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lunarlesbianlove · 1 year
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Thank you for the birthday gift @sins-n-bliss. You really know how to treat a lady. 🥺🥰 Ilysm, bestie. 💝😘💖
MEN DO NOT ENGAGE. I AM A DYKE THIS IS NOT FOR YOU. 🪓
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yourfavismspechomohet · 3 months
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love, there’s no such thing as a “bi lesbian.” someone can’t be bi and a lesbian. Coming from a lesbian myself it just doesn’t happen that way. Being a bisexual means that you like BOTH, being a lesbian means you ONLY like non men. It’s a mockery of real lesbians, it’s not a real sexuality.
Let’s take this apart separately, shall we?
“There’s no such thing as a Bi Lesbian”
Tell that to all the Bi Lesbians that follow me, and like my posts, and request for posts.
Tell that to the Bi Lesbians I reblog from and talk to occasionally.
Tell that to the older queers that identify as Bi Lesbians.
I guess apparently they don’t exist then. 🤷
“Someone can’t be Bi and a Lesbian”
Ah, this is a very popular one on this blog that I keep getting. I could link you to those, but I won’t. Here’s some ways you can be Bi and a Lesbian at the same time:
Biromantic Homosexuals
Homoromantic Bisexuals
Bi people who label themselves as Lesbians, to reclaim queer history. Because ALL Sapphics, regardless of if they were attracted to men or not, were referred to as Lesbians.
Bi people may also label themselves as Lesbians to reclaim being called a Lesbian by Biphobes trying to get them to pick one.
Bi people who lean more towards women, may call themselves Bi Lesbians.
Abroromantics/Abrosexuals may label themselves as Bi Lesbians because their orientation only swings back and forth between those two.
“Coming from a Lesbian myself, it just doesn’t happen that way.”
Well, for the second part, “It doesn’t happen that way”, just go back to the previous comments on “Someone can’t be Bi and a Lesbian”. It does and can happen.
Now for the first part “Coming from a Lesbian myself”. I hear this a lot. Not just from Lesbians, not just from queer people, but people of all different communities, one thing I hear all the time is “Coming from a [Blank] myself”. You need to understand that you are not the only Lesbian on earth. And Lesbians are not a hive-mind. You’re not all the same, and you’re not all going to have the same opinions. If that were the case, all Lesbians would look, talk, act the same way, and have the same views. But you don’t, because you’re not a hive-mind. Simply implying that all people of the same sexuality should have the same opinions is wrong. Believe it or not, I’ve seen all different kinds of lesbians who were Pro-Mspec Lesbian, who were Anti-Mspec Lesbian, and were neutral on Mspec Lesbians. And if all Lesbians had the same opinions, you would not be separated on these different opinions.
“Being a bisexual means that you like BOTH, being a lesbian means you ONLY like non men.”
Being Bi means that you could just about like any gender. It doesn’t just mean both, as in men and women. Bi people could definitely just be attracted to women and men, but they’re also Bi people attracted to all different kinds of genders under the Nonbinary umbrella.
As for being a Lesbian, it means that you’re attracted to women and Nonbinary people. And if we can agree on that, we also have to agree that there are other Nonbinary genders where one identifies as a woman AND a man, that you may also be attracted to. Saying that Lesbians don’t like men excludes Multigender people. Even if that’s not how you mean for it to sound, I can tell you that a lot of Multigender people feel that way.
Also, a common misconception is that Non-Men and Non-Women is okay to use for Gay and Lesbian definitions. It’s not. What you probably didn’t know, is that the terms have racist origins. Black and indigenous queer people have literally been talking about this since this definition was coined. “Non-Men” and “Non-Women” are terms that have been historically used to describe the degendering of black people.
Forcing these terms for queer definitions is Anti-Black, I could forgive you if you didn’t know that and stop using those definitions after now knowing the origins.
But if you still use these definitions even after knowing this, congratulations! You’re racist! Pretty sure there was a book about this, “Bad faith and anti-black racism” by Lewis R. Gordon.
“It’s a mockery of real lesbians, it’s not a real sexuality.”
Mspecs have just as big a part in Lesbian history as Lesbians.
All sapphics were Lesbians regardless of if they liked men.
The term “Bi Lesbian” has been around since the 70s. I’d like to see you try and tell an older queer Bi Lesbian, that they’re “mocking” Lesbians and that their sexuality isn’t real. They probably accomplished more than you have in your entire life, because you want to fight with people on queer labels that you think are and aren’t valid because apparently no queer identity is acceptable unless you agree with it.
Love, wether you like it or not, Bi Lesbians and even male Lesbians have always existed and will continue existing. And they don’t need your permission to be themselves.
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redheadbigshoes · 9 months
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Can't believe these lesbophobes keep reblogging on that post of yours making fools of themselves. 'labels dont mean anything' okay so can you call yourself black even if you're a white person? can you say you're jewish even though you only go to a christian church?
Like there's this logically false jump from gender identity to other identities that just makes me so frustrated with how they use gender identity as an example when its something completely different from community identities
You can be a boygirlqueer or an androgyne or anything, it doesnt affect anyone else its just your identity you can share it with others like men or women or other nonbinary people but it doesnt interact with other people, but when you go to a community that has something in common like, people of color are all non-white, or people of a religion all actively practice or believe in that religion or in terms of sexuality we are connected in that we are all non-men who love only non-men and the way we share in those struggles and joys and experiences forms our community, it affects other people to violate that boundary.
I just get so mad that people use gender identity as a mask to cloak their lesbophobia and other people who dont understand will just let them say this shit, ugh.
-🌻
They really don’t hear themselves… I bet they wouldn’t agree with the examples you gave because it’s obviously nonsense, it’s literally so stupid to completely ignore words meanings just because you’re childish.
Labels exist to categorize us based on shared experiences and attraction/lack off. Sapphic exists to categorize every woman/nb person attracted to women/nb people, bi exists to categorize people attracted to multiple genders, and lesbian categorizes women and nb people attracted only to women/nb people.
What’s interesting to notice about these people is that they use similar rhetoric as an argument (which always ends up sounding transphobic). “What’s the difference between a pre-T trans man and a woman” ??? They’re literally going back to using “biology” to justify their argument which is literally what transphobes do. And they cannot even try to argue how trans men can identify as lesbians without sounding extremely transphobic.
