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Applications to join the Queerward Discord
We've noticed a lot of people asking where to find the link to join the discord. While we cannot safely justify having a floating link, the mod team has agreed that we can open entry to the general public. The discord is no longer limited to a know-someone basis. If you would like to join the discord, you can message @relatablemormonmoments @notsostraightandnarrow @vaguely-heavenly-things with this form: Name or nickname: Discord username: Age or general age: How I discovered Queerward: Sexuality: Gender Identity: Romantic Orientation: How long have I been out to myself: Am I out to others: If straight, am I willing to be an ally and leave discrimination at the door: Do I hold concerning biases, such as racism, homophobia, or sexism?: (y/n) If yes, am I willing to unlearn them: Do I get into fights on the internet: [regularly, only when important, never] Do I promise to follow Queerward rules: (y/n) Am I kind: (y/n) Am I interested in a server dedicated to LGBT+ Mormons: (y/n) Am I Mormon or associated with the Mormon community, including ex-mormon, post-mormon, Church of Christ?: By sending in this application, you are permitting the mods to scroll through the blog you message us from to check that you are a real person, not a troll, not homophobic, racist, or sexist, and that you tend to respect others online. We will not be accepting requests from blank blogs.
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loveerran · 2 years
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Cancel the San Diego PD
It’s transgender awareness week!
Trans woman Kristina Frost was detained by police and placed (against her wishes and expressly against the law) into a cell with 3 men. She was beaten by one of the men, resulting in multiple jaw fractures and other injuries. According to the lawsuit filed today:
Kristina was dressed and presenting as a woman, including wearing a bra and high cut shorts.
Both her DMV records and driver’s license indicated she was a woman.
Officers repeatedly misgendered her in front of others and on official paperwork.
Sheriff’s deputies watched with ‘deliberate indifference’ as the beatings took place.
They eventually removed the man assaulting her, but then detained Kristina for 12 hours with no access to medical care.
NBC did a survey indicating that out of 4,890 trans women imprisoned in the US, only 15 were housed according to their gender identity.
Two trans women and a trans man arrested in Miami when protesting with Black Lives Matter were subject to genital inspection when other detainees were not.
Etc., etc. Re-blog for awareness if you didn’t know and feel free to support if inclined and able :)
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sarahisatotalgeek · 4 years
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Hey everybody!!!
So I know that a lot of my followers/mutuals (particularly in the tumblrstake/queerstake space) have likely already figured this out, but I just wanted to officially say it in a post...
I am bisexual!!!
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**blows party noise-maker** 🎉
I have been questioning on and off since I was 15, and finally accepted who I am around March 2020. Since then, I've been in the closet completely except to a few people on here.
I've been doing a lot of thinking and learning and reading and praying. I wanted to thank the queerstake space and all the contributors there for everything. You have all saved me from so much heartbreak and confusion and when I say that I love you all, I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
I wanted to thank two people in particular. First, I wanted to thank @exmo-bi-hot-mess . You have been such a wonderful friend and confidante. Thank you for leading me along with baby steps as I've figured out what the heck is going on. ❤
And a big thank you to @nerdygaymormon . Your writings and stories as well as the resources you have shared have all been instrumental in not only learning about my identity but then allowing me to love it and recognize that it is holy. That it is from God, on purpose. Thank you.
I officially came out to my best friend IRL tonight and I'm so excited. She herself is gay but I was worried about her response. She has been wonderful and I can't wait for this new level to our friendship as we have something to bond more over. It empowers me and helps me to feel better about possibly coming out to other friends and family in the near future.
So yeah! This is my official coming-out post! If I know you IRL and you have somehow found my account, don't tell anyone please! Let me come out on my time!
Anyway thanks y'all! I love you!!!! 💗💜💙💜💗
God meant "everyone" when He said He loves everyone!!! 🌈
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nerdygaymormon · 4 years
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I saw the For The Strength of LGBTQ/SSA Youth facebook group post, and I was wondering if you know of anything like that for adults? It's hard not to feel isolated.
There are many Affirmation Facebook groups.
