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#like i GET it i know i cant fix ppls lives for them its arrogant to act like i can its infantalizing i know. but like. god.
daforged · 2 years
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i am so so so so so so tired of like. not being able to just force ppl to make positive change in their lives. i have spent waaaay too much of my life having the “people only change when they are ready” lesson smacked into my brain and it is soooooooo annoying from every angle
#this is the THIRD time . somebody in my life has been in a long-term bad situation#and will just. not do anything about it. and i GET that its hard enough just getting through the day nvm like … making changes#but. its so frustrating from an outside perspective as someone who has watched this exact thing over and over and over with other ppl#especially because the first time it happened ended with a successful suicide attempt. so ! lovely. great.#like i GET it i know i cant fix ppls lives for them its arrogant to act like i can its infantalizing i know. but like. god.#there’s only so long u can keep offering ppl a hand to climb out of the pit before like. they yank u down with them. and holy shit i dont#wanna do that again. i did that for the second person this happened to bc i was like well. id prefer if u didnt die by ur own hand#soooo guess ill just. make myself miserable catering to every avenue that would make ur life easier.#and then it took me an eon to dig myself out of the pit i dug for myself & the. incredibly toxic mindset i had adopted. like.#its just so frustrating i am tired of hearing venting about things u can change i am tired of flexing empathy muscles i dont have im tired#of watching ppl be miserable and then DROWN themselves in more misery willingly. like stop!!! stop feeding it!!!! do ANYTHING ELSE#in conclusion: hell.#freewheeling bitextual#oh and its hard to balance like. my own brain & being a good support. like i dont want to deal with your upset rants 5/7 days of the week#because it makes ME miserable! and im having a hard enough time keeping a positive outlook on life as it is!
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