the point of my masculinity and male positivity posts are to underline that masculinity and manhood are seen as a threat or in direct opposition to queerness, and that often times in order to be seen as queer you have to be partially or wholly feminine or gender neutral, or express your manhood in a feminine or gender neutral way in order to no longer be threatening, invasive, or a problem.

it is very difficult to exist in queer spaces as a hyper masculine person & a man. you're made to feel like you need to walk a tight rope feeling like you're inherently out of place, as if you existing and being masculine or a man in queer spaces makes others uncomfortable inherently.. just know that when i make positivity posts it is to remind us all that masculinity/manhood and queerness are not opposites and that you do not have to be a feminine man or masc person to be viewed/seen/heard as queer.

chasing men, masculine people, and masculinity out of queer spaces isn't helping anyone currently and won't help anyone down the line. please accept masc enbies, butches, bears, and masculine trans men with the same kindness, love, and passion that you do neutral and feminine people. that's the point when i make these kinds of posts. thank u

There aren't enough unapologetic men likers in the masc queer community.

"Unfortunately I am gay."

"The worst thing in the world is to have a crush on a guy."

"being bi is liking all women and one man."

And so on and so forth. Y'all raise your flags so high in the air but can't even say one good thing about men without turning it into a backhanded compliment.

The radfems have rotted y'all's hearts and minds and it's frankly embarrassing.

One day people will all come to the conclusion that reducing manhood to "evil, bad" and indirectly suggesting that "all men should die" leads to people staying in the closet far longer than they should.

And maybe one day they'll apologize for forcing trans men and other queer men to stay in the closet (which unfortunately I highly doubt), but we got a lot of redfem (alternative spelling) shit to wade through and toss out before we ever get there and it'll be a while before it spreads to the rest of society.

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Trans women: "It hurts when people misgender me and refuse to acknowledge my womanhood." Queer men: "It hurts when people gender me woman. I'm trans."

Submitted by @snow4berry

i think being hyperandrogen intersex has made my experience of antitransmasculinity just... that much deeper, that much more lonely. before i even knew i was trans, i would stare into the mirror and pick my face and body apart. why don't i look like the other girls? what's wrong with me? why do i look so wrong in a dress? why do i feel like i take up too much space? will anyone ever love me?

i was punished for my masculinity and androgyny before i even had the chance to (voluntarily) express it. it stung even more, as i've always had an affinity to traditionally feminine things. where i once found joy and bliss in dressing up and posing for the camera, i found myself hiding my body in hoodies and leggings. if anyone pointed a camera at me, i would collapse to the floor and start having a panic attack.

now, as i've grown older, i've found safety in masculinity and androgyny. people don't find it quite as strange, as if my body/facial hair, broad shoulders, stocky build, and androgynous face make it make sense - femininity is obviously off limits for someone like me, yet it's still expected of me. getting "masculinizing" gender affirming care terrifies me. i'd be casting off the last of what makes me desirable, pretty, and unassuming. but the little girl inside me wants to wear dresses, makeup, jewelry - just this time, as a man.

but men aren't supposed to be pretty - least of all fat, hairy, disabled men. so i'm caught. i can neglect myself, out of fear of being seen as even more disgusting and off putting, just so i can cling to the few expressions of femininity i can display... or, i can be myself, and open myself up to the very hurt i've been trying to avoid all these years. but then, i can look my true self in the mirror, and finally say: you're not like other girls (and that's okay). nothing's wrong with you. you still look beautiful in a dress. you don't take up any space that isn't already yours. and you are already very, very loved.

and one day, i will. because that's what we deserve to hear - trans people, intersex people, people who are both. we deserve to do whatever we need to be our most authentic selves. all this judgement, fear mongering, it's all made up - to hurt us. and that's awful. that's scary, and i hope someday, we live in a world where we don't have to be afraid anymore. and part of me - part of you - knows, one day, we will.

Vibes on vibes 😍🥰❤️

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Dude, you have got to be seriously fucking dense to think Interview With The Vampire wasn't always gay as fuck. It's literally about two dudes that love sucking on body parts living alone and adopting a kid together. That is not a subtle metaphor.

I mean this in a very queer and feminist way when I say I love men. I love men who aren't afraid to define who they are for themselves, outside of gender norms. I love men who stand up for others who want to do the same. I love men who are secure in their masculinity. I love men who are committed to dealing with their emotions in a healthy manner. I love men of all shapes and sizes. Men are great.

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here's to trans men with anger issues. here's to trans men who are loud or raise their voices without realizing, neurodivergent or otherwise. here's to trans men who get irritable or frustrated or impatient easily due to trauma, neurodivergence, mental illness, pain, or other disabilities, here's to trans men who can't take care of themselves, here's to trans men who can't stuff down their emotions, here's to trans men with violent intrusive thoughts, here's to trans men who snap without meaning to, here's to paranoid and psychotic trans men who become scared or hostile toward others without causing violence due to delusions and hallucinations, here's to trans men who struggle with homicidal ideation

here's to trans men who are bitter and angry and don't want to get better, here's to trans men who have tried to recover from trauma and have failed, here's to trans men who can't access proper mental health care because they aren't taken seriously, here's to trans men with mental health care trauma, here's to trans men who cope poorly with anger and hit inanimate objects and do "scary" things that don't actually hurt other people physically or emotionally.

here's to trans men with complicated mental health issues who need help but get insulted and called mean, rude, scary, shitty, assholes, dicks, jackasses and abusers. here's to trans men being human, too, and struggling with things just like anyone else. that doesn't make us evil, we are heavily traumatized by cisheteronormative society. here's to trans men who don't hurt other people but get told they do because people won't let men struggle with their emotions. i love you. you're loved. keep your chin up.

Two Young Men, One Embracing the Other, unknown American artist, 1870s-80s

TRANSMASC NAMES SOUND LIKE AWESOME 70'S ROCK SINGERS

FUCK THAT VICTORIAN CHILD NAME POST

TRANSMASC NAMES SOUND LIKE AWESOME 70'S ROCK SINGER NAMES

TRANSMASC NAMES ARE SO HOT IT MAKES ME WANT TO KISS THEM IMMEDIATELY

TRANSMASC PEOPLE ALWAYS CHOOSE THE MOST SWAG NAMES EVER AND THIS IS AN OBJECTIVE FACT. THIS IS NOT MY OPINION, IT'S AN OBJECTIVE FACT LIKE GRAVITY

ME, TRANSNEUTRAL REACTING TO TRANSMASC NAMES: 🤩🤩🤩🥰🥰🥰🤩🤩🤩😍😍😍😍😋😋😋😋🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘😘😘😘😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤩🤩🤩🤩

Oh, my dash...

Ethan Torchio

Gender: Male

Sexuality: Queer

DOB: 8 October 2000  

Ethnicity: White - Italian

Occupation: Musician

Note: Won Eurovision 2021 for Italy as part of Måneskin

shoutout to fat hairy dudes with large breasts. there is nothing wrong with you or your body. your body is just as natural and deserving of taking up space as anyone elses. you dont need to conform to skinny cis dyadic standards. you're allowed to exist just as you are. but if you need gender affirming care, that's okay too. just be kinder to yourself and take care, okay?