I belong to four of them. The first two aren’t especially active, just a few posts per month. The Journeys & Community Conversations pages are more active
Affirmation Prepare is for LGBTQIA people who are active in church or who still believe (even if they no longer attend).
Affirmation Living Waters is for LGBTQIA people, and allies, families & friends who are active in church or who still believe (even if they no longer attend). It’s a way to discuss issues from a believing LDS perspective
Affirmation Journeys is for LGBTQ individuals, family members and friends who are questioning their relationship with Mormonism or are former Mormons.
Affirmation:  Community Conversationsis mostly people sharing things that the group might be interested in, such as podcast episodes, news stories, blog posts and so on.     
Here’s a list of additional Affirmation groups (since I don’t belong to these, I don’t know how active they are):
Affirmation: Trans* Mormons, Families & Friends is a private group which means you have to join this group to see the discussion, post and comment.
Transgender Saints, ExMos, & Allies
Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer + Mormons and Allies
LGBT Mormon People of Color and Allies
Women of Affirmation LGBT Mormons is for women and non-binary people who have affinity in some aspect with being a woman or being female and being Mormon/LDS in heritage or practice.
Asexual/Aromantic Umbrella Mormons
Mixed Orientation Families is a group for married MOM couples, as well as both gay, straight, and bisexual ex-spouses to join. To join, must send a message to Ron Raynes.
For the Strength of LGBTQ & SSA Youth is for LGBTQ Youth, allies, siblings ages 12-18
Affirmation Crossroads For young millennials who are LGBTQIA or their siblings or allies within the ages 18-25.
Affirmation Millennials is for LGBTQIA/SSA individuals who were born from1980 to 2000 .
Grupo Mundial en Español (Spanish Group) 
Mundo Grupo Português (Portuguese Group) to join, contact João Heitor
There’s many local chapters of Affirmation, many have their own FB page. The thing is these are hit or miss. For example, there is a Florida chapter listed, but it hasn’t officially started yet. The local chapters should have a few activities each year where you can come and meet people. And if you need to speak to someone, can contact Affirmation and they’ll direct you to someone nearby (I’ve had several people in Florida referred to me).
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There’s non-Affirmation groups out there, and I want to include them, too.
I’ll Walk With You is for active LDS parents of LGBT/SSA Mormons. You must be a LDS Parent with a LGBTQIA/SSA child to join the group. To join: message Jill Hazard Rowe
USGA at BYU is for Brigham Young University students, faculty and guests who wish to strengthen families and the BYU community by providing a place for open, respectful discussions on the topic of same-gender attraction. They also invite LDS Institute students from across the Wasatch front.
USGA - Rexburg is for students, faculty and guests in Rexburg, Idaho.
Mormons Building Bridges is for Mormons who are interested in building bridges between the LDS and LGBT communities. I find it a very contentious page, but very active. I do love how they show up to Pride marches dressed in Mormon Sunday best to let people know there are members who love and support the LGBTQIA community.
Mormons for Equality is for Mormons who support equal rights for all people and all families
ALL Arizona Arizona community for LGBTQ+ LDS members and their friends and family.
Rise - Atlanta LGBT+ Mormons and Allies is for those in the Atlanta area who are members of the LGBTQ+ community and share a background in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Dragon Dads Dads who wish to have a private Facebook group to gain support, process, and support their children in healthy ways who are LGBTQ+. To join, contact Jake Abhau
Mama Dragons Mothers of LGBTQIA kids in a common cause to support their healthy lives. To join, please send a private message on the community page.
Transactive LDS A private group for transgender individuals or family members.
North Star has a number of groups, to find ones you might be interested in, click on the link and then request to join the groups you’d like
Of course on Tumblr, search of #queerstake and you’ll find a group of us. #Tumblrstake is for anyone who is of the Church and you’ll find some of us by looking there.
On Twitter, there’s no special hashtag, but a few people will occasionally us use #queerstake. #twitterstake is a popular tag for anyone who is part of the Church and you can definitely find queer Mormons using it. You can find me on Twitter, check out who follows me or who i follow and that will help you enter into the larger community there.