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lil-puppy-prince · 1 year
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a little about me :)
you can call me pup
they/he
I'm 19
I'm nonbinary and bisexual
I'm transmasc and mainly t4t but I'm attracted to cis men and women too
very in love with my gf!
switchy and bitchy, service top
I love to read and write so i might write here/recommend stuff sometimes:)
all posts are okay to reblog! I really appreciate it :)
this is mainly a nsfw blog but I post things I think are important/funny sometimes
tags I use: #posts that make me throb (my favs) #my sunshine (gf postings) #quik rites (my writing that isn't really fleshed out) #me talks (my rambles mostly), #pup's recs (nsfw audio recommendations) gorgeous people, #gorgeous art, #my writing (self explanatory)
Dni
you will be blocked and/or reported
minors
ableists. I'm literally chronically ill and disabled you look stupid
other gross ppl- incest, pedos, terfs, lgbtphobes, right-wing bullshit, racists
older than 27. (respect my boundaries or you'll be blocked. you probably wouldn't talk to me about sexual shit irl so don't do it online. and if you would, maybe explore why you think that's okay)
blank blogs and ageless blogs (blank ones w/ ages listed are not ok either. post something and put your age somewhere)
piss, shit, vomit (only bodily fluid I wanna see is cum)
feet
detrans
r@pe kink/hard cnc
don't call me princess, baby girl, good girl, etc. I'm not a woman don't treat me like it
ddlg, ddlb, mdlb, mdlg, etc.
anything with needles and intoxication. I'm okay with mentions of smoking (I'll probably just scroll past) but anything where someone is unable to move is a big no. with needles I'm just going to block I'm terrified of them.
Limits
please don't tag my original posts as wlw, wlm, or mlw. I write t4t (transmascs/enbies) and nblw/sapphic exclusively. tagging my posts as anything other than this makes me uncomfortable
please don't send me a dm if we haven't exchanged a few asks first
don't ask me for a romantic relationship. I'm not interested.
anatomy to use for me
NO: pussy, tits (I reblog things with this language but if you're gonna send me an ask don't use these terms)
YES: hole, clit/tdick, cock, dick, cunt, chest
more abt me under the cut :) thank you for reading!
stuff I like
royalty kink
praise!!
voice kink (vocal doms <33)
body worship
gentle dominance
bondage
size kink (I'm small so I'm easy to manhandle hehe)
femboys (especially when dominant and muscular <3)
tbh anyone muscular
big thighs <3
collars!!
spanking/thigh slapping
leather (gloves/boots)
thigh humping/grinding
hickeys!
breeding (no preg)
slight degradation
slight knifeplay
daddy/mommy TITLES (just not ddlb/mdlb)
soft cnc (heavy on the consent)
somno
some other names I like: honey, baby boy, pretty boy, little one, baby, darling, angel, sweetheart, love, slut, whore:)
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haleysapphicorner · 2 months
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Poll time
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ladytauria · 4 months
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i think i reblogged it from you but never sent you questions, so for the book rec asks: 1, 13, 23, 44, 50, 54, 79, 92, 116, 130, 131 please!! thats A Lot, so feel free to pick and choose haha
ahhh thank u bean! i love talking books uwu
coming back up after answering to edit... um. bean, i'm so sorry for my answer on the last one xD i should have picked a different book. (i ranted. a little.)
1. a book that is close to your heart
there are a few books i could name, but i'm going to do the one i thought of first.
a girl of the limberlost. i only remember reading it once, but my mother is the one who gave it to me, and told me that it was a book she loved at my age at the time. (same with the secret garden.) so i can't think of that book without thinking of her, which makes it a little bit more special to me <3
13. your favorite romance novel
immediate impulse is to say legends and lattes by travis baldree bc. it's so good. however, while there is a romance i don't know if i would count it as a romance novel.
so.
the lady's guide to celestial mechanics. historical, sapphic, featuring both women in STEM (or, yknow, historical equiv) but also an appreciation for domestic arts / crafts normally looked down on. also there's an acknowledgement that homophobia existed, but there's none on page.
the prose is also gorgeous.
i don't actually read a ton of romance novels, but i've been trying to pick up more!
23. a book that is currently on your TBR
mmm, too many
but Our Wives Under the Sea - Julia Armfield went on sale on kindle the other day so! it's mine now <3 and one i've been eying for a while. the kindle cover isn't the one i wanted, but that's okay.
44. your favourite fantasy novel
a very large chunk of what i read is fantasy. this is HARD 😂
uhhh.
the locked tomb is technically sci-fi, isn't it?
fuck.
i'm gonna go with The Last Unicorn - Peter S. Beagle bc it is the only book i purposefully own more than one copy of! would love to get my hands on the graphic novel <3
honorary mention to the Inheritence Cycle bc reading Eragon was what got me to start writing my first novel.
which absolutely wasn't just. Eragon but with griffin riders instead.
(okay, legitimately, there were differences, but there was also definitely heavy inspiration.)
50. a book that made you cry a LOT
i don't actually cry at much? the last time i remember actually crying was when i was reading an abridged version of little women and beth died xD
i'm trying to think of another book which really grabbed me emotionally recently that also isn't. already on this list. and i'm coming up empty?
54. a book with the best opening line
i don't have a good memory for opening lines ^^; however for some reason i want to say The Lightning Thief, so. that's what i'm going with.
79. a book that reminds you of your favorite song
my favorite song changes by the moment, so i don't have answer for this one ^^;
92. a book about a redeemable villain
kay, so i almost answered this question with the book i gave for the next question, but i realized i don't? read a lot of multi pov books?? or at least not that i remember being such. i did remember one but it was the second in a duology, so.
so.
anyway!
the closest i can think of atm would be Empress of Forever by Max Gladstone. (highly rec this one, though i was a little disappointed when the pairing i wanted didn't happen xD)
116. a book with multiple povs
The Stars Are Legion by Kameron Hurley.
this book.
i.
woof.
okay, so. if you are. remotely squeamish, like. at all? you might wanna give this one a pass. (def check storygraph / other places for trigger warnings. im also happy to elaborate myself, lol.) i am. very squeamish, and made it through only because the story grabbed me tight and wouldn't let go. the worldbuilding is extremely interesting. the characters are all very different and both likeable and unlikeable in a million different ways. but.
oh boy, it was a tough one.
if you're NOT squeamish, though--
it was a 4 or 5 star read for me, iirc, so, y'know. recommended. not sure i'll ever pick it up again, but like. do not regret reading.
