Five Tips for a winning week....

1 ) Write those fucking goals. Take out a piece of paper or the notes in your phone and write your top 3 dreams. Then break down 3 daily actions for each goal that you can start working on every day. Feel like too much work? This will go to show how dedicated you are to changing your life and moving out of this stagnant cabbage state you’ve been stuck in. Laser focus on the daily goals and taking actions on these, this is how you move forward. It’s all in your daily actions. 

2 ) Take action even if the voice in your head says no, says tomorrow. Make sure you do it anyway. This is your fucking life, make the effort for yourself. Push through that voice, and notice how fucking good it feels to move forward and take action. 

3 ) Start thinking like the woman of your dreams. Move like the woman of your dreams, speak like her. Have this in the back of your mind throughout the day, drop your shoulders and push your chest forward, think of the posture of the woman you desire, the way she talks to herself when she looks in the mirror, how she communicates with the world. Hold the vision of becoming ‘HER’ so high in your mind, you naturally embody who you desire to be moment by moment. 

4 ) Move your body. Find some music and move them hips, the energy needs to flow through your body, you need that movement to feel alive. Dance like no one is watching - do this as often as you can. 

5 ) Focus on you. Every time you get distracted by some guy not messaging you back, upsetting you, bitching about what your friend said or didn’t say, beefing with your family. Allow. Allow. Allow. Focus on you, see the focus on other people as a sign to turn your focus inwards. This takes time, but eventually you’ll connect the dots and see every time a guy is ignoring you, it’s a sign that you’ve been ignoring yourself and putting too much energy on him. And not enough energy on you. Remember the external is a mirror of your internal world. R-connect with your heart with journaling, meditation, therapy, creativity, spending time in nature. It sounds so basic, but the closer you are to your heart, and loving yourself the less time and energy you'll have for focusing on judging others actions.

Stepping into your power [2023]....

1. Your throne is not a place, it's a vibration.

2. Welcome the intense preparation period, on the other side of preparation and initiation is your dream life of existence. 

3. Be willing and ready to let anything go that does not elevate with you. 

4. The work is unavoidable so get used to consistently being molded. 

5. The solitude and discipline..IS REQUIRED...you're not being punished..you're being separated from the 90% not ready  yet to do the work needed for elevation. Thats ok..stay your ass in the house and focus.

If you continued doing what you do everyday right now for the next 5 years would your life be moving in the direction of your dreams? 

If the answer is no you have work to do. Quit the fucking excuses. Make today count. Take some fucking actions. Let's go.

Don’t let today be another day where you do nothing towards your dreams. Another day for excuses, another day where you tell yourself tomorrow. Let today count. Let today be the day you make a fucking difference. Let today be the fresh start you desperately need. Let today be the day you show up better, you do better and you stick to those things you promised yourself. Let today be the day you make your bed, and eat some nourishing foods and say no to the crap you’ve been putting into your body, into your mind, into your soul. Let today be the day you feel a shift in your energy. Let today be the day you go for that run your promised you’d do. Let today be the day that you choose you, no buts, no excuses just self love and showing up for you. Let’s go! 

New morning routine. Quit the fucking scrolling as soon as you wake up. This is not going to bag you the life of your dreams. Get CRYSTAL clear on your goals. Write them, visualise them. Pray on them. Stop playing with your potential. Set the intention to start your day with your new routine. Let's go!

Four Essential Spring Dating Tips 2023...

1 - NEVER EVER let a man get in your head to the point where he's consuming ALL your energy (living in your head rent free is an absolute no no). The energy HAS to be balanced in your favour. If you have a habit of becoming infatuated with a man, this is your sign to fucking stop immediately. Step back if you're over invested, and allow him to step forward. Don't let consuming energy when dating be the norm for you. Focus on you, and let him focus on you.

2 - Stop hiding your true self from the world, from these men. You, your true self is MORE than enough. Burn the fucking mask. Stop researching ways to be more this, more that. The advice is toxic for you because it’s affirming that you don't believe you're enough as you are, that you need to change yourself for a man to love you, to care for you. Burn that fucking idea. Be you. That’s it. Be you. The more vulnerable you can be, the more closer to your heart you can feel. Do you want to meet the man meant to be in your life, or the men who are drawn to this faux version of you?

3 - Stop trying so fucking hard, it is not your job to make all the effort for a man. That is not your job. You don’t show a man all your cards, show him your cooking, your body, your heart and let him decide. Thats not how you show your value. He needs to prove his worth, prove he can be trusted with your body, and that he's not just some fuckboy that's going to mess with your energy. Allow the space for him to step forward. This might feel strange if you're used to chasing, pursing and fighting for a mans attention but I promise you the right man for you will step forward once you allow the space for him to do so.