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wandererslullabi · 5 years
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SGA/SSA aren’t LGBT+ terms you should be using
In fact, they’re not even really terms from our community at all.
In this post I’m going to be talking about two terms sometimes used by some people in our community: SSA (same sex attracted) and SGA (same gender attracted). Note, however, that this post is NOT about SGL (same gender loving) which is a completely unrelated, lovely term created for and by black LGBT+ people. To clear things up, the SGA term is not based on the SGL term; SGA was already an entirely separate term based in violent homophobia, which I’ll speak on below.
So, what’s wrong with SGA and SSA, and why do I have the right to speak about it?
I was born and raised a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, a church that until recently also went by the nickname “Mormons.” (Yeah, I know it’s a mouthful. Don’t worry, I’ll be using LDS, Mormon, or The Church for the rest of this post.)
This church has a very long, horrible history of homophobia and transphobia which continues to this day, and they’re known for using the SGA/SSA terms to describe LGB+ people, to the extent that the SSA and SGA terms are considered fairly taboo in the queerstake community (queerstake  being what much of lds LGBT+ call ourselves). I grew up hearing the SSA/SGA terms with lot of negative connotation, and to put it shortly, the church has for a long time “encouraged” lds LGBT+ people to call themselves “same sex/gender attracted” instead of LGBT+.
This statement, by the church leader Dallin H. Oaks (more on him here in a post by a gay mormon) is a pretty good example of the kind of rhetoric they use to encourage this: “We should note that the words homosexual, lesbian, and gay are adjectives to describe particular thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. We should refrain from using these words as nouns to identify particular conditions or specific persons.” (x)
This kind of rhetoric is repeated so often in the church that “same sex/gender attracted” is the way a majority of cis straight lds people refer to LGBT+ people aside from negatively using the word “gay” or “homosexual.”  They often use it talking about how we “suffer” from SSA/SGA, are “afflicted” with SSA/SGA, “struggle” with SSA/SGA. Instead of being gay, we “have” SSA/SGA.
It’s used as a way to essentially brainwash LGBT+ lds people into distancing ourselves from the LGBT+ community and further envelop ourselves in the church’s “you should repent from your homosexual behavior” mentality. The two terms are used fairly interchangeably; I’d argue SSA is used more often, but SGA is starting to get used more as well. In any case, it contributed to my younger self’s phase of “I won’t label my orientation” because I’d been trained to think that if I didn’t label it and I kept doing what the church said, my attraction to girls would either go away or I could just ignore it. Which, uh, didn’t really work, seeing as I’m extremely queer now.
A church university called BYU has, in particular, been homophobic to an extreme, actively participating in anti-LGBT+ efforts. In fact, they’ve been ranked one of the least LGBT friendly universities in the entire US! What an incredible achievement! You can read the history of their homophobia (and some transphobia) in this article (including a fairly extensive timeline from the 1950s up to the end of 2018). To sum up some of the really bad parts, though (the sources are in the link):
They repeatedly banned LGBT+ people from their university entirely, then banned students from being openly LGBT+, and are suspected of firing several staff members for being gay, as well as for suspending and expelling students for dating or kissing people of the same gender
In the 60s through 70s, they began administering “electric aversion therapy” in order to “cure” LGB+ students (this “therapy” involved showing gay people nude pictures of the same gender and giving them electroshocks in order to make them associate those feelings negatively). This method was ineffective at making the LGB+ people straight (obviously), but the people who underwent it reported extreme decrease in mental health and increased suicidal thoughts. At one point this therapy was required for anyone suspected of being gay. The therapy ended in 1983, but only because of the overwhelming reports that it wasn’t working.
In 1965 there were 5 reported suicides of gay Mormons at the university in a single year, and the LGBT+ Mormon suicidality in Utah has continued to be high. 
In the 70s, when Dallin H. Oaks was president of the school, he created a surveillance system to “catch” LGB+ people, including literally spying on gay bars and implementing recording devices to watch for any suspected LGB+ students, as well as posting fake gay advertisements to “ensnare” them.