130. a book featuring flashbacks and/or intersecting storylines
i know i've read others like this, but the book that comes to mind is--and i had to google this bc it's been so long since i read it---Thirst by Christopher Pike. It was also published under "The Last Vampire." i don't actually recommend them; i read them during my middle school vampire phase and even i remembered being a little mindboggled. mainly bc i think there was an alien abduction in... the second or third book? idk, i had an omnibus.
131. recommend any book you like!
there's only one answer i can give to this, tbh. the locked tomb series brainrot is real and deep and i am. both highly anticipating and dreading the release of alecto so.
i gotta recommend Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir.
that SAID, i am well aware that this book has a reputation on tumblr esp for being poorly summarized, as the most oft-used pitch is "lesbian necromancers in space."
this is not an inaccurate summary.
BUT.
it is also not complete.
so first, some expectations: it's sci-fi, definitely, but also there are a lot of fantasy vibes? probably because of the swords and the necromancy and the sworn knights-esque plot. uh. basically, it's sci-fi like star wars is sci-fi, but also it's. it's not star wars.
second thing: this series is unreliable narrator central. tamsyn picks the least qualified person in the group for you to follow the story with, and it works. so well. like, firstly bc ofc things get explained (some; it does drop you in and expect you to pick up a lot through context clues) but ALSO because you WILL pick up things you didn't on re-reads. i did a reread before Nona and spent half of it screaming. i'm not much of an annotator beyond highlighting some lines on kindle but i was commenting all over the place.
uh.
i still haven't talked about the plot, my bad.
Gideon the Ninth follows the titular Gideon, after her childhood nemesis and heir to the Ninth House, is invited to the First House by the God Emperor of the Nine Houses to seek quasi-immortality and join him in fighting a war as old as the Houses themselves. When they get there, though, they soon find their fellow heir-and-cavalier pairs being picked off one by one.
this book also features a lot of gay... not pining, not really, but like. Gideon likes women and her pov spends a lot of time appreciating the other women with them xD (this is also part of what makes her unreliable as a narrator. plot? what plot? gideon is here for thirsting, and a little bit of pining.)
also mild enemies to lovers vibes.
ALSO there are memes. there's a none pizza left beef joke in book 2, i'm still not over it.
does get a little squicky at times with loving descriptions of bones and viscera, though.
if i keep talking about this book i won't ever stop <3
[ book recs ask game ]
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Get to know the blog:
So apparently my horny posts are something worth following for so I guess I'll do a bio and about me thing that definitely won't turn into a random ADHD ramble about shit
About me
I'm Feral, 19 and I never learnt how to read ✌️
^^ I'm leaving this up because I think it's hilarious but I'm 20 now
Living in the UK but not white
demisexual as fuck, preference for women but honestly I'm more interested in how we vibe than any gender. I tend to identify most with lesbian/sapphic labels because I feel most comfortable in this community.
fuck knows my gender either, I mostly present femme atm but I just identify as *all* I'd say I'm more nb/w or nb/nb & t4t but just in love with queer people in general. I am a girl but I'm also a boy, I'm not cis. You aren't straight if you're attracted to me
Owned, completely and utterly in love, technically poly. I'd rather start off as friends and see how it goes (benefits available if we vibe)
-Dni and more under than the cut-
DNI:
I'm saying this now, I love y'all but minors please get off my page *respectfully*. This includes blank blogs without your age/ age range
Cis men-Age regressors-People who fetishise trans people, s*ssies and cross dressers-Gender/sexuality correction-terfs/homophobes etc-
Oh and PSA this fucking includes people who gatekeep LGBT labels, including but not limited to hating on butch lesbians who transition, nb&he/him lesbians. Just honestly if you aren't accepting of the ✨ENTIRE✨ LGBT+ community and how people choose to identify please leave. No buts no ifs no maybes
How to give attention:
Asks are completely okay, if you want to talk through anon regularly pick an emote and I'll be sure to tag it so they're easy to find. Flirt with me or ask questions, just keep it within my limits please.
Requests are also totally okay along with reblogs of any of my posts. They're always appreciated!
Unless we've interacted before please don't randomly DM me. Mutuals are obviously always welcome to chat, for non moots I prefer asks as I get a lot of anxiety
I tend to check out profiles that reblog/follow so if you want to be moots then that's the way to go
I can't believe I have to say this, but if you're only messaging me to sext or roleplay or whatever you call it you can leave. It makes me uncomfortable, and will most likely make me feel weird about talking to you again in the future. I'm happy to flirt but unless we've talked about it nothing more.
Safe words and talks about boundaries and limits are non negotiable in kink. If you're not respectful of that you're not a dom, if you don't have complete understanding of how this works and expect to engage in anything sexual with someone without doing proper preparation you're practicing unsafe and frankly dangerous kink. Kink is something serious and you need to know what you're doing
I'm demisexual, with a partner and require actual communication before I engage in anything other than flirting. If you're literally only talking to me bc I'm hot or for sex n stuff you're going to be disappointed
I also have a shit tonne of anxiety, so I will disappear if something makes me feel unsafe. If I don't reply, don't make it worse by getting upset. I'm sorry but I really just don't have the energy to deal with things, especially when we don't really vibe.
About ✨whore✨me:
I'm a sub mostly, total bottom and complete mess irl. thought I was ace until this year and basically innocent af (I mean significantly less as of v recently but still fairly shy). Also kinda a hermit so I'm very touch starved.
Short long summary of my kinks.. To be continued..
