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thebibliosphere · 2 months

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Ma'am/Sir/Other

So much of your blog is "Yaya another thing in my body broke (kill me)"

I'm not judging at all, cause I'm also dealing with that somewhat but,

In the most polite manner possible;

How the fuck do you manage to function without killing everyone around you in a bodily pain induced rage.

Body hurts too much.

But in all seriousness, therapy and a whole lot of radical acceptance.

I don't approve or like what’s happening to me, but realistically, there is no way to avoid it, so I either have to accept it and make changes to my life or reject it and increase my suffering.

It might take me a while to process this change and there might be a few screaming breakdowns in the interim (”it's not fair, it's not fair, it's not fair!”) but after a long time of doing this type of therapy, I’ve gotten good at holding my own hand and holding myself through the despair.

It’s a bit like being my own gentle parent. Like “hey bud, I know this sucks and you’re feeling a lot of big emotions right now. And I’m not asking you to stop feeling them, but I do need you to eat and drink before you get sick, okay? Okay, you’ve had some water, do you want to try for a shower? No? Okay, let’s go back to bed for a bit. We’ll try later... Cry it out if you need to. I’ve got you.”

Probably sounds bonkers to some people but it's the only reason I’m still alive.

My support network is wonderful and they do so much to keep me going, but it wasn't until I allowed myself to feel my emotions and self soothe through them that things got better.

I can’t change what has been done to me. I can’t change the dynamic nature of my disabilities or the fact that parts of my body will continue to break down. But I can accept myself and say, this is the way things are: react accordingly for our continued survival.

Radical acceptance isn’t about approval or giving up. It's a stress tolerance skill that lets you look at some of the worst parts of your life and go “fuck this sucks. Okay, how do I make this suck less?” and then following through on it.

It's a skill that takes a long time to build. But it's well worth investing in.

#chronic health tag #mental health #radical acceptance

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compassionatereminders · 2 years

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I see a lot of positivity posts saying things like "you're not less intelligent/capable/productive if you struggle with xyz" and they're often right! But some people genuinely ARE less intelligent. Some people ARE less capable. Some people ARE less productive. And we don't have to be considered intelligent or productive or capable to be worthy, valuable, good people!

#kat gets serious #disability #positivity #self acceptance #radical acceptance

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thepeacefulgarden · 4 months

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#new year #new year's resolutions #perfectionism #self compassion #doing your best #fuck diet culture #acceptance #you matter #radical acceptance #in the present #here and now

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aborderlineblog · 4 months

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Today I accepted something small that was upsetting me and I could not change. I accepted it several times and noticed my irritation decrease each time I did it.

I said to myself, “I understand I cannot change this, I accept the fact that this is the way it is. I allow myself to have this feeling of irritation.”

I feel better now and I’m glad I did this exercise.

#actually bpd #mental health #recovery #borderline personality disorder #mental illness #positivity #radical acceptance #distress tolerance

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queerism1969 · 1 year

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#radical inclusivity #radical self love #radical acceptance #radical queer #activists #activist #protest #fuckthepolice #riot #activism #anarchy #anti capitalism #social justice #leftism #lgbtq community #queer community #communism #communist #socialism

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akindplace · 2 years

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I hope you find peace of mind when making decisions, knowing that you did what you could. I hope you rest tonight. I hope you wake up with less pain tomorrow, with less fatigue. I hope you feel loved and that something comforting happens to you soon. I hope you know that even if you can't do everything like you wished you could, you still can do some things to soothe your own pain, to achieve some of your dreams, to recover a little. Your efforts should be rewarded, and if the world fails to recognize your worth, please don't forget to recognize it for yourself, to be grateful that you are still trying, still alive, still managing. Every little thing you do matters because you are still here, and that in itself is a victory. I hope you feel calm enough tonight to take a long nap and get plenty of rest, confident that you did what you had to so you could survive the day. Now, please, allow yourself to rest. You don't have to earn it, you just deserve it. Thank you for making it through today, celebrate it by letting yourself rest.

🐼🌱💤🐼🌱💤🐼🌱💤🐼🌱💤🐼🌱💤🐼🌱💤

#rest #recovery #self esteem #self-acceptance #self worth #radical acceptance #positivity #reassurance #motivation #original writing #healing

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the-visionary-collective · 18 days

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“Youre feeding into their delusions” is an abelist ass sentance

So fucking what if im allowing them to believe what they believe, having delusions doesnt make you an inherently bad person, it makes you a very interesting person in my mind.

like fuck yes, you go with your funky lil delusions, if your not hurting anybody with them whats the harm in being ‘delusional’?