Dallin Oaks also helped create the Institute for Studies in Values and Human Behavior, which was dedicated to proving that being gay was a choice, in order to re-affirm the church’s stance on homosexuality at the time. The freaking director of the institution, Allen Bergin, once said that homosexuality was “caused by some combination of biology and environment.” (thankfully, the church no longer believes being gay is a choice, though they talk about how “SSA/SGA behavior” is a choice as often as they can.)
I suggest y’all also read the Payne Papers (aka Prologue), which was written by two gay BYU students in 1977 in response to a homophobic professor at the university.
In 1997 there was a poll where 80% of students said they wouldn’t live with a roommate attracted to people of the same gender.
“In 2000 a reported 13 students were suspended from the University when caught watching the TV series Queer As Folk. The next year two gay students (Matthew Grierson and Ricky Escoto) were expelled under accusations deemed ‘more probable than not’ of hand-holding or kissing.”
In 2005, The Foundation for Attraction Research (FAR) was founded, run by mostly BYU professors. In 2009 the organization published Understanding Same-Sex Attraction which advocated therapy to change sexual attraction (evidently they didn’t learn their lesson lol).
In 2014, a BYU survey to students only gave the option of “heterosexual but struggles with same-sex attraction" or "heterosexual and does not struggle with same-sex attraction” for people’s sexual orientation. Y’all, this was only a year before same-gender marriage was legalized in the US. That’s just bad.
LGBT+ students are currently still facing risk of expulsion from the school if they hug, kiss, or date someone of their same gender. Celibacy is mandatory.
All LGBT+ groups are currently banned from meeting on campus, so there’s only a single LGBT+ group for the school that meets at a library in the city.
And of course, this is only what happened at a single Mormon university. You’d be surprised how much power the LDS church has, especially in Utah. Ya know Dallin H. Oaks, the homophobe? Yeah, last October he gave a homophobic and transphobic talk in front of over 4 million church members from all over the world.
During the course of all that homophobia at BYU, “same sex attraction” and “same gender attraction” were both terms used regularly in this therapy and in the church, alongside “homosexual.” And as I said earlier, they still use these terms today! In fact, if you wanna see them in action, you can just visit this page on their official website, which has “same sex attraction” right there in the title. The entire website continues to follow the implied idea of “we’ll tolerate you saying you’re gay, lesbian, or bisexual, but we’d prefer if you’d just say you’re same sex/gender attracted, because being gay/bi/lesbian is a lifestyle, and we don’t support it” and the whole website is basically “it’s okay to be attracted to the same gender, but it’s a sin to ever do or think anything gay!”
You can also just search the internet for “same sex attraction” or “same gender attraction” and a bunch of christian articles will pop up with rampant internalized homophobia among LGBT+ church members, and a bunch of homophobia from the church itself. It’s possible this SSA/SGA rhetoric isn’t specific to my church, as I haven’t researched other church’s histories as thoroughly, but the church absolutely contributed to anti-LGBT+ efforts throughout history, using “SGA” and “SSA” the entire time. This isn’t even a thing of the past, LGBT+ Mormons are still freaking here going through all this--conversion therapy is still not banned in Utah.
So, TL;DR: the “same sex/gender attraction” phrase was used in LGB+ conversion therapy, and is still used to perpetuate homophobic rhetoric in the church today. Because of that, a lot of my fellow LGBT+ Mormons are uncomfortable with the terms being used as umbrella descriptors for our orientations. So when someone tells you “SSA/SGA was used in Mormon conversion therapy, please don’t use it,” take them seriously. Yes, I understand that they’re sometimes helpful terms when talking about LGB+ identities, and I’m (sometimes) more okay with the usage of the terms than others, but in general, if you’re not a person affected directly by the church’s usage of these terms (read: an active LGBT+ Mormon or ex-Mormon), please don’t use them liberally, and don’t use them to freaking discourse about who does or doesn’t belong in the community. “SSA/SGA and trans” is not how you should be defining our community, I don’t care whether you’re an exclusionist or an inclusionist, just don’t. And you should never. freaking. use them. to refer to any LGBT+ Mormon who asks you not to.
