Passive Aggression

I loved their faces so much in this scene. 😆

Well here we are again 🤷‍♀️ It’s always such a pleasure 🤗 Remember when you tried to kill me twice 🤔 Oh how we laughed and laughed 😂 Except I wasn’t laughing 🙄 Under the circumstances I’ve been shockingly nice 🙃

I need these ripped off hard 😔

A "Malicious" Gift

When Rishe had told him with no hesitation that they were fighting, it was a bit of a shock.  He could never predict that girl.  However, he couldn’t help but admire the resolve in her eyes.  So, he agreed and left her alone.

When a knock resounded through his office, he knew it was her, but he didn’t look up from his work as Oliver opened the door and went through, closing it behind him.  Arnold looked up, staring at the door for only a moment before getting back to work.  For a moment he had thought that Rishe might come in, but no.  It was fine though, he had already resigned himself to the fact that she would come to resent him eventually.  After a few minutes Oliver came back into the room with a small basket and a far too amused grin on his face.  But Arnold ignored him and kept working.

“My Lord,” Oliver cheered, silent laughter coloring his tone, “it seems Lady Rishe has come bearing a rather malicious gift.”  Oliver carefully set the basket atop the desk before he stepped away, continuing to stare at him.  With a short sigh he looked up then glanced at the basket where a simple sandwich lay that contained a few pieces of meat, tomatoes, and lettuce.  “I am inclined to believe that the sandwich had not been tampered with despite the message, but I have not tested to be sure.”

The top bread piece was laid off to the side where he indeed noticed a small message written with some white sauce, “Your Highness, you idiot!”  Arnold stared at the message for a minute, unable to stop the grin forming on his face.

“Pfft.”  Arnold’s shoulders shook in silent mirth, eyes gleaming with intrigue.  A malicious gift indeed.

“I do hope that you won’t let Lady Rishe’s hard work go to waste, My Lord,” Oliver said with a large grin of his own, finding joy in the amusement of his master.  

“It seems a shame to ruin her art though,” he remarked casually, grin still plastered across his face.  Shaking his head, Arnold carefully laid the last piece of bread atop the sandwich, pressing the message against the lettuce as carefully as possible as to not smear it.  The only thought in his mind was simply how incredible his wife truly is.

Massive aggression 🔥🔥🔥

Adam and Ronan would be that couple who get someone else's kid the most loud, messy and annoying toys as gifts, especially if that kids dad was Declan

It's cute how you pretend to care bout problematic factives but completely ignored my headmates ask :)

What ask? Here’s the thing:

1 - right now we are about 3-4 weeks behind in asks. That means they might have sent an ask we just haven’t gotten to yet. We’re a single system with almost 2000 followers on this blog, so we receive way more asks than we can answer comfortably with a fast turnaround.

2 - Tumblr has a huge problem with eating asks on our blog. We can have asks that sit normally in our inbox for days, then inexplicably vanish suddenly. It’s a real pain to deal with, and we don’t have any control over changing this. That’s why we’ve always said that we’re quite happy with folks sending asks to double check if we’ve received a previous ask (why didn’t you just do this?)

3 - this ask is kind of mean. We’re really doing our best here and don’t appreciate folks sending passive aggressive asks our way! It only hurts us and honestly won’t benefit you or your headmates at all!

So we’re not sure at all what this is regarding, but we ask that you please try to show some kindness and patience here in the future! Thank you!

🌸 Margo and 💫 Parker

Lol Some homophobe at my college tried to be all Disney channel mean girl on my outfit today. He was like "Why are you dressed like a cottagecore vampire today?" Which was not the vibe I was going for but hey why not I wanted to look like this lmao. Then later on he was like "Oh were did you get your clothes from shien??" Then I replied that I got half of my shit from marshals and then he said "Marshals drip" the only time he complimented me on the fit I had on was when I told him the key necklace I made in like 2 seconds was handmade then he did a small clap. That shit was so embarrassing knowing how the guy would get upset about how people would make fun of his hyper feminine fits due to him being textbook levels queer. I didn't even register that he was being passive aggressive because cottage core vampire? Really? thats the insult you chose? Besides the last time I heard that "were did you get your clothes?" Line was from Idk fucking elementary School bro. Funny thing is he wasn't like this when he asked this egirl where she got her J fashion stuff from (Which was Allie express) by the way. Bro really tried to "humble me" in the most elementary school way possible. I'm sorry but people who bully others while looking like targets themselves are the weakest link especially if you're in college that is next level sad.

Passive aggressive or just neurotypical?

So often NTs come across as passive aggressive to me, because they don't say what they actually mean, and Why aren't they saying what they actually mean?*

For example, this evening I was doing laundry in the kitchen when my baby-daddy came in, asked if we were hungry, and after some discussion announced that he would make grilled cheese. I said, "OK, lemme just finish doing the laundry." He leaves, and I continue with laundry.

Fifteen-ish minutes later, I'm putting towels in the bathroom, and he comes out of his room and asks, "Any progress?"

And my poor brain! Because of course the answer to that question is "Yes." I have made progress. But then I immediately realize that that couldn't be what he's actually asking, because there's no way he thinks it's possible that I haven't made any progress.

So I start to ask, "I'm assuming you aren't actually asking if I've made any progress, so what do you mea--"

But he cuts me off with, "I'm hungry and I want to know if I'm going to be able to use the kitchen any time soon."

