher self by questioning what she would do pr think in that situation and act like her
#2 Academic success
review your lectures right after they are done
i have this basic before study ritual
where I take deep breathes ( o2 is fuel for the brain ) and be grateful
then I visualize my self study and having fun ( visual fuel )
then I remind myself why i am studying by writing it down and write my goals down
then i drink water which also works as fuel
whenever i do that i finish more work in less time
#3 Inner beauty
Always help those in need
Be the sparkle of light to someones darkness
in the law of karma , you will get back everything you do
and its true
be good not because you want someone back
but because thats who you are
#4 outer beauty
exercise one hour everyday
eat healthy
double cleanse your face and moisturize daily
never sleep with your makeup on
write the version you want to be and how she looks on a paper so precisely and be detailed
go creative with yourself
treat yourself like art to look like art
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yunusaziz · 2 years
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#SelfDevelopment 2 : Overthinking = Self-Destructive Mechanism?
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Hayoo kebiasaan siapa tuh? 😏
Overthinking
Otak manusia (akal) itu sebenarnya karunia yang begitu luar biasa yang Allah berikan, dan karenanya manusia menjadi makhluk yang unggul dibandingkan makhluk lainnya. Akan tetapi, tidak jarang karenanya pula manusia menjadi kehabisan energi, sakit mental, emosi negatif, otak beralih menjadi self destruction mechanism, ketika manusia terjebak dalam 'fenomena' overthinking.
Overthinking adalah kebiasaan berpikir terlalu banyak dan/atau terlalu lama tentang suatu hal. Overthinking juga dikenal sebagai 'analysis paralysis' (kelumpuhan analisis) karena dengan berpikir terlalu banyak, seseorang akan terjebak dalam pikirannya dan menghentikan dirinya dari mengambil tindakan (lumpuh).
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OT sebenarnya adalah kebiasaan umum pada setiap orang, biasanya dipicu oleh masalah harga diri, keraguan diri, kecemasan, dan pengalaman traumatis masa lalu.. akan tetapi bisa menjadi 'bahaya' jika OT terus dipelihara menjadi kebiasaan.
Kenapa demikian?
Saat overthinking, kita menciptakan sejuta skenario dalam pikiran kita, mulai dari hal sederhana, sampai membuat seseorang beremosi negatif. Kecemasan yang berlebihan ini dapat membuat kita lelah secara mental dan terpuruk. 
If you don't stop your brain from going places, you'll end up feeling always depressed, worried, and exhausted because your emotions and thoughts will cage you. 
Dan yang paling parah...
... anxiety can cause suicidal intentions, where you think the only way to escape this dreadful life is to kill yourself. 
Lalu bagaimana cara mengatasi overthinking?
Kadang tuh apa yang kita takutkan di masa depan sebenernya tidak semenakutkan itu, bahkan dari sekian banyak ketakutan itu lebih banyak yang nggak kejadian daripada yang terjadi. Kalaupun pada akhirnya yang menakutkan itu terjadi (naudzubillah semoga engga) kita harus yakin, kalau kita punya Allah yang pasti akan berikan jalan atau solusi untuk menyelesaikannya.
Lagipun kalau kita flashback hidup manusia, sebenernya Allah tuh ciptakan manusia dari fase ke fase memang untuk belajar kok, dan pada proses belajar, salah dan tidak sempurna adalah keniscayaan. Sebab dengan itu manusia yang 'menggunakan akalnya' akan tetap punya alasan untuk belajar.
Kalau kita ingat dulu saat TK selesai, kita takut untuk masuk SD karena gatau "dunia SD kayak gimana" tapi akhirnya akhirnya SD juga kan? Begitu juga saat mau selesai SMP takut nanti pas SMA bakal gini gitu, toh kamu juga lanjut SMA dan baik-baik aja 'kan? Begitu seterusnya.
Makannya ayat pertama turun tuh suruh baca, membaca segala hal disekitar kita, supaya kita dapat hikmah dan mendewasa dari hari ke hari.
Jadi, ketika kamu cemas alias ovethinking lakukan :
Serahkan semua ketakutanmu sama Allah, minta yang terbaik sama Allah, selalu positif thinking sama Allah.
Kamu harus yakin kalau kamu mampu, jangan inferior.
Kamu punya lingkungan yang baik, supportful sama kamu, ada ortu kamu yang selalu support keputusanmu, ada kakak-kakakmu, kamu juga punya teman-teman tumblr yang baik-baik selalu dukung kamu.
Kalau mereka saja yakin masa kamu engga? Jadi masih perlu overthinking? No way lah ya~
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blursy · 1 year
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How to Break Free From The Narcissistic Person
Breaking free from a narcissistic person can be a difficult and challenging process. Narcissists often have a manipulative and controlling personality, which can make it challenging to leave or break away from the relationship. However, it is essential to prioritize your own well-being and take steps to break free from the narcissistic person in your life. Here are some steps to help you break…
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vivaciousofficiall · 2 years
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Victim Mentality & How It Keeps You Stuck.
In this life, no one can do anything to you that you are not already doing to yourself. read that again if you need to. 
“ I am such a selfless person, I am so kind, giving & caring that people always end up taking advantage of me. I am such a good friend, I am always there for my friends but they're never there for me. I am such a great girlfriend, I don't ask my boyfriend for nothing yet he walks all over me and doesn't put it any effort in our relationship. I hate having such a big heart in this cruel world. Good people don't win”
Does this sound familiar? well i have some news for you
You have little to no standards. You lack self love. You are a people pleaser. You lack self awareness and may be codependent.
This may be hard to hear. The truth is always bitter however it will  set you free. You are not ‘unlucky’ and God doesn't hate you. You just don't know how to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships and that's okay.
 Most of us did not have healthy examples of relationships while growing up. Never be ashamed of your journey because if you knew better you would do better.. Instead be grateful for the opportunity to start afresh.  Awareness is the first step. 
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tyzerevans · 1 year
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Heading into my last week of 38… feeling 28 in some ways and 58 in others. The last 10 years have been so wild when I think back. Marriage, kids, we will be moving to my 4th state soon, 3 career changes, a lot of travel, friends made all over the country, goals hit, others failed… I’ve found the older I get the more intentional as I talked about in my last post. I told Ashley on Friday, technically I’m middle aged at 38, when life expectancy is 78 for men. You always think you have time… but you don’t in all reality. I’ve come to learn most of us try to avoid suffering, we try to avoid experiences that are perceived painful or would make us uncomfortable.. but that’s where we find our freedom and fulfillment is in the suffering, in the way we show up in our hardest times, how we treat others when we have nothing, how we treat ourselves, how we set our goals, how high we aim when we feel like we have nothing left or more to give… how deep we can dig. Personally, I’m excited to spend the next 10 years, God willing embracing more suck, experience what life is offering me, now what I’m offering life.✌🏼❤️ _______________________________________ @tyzerevans #suffering #meaning #39 #growth #growthmindset #sufferbetter #fulfillment #selfdevelopment (at Houston, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp_ok0DMboK/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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