- Praise and nicknames, specifically cute ones that start with "my"
- Exhibitionism Mostly being uh, fucked in front of people and stuff
- hands and fingersJust god, everything to do with them. In my mouth? Yes, Pulling my hair? Yesss, choking me?? Yesssssssss, hurting tf out of me?? Please
- being manhandled, strength, just be stronger than me and throw me around pls&ty
- being a simp for me and letting me get away with pretty much anything?? Yes
- being controlled and posessiveness Like a lot, like probably more than a healthy amount
- being teased, constantly
- marks.. Just fucking marks feeling owned and having proof of it with collars and stuff
- and also pain, pain and more pain all the hard kinks
- voices, dirty talk, the way they beg, and moan, and call me a good girl, the way their voice drops when they tease me. Everything about voices
- corruption.. 👀 😤
- being free use, letting friends fuuck me, being a whore for everyone. Them sharing my nudes with their friends, them letting their friends fuck me? Yes please
- affectionate domination / soft doms but rough sex
- most of this is just the long way of saying I have a massive kink for my pretty ass girlfriend though.. Just everything about them.. Mostly their hands, and their voice and uh.. Yeah just them
Limits:
-degradation, any way shape or form,I'll most definitely cry. Acting like you don't like me, hurt me because you love me not because you think I'm worthless
- pet play, Ddlg and that kind of vibe aren't for me
- I don't quite know how to explain it but the strict af, black suit and tie, academy / high protocol/training style/straight people bdsm. It's just way too nonpersonal for me and not fun. I prefer messing around and stuff plus my gf looks way better in a skirt
- discipline, punishments and other things that make me think you hate me (see: I'm a big ass baby and sensitive af)
- refering to my uhh *anatomy* just uh it gives me dysphoria like a lot so please don't
- body fluid shit, incest, feet, tickling, hypnosis
- other things that I'm not perticularly comfortable talking about here, you don't need to know unless we're talking
Tags I use:
Yes I'm insanely bad at tagging things, yes I'm trying, no it's not working. If I forget to, just get mad at me in asks or something. I'm sorry ADHD just kind of does that
#feral asks - all asks that I've answered
#feral music - music recommendations because I have a god complex about music
#feral in love - direct posts about my gf/wife/partner/Dom/love of my life
#feral tmi - random personal shit about myself and figuring out my body
#feral reblogs - stuff I reblog, I have a separate account where I keep most of my reblogs but sometimes I can't help it
#needy feral - me begging for attention on Tumblr
#feral exposed - photos of me
#tw feral - depressing shit, mute the tag if you don't want to see that shit
#dark feral - hard kink shit, mute if you'd rather not see it
#feral complaints - shit that bothers me
#feral blogs - thoughts, updates and questions for you all about the blog
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emberkeelty · 2 years
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Gosh I have so many thoughts about the Sapphic Showdown discourse!
Personal bias disclaimer: I've never watched Supergirl and have zero interest in watching Supergirl. Meanwhile, Utena is one of my favorite stories ever that I consider a classic and a masterpiece. Under just about any conceivable context, if you were to ask me, "Which is better, Utena or-" I would cut you off right there and just say, "Utena." Okay? Okay!
I'm going to use this post as a jumping-off point. I'm linking instead of reblogging first of all because I don't want to make my followers have to read through OP's belligerence before getting to see whether I'm agreeing with or contesting it (I am definitely contesting it!) and second of all because I would rather if at all possible avoid dragging OP into a confrontation about this. I don't know anything about her beyond this one post that showed up on my dash via reblog. I have no reason to think she isn't a perfectly fine person overall. Also, just saying, she seems like she has good taste in anime. Anyway, that post is useful because it shows the brackets and also sums up what seems to be the central point of The Discourse:
this is just Exhibit A of Fandom People™ caring more about “shippable” characters and having “ship moments” than they do actual canon queer rep
First of all, I don't think the poll results actually mean much. For one thing, we know that paid bots get involved with polls like these. For another... as far as media that centers female characters goes, Supergirl is about as mainstream as it gets. It's live action, English language, and based on a corporate IP. Superheroes are currently fashionable and no longer even a little bit nerdy. Superman is the most timeless and well-known superhero of all, and most people have probably at least heard of his constellation of spinoffs. Supergirl winning a popularity contest over anything even a little bit more niche is just regression to the mean. All it says about the people voting for it is that they have basic taste, and I mean that in the least insulting way possible.
Second of all, let's say this is a demonstration of what the above sentence claims it demonstrates. In the context of a twitter popularity poll with zero real-world consequences... why would that even matter? What tangible harm is being done by LGBT people - and in the context of "Fandom People" who care either about f/f shippiness or actual canon queer rep (or both!), we are talking mainly about fans who are LGBT, many of them specifically queer women - getting more personal enjoyment out of something basic and mainstream than out of something politically important? How much impact is that really going to have on what media gets made going forward, let alone how LGBT women are treated more broadly on a societal level?
I would say it's actually the opposite of progressive to insist that the mere existence of LGBT people is so inherently political that we shouldn't ever get to relax and do normal, harmless human things like openly enjoying mediocre television, but must instead dedicate every moment of our lives to performing a political identity. The only actual utility value of a random LGBT person's personal enjoyment of media is the enjoyment itself. In this case, "let people enjoy things" isn't a cop-out, but a coherent ethical stance with the aim of maximizing utility.
I do think that some people who went for Supergirl over any of the other options might personally benefit on some level from broadening their horizons, and that personal benefit might in turn have some infinitesimal knock-on benefit to the broader community. But framing this as purely a matter of "supporting" the media with the "best" "representation" as part of a political performance is actively counterproductive to that goal, because it erases the possibility of joy in engaging with queer media and turns it into a chore - "eating your vegetables," as one particularly obnoxious old-school fangirl said in her infamous and widely mocked essay on engaging more with marginalized characters as an unpleasant but morally improving project rather than a labor of love.
Now, all of the above is pretty similar to stuff I've seen said before in the context of discussions about m/m fandom, which I have zero stake or interest in. What makes the Sapphic Showdown so interesting to me is that I have more specific in-depth knowledge and opinions on a lot of the media being discussed, so I'm going to get into some of my thoughts about that.
One thing that immediately jumped out to me was Alphyne from Undertale being held up as a canon ship that everyone should in every possible context care about more than whatever is going on in Supergirl simply because it is canon and therefore Actual Rep. Undertale is one of my all-time favorite games, and it means a lot to me that it contains a canon f/f couple, and I myself love Undyne and Alphys and have had way more intense feelings about them both as individual characters and as a couple than I will ever have about anything or anyone in Supergirl. BUT. It is worth mentioning that they are secondary characters whose relationship gets relatively little onscreen development. I think it is pretty understandable for audiences to get more emotionally invested in relationships that get more narrative focus, whether those relationships are actually canon queer or just shippy! Catradora is so compelling not just because they declare their love for each other and kiss onscreen, but because they do that as part of the climactic scene that the whole story was building up to. Catra's and Adora's love for each other and the thorny, difficult road they took to realizing it is the very heart of the show! And that "central relationship" element can be there even when the relationship in question isn't necessarily canonically romantic. I don't know how much that's the case with Kara/Lena, but one example I can point to is NagiHono from Futari Wa Precure. The show wastes an unfortunate amount of time establishing and maintaining plausible deniability about Nagisa's sexuality, but her het crush is only ever hovering on the margins of the story, where her ambiguously gay bond with Honoka is the very heart of the show. The two girls stand together against the end of the world, repeatedly putting their lives on the line for each other. To me as a lesbian watching this, it means something when Nagisa lies in bed with Honoka and says, "I'll be by your side forever, if you'll have me, even though I'm not good at domestic stuff," and when she calls her "my most important person," and the show's refusal to commit to this being what it looks like can't completely erase that meaning.