4 - Be AWARE of the man that goes along with the flow, dates you, shows interest, but only just enough to keep things ticking along. You'll always want more from this man that he's never able to give, quite simply because you're not the one. You'll feel something is off in your gut. This is the man that's place-holding you. These type of men waste months, and even years of a woman's life, keeping her by his side until he meets the woman of his dreams. Do not allow yourself to be the placeholder. Be fucking aware, and never settle for this type of man.

When love is a loosing game… So your quest for love has resulted in meeting the most toxic, good-for-nothing, hurtful, damaging, requiring therapy (post encounter with said persons), leaving you emotionally, physically and financially in the gutter. These are all signs of loosing in love, and you the best thing you can do when you’re in this situation is focusing on a winning strategy. 

Rule number one. Stop the chasing. Stop the obsessing. You don't want be attracting love from an empty cup. Redirect your energy to your own love story, your own passions, your own hearts desires. This is going to elevate your energy so you’re not attracting from the gutter. You start attracting from a place of higher love. Self love.

Rule number two. Reinvent yourself. If you’ve had a lifetime of failed relationships it’s time for a new look. Start seeing a new reflection in the mirror. Let go of the old you, start seeing yourself as someone who wins, who loves their reflection when they look in the mirror, someone who is confident, someone who is totally in love with that they see. If you’re not there yet do the fucking work, change your wardrobe, your hair, whiten your teeth, get the Invisalign. Whatever it is for you. Switching up your image and becoming as confident as possible is going to elevate your energy. 

Rule number three. Start focusing on what you can give and let go of what you can get. A lot of failure when it comes to love is because we're focusing on so hard what we can take from the other person, seeing them as an ATM, or how we can use their body for our needs. This is low vibration energy and is going to keep us in the gutter when it comes to love. What do you have to offer in a relationship? Are you loving? Do you have an expanded mind, interesting conversation, are you an asset yourself? Do you radiate loving energy or are you toxic yourself? Start thinking of the person you want to show up as, and let go of the take and focus on the giving. 

Rule number four. Stop withholding your heart, your voice, your truth. Every time you fear speaking on how you feel you’re sending out a signal to the universe that your words are not important, that staying small is more important than being seen. How is your true love ever going to see you if you don’t allow yourself to be seen? So what if you fail, or embarrass yourself. Is it not more important to be true to your heart and live with no regrets than keeping your heart closed and playing small, keeping you away from the very thing you desire? A loving connection? If you can’t speak your truth and say how you feel are you even ready for a lasting love? 

Rule number five. Stop ignoring the RED flags. Focus on compatibility, understanding values, lifestyle match. These points are all to be established in the dating phase. Instead of smiling like a Cheshire Cat on these dates, getting swept away by the ACT that these men (and women) put on during the dating phase. Start dating with your A game. Suss out if it’s worth entertaining the guy that calls his ex ‘crazy’, or that hates eating out when this is what you absolutely love. Start being smarter, move better, and learn to win when it comes to love. 

For all my sweeties calling in more love,

Where are you embodying love in your own life?  What are the current levels of love in your life?  Do you love your life?  Are you giving love?  Are you putting loving energy out into the world?  Are you doing what you love in your life?  Are you embodying love?  Are you loving you?  Are you investing into you?  Are you making effort for you? 

LIFE IS A MIRRORRRRRRR

Today is made up of yesterdays thoughts beliefs, and actions. What you did yesterday impacts today. What you thought yesterday creates your today and tomorrow. So why the fuck would you hesitate not to think better thoughts? To affirm self love, your dreams, your vision board? Your actions today are so crucial, they’re creating your tomorrow. 

Return to love - October Series

The theme for this months writing is all about returning to love. Returning home to your sacred heart, to your inner safety, to becoming the best friend, parent, lover, that you’ve always longed for. You’re pouring into you this month. No more seeking and searching outside of yourself. All that manifesting the life you desire has left you starving, deep in the pit of your stomach. Leading you to feelings of desperation, wondering if you can really have (and are even worthy of) the life you dream of because it feels soooo out of reach. From this place of lack you’ve been living off the scraps of love being fed to you by people and situations in this world, forgetting there are actual fucking FEASTS available for you. When you return to love, you nourish yourself from the inside out. No one can take away, that inner fulfilment. You show up differently in the world. You slowly start to trust yourself more, and rely on yourself, your inner voice supports you, and you are your very own cheerleader. Each day you pour into yourself, sometimes more than other days, but most importantly this month you are the priority. Affirmations aren’t about what you can get in this world, you start connecting with the emotion of already having your desires from within. You are returning to love, you coming home to your heart. You are nourished, you are loved, welcome home sweetie. 

how do I start focusing on myself, and stop making my life revolve around a man that does not give a fuck about me

Start seeing this situation as a blessing in disguise. Do you really want to be that woman in the relationship with the guy who doesn't care or is not bothered? What kind of life is that? You want to be chosen, celebrated, loved, not some sloppy seconds he 'does not give a fuck about'. So be thankful. Thankful the universe has set you free from this situation. Thankful you are no longer in a situation that is burning your PRECIOUS energy. So to move forward, start pouring into your own heart. Focus on your passions. Completely unique to you. You will know what sets your soul on fire, it could be dancing, painting, acro yoga. It's your gift, and this is going to fill you up. Aside from that, think of how you can give back help others in any capacity. These are positive ways to refocus your energy. I find journalling also helps, limiting conversations with friends about said guy. Get yourself into a healthy morning routine. Meditate, read, drink water, move your body, journal.