Lets stop using the words like delusional as an insult, hell, lets stop using any word as an insult all together, why do we use our biggest tool as humans, language, to spread hate towards innocent people?

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callmethehunter · 8 months

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Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns...We may want to love other people without holding back, to feel authentic, to breathe in the beauty around us, to dance and sing. Yet each day we listen to inner voices that keep our life small.

Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

#she’s amazing #Tara Brach #radical acceptance #quote

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moonlit-positivity · 2 months

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Feeling suicidal?

Small things that can help:

Make your space safe. Remove any dangerous items & ask someone safe to hold ur meds etc.

Soothing soundscapes like rainforest, beach ambiance, etc. Even calming screensavers on YouTube like bubble aquariums and rainy moods, etc.

Vent, talk it out, cry it out, sleep it out

Angry yelling, into a pillow if you're concerned about noise

Allow yourself to feel bad. Nothing good comes from keeping it bottled up inside.

Music, art, dance, hobbies, distract with coping skills that engage ur body too

Soft blankets, teddy bears, comfort items

Allow your body to express it's pain. Cry, shake, shake ur shoulders, flail your arms, punch the air, stomp ur legs, scrunch up ur face in pain. It is okay to move! It is okay to make noise! It is okay to stomp around and pretend to be in a tantrum! This actually helps your body release pent up emotions! If ur worried about looking silly then find a private space to try some of these out.

Allow yourself to be destructive in other ways, like ripping up some old clothes or tearing pages out of a magazine

Normalize your feelings. You're not a bad person, but if you feel like you are then that's okay too.

Go outside, or look out the window

Remember that all emotions pass. This moment feels so big, and that's okay. It's gonna pass.

Simulate touch to your nervous system. Butterfly hugs (place a hand over your heart and lightly tap), self hugs, weighted blankets, hold comfort items to your chest. Something to signal to ur body that ur safe.

Leave sticky notes of encouragement around ur house. Ur favorite affirmations, words you really wish someone would say to you, and maybe some reminders that you are safe & strong & capable & you're gonna be okay

Moodboards, vent art, visualize and express your pain (can be gory & explicit. It's your pain, express it however you need to)

Think of yourself as being sick with a cold. You need a blanket and a bowl of chicken noodle soup. What kinds of things can help soothe you while you're feeling this way?

Big things that can help:

Make space for what you're going through

Learn how to say "no" to other people's bullshit more often

Talk about the bullshit that's dragging you down more often

Learn how to notice things that make you explode inside

Make the effort to commit to a hard change even if it's gonna be hard & ruffle some feathers

Even if those feathers "support you", even if you love them, even if they're your family or a close friend, if they're causing you more harm than good then it's time to let em go

Accept your current position. This means to stop denying & pretending that you're not feeling pain. There is no need for you to keep "sucking it up" until you're fucking dead. Accept that this is where you are so you can start to move towards a safer space.

Adapt a policy of genuine honesty with yourself and everyone else around you

Make an effort to complain a lot more than you do now, preferably in safer spaces that can support & hold space for you. That's actually gonna help you figure it out for yourself.

Be more selective with who gets access to your time and energy

Cut the dead weight & loose ends

Allow yourself to grieve and mourn a helluva lot more than you do now

Allow yourself to express your anger and disappointment at the world & the bullshit you've had to endure

Find ways to give back to yourself

Find ways to restore your faith in yourself & in humanity

Cultivate yourself a safe space

Prioritize safety, healthy communication, mutual respect, consent, boundaries, and self compassion

Dig in deeper with yourself, your thoughts, feelings, & emotions and start validating & finding ways to be more tolerable of yourself

Learn how to take a break when you need it

Find ways and inspiration to keep you going through the darkest moments

You are worth the effort. You are worth the effort to prioritize yourself, you are worth the effort to prioritize your health, stability, & peace of mind. Things aren't gonna change overnight, and these feelings of hopelessness may be too largely overwhelming to move by yourself. You've gotta start somewhere though. Baby steps. One foot in front of the other. You will get there.

Hope this helps 🌸

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selflovingclamshell · 2 months

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#this is the energy im looking for #radical acceptance #radical self love #love her #aphrodite worship #aphrodite deity #aphrodite #aphrodite devotion #aphrodite devotee #self love or else

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icannotgetoverbirds · 2 years

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Fat people deserve better.