Another thing that needs to be said is that it's kind of hypocritical to be having this discussion over Utena in particular, given that the canonicity of Utena/Anthy in the tv series is... uh... complicated. Ikuhara was basically always treating it as romantic, but Saito was vehemently against that! In terms of what made it to the screen, the story only comes together thematically if you accept that they are in love, but it is possible to refuse to accept that without resorting to blatantly countertextual readings. Utena denies that her feelings for Anthy are in any way sexual as late as the third-to-last episode. It's clear that something big changes in the last two episodes when she regains her repressed memories and rejects her false prince, but she never has the chance to articulate that as explicitly as she articulated her earlier denials. And you know, I think any framework under which the Utena tv series could be treated as a lesser work than every and any show where two women explicitly declare their romantic love and kiss each other is not really a framework worth engaging with.
And really, the whole idea that the entire point of media as it relates to LGBT people is to have Good Representation is just a set-up for tearing down anything less than perfect - which is ultimately everything, because it's impossible for any one show to be all things to all people. We've seen this with people denigrating everything that came before She-Ra when Catradora kissed, and again with people denigrating She-Ra when Lumity got together mid-series rather than right at the end. Other people have explained how this is a really bad state of affairs for anyone who cares either about getting to see fictional LGBTQ characters on screen or about the well-being of the real-world LGBTQ creators who put them there, and I'm running out of steam, so I'll just point out that saying people's most important criteria in what ships they like should always be political purity feeds into it, and that's not good!
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My prejudgement of the engage cast: Brodia edition
This is as of before I venture into chapter 5, so obviously I don’t actually know ANYTHING about anyone except what I’ve accidentally absorbed through fanart. This is all purely based on their appearance and the vibe. I’ll reblog with what I actually think of them after I’ve finished the game, or have sufficient enough exposure to them \\\٩(๑`^´๑)۶////
(These are still really harsh, no i do not mellow with time and yes I’m an excellent person with first acquaintances how could you guess??)
Alcryst
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Listens to my chemical romance
has Mysophobia
Kevin the teenager but make it anime
Haha Emo
An eMpAth
pathetic little meow meow who’s had a bucket of water dumped on him periodically
I don’t know if I’ve said it before but THE most morally unsound of the entire game but in a nice way (chaotic good style)
war crime is okay if you win the war then threaten anyone who brings it up
Very emotional but doesn’t show it on the outside, probably depressed but that’s his default setting
Depending on your choices in game, he’ll either snap and become a killing machine and like it or turn into a certified Alear malewife
practices his eyeliner while crying in a locked bathroom (bonus points if it’s his parents bathroom)
Has nice parents but acts out like he has a rocky home life
has a brother he doesn’t like
Comes across like he thinks he’s the best but actually he’s insecure
doesnt actually want to be royalty
Must be under surveillance 24/7
Smokes weed
Lapis
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Tastes like yoghurt if you licked her
very good at handicrafts
has the biggest sapphic ship with Citrinne (now I’ve said that they’re automatically gonna be related)
I have a massive crush on her and Citrinne, we could be poly 😳❤️
why are her eyebrows above her fringe???
has magic eyebrows
secretly likes to have expensive, nice things but doesn’t want anyone to know because she feels bad about it
judges you but then says she would never
has a massive appetite and will eat anyone wait I mean anything
would collect crystals in a modern au
doesn’t like children but looks like she should
Citrinne
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Knows what she likes and likes what she knows
Is she gay or European? A genius would say why not both
Snobby and upper class but would snap your neck if you told her that
Same vibe as Dorothea
social justice warrior
sarcastic in an intimidating way
wine aunt
Also likes expensive things but is very money conscious
her time is precious but if you were ill she would spend all day and then some caring for you
thinks giving Starbucks gift cards for birthdays makes her a god
Money launders
Diamant
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Constantly comes off angry for no reason but only because he isn’t very articulate
Believes in the power of camaraderie and friendship more than the care bears
Seems strict and unfeeling but in reality is SO the opposite
Diluc got a hair cut
a gym bro but too introverted to fully display his bro power
the most romantic man you’ve ever seen <3
takes everything very seriously and struggles to relax
Can do eye liner better than you GUARANTEED
Vegetarian
Doesnt care about his appearance
Sexy but he doesn’t know it 😩
easily embarrassed about literally anything
Amber
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I’ve never even heard him speak but I already want him to stop talking
literally just shut up
acts like he’s THE man but is actually just a cringefail
wanna be Ferdinand von Aegir
Will mansplain, malewife, manwhore and manslaughter all at the same time
Pretentious bitch
cant do 2 piece puzzles
Jade
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Also a lesbian
can crush a melon with her thighs
Brodia is the nation of gay women and I’m here for it
Married to her axe because that’s definitely what she wields
the only aspect of her personality is that she likes weapons
Oh and women
Extremely and unapologetically blunt
A vigilante and her opinion is always correct
that’s all I’ve got to say
I take back what I said about Solm potentially being my favourite Nation, these guys are way swaggier (−_−;)
Previous posts in the series-
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I was just confused! it’s okay to not understand or know ! it happens. I just men give me the ick and when I follow a lesbian and see a man’s dick popping up saying that you reblogged it I get so so icky because idk. but it is perfectly okay to not know! you’re doing great
oh i completely get that! but believe me that 99% percent of times when i reblog a post with a cock or man, its usually just for the act in the gif, but i imagine it as a trans girl or a strap:) only if there are two women+one man is where i dont mind the man in it lmao. (also theres so little of sapphic kinky gifs, it’s depressing. someone make it right)
also men giving u an ick is so real, i cannot even look at them irl😭 have 0 tolerance for them.
im so sorry for making u feel uncomfy:/ i can start tagging the gifs somehow but i dont think it would be any help on tumblr.
