i think about this post like. at least once a day

you see whenever i dont understand someone's sexuality or gender or pronouns or whatever i go "ohwell this has nothing to do w me!" and move on w my day

Saw this post by @doppelnatur how dandelions are pretty good trans symbols and got inspired! Happy pride everyone 🏳️‍⚧️

my pronouns are whatever will get me out of this situation

Taylor Tomlinson: Have It All (2024)

i don't know who needs to hear this but if you're having that internal debate of "passing vs looking hot": pick hot. "oh but the cisgenders" don't care. pick hot. "oh but im supposed to-" being trans is about being whoever the fuck you want to. put the shit you were told to rest. pick hot. embrace it. why are you worrying ab people that think a cis man wearing eyeliner is groundbreaking.

more queer media aimed at young teenagers not just so the new wave of young queer kids have positive, joyful, proud representation, but also for those of us who grew up without it. who had to suppress it and ignore and make it palatable because the media was cold and uncaring. who had to settle for sexualization and fetishization and closeting and death. more positive queer media aimed at young teenagers so they can grow with it and so we can heal the inner thirteen year old who was cringey and awkward and queer and just wanted to be loved so, so badly

Nonbinary Angry Bird just dropped. If that's anything.

Swear your oath, Moiraine Sedai.

Rafe Judkins on 1x06: The goal was, in that scene at least, to see something akin to a marriage bond between these two women, a bond of trust in a world where you can’t trust anyone. — for Empire Magazine’s Spoiler Special Film Podcast

Jewish queers? Top tier. That’s all.

“sam and frodo aren’t gay you just don’t know how friendships work” no, YOU don’t know how queer interpretations of fiction work. i can think they’re friends and still think they’re gay for each other. the whole idea that a relationship is *either* romantic or platonic and not allowed to be both is a heteronormative concept anyway. part of being queer is breaking down easily demarcated boxes assigned to attraction and intimacy. if you refuse to see queer romance because “theyre just friends” youre a loser. also those hobbits are fucking

jesus, it's such a beautiful thing to be butch. to be queer.

Yay asexuality everyone cheer for asexuality

Germany: makes it easier for trans*, inter*, and nonbinary people to change their name/gender

People online, immediately:

"we are doomed" bc I guess this guy's existence depends on my given name

"that's it for Germany" / "it's over for Germany" bc in fact the whole country is dangling on a thread formed by its people's agab

my personal favourite "and thus women have been officially abolished" ah yes the law does indeed *squints at writing* prohibit the existence of women

I hate using the language of "canceled/canceling" because it feels delegitimizing but this thing with John Mulaney and Dave Chappelle is a situation where canceling can be something positive and meaningful. On the one hand, people have overblown canceling as this rabid force attacking everyone and everything. On the other, it's become a glib "oh no, don't let the libs cancel you" joke for ultimately pretty harmless shit. But this is someone immensely popular with a platform and a large audience inviting an infamously transphobic comedian to deliver a surprise transphobic, homophobic, and weirdly ableist opening on their tour and then calling that person their best friend.

The first tweet hits particularly hard because it's a reminder that being the butt of a joke that 12,000 people laugh at isn't very far from being the victim of a hate crime. It's not just offensive, it's fucking dangerous. It's demonstrably unsafe.

Transphobia isn't "brave" or "unsanitized comedy", it's a crucial tool for maintaining the status quo of interpersonal and legislative violence.

So yeah, cancel John Mulaney. Hold public figures accountable for targeting us, over and over again.

i do think what ever is going on with my chemical romance and sexuality + gender is more complicated than "these people are straight" or "these people are queer". they ~came out~ as straight a few times. they're gen x. the 90s - 00s were TERRIBLE to nonconforming people. theyre obviously into women. most of their Statements were pre 2016 and now their support is lowkey.

im always reminded of the kurt cobain 1992 advocate quote: “If I wouldn't have found Courtney, I probably would have carried on with a bisexual lifestyle.” of the billie joe armstrong 2010 out mag quote: "But I'd never say that I'm not [bisexual]. I dont really classify myself as anything. And when it comes to sex, there are parts of me that are very shy and conservative. I want to respect my wife." of this entire pete wentz 2008 out article, which ends with the writer's conviction: "So maybe its time for a little fuck-you of our own, at least to the idea that a guy cant be a good queer role model unless he actually has sex with men." of the grant morrison 2022 rolling stone quote: "The 'they' thing was kind of given to me, and I’ve accepted it as a badge of honor."

this was the gen x / 90s - 00s understanding of queerness. this is why i dont trust labels -- they can mean anything. i trust expression and i trust action.