And, last of all, as a bi person, y’all should not be implying that attraction to the same gender is the only thing about our orientation that makes us LGBT+. I’m not just LGBT+ because I’m attracted to the same gender, I’m LGBT+ because I’m attracted to multiple genders. My attraction to multiple genders makes me inherently Not Straight. Biphobia and monosexism is an issue that greatly affects mspec people, and it’s time monosexual LGBT+ people recognize that homophobia is not the only type of oppression we face. Not even to mention how SGA and SSA terms are exclusive of nonbinary orientations, which don’t always involve even having a same gender to be attracted to.
Exclusionists and inclusionists alike please reblog. Y’all need to listen up. Queer Mormons aren’t here to play.
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gay-mormon-wizard · 5 years
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I really admire that you came out to your ward, knowing that there could be backlash. It sucks to feel like you aren't welcome at church, but there's at least one tumblrstake/queerstake member who loves and supports you.
Thanks. It means a lot to me knowing that I have the support of my fellow queer members. I don't know what I'd do without this tumblr community.
In all honesty, I thought most of my ward knew. I'd come out to a few people in person and I've officially come out on Facebook, so I didn't think there would be a lot of surprise, let alone backlash. And I was totally blindsided by my bishop's actions.
It's as though he saw the topic of my experience as being inherently inappropriate for a church audience. Something to be kept under wraps. I've entertained the notion that he knew the ward would react badly and was trying to protect me from the backlash, but the fact that he immediately got up to remind everyone of the sinfulness of "acting on those feelings" kind of undermines that. I didn't even say anything contrary to church doctrine in my testimony. I said literally "God loves us all regardless of orientation and idk why he made me this way or what exactly my place is in the plan of salvation but I know it'll be revealed eventually and that, in the meantime, He loves me" and bishop still had to talk. And I know nobody thinks they're being judgemental and everyone thinks they're acting out of love, but that wasn't showing love. That was publicly running me through.
I've gotten several people saying I'm brave, but I don't feel it. I feel about two feet tall, a toddler slapped across the face.
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117541282192120 · 6 years
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I finally came out to my bishop
It did not go well !!!
He was definitely trying to be kind and understanding and all but through a very very traditional Mormon lense and although we talked for almost an hour and a half basically everything he said boiled down to 'say your prayers read your scriptures and have faith that God will somehow make it work in the next life.' Which um is honestly what I should have expected, that's what the official church stance is, but. Idk.
I was really hoping that he'd have some magical council or fabulous secret that would make me feel better about the church - some way that I could reconcile my own existence with everything I've believed since I was about 6. Hearing the eloquent equivalent of 'suck it up til the next life and hope it will be resolved then' was incredibly discouraging and to be totally honest, as a person who has struggled endlessly with terribke depression, that made my mind jump to 'let's hasten that next life and find out what the solution will be, why endure this hell-plane?' Which is maybe a little over dramatic but honestly I've been crying for the last three hours so I really don't care rn.
Just to be clear, I have a testimony of God, and his Son and their love for us, and the book of Mormon and most of that. I just. I can't seem to understand why God would create me queer when according to what's presumably his gospel, straight marriage and family is the ultimate happiness. I really can't make myself believe that God will just magically take away this part of me in the afterlife you know? I don't think God changes people, I don't think he's going to alter something about me that has so profoundly shaped my relationship with him and my own life experiences so far. It seems more and more like it's going to be either the faith and experiences I've had and the beliefs I've grown up with, or self acceptance and mental health. A good relationship with God, or, well, a good relationship with myself. The more I try to bring the two together the more it seems like they're tearing me apart and I just. I can't. I need some help I guess.
Anyways um. Yeah. Putting out a bit of a hyperbroad SOS I guess.
Practicing queerstake, how do you reconcile your own existence with Mormon faith?
Exmo queerstake, why couldn't you reconcile your personal testimony and revelations with church standards?