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I posted 1,598 times in 2022
310 posts created (19%)
1,288 posts reblogged (81%)
Blogs I reblogged the most:
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I tagged 1,592 of my posts in 2022
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#fanart - 294 posts
#comics - 218 posts
#interview with the vampire - 171 posts
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Longest Tag: 138 characters
#literally alternating between notorious sorcerer by davinia evans and stars in my pocket like grains of sand by samuel r delaney right now
My Top Posts in 2022:
#5
i think this year’s meta gala theme should be goncharov (1973) dir. martin scorsese
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as someone who is watching interview with the vampire having never read the book or watched the movie it is my god-given right to come up with really silly theories that i will wholeheartedly believed until the show proves me wrong. anyway my most recent one is that lestat can turn into a bat but he hasn’t mentioned this to louis because he thinks it’s embarrassing 
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Louis: I'm never gonna have kids :(
Lestat: babytrap.exe has been activated
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I’m going to classicist hell but it’s okay
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My #1 post of 2022
The other day one of my friends was like “Where on earth do you hear about all the books you read?” and I’m honestly trying to think about that because I don’t really pay attention to Booktube, Booktok, Book Twitter, or Bookstagram, only occasionally dip back into book blogging, and mostly use Goodreads as a place to track books I want to read or have read rather than searching for recommendations, so I’m trying to make a list of the places I hear about books from besides a few trusted social media mutuals.
Tor.com is one major place I hear about science fiction and fantasy books–they do deal announcements, cover reveals, lists of new releases, and reviews, as well as columns reviewing backlist work. I really like “The Book Queered Me,” for instance, which is people looking back on books that were important to their understand of identity. 
The Book Smugglers isn’t really that active anymore, but they reviewed science fiction and fantasy media, as well as publishing essays and short fiction and I read them religiously for a long time.
Book Riot I read occasionally and they publish bookish news and essays. I forgot I was subscribed to their LGBTQ+ book newsletter for a while and went through the emails I’d been sent earlier this week and that particular newsletter is nice because it highlights a couple books and does a round-up of recent news about queer books.
Austraddle’s book section, especially the Rainbow Reading column, does reviews, interviews, and news related to queer books, mostly queer women. It’s helpful for non-SFF stuff because I’m usually very up-to-date on news in the science fiction and fantasy world but they cover poetry, nonfiction, romance, etc.
We Need Diverse Books is a great resources, of course, and I really like the interviews they do with authors of recent releases.
LGBTQ Reads is an invaluable resource for queer literature–new release highlights, author interviews, lists of books by representation or age/genre if you’re looking for something specific.
Electric Literature is where I hear about more adult lit fic/nonfiction stuff, they also have a column called Novel Gazing in which people write about books that have impacted them and I find that really interesting. They also publish poetry and short fiction but I haven’t read much of that.
The Lesbrary does reviews of books about lesbian and bisexual women, as well as round-ups of new releases. Good resource for keeping up with sapphic books.
Rich in Color reads and reviews diverse YA books and is a good place to keep up with books by authors of color.
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Hi! You can call me Count, I’m a non-binary lesbian and my pronouns are they/he. Please only use either masculine or gender-neutral terms when referring to me.
Welcome to my 18+ sapphic writing blog, where I mostly reblog stuff and sometimes post about my writing. Fair warning, I do reblog a lot and if you don’t want to see that, you can block the #not my writing tag, essentially my recs.
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Hey Tyler, I mean this in good faith with the intent to understand your thoughts, but I don't know if I so strongly agree with your opinions on what constitutes lesbianism and lesbophobia.
Where I'm struggling is that you're hard-defining lesbianism as being anything but a man and being attracted to only women. Which to me makes me wonder two things: 1) isn't this kind of rendering non-binary folks as women-lite? and 2) doesn't this negate lesbianism as an identity for anyone attracted to non-binary folks?
This too kind of leaves out a long history of trans men who identify as lesbians and lesbians whose partners transition to become men, both types of people for whom being a lesbian may be a crucial part of their identity formation. It's not so much about not seeing themselves in the former example or their partners in the latter as not being "real" men or women, but that gender and sexual identity are perhaps more expansive.
To me also, lesbophobia necessitates oppression, and my question then is does identifying as a pan lesbian inherently oppress lesbian lesbians? Or, does dating a non-binary person harm other lesbians? I can't quite fathom that it does.
Interested to hear your thoughts.
I assume this is in reference to this post, in which I said:
I went into the lesbian tag on this day of lesbian visibility and kept seeing all these positivity posts for “bi/pan lesbians.” My fellow sapphics, if you are romantically and/or sexually attracted to men, you are not a lesbian. Lesbians are people with diverse genders, presentations, and preferences, but our commonality is that we are not men and we are not romantically or sexually attracted to men. You can try putting it into progressive terms all you want, but leaving room for men in the label “lesbian” will always be lesbophobic.
To prevent TERFs from reblogging this: Trans women are women, trans lesbians are lesbians, nonbinary lesbians are lesbians, and when I say men, I mean cis and trans men.
I believe you have seriously misread my post. You stated that I am, "hard-defining lesbianism as being anything but a man and being attracted to only women." That is inaccurate. What I said is that lesbians are people with diverse genders, which includes, for example, women (both trans and cis), nonbinary people who align themselves with womanhood, unaligned nonbinary people, agender people, people whose gender is lesbian, et cetera. Though these listed genders are indeed diverse, their commonality is that they are neither men nor aligned with manhood. I also stated that lesbians are people with diverse presentations, meaning that we can and do use whatever pronouns we want, dress however we want, and choose to use traditionally feminine, masculine, or gender-neutral terms of reference, regardless of how we define our individual genders as lesbians.
To use myself as an example, I am a nonbinary lesbian. My gender is butch, and I am masculine. I primarily use she/her because that's what I'm used to, I'm okay with they/them, and I'm on the fence about he/him. I prefer sir over ma'am and uncle over auntie, but I don't know how I feel about "boyfriend." It's complicated, and that's okay. Though I really dislike definitions in the negative, it is impossible to list every single lesbian's complex relationship to their respective genders, so I emphasized what we all have in common: we are not men. Additionally, nowhere did I say that lesbians are only attracted to women. I, personally, am not only attracted to women. I am attracted to people of my same/similar gender, which does not include men or people aligned with manhood, but does of course include some (but not all) nonbinary people. Just as I would not date gay men as a nonbinary person, there are some nonbinary people who would not date lesbians. Thus, I am definitely not "rendering nonbinary folks as women-lite."
To your next point, binary trans men are men, so I would not understand why a binary trans man would want to use the label lesbian, which would, by definition, misgender them. If I were to realize that I was a man, I personally would call myself straight. At the same time, I understand that some lesbians date people who transition to become men, and I am not about to say whether they can keep dating or have to change their labels or what have you. That is a tricky situation that is, frankly, none of my business, and I do not even know how I would react myself in said situation.
