The reason I say I think kink is a powerful tool of queer liberation is because queer kink is visually, philosophically, culturally, very resistant to true assimilation. The full extent of queer kink is not marketable, it is not palatable, it is inherently weird and deviant because kink intentionally engages in the unsavory, the taboo, the difficult and strange. It lays power and how it functions very bare. It subverts socially engrained power structures constantly. It plays with things that society fears. I also think kink would be sociologically considered forbidden knowledge, and this also makes its assimilation into hegemonic culture very difficult.

Kink cannot be clearly and openly advertised and marketed because of this forbidden knowledge; it's offensive to almost all cultural standards. (This is a GOOD thing.) It cannot be conveniently standardized. It is and always will be unappealing to a large portion of people, because BDSM WILL engage in play with scenarios that are genuinely and understandably upsetting. (It is very much like horror in this way.) And because of the risk involved in Hard/More Risky BDSM, I don't think it should ever become culturally normalised. It is something that requires a community that ensures participants have the proper education, guidance, good intentions and standards, and is capable of pushing out bad actors to protect people. I think safety information should be plentiful and accessible, but I don't think it should (or really could) be "normalised".

I think thats powerful! I'm so glad we have furries, pup-players, piss drinkers and adult babies to keep at least one corner of culture inpenetrable to heteronormative hegemoneity.

Sometimes you need a hard fuck and to be treated like a hole to use. Sometimes you need to passionately make love and be treated like the most important person in the universe. But either way, degradation or worship, you are still 100% deserving of respect and consideration. There is no point at which your safe word becomes invalid, regardless of the circumstances or the type of play. Anyone who says differently is an abuser.

Please, subs, I’m begging you to take the time to find a Dom/me who actually cares about your safety and well-being. It’s so worth it.

I've been totally side tracked from the oliver x felix fic I'm writing becaaaause of all the oliver x (pretty much every) Catton inspo posts. Like imagine Lord James died when Venetia and Felix where like 10-12. And most of the boyfriends that Elspeth has after that are all like boring hedge fund manager or bank wanker types in their fifties, it rarely lasts and they don't even make it through a week during the summer at Saltburn. So Felix and Venetia never bother making much of an effort.

Then during the summer after Felix's first year of Oxford Elspeth has mid thirties boytoy Oliver staying for the summer. And Felix is appalled at the idea of mother having a boyfriend that's closer to his own age (Venetia: "he's fucking not Felix Jesus he's fifteen years older than you" Felix: "shut up Vee it's still fucking weird" Venetia: "obsessed much"). And Oliver runs around topless in the burning heat while he does laps round the estate and is alway lying around sunbathing and Felix is just salivating while totally ignoring the poor boy he's brought home that summer.

And Oliver reaches out an olive branch to Felix because he's really keen that they be friends ("like you're a grown man Felix I'm not going to try and be your daddy or anything") and Felix is like "cool but also I kind of want you to be my daddy."

Then Venetia and Farleigh hook up with Oliver because they can't help but be drawn to his charm but a la the movie it doesn't go well and it's all a strategy to get to Felix.

And when Oliver finally gets Felix, fucking him through the grief of losing his mother he's so ecstatic, "i fucked where you came from, now i get to fuck you."  

I mean I sort of feel this is how older Oliver would have played his original plan from the movie.

I get so mad at people using harmless kinks that they personally don't like against others to justify harassment campaigns but I especially hate it when trans women especially trans women of colour are targeted just for speaking out about transmisogyny they experience. Like why are we pedojacketing trans women just cause we disagree with them...? people are so gross to transfems on here

can everyone go block and report flightcreep78 please

people need to get more normal about weird sex and weirder about normal sex.

God fucking dammit

the block button is so fun and sweet but i can’t lie there’s something satisfying about having no tumblr beef and unblocking everyone

I love Castlevania because its main protagonists are religious and God is really important and you're supposed to be on their side, and yet here i am, having the most sinful thoughts about the antagonists.