And again, my brain is confused, because I don't know what he means by "soon". So I tell him it'll probably be about 10 minutes.

The thing is, if he wanted to know how soon I would be done, why didn't he ask that? Is "Any progress?" NT code for "How soon will you be done?" Or maybe "Are you done yet?" Or actually "Hurry up!"? Or is this not actually normal polite NT communication but rather griping or being passive aggressive? How do you tell the difference?

I would ask him, but he has a history of getting very cranky when I "misunderstand" or ask for clarification, pointing out that the meaning would be obvious to other people, which is completely irrelevant, because he's not talking to other people, he's talking to me, so what difference does it make what other people would understand?

But yeah, I guess if I am going to ask for clarification, I would like to know what other people would understand.

(I have learned, for instance, that when he says "Watch out!" he doesn't actually mean to be on the lookout for some immediate threat, but rather, "Excuse me, I'd like to put my body in/near the spot yours is currently occupying; can you please move?" For which I say "Beep beep!" Which I think is clearer, but who knows.)

*I will never understand why NTs don't just say what they actually mean. What are they afraid of? Wouldn't it be easier for everybody if the people you were talking to knew what you actually meant and didn't have to guess? Why speak in code? /rant

I recognize that this is also to some extent a cultural thing: Some cultures consider it rude to beat around the bush, and others consider it rude to be direct. Both baby-daddy and I are effectively Jewish WASPs, so we're both a mess when it comes to that.

I'd also fall deeply in love with Stede Bonnet after this

I don't think I've read or heard many people talk about how badly passive aggressiveness can affect the person being targeted. Especially a child.

If you're neurodivergent you might also relate to the many others who struggle to process or read things like passive aggressiveness!

(I do not mean to imply that everyone who's ever been passive-aggressive at some point in their life is a bad person. We can all be prone to it. I'm just speaking from the perspective of someone who was the target of harassment for several years)

Your legs are hair af you needa shave- like that's disgusting..

Hello insecure anon of the internet!! Have you been studying magic recently? Or fortune telling? Just thought I’d ask cause your prediction was wrong <3

my actual thoughts when going out with shorts are less “goddamn it hairy legs I’m so insecure” and more “lol Chewbacca cosplay at least I’ll know if a creep is staring at me by how many people make a comment on my legs”

Whenever someone tells me what to do, I take even longer to do it!!! <3

Body hair hate is sooo 2015 I hope you grow up and come to the 2020s soon lol

The wish to avoid conflict is so strong they [Nines] create an endless labyrinth of defensive barriers that itself is an expression of aggression.

Susan Piver, The Buddhist Enneagram: Nine Paths to Warriorship

Here the funiest pirates couple : Blackbeard and The gentleman Pirate

I would like to address something. A couple days ago, I had gotten a passive-aggressive comment on my ‘Michael Myers and Jason Voorhees reacting to an autistic reader’ post, calling it ableist. They claimed that it was offensive to say autistic people needed help from others with learning coping skills. Also, they had assumed I didn’t know the difference between terminal and mental illness, that I thought autism was a mental illness. Additionally, they got upset when I kept calling the reader annoying in the Michael Myers portion of the request and told me to do more research on autism before I did anymore writing on the subject in the future.

I have a few things to say about this. Yes, I understand why they are upset and that they feel like I’m targeting disabled people. However, I’m not an ableist. I have family members who are disabled and I love them all the more the same no matter what. Next, for anyone who else is offended by it, I’m sorry. The post was never intended to be ableist. I made sure to do enough research on the subject before I even touched the request. Nevertheless, many of you, that are returners to my blog, know that I write my character requests based on how they are perceived in the movies and video games. Yes, the Michael Myers portion of the request is a little offensive because that’s how I feel he’d react to an autistic person who vocal stimulates. I write for fictional serial killers and most of them, might all of them, don’t care about others feelings. Additionally, Michael Myers and Jason Voorhees don’t even know what autism is. Michael has been locked in a mental institution for all his child and teen years and Jason drowned and came back as an adult with no real world experience. How do you expect them to know about that stuff?

Now let’s address the research portion. Like I said earlier, I, for one, did do my research and I’ve talked with someone who deals with it as well. One, it is not awful to say that autistic people need help coping. From what I’ve gotten out from my research is that many autistic people go to counseling to approve their abilities and reduce symptoms of autism. Then, I was told, from the person I talked to, is that when they have meltdowns, they go talk to someone. To add on, yes I know autism is not a mental illness, but like I said before Michael and Jason don’t know that so you can’t just assume I don’t know the difference.

Finally, let’s be nice to each other and not act out on emotion. The person who sent me the comment had added that they hoped I was autistic and that my post would be worse if I wasn’t. No, I’m not autistic and that doesn’t make my post worse. I would never hope someone was autistic because I was upset about a post. Autism doesn’t seem like a pleasant thing to have and it makes any person’s life harder to live with it. If something someone posted makes you offended, uncomfortable, or upset, please just block them. No one’s feelings will get hurt if you block them, including mine. However, what is not okay and what hurts a lot of people’s feelings is when you comment similar stuff like the person commented on my post. Many reasons why writers never wanna write for other people is because of stuff like this: they lose motivation because people keep telling them off. All they want is to share their stories with people who love the same stuff they love. Again, please be kind.