"To me also, lesbophobia necessitates oppression, and my question then is does identifying as a pan lesbian inherently oppress lesbian lesbians?" Let me answer this in a roundabout way. Do I, as a lesbian, have the capability to systematically oppress bi women? No. Am I still capable of saying biphobic things and perpetuating biphobic stereotypes? Yes. Likewise, it is possible for bi/pan sapphics to say lesbophobic things.
"Or, does dating a non-binary person harm other lesbians?" I think I have sufficiently answered this already. Conversely, I would, as a lesbian, personally benefit if someone were to date me, a nonbinary person. /lh
Finally, to get into the nitty-gritty of why I take offense to the terms bi lesbian and pan lesbian: bisexuality and lesbianism are inherently different. That is why there are two separate terms. Namely, that difference is that lesbians are not attracted to men (cis, trans, and aligned otherwise). This is not a new or revolutionary statement, so let me say it again: Lesbians are neither romantically nor sexually attracted to men. We are oppressed by cisheteronormative society at large for this exact reason. I spent an entire decade unlearning compulsory heterosexuality (or comphet) and misidentifying as bisexual. My autism also played a role in making it difficult to determine whether what I felt towards men was friendship or attraction. So when I came out (again) at 22 as a lesbian, I felt the most cathartic relief in my life.
On the other hand, bisexuality/pansexuality is attraction regardless of gender, which does, then, include men. Combining the terms bi/pan with lesbian is contradictory. One cannot be sexually and/or romantically attracted to men and simultaneously not be sexually and/or romantically attracted to men. People who use the terms bi lesbian or pan lesbian often do so because they identify as either "bisexual homoromantic" or "biromantic homosexual." However, both of these experiences include attraction to men. Lesbianism does not include attraction to men. Therefore, lesbian is not an accurate term for these experiences.
This was a lot, and I cannot make it more simple than this:
Lesbians are not men.
Lesbians are not sexually or romantically attracted to men.
That was literally what I said in the original post. I do not know if you are a lesbian or not because you did not specify. I think you were confused and genuinely seeking clarity, which I was glad to provide. But if you are not a lesbian and want to argue that lesbians can, in fact, be attracted to men, then I consider you just as complicit in lesbophobia as the cishets who want me to end up with a man.
Discourse blogs DNI. Please do not reblog.
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i won't argue that jokes about hating all men are corny, or that bioessentialist bullshit can infect feminist and sapphic spaces. but idk, implying that gay men's spaces never mention women and are free of problems or misogyny is, quote frankly, stupid.
not to mention that the 'defining sapphic-hood by lack of attraction to men' thing only really became a contentious issue around the time people started the whole bi-lesbians/lesbians can be into men thing.
plus, there's quite a few reasons women tend to discuss men more than men discuss women (ie venting about misogyny and the patriarchy)
and the whole line about fearing for the sanity of younger sapphics feels really gross to me. yes, sapphic and lesbian communities have problems, but ALL communities do.
like im not claiming that internet lgbt communities have NO problems, that post just rubs me the wrong way
then talk to the original poster. im not obligated to go in-depth about my nuanced feelings about someone else's post.
i thought about not responding to this ask but i think you should hear this: not every post i reblog is something i wholeheartedly agree with 100% and feel is completely undeniably accurate. and not every post unpacks decades worth of struggles within the queer community regarding misogyny, disrespect, and attraction. and that's okay. i chose to reblog that post because it brings up a phenomenon i've encountered many times over the years that reflects a growing problem that makes me sad.
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Hi hello good afternoon I am supplying you with wlw book recs because we all deserve them. Please reblog with your own recs because I’ve only been reading sapphic books for a few months so haven’t covered loads of amazing ones, and hopefully this can become a massive rec list of wlw books :)
Also please please please check the TWs for all of these so that you can stay happy, healthy and safe 💗.
Fantasy:
- The Priory of the Orange Tree: [“We may be small, and we may be young, but we will shake the world for our beliefs”] Look I know you’ve all heard of it. Now read it. Swords. Queer women. Queer women with swords. Dragons. Castles. Battles. Many many many pages of beautiful words. There is nothing missing from this book.
- Cinderella is Dead: [“I don't want to be saved by some knight in shining armour. I'd like to be the one in the armour, and I'd like to be the one doing the saving.”] Fuck the patriarchy. Dystpian. Gay. Fantasy. Cinderella is dead (wow). Badass main character. Fighting for rights and fighting for eachother. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩
- Girls of Paper and Fire: [“Instead of disappearing, she makes me feel reappeared. Reimagined. Her touch shapes me, draws out the boldness that had been hiding in my core.”] We said learning to heal! We said finding safety in eachothers arms! We said fighting the oppressive government! We said fuck the patriarchy! We said fantasy women with swords! We said (kinda) enemies to lovers! We said please check the trigger warnings for this book!
- A Dark and Hollow Star: [“The number one law of the universe is choice, after all — bad things happen to the people who take that option away from you.”] Fantasy that actually uses the words bisexual and lesbian and gay and genderfluid!!! Urban fantasy. Four main characters: two mlm, two wlw. Swords and monsters and fae and powers and tension and fate. Read for the pretty cover, stay for the characters.
- Gideon the Ninth: [“I cannot conceive of a universe without you in it”] This book is dark and horror-y and gory and weird as fuck. This book has skeletons and necromancy and a huge weird haunted house and everyone dying under mysterious circumstances. This book has enemies to i-dont-even-know-what. You will not know what is happening in this book but you will love it. Trust me.
Dystopian:
- We Set the Dark on Fire: [“Maybe this was trust ... Giving someone the power to ruin you, betting your life on the belief that they wouldn't.”] once again, repeat after me: fuck the patriarchy. Rebellion. Enemies to lovers. Dystopian world where every man gets two wives. Guess what happens 👀
Contemporary:
- The Henna Wars: [“I've never really thought about having a type. I guess my type is....beautiful girl. Which is a lot of them. Most of them? Pretty much all girls”]. Girl dealing with the aftermath of coming out to her parents has a crush on a girl who is competing against her in a school competition. Main character is muslim, bangladeshi and lesbian and love interest is black, brazilian and bisexual. Just read it. Don’t do it for me. Do it for yourself. You deserve to smile.