Sending love and healing sweetie xoxoxox

Learning from the GHOST...

This has never been about HIM, it’s always been about you and finding your way back home, back to your heart, to your passions, to your self love. All this focus on him has left you hungry, hungry for love, attention, and care. Not realising these very things are what you’re not giving to yourself. In the harshest way, the world will always mirror back to you a reflection of where you’re at. Where you’re lacking, and where you need to heal. He ghosted you, but is that a mirror of where you ghosted yourself? Did you start working on your dreams and then suddenly stop because you gave him all your energy? Were you pouring into you, growing you and then suddenly stop? Did you really ghost yourself? Either way, don’t get mad, get better, get fucking stronger and start looking inwards instead of into your unread messages and his social accounts. This is your fucking world and you better start acting like it. You are the lead character, not some supporting role in his movie. Own your fucking life, own your dreams and passions, own making your own money, being successful in whatever area sets you on fire. Yes, its fucking hard. You desperately want him, his attention, but I promise you, the more energy you give to him the more energetically he can feel it and will pull away. REDUCE your mental energy on him (watch this for more). Allow your self love take centre stage in your own movie and let go of victim mentality. Remove any expectation of if and when you will hear back. Pause mid obsessive thoughts and close your eyes and ask the universe for release from the situation, to set you free. Use words that resonate with you and repeat them through out the day. Remembering that life is not happening to you, it's happening for you, to heal and grow to become your very best self!

You want commitment, but how committed are you to yourself? To the things you love, that bring you joy? To taking care of you? To keeping you clean and groomed? Do you love, respect and honour you? Do you love you unconditionally? Or is that voice in your head still putting you down when things don’t go to plan? What about taking care of you? Do you nourish you with good food, treat you well? Do you let you know, how important you are, how much you are cherished and loved? Do you take you on hot dates, do you buy sexy lingerie for you? Do you cook you your favourite foods? This might sound silly, and basic but life is a mirror. It starts with you. The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you have. With foundations of love from within, you will attract better.

Honour the little girl inside of you, the little girl that was abused, hurt, abandoned, who felt she was never enough. Let her feel safe, let her know she is loved, tell her everyday. Make her feel so special, she deserves it, keep her clean and warm and nourish her with the nutritious foods. Let her feel free. Let her embrace the things she loved doing, skating in the park, jumping on the trampoline, painting, running, swimming, making sandcastles, girly sleepovers, making stories, playing dressup. It might sound silly, it might sound irrelevant but honouring the little kid inside of you is going to bring you so much joy and fulfilment. That little version of you, still exists, and deserves to be honoured. Give yourself the love and care, and joy that was stolen from you as a child.

Just because a thought enters your mind, doesn’t mean you need to velcro yourself to it. Learn how to let these low vibe thoughts flow and pass through your mind, this is a skill - and once you master your mind you’ll realise your full potential. Just because you think something in brief moment doesn’t mean it’s the truth. It’s just a thought passing by. You don’t need to attach yourself to it. Thinking something jealous, thinking something negative, for a brief moment is completely normal. You’re human, what’s not healthy is attaching energy, emotions, and feelings to those thoughts and causing yourself unnecessary stress and anxiety. It’s a skill practising letting thoughts drift in and out of your mind, and this is how you gain control of your life. How you take your power back. How you start driving your car, instead of letting your mind run your life while you sit back on autopilot

So your new years eve plans are falling apart? Whatever the fuck isn't working out for tonight, move the fuck on. Don’t waste your time in a story that men don’t want you, your friends are no good, or your life is an unexciting mess. Literally don’t stay stuck in the story. When things fall apart suddenly, the universe is protecting your ass, from people and situations that were not for you. Read that again. Whatever fell apart was not meant for you. So if you’re home alone or not partying as you would like to be tonight, use this new years eve for plotting and planning for your dream life. Remember your are the author of your own life, so use this special evening to celebrate YOU. Light a candle and play your favourite songs, or something chilled. Write down all your accomplishments of the year. What you’re proud of, what you’ve overcame, what you did really well. Also write down what you want to let go of, what you want to leave in 2021. Now for the juicy part, you get to script your dream life, write goals, dreams, aspirations, daily actions, quotes to motivate you, Pinterest boards, dream weddings, holidays, houses. Literally get into creation mode. Remember, the big goals are great but breaking them down into achievable daily actions is how we move forward. Feminine energy is creative…tap into your power. Fuck the plans that fell apart, tonight is about planning you, celebrating and creating your dream life!