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thekinklibrary · 6 years

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Libertyville Tymes Issue #1

Today’s topic will be about tasks. What kind of tasks does your Dominant give you? What kind of tasks does your submissive need? Not just sexual ones. Daily tasks, weekly tasks, special occasion tasks.... Hoow do you keep track of its completion if you’re in an LDR? If you’re IRL what are the parameters of the task aspect of your dynamic? If you’re an unowned submissive, what tasks would be ideal for you? What tasks would you like to give your submissive in a future relationship? Any guidelines you see yourself wanting to set?

@artsofsubmission :

My tasks include a daily selfie. Mistress has insisted on it since the first day she accepted my submission. Wants to he the first one to see me before the world does.

I have an apple watch. My exercise, move and stand goals need to be achieved daily.

Reading assignments. Weekly Mistress gives me a set of readings from one or more of the books I’m reading simultaneously.

Depending on if we have a scene coming up, Mistress will perhaps have me train my ass for pegging, or whatever the scene will require.

I also have to stay on top of my weekly shows. Not fall behind.

@ready-for-the-depth :

Daily selfie’s: these were required first thing in the morning before I even got out of bed. At first they were really difficult because they are tend to be not flattering pictures. But after a while they became one of my favorite tasks. The reaction to them was always positive and almost gleeful. They really started to change the way I thought myself.

Daily emails: these were intended to be a safe space to talk about any part of our relationship that needed discussing. Most of the time there was nothing that important that hadn’t already been discussed and so they turned into discussions of all sorts. They could be anything from a report of the days activities or a discussion on something deeper. Doing them every day helped build a sense that they were always available for meta talks.

Orgasm control: this one is tricky given that I have a husband. So everything related to him was excluded from this particular task. Orgasms outside of those for relating to my husband required permission. This had an interesting effect because there were times when I couldn’t get permission and I would receive blanket permission. Turned out I did not want to have orgasms under those circumstances really. My ability to orgasm really became related to the permission itself. I guess this is more a rule than a task but it became a task of orgasm on demand I think.

Other tasks were one off. Things like weight on the specific topic. Or wear a plug today. Go to the bathroom and remove your panties. Sexual tasks included specific ways and means of masturbation like dildos or vibrators. Lots of that training focused on anal sex.

Another Dom I was betting had me send him daily posts from tumblr. Something that made me think of him or that I wanted to try or to talk about.

@purelypinkafully

I have never been in a dynamic. Though I did try a bit of orgasm control with a play partner over the course of a month-ish, just cause I wanted to see how I felt about the control aspect. And I definitely learned some stuff about myself, but there weren’t a setting of it being to “better myself”, it was just to see what control in more than just a play session would be like for me (outside my brain). I wanted to explore that a bit.. but I haven’t explored task that were specifically for me.

I know that I need structure and stability, so tasks that will keep help with that. I feel like my brain is quite a mess and kinda overloads with stuff, and I can have a hard time doing things just for myself. Even like small everyday stuff, eating, drinking water, (some days even really get out of bed, but that’s more of a depression thing I think). Even now it can sometimes help to tell myself “I’m doing this for my D, wherever he is”, and so I’d probably need task in regards to that or at least a way of being accountable for it. And it could be as simple as telling “I did x”.

Also tasks to make me a better, healthier, happier individual. Ex. reading, writing, exercise and that kinda thing.

I think, I also would like tasks that would make me feel owned. And the sort of tasks I said above would probably also make me feel that, as I’d be doing it for someone else (if that makes sense), but I something that’s more specifically to strengthening the bond, dynamic, roles, etc, I’d really like. Nothing too elaborate or “pointless” I think though. But maybe like saying an affirmation when I wake up/go to bed or something like that. Perhaps that goes into rituals more, not sure..

I think a more specific task would be some kind of meditation or something to that extent. Again I’m not always that good at taking care of myself and my brain can sorta overflow, so I think a set time to just reflect, empty my brain, let go, find balance and so on would be very good for me.

