Feyre Archeron is a warrior by necessity. She fights for survival out of necessity, not because she loves it. Feyre picks up her bow and arrow because its a matter of life and death and not because she harbored dreams of conquering cities or joining armies.
Of course she put that weapon down in favor of tranquility and peace the first chance she got. All Feyre ever wanted to do was paint in peace- she says that in the first few chapters in ACOTAR. She wanted her family to be safe so she could paint without worrying about the world.
I'm so tired of people coming for her for deciding to have a family or acting like there is something disgusting and foul about wanting to be a young mother. It's not a choice you'd make for yourself- thats valid. But its so in line with Feyre's character to want that.
In the midst of a looming war, Feyre doesn't want a baby. She has to be the warrior. She changed her mind once the war was done- after she watched Rhys die and thought they all might die, too- that's not some massive betrayal or weird retcon/authorial insert. That's just...Feyre...finally having some peace and realizing it was finally safe to start building the life she had always wanted.
i honestly don’t give a flying fuck if a fetus is alive or not, if it’s a human or not, if abortion is “technically murder” or not. i don’t owe anyone else acces to or authority over MY WOMB. even to save a life. it’s the same reason you can’t force someone to donate a kidney to a person in desperate need of a transplant, because it’s your body, so it’s your choice. what will it take to get that through y’all’s thick fuckin skulls
I noped out of ever wanting to browse r/BabyBumps again when Roe v. Wade was overturned, because half of the posts on there were all of a sudden filled with these moms crying and pissing their pants over the fact that other women could now be denied the “right” to have their babies murdered. There were a lot of comments like, “I became aggressively pro-choice after becoming pregnant, because I can’t imagine forcing another woman to go through this!” Just…imagine going through pregnancy and being blessed with your baby whom you love very much only to then think, “My baby would deserve to die if he was conceived inside a woman who didn’t want him, lol.”
Hi there, I like your blog and I'd like to congratulate you on having your first child, and wishing you the best in conceiving the second! Any luck with that so far?
Thank you!
Not yet, but we might be putting ttc on pause. We keep going back and forth about it though, so I don't feel like we have made a final decision.
Dearest recently made the decision to just cut the cord and leave teaching. It was never the plan for him to teach forever, it wasn't bringing in enough money, and he's not getting any younger. So he is starting an apprenticeship as an electrician!
Our decision to ttc was made while he was still teaching and we knew that we would have good medical insurance. The electricians union has very different insurance. The first year of his apprenticeship he can't even put Lovebug and me on his plan. So we might wait for his second year of apprenticeship. But we don't even know if that insurance will cover much.
But also, I really want to give birth at a birthing center next time. I feel like I wasn't treated as a whole person, like I was rushed through everything so they could maximize their profits, in the hospital setting. The birthing center I have picked out doesn't accept insurance anyway, so why worry about insurance? Except that as my first experience showed us, even the most normal, healthy pregnancy and baby can very quickly end in a medical emergency. Lovebug required a brief NICU stay. Which would be an additional, very high cost without insurance. So maybe we should wait?
All that said, he hasn't asked me to go back on birth control, and he hasn't done the things he could do on his end to prevent a second pregnancy. I think we're both really conflicted right now. So truthfully we aren't actively ttc right now, but we aren't preventing either.
I feel like if Ciri ever got pregnant, she would have Complicated feelings about that, given all the trauma and how many people have tried to use her for that purpose.
I also feel like everyone in her life would be very supportive every step of the way whether she decided to keep it or not.
When we were kids, my brother and I would watch a lot of tv during the summer break which mom didn't like. So this one time she switched it off and told us to do something else instead. My brother went to the other room and we heard him talking to someone so I went there to check. Turned out the guy had called the police and was telling them to "arrest mom because she doesn't let us watch tv." And this is why I'm never gonna have kids.
obviously "but what if my mom had aborted me :(" types are just, like, heinous giant baby woman-haters worthy of nothing but scorn, like imagine IMAGINE having failed at human growth that profoundly, and nothing else need be said, but a specific thing about them that kills me is that i actually would not exist without the abortion my mom had before me [which would be fine. because i wouldn't be around to be mad about it!], and i know at least one person who knows that to be true of herself as well, and i would bet you that it's true of a lot of people, and of a lot of people who don't know it because of the cultural stigma & shame & taboo around talking about abortion, and i would bet twenty million dollars some of those people have grown up to be exactly this horrible type of pathetic person