Thank you all so much for reading.
Dani, 17, Mormon AND gay and trying to stay that way
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queerstake · 6 years
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This is probably dumb but I misread the blog title as 'The official queerstake bi' and I also want to say I appreciate this blog so kudos to the lovely mods.
well I’m officially referring to myself as the Official Queerstake Bi from now on given I’m the mod who identifies as bisexual HAHA an excellent title
Honestly though thank you, I’m so glad we can help bring something positive into your life
- Steph
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That tilthat post is not accurate. The committee it refers to only monitors Church members who officially speak on the Church's behalf. If the LDS Church was really as controlling as that post implied, no one in the queerstake tag would hold a temple recommend. The Church is criticized just as openly from within as it is from without.
wow this is the only time anyone ever has personally sent me an ask to tell me a reddit post about x that i reblogged from a bot is innacurate while having an ominous “anti x do not interact” gimmick. last time something like it happened, i was actually expressing my opinion, not just reblogging something. but not only that, this one happened within  half an hour of me posting it. I have nothing against mormons. Or any *religious people*. Faith is something beautiful, really. Some people need Christ, some people need the Last Days Saints, some people need Xenu, whichever god and whatever the historical context of the arising of the faith. Not saying this to invalidate all gods, like some atheists i know, but rather to admit that everyone has the right to look for some spiritual healing and to seek virtue. But if there is something i hate, it is organized churches. I have seen these fucking christian temples (catholic, JW, LDS, who gives two shits) arise in the poorest parts of my country. Promising wealth and status, and injecting money into these communities in exchange of allegiance. Fracturing communities over who believes in who, even if they supposedly adore the same god. Suddenly there are feuds between neighboring towns because of the for-profit church that either managed to get there first, or managed to claim or reclaim turf. And when the turf is claimed, it is left on its own until their tithes become dangerously low That for me is more than enough reason to, cathegorically, never defend an institutionalized church. None. Defend your faith, never let anyone take that from you. Maybe you are not your faith, but it is a part of you, and it is one that you should never be ashamed to show. Grow, meet people, always seek in your faith the strenght to be better than you used to be. But never defend the bastards who run the church. You are not the church that calls for mass, and it is not part of you. Your church is those who share communion and life with you, it is those who come close to you and pray with you. Jesus said that his church was set in stone, and we all know he didnt mean either the temple, the priests, or the money.
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Many of us are watching General Conference this weekend, either by choice or not. No matter what they say or what happens, our Heavenly Parents love us.
"I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well." -Psalms 139:14
We are all fearfully and wonderfully made, and a marvel to Them. We deserve to feel Their infinite love for us, and that is the true message of the gospel.
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loveerran · 3 years
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vCMw8o3RCDY&feature=youtu.be
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This experience resonates with my heart.
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mormonvulture · 4 years
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queer byu students: PLEASE use the counseling center’s crisis services if you need them today. the people there are aware of what’s going on and they want to help.
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nerdygaymormon · 5 years
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i don't mean to drop this on you, but i really love reading your blog and it's helped me through a lot, and i need someone to talk to. i'm trans. i hate saying it and have a lot of internalized transphobia. i've been stealth for the past 5 years and my current gender since around 11. i joined the church as a convert and have been completely devout. i want to go on a mission. i want to go to byu. i love everything about the church. i've made so many amazing friends here. 1/2
2/2 but today i was outed. i might be excommunicated. i might have the priesthood stripped from me. i might never go to byu, or go on a mission, or hold a calling, or ever be thought of the same again. i’ve been a mess ever since and i know i put myself in this position for holding this truth from people but i don’t know what to do. it feels like my world is crumbling. i don’t know who else to tell. thanks for listening
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Hello anon,
I really feel for you. No one should be outed against their will. It’s a hard enough thing to do when a person is ready. 
From what you wrote, I can’t tell if you joined the church as the gender you identify with. 
