I might be too AroAce for this, but why is it that whenever I see stuff about someone cheating on their partner, fictional or otherwise, it’s always more focused on the fact they had sex with (and/or dated) someone else and not that they lied to their partner?

Like I said, I’m way too Ace to understand why sex is a big deal, but lying is bad for any sort of relationship.

You can cheat in a friendship; if your friend explicitly states they don’t want you to hang out with a certain person, and you go behind their back to hang out with that person, that’s cheating.

People don’t care about their friendships enough to see it that way, but it’s essentially the same; you’re breaking the trust in your relationship with someone by purposefully lying, manipulating and/or gaslighting them to go against an established boundary in the relationship.

friendships just don’t get the same level of respect that romantic and/or sexual relationships get, so it’s okay to “cheat” in friendships. (boundaries are also not always discussed enough in friendships, so there’s a bit more leeway in “cheating”)

The betrayal is the lies and deception, not the actual act of sleeping with someone else, but I tend to see people get way more worked up about the act and not the effort they took to do it.

Also, this is a side tangent, but why do they say anyone who cheats is a horrible person, but it’s the plot of several romances? Every Hallmark movie about the city girl with her boring boyfriend who falls in love with the hometown hunk, and kisses him at some point before breaking it off with the boyfriend, that’s cheating. But it’s ok, because it’s “true love.”

Like, if you’re not in love/attracted to your partner anymore, don’t cheat on them; maybe try and communicate with them, and if you’re no longer right for each other, break off the relationship.

But also, if you’re in an abusive relationship, and cannot safely break off the relationship, absolutely do what you need to do to stay safe, and if that includes “cheating” go ahead.

I’m not saying cheating’s ok, but I also understand certain reasons why someone might. I don’t know, I’m just saying it’s a weird double standard.

I don’t know, I think I was going somewhere with this, but now I forgot. Anyways, in conclusion, I don’t understand why people care about sex and romance, and cheating is, in my opinion, more nuanced than, I think, people give it credit.

Recently read through your Chaos Avatar Zuko AU and I willhave you know it is currently my Favorite Thing. I do have one question about it, though. I know there's Team Chaos and Zuko with (semi)coordinated masks and stuff, but what are they actually doing? The Gaang in canon forms and stays together to work towards their common goal of defeating Ozai and ending the war. Does the Zukrew have anything like that that they're working towards or trying to achieve as a group? Or are they just like a group of friends that meet up sometimes and like pranking the world into thinking that the big bad Chaos Avatar is a threat?

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Return of Tidy Marine, part 3. I blame Broseidon over at Tapas for this. I promise, C&H won't become a Warhammer comic, I just... needed to get this out of my system.

Over at Patreon, society6, and redbubble we keep failing to live up to Tidy Marine’s standards. It’s ok. So is everyone else.

My word count is all over the fucking place, my god. (Asterisk means the chapter is still in progress.) Also for the love of the gods below and above, why can't I fucking write in linear order?

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