@fae-kisses

Tasks help to structure my day, as well as make feel the tug of the ownership. Sometimes I may not like them, I may resist, I may delay, I neeeeeeeeeed to have that tug and reprimand to remind me I have chosen this relationship. I choose my relationships every morning before getting out of bed.

I think a huge part of the reason my ex and I had so many problems was because when I resisted, I was able to talk him out of enforcing. Now, that is a hindsight perspective. I don’t think I intentionally tried to worm my way out of things. I would say I need someone who will be able to tug that leash and put me in my place.

Tasks and boundaries help me feel loved and supported, appreciated and treasured. I have had to deal with my ‘crazy,’ mostly unsupported for so long. It will take time for me to fully trust that support. I FULLY trust in The-Romantic-Sadist. The rest will fall into place with time and experience.

@spookyglitterpeace

I don't have daily tasks. Nor orgasm control or anything like that. I can actually do whatever I want, to whom I want. No rules.Yet I submit to him.

I wish him good morning and good night because I want to.

I send pictures of myself because I want to.

I let him know where I am because I want to.

I ask for permission because I want to.

I want to do all these things for him. My submission comes from myself.

If I get a task, it's because I asked for it or he thinks it's in my benefit. The tasks I get are there to push me out of my comfort zone or to learn a new skill. They're often difficult and ask a lot of me. That's why I don't have that many tasks. They usually stretch over a longer period of time. Everything he does to/for me is to better myself. Not for his benefit but mine. He wants me to reach my full potential. That is the key, in my opinion, to a good task.

For me personally I don't get what benefit it would have to 'wear a plug to the grocery store' 🤷

I'm always grateful for the time and creativity he puts into the tasks.

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agosnesrerose · 7 years

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Fashion Friday: Singing In the Rain with Joules

Today I’ve partnered with one of my sponsors, Joules, the adorable British clothing brand to share some picks that Henry and I made for rainy spring days ahead of us (please- I’ll take rain over snow!) Also, Joules was kind enough to offer a 20% off code for EOS readers good until June 10th! Use RAINAWAY at checkout!

Is there anything cuter than a baby boy in a raincoat and wellies? I think not. Especially when toddling to Starbucks with his daddy (who also happens to be wearing a Joules raincoat purchased last year- this one is the same fit but different color). I have tons of Joules stuff for Henry because its so well made and lasts forever. As a mom, I’m a huge fan (and was before they were sponsors!)

And since it rains so much in Britain, they do rain gear REALLY well. Henry is wearing this coat, these dino print wellies (which he goes into the closet to get EVERY day now) and these jeans (which I am obsessed with for the color, fit AND stretchy comfort!)

Other items we have/ want for little Henry:

sweatshirt (have, obsessed, getting the other colorway) // quilted jacket (had one when he was tiny, need big boy size up for spring) // striped shorts // denim sweatpants (pajama jeans are totally acceptable for babies!)// fleece lined hoodie (have, its reversible and worn all the time- insanely soft) // jammies (have these in another print and they are adorable & so high quality)

The women’s stuff is just as cute (and comfy). Like this sweatshirt poncho and their famous wellies.

A couple things I snagged recently (styled into a whole outfit, perfect for a rainy day):

1. long raincoat (have-love this color and the giant hood!) // 2. scarf (on sale!) // 3. crossbody bag // 4. leopard short wellies (obviously I have these) // 5. zipback sweatshirt // 6. jeans

Some other things from them on my radar….

Coast coat– perfect classic raincoat, and the lining & leather details are perfect // stripe dress (NEEEEEEEEEED) // espadrilles (die over the blue lining) // short black wellies (classic, and great for those who feel suffocated by tall wellies) // blue print top // striped sweatshirt (have…okay, I’ll admit, have THREE versions of this one!) // floral top (this looks so comfy and pretty for spring!

** This post was sponsored by Joules. Thank you for supporting those companies that keep EOS going!

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