1)  Let’s say that you’re trans but have been presenting yourself as the gender you were assigned at birth. There should be NO consequences, at least not official ones as far as church goes. A mission, BYU, and priesthood (assuming your birth certificate says “male”) are still possibilities. 
2)  If you joined the church after you transitioned and are on the records as the gender you identify with, it’s a bit more complicated. I think your church leaders would have to get some guidance from higher ups. The Handbook that they use specifically forbids “elective transsexual surgeries.” If you’ve not transitioned via surgery, I think your status with the church can be maintained, although they’ll change your membership record to reflect the gender you were assigned at birth. 
If they ask why you didn’t tell the missionaries, it’s easy to explain you told them you’re gender as you think of it, and they didn’t dig deeper so you didn’t know they had to go by your birth certificate. 
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I really am unhappy someone outed you, that can have serious consequences probably not considered by the person who is doing the outing. 
I’m hoping now that some people know that you’ll be greeted with love and acceptance, that some allies will step forward and let you know they’ll be there for you. 
Being a trans person already is complicated, and being a member of this church adds further complexity. 
You are a beautiful, wondrous creation. Your Heavenly Parents love you immensely. Together with them, you’re creating a life, you get to have an active part in your creation. 
As a gay man, I spoke a lot with a psychologist about internalized homophobia. I hope you have an opportunity (maybe thru school) to meet with a counselor or in therapy with someone to unpack the internalized transphobia. The negative things said about trans people are unfair and usually said by people who are ignorant on the topic and don’t know trans individuals. 
One of the best things for me was getting some queer Mormon friends, and #queerstake was a great source for finding them. We have a number of trans individuals who use the hashtag and I encourage to try contacting them, I guarantee they’ll respond. 
Wishing you all the best,
David aka, nerdygaymormon
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That new update sounds like could be a good thing in some context. But really it isn't, plus doubt it'll be taken to heart by everybody.
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We've made this Bingo card! It's intentionally blank with a list of 48 Happenings that you can either write in or cut and paste in. Your challenge is to make 2 different Bingo Cards using the Happenings, submit them to a google form (posted soon) by 4/3/2021, at 9 AM Mountain Time (8 AM PST, 2 PM GBT, 5 PM CET).
During conference, fill them out!
By Friday, 4/9/2021 (one week from today) at 5 PM Mountain Time ( 4 PM PST, 10 PM GBT, 1 AM CET), send in your completed bingo cards.
Anyone who gets more than 2 bingos per card (vertical, horizontally, and diagonally), will win a special prize in the queerstake server!
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Happenings
-Manti temple murals
-COVID-19 vaccine encouragement
-"its good to protest.... as long as you follow the rules of the institution"
-Choir sings acapella
-Pioneer ancestors are mentioned
-Childrens choir
-Jesus mention
-German sheperd mention
-A bishop speaks
-Shadow/light metaphors
-Poledancinng is hereby a sin because of Lil Nas X
-FEAR NOT
-Enforcement of strict gender performance
-Pictures on screen
-Indexing or Family History Resesrch is encouraged
-Airplanes
-Someone mentions mission to South America
-"Suffer from same sex attraction"
-Nauvoo
-Quotes from the Book of Mormon
-Speaker awkwardly references the song just sung/played
-"Be like the little children"
-A speaker references either their or their child's struggles as a teen and how they found relief in the church
-Catholic or Evangelical churches mention
-Priesthood or baptism mention
-Encouragement of prepping for natural disaster
-Another week long social media abstinence plan
-Chastity/abstinence
-Animation/video on screen
-The importance of ministering during COVID is mentioned
-Someone wears a green tie
-Satan is the real imposter among us
-Piano is mentioned
-New Utah temple
-"As my family read come follow me this year..."
-The importance of temple ordinances mention
-Mothers: the most special members of society
-The Karen or Debra haircut on a female leader
-Joseph Smith mention
-Announced weekly follow the Prophet vlog
-COVID is implied to be one of the prophesied plagues of the end of times
-Someone mentions Alma the Younger or the Prodigal Son
-"How firm a foundation"
-A white sister wears blue with silver accents
-Mission in Japan/China stories
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