We are not repulsive. We are not vile. We are not appalling.

We are people.

If my existence "promotes obesity"? Good!

You want to know why?

I am not promoting the idea that someone should become obese. I am not going to attempt to police someone else's body and lifestyle like sizeist people do.

I am promoting the idea that people of all sizes are deserving of the bare minimum of basic human respect.

This should not be a radical idea. This should not be something we have to fight about.

99% of the time? Being fat is not a choice. And you know what? Even if it was - even if I was shoving big macs into my greasy fucking maw every 2 hours?

I would still be deserving of basic decency.

I would still be deserving of proper medical care that takes into account things other than my size and diet.

I would still be deserving of comfort, of clothing that fits.

You want to know the worst part of all of this?

Fat kids deserve better, and all too often, they don't get it.

Fat kids deserve to be able to be active without being mocked for the way their body moves.

Fat kids deserve to be seen as children rather than medical problems that need solving.

Fat kids deserve clothing that fits them and makes them feel good about themselves.

Fat kids deserve to eat, and to eat good food.

Fat kids deserve to eat cake at birthday parties like everyone else.

Fat kids deserve to go trick-or-treating like all the other kids.

Fat kids deserve love. Fat kids deserve respect.

Fat kids deserve a proper childhood without having to pay a toll of trying to change their bodies.

Fat kids deserve acceptance for their bodies as they are and as they will be - not pleasantries about how they'll grow up to be skinny, so they don't need to learn to love themselves before then.

Fat people deserve better.

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yourhealingjournal · 9 months

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like sometimes it's just it is what it is. it's not the most hopeful happy ending that most people would dream of, but i gotta accept that yeah maybe i'll struggle with this for the rest of my life, so i'll focus on doing something that makes me happy then. sometimes grief cannot be healed. sometimes things cannot be fixed. i'll carry this weight for a long time. i may never be able to put it down so i might as well make peace with it.

#re last post #radical acceptance #alexa insert that “is this x”? butterfly meme #idk i'll change tunes in the morning probably #fickle as it is but i just yeah this is where i'm at #this is what recovery looks like #might delete #rose.txt

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compassionatereminders · 2 years

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When a disabled person tells you they can't do something, don't disagree. Don't argue. Don't say "of course you can!" or "just try!" or "don't be negative!" or "don't give up in advance!" We know our limits better than you do, so just listen and adjust the plans accordingly.

#kat gets serious #disability #self acceptance #radical acceptance

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borderlinereminders · 1 year

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Radical Acceptance is basically about accepting our feelings, without pushing them down, even the negative ones.

It means accepting reality and feelings for what they are, though it doesn't mean you don't want to change them.

Here's an example (This is a "small" situation because I think this is best started with a more manageable circumstance first.):

Step 1 - Think of a situation that you have feelings about. (Note that I don't recommend trying this with traumatic events to start which is why I've used the example below.)

Example: Yesterday I embarrassed myself in front of the cashier at the store when she said "Here's your receipt" and I said "thanks, you too!" This has heightened my anxiety about future situations where I need to talk to a stranger.

Step 2 - What caused the event? Stick to facts and don't make judgements about something you've done.

Example: I was distracted by feeling overwhelmed and misunderstood what she was saying.

Step 3 - Accepting the feelings. What emotions do you feel when you think back on this event? Try and be open about this and note any physical changes you might feel like your heart beat increasing.

Example: I feel embarrassed when I think back on it and it makes my hands a little sweaty.

Step 4 - The plan. This is where you come up with a plan on how to handle the situation and/or its effects. If you are not significantly affected by the situation, the acceptance steps may be enough. The DBT skill "Wise Mind" might be a good skill to use when coming up with a plan

Example: I can use rational thoughts to help me navigate this. Realistically, she probably talks to dozens of people a day. She also unfortunately probably deals with a lot of rude people that are more likely to stay on her mind rather than my little mix up with words. If anything, maybe it was refreshing for her because I was polite and chipper with her and maybe she felt the positive effects of that mood I was trying to convey.

Here are some coping thoughts that may help:

I do not have control of the past, only this current moment.

Ignoring my emotions only allows them to fester and continue to bother me.

This is uncomfortable, but I am going to get through this.

#radical acceptance #dbt

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queerism1969 · 1 year

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thepeacefulgarden · 1 year

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#values #self discovery #radical acceptance #relationships #relationship escalator #childfree #religious trauma #people pleasing #codependency #boundaries #purity culture #generational trauma #tradition

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