- Her Royal Highness: [“PERRY I’VE FOUND AN AMERICAN!”] Look this book may be cliche and predictable and a little ridiculous at times but it made me unfathomably happy so I don’t care. Scottish boarding school+royalty+an american. Enemies to lovers but not im-gonna-stab-you enemies to lovers (which ive read my fair share of truet me), more like why-are-you-so-unbearably-irritating enemies to lovers you know?
- Written in the Stars: [“I’ll break into your apartment and move everything three inches to the left and fuck with your flow, okay?”] Good, solid contemporary new adult romance. Enemies to lovers. Grump x sunshine. Actually has a sex scene (this might not be everyones thing i just noticed wlw books often skirt around them so thought id point it out). Ugh its just so cute.
- You Should See Me In a Crown: [“When I open my mouth, everything happens so fast—the way I can feel her everywhere, the way my hands steady instead of shake where they tangle in her hair because I’ve maybe never felt so grounded before, so rooted in a moment”] What happens when a Black queer girl tries for prom queen in a weird, cliquey prom-obsessed school? What happens when one of the other competitors is the unabashedly gay cute new girl? This is what happens. Guys. Guys. Guys. Read this one oh my god. I say this about every book but seriously READ THIS ONE. So so so so so good. Everything you could ever want in a queer coming of age book.
- The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo: [“You do not know how fast you have been running, how hard you have been working, how truly exhausted you are, until someone stands behind you and says, “It’s OK, you can fall down now. I’ll catch you.”] I know you’ve all heard this but you’re about to hear it again. Queer women in the 50s? Sign me up! Sign yourself up! Buy this book and then read this book! Freak out about this book! Cry about this book! Tell everyone you’ve ever met to read this book! Cry some more about this book! Make this book your whole personality!
Thriller(?):
- The Girls I’ve Been: [“There is no normal. There is just a bunch of people pretending there is. There's just different levels of pain. Different stages of safe. The biggest con of all is that there's a normal.”] Thriller. Guns. Menstrual cups. Con artists. That awkward moment when you’re stuck in a bank robbery with two murderous men, a child, your ex boyfriend and your current girlfriend. Not romance but has romantic themes (established relationship). Coming to terms with childhood trauma and abuse. This book is short but deceptively heavy with the themes it deals with so, again, please check the TWs.
Ones on my TBR:
- Last Night at the Telegraph Club
- The Miseducation of Cameron Post
- A Memory Called Empire
- This Is How You Lose the Time War
- Girl, Serpent, Thorn
- This Poison Heart
- One Last Stop
- She Who Became The Sun (omg i want to read this so so so badly)
- The Weight of the Stars
- These Feathered Flames
- Honey Girl
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boonskicks · 2 years
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[image description: Screenshot of a tumblr text post with two usernames censored, the second user having reblogged it with additional text.
The original post by the first user reads - ''lesbian: being stereotyped as predatory is harmful to my mental health and physical safety to the point where I'm afraid to talk to any woman who I'm not 100% sure is gay because I'm afraid they'll think I'm hitting on them and being creepy.'' Followed by a paragraph, which then reads: ''non-lesbian: okay but one time a lesbian said my boyfriend was gross so who's the real oppressed person here?'' end of original post.
The reblog with an addition by another user reads: ''People act like lesbians have oppressed bi women and that's the only way those interactions go and yet I have had two different instances of bi women I was instered in insisting that they cannot go out with me till I have 'experience' with a man and offering to help with that. You don't see me bringing that up every time I see a bi positivity post though because that's literally not how you build solidarity in the community.'' end of image description.]
I found this post by chance many months ago now, but ever since then this has frustrated me so much it wouldn't leave my mind, so I decided to let it out in text.
Let me start off by saying: I understand what the original poster and the person who reblogged it were trying to say. People make false comparisons all the time. Of course lesbophobic experiences are not in any way comparable to a lesbian telling a bi (usually sapphic) person that their ''boyfriend was gross''. The clearly lesbophobic statements of the two bi women mentioned in the reblog by a different user are also completely unacceptable.
But the thing is... to preach this ''solidarity'' you have to show for it. And I think these two users have a ton of biphobia to unlearn.
As much as this post frustrates me, I blame this type of wording and mentality mostly on the ease with which echo chambers on online LGBTIA+ spaces are created. It's easy for lesbophobia to fester in bi sapphic spaces, because they're so separated from fellow sapphics, specially lesbians, but it's not an excuse. Likewise, I would say it's also easy for biphobia to fester in exclusively lesbian spaces, because they're separated from other sapphics. These echo chambers become more and more intense and hostile towards one another exactly because of these unlearnt prejudices and mentalities.
As a bi sapphic, I'll say this however: some of you really really really need to understand that there's a ton of intersectionality in both lesbian and bi sapphic experiences. And I think that's my main issue with this post. I understand what type of situation they were referring to, but to say that ''bi sapphics have never faced oppression from the lesbian community'' is just blatant historical erasure.
Yes, bi sapphics need to acknowledge and unlearn their lesbophobia if there is to be solidarity, but the same goes for your biphobia - you need to stop the constant dismissal of our experiences, intentional or not. You think bi sapphics aren't also afraid of being perceived as predatory? ''Being predatory'' is one of the main biphobic stereotypes!! In both bi sapphics, as they are seen as predatory or manipulative towards lesbians (unicorn hunters, etc. Not to say again, that there aren't situations like this, but it's most likely that they're just shitty people, and it has nothing to do with their orientation?), plus bi mlm are seen as potential ''gay predators'' for cishets!!!
I don't know if these users just aren't aware of all this, but it is telling how the original poster is more likely to make a post talking about this one bi/pan person - real or completely hypothetical - than to acknowledge that a bi sapphic may also have the exact same anxiety and fear that they mentioned. It adds insult to injury though, to see the second user to outright say ''well I don't complain about my negative experiences in bi positivity posts'' - yeah well, I'm glad you aren't doing that, but you clearly aren't afraid to say that ''people act like lesbians have oppressed bi women'' as if it's fact that there has been absolutely no biphobia within the sapphic community... how insightful and not misinformed at all! /sarcasm
I'm trying to hold back my anger at this, but it's hard. I want to meet these users halfway. A lot of bi people in these online spaces do, and I get that, unfortunately, it's lesbophobic asshats that tend to yell lower and be more visible to many but... if you want solidarity, listen to those whose voices are being drowned out and erased by many.
Because I believe those voices are in the majority, not the opposite.
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