Start taking that 1% vote on the person you are becoming. Just 1% each day, just one decision that aligns with who you’re trying to be… it might seem small but overtime those little 1% votes compound…As you go shopping in the supermarket, are these food choices taking a vote on who you’re trying to be? As you procrastinate at work…is this behaviour taking a vote on who you’re wanting to become? As you decide whether to work out or skip the daily run, is this action taking a vote on the woman you want to show up as today? Little by little those 1% votes start to win the election of the person you’ve been dreaming of, the you that eats healthy, respects her time, shows up for herself , handles herself in times of conflict, constantly asking and checking in - is this taking a vote on who I’m wanting to be?

*guess who’s been reading atomic habits

Emotionally healthy people are quitters ✨

Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.

Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.

They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.

Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.

Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.

Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.

Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”

If you are putting in the work, believing in yourself, and showing up its going to work out

Level Up On a Buck

Just gonna leave this here.

I read this somewhere and thought it was so eye-opening:

The problem with a lot of people nowadays is they want to be in a relationship before working on their relationship with themselves. No one owes you anything and no one has to accept you at your worst especially not when you're getting to know each other. Some people feel so entitled to things they don't apply to themselves.

why the motto "women support women" doesn't work all the time

It has routinely come to my attention that the reason behind women hating, shaming and casting other women down is because of their own deeply circumstantial assemblage of shame colored by society's rejections

Less consuming, more creating. Imagine how much time wasted everyday spent consuming on social media, Netflix, movies, Youtube, Podcasts...mindless scrolling. Imagine if you poured all that wasted time and energy into creating the life of your dreams? Pouring into your business ideas? Creating that painting, that song, that dance whatever your thing is. And believe me, there is something within you, an idea, a gift, a skill that’s waiting to be unleashed, something you could be sharing with the world but instead you are wasting your life consuming. Now is your time to snap out of consuming, and create. Create with all your soul. It’s not a dumb idea, it's not delusional. Your dreams have been planted within you for a reason. Now is the fucking time more than ever to start living them, breathing them, and creating them.  

know your worth & outgrow them

I've come to realize that once you start prioritizing yourself and putting yourself first, it'll piss a lot of people off who'll call you selfish and self-centered, and guess what? I'm okay with that and I will gladly walk away if they can't respect that. My time and energy are valuable and I'm not afraid to be alone on this journey.

I've got my back and that's all I need to keep going. I trust myself because I know what's best for me and I know I'm not missing out on anything. Nothing is worth disturbing my peace or my energy.

I am whole and complete and I have everything I need within me 🤍

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🌟✨ Embark on Your Level Up Journey: Embrace Growth and Personal Transformation! 💪🚀

A level up journey is an empowering and transformative process that allows you to unlock your full potential and become the best version of yourself. Here's how you can embark on your own level up journey:

1️⃣ Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on your current circumstances, strengths, weaknesses, and areas for growth. Understand your values, passions, and aspirations. This self-reflection will serve as a foundation for your level up journey.

2️⃣ Set Clear Goals: Define your vision and set clear, actionable goals that align with your aspirations. Break down your goals into smaller, achievable steps. This will help you stay focused and motivated throughout your journey.

3️⃣ Continuous Learning: Commit to lifelong learning and personal development. Seek opportunities to expand your knowledge, acquire new skills, and broaden your horizons. Read books, attend workshops or seminars, take online courses, or seek mentorship. Embrace a growth mindset and always be open to new ideas and perspectives.

4️⃣ Embrace Challenges: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Step out of your comfort zone and take calculated risks. Challenge yourself to overcome obstacles and learn from setbacks. Each challenge you overcome will make you stronger and more resilient.

5️⃣ Cultivate Self-Confidence: Believe in yourself and your abilities. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and acknowledge your progress along the way. Surround yourself with positive affirmations and uplifting influences that boost your self-confidence.

6️⃣ Practice Self-Care: Prioritize self-care to nurture your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Take care of your body through exercise, proper nutrition, and adequate rest. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Remember that self-care is an essential part of your level up journey.

7️⃣ Seek Support: Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, or mentors who believe in your journey and encourage your growth. Share your goals and aspirations with them, and seek their guidance and support when needed. Collaborate with like-minded individuals who inspire and challenge you to reach new heights.

8️⃣ Celebrate Progress: Celebrate each milestone and progress you make along your level up journey. Acknowledge and appreciate how far you've come, even if you haven't reached your ultimate destination yet. Each step forward is a victory worth celebrating.

Remember, your level up journey is unique to you. Embrace the process, stay committed to your growth, and be patient with yourself. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and keep striving for your highest potential. Your level up journey will empower you to unlock new possibilities and create a life of fulfillment and purpose. 💫🚀💖

Stop ignoring your bodily signals that’s somethings not right. You get a bad stomach and need to run to the bathroom after the morning smoothie? It doesn’t agree with you. You get terrible anxiety and feel you need to perform on dates with the pretentious guy? He’s not your person. You feel shaky after the iced latte? It’s not for you sweetie. Your body is constantly sending signals, letting you know what feels good, and what doesn’t. Foods that don’t agree with you, people that cause you panic. Take inventory on what's causing dis-harmony in your life, and start editing ruthlessly. This is an act of self love. No more ignoring signs from your inner guidance system. Start heeding the call from your body. It’s speaking to you always. 

The people who have accomplished the things you want are not better than you. They are not more skilled than you are. Their mindset is simply different. Their mindset inspires new habits and attributes that contribute to a strong sense of self-belief and enables them to overcome obstacles, achieve their goals, and lead fulfilling lives.

Fortunately, this is something you can work on and have complete control over.

If you want to change your life, these are some of the things you should be working on within yourself.

Self-awareness: Successful people have a clear understanding of their strengths, weaknesses, values, and goals. They are aware of who they are and what they want to achieve.

Positive mindset: They maintain a positive outlook on life and view challenges as opportunities for growth. They focus on solutions rather than dwelling on problems.

Resilience: Bouncing back from failures and setbacks quickly. They see failures as temporary and use them as learning experiences to improve and grow.

Self-motivation: You need to be internally driven and have a strong sense of purpose. Successful people set goals for themselves and work persistently towards achieving them.

Confidence: They have confidence in their abilities and believe in their potential for success. They trust their judgment and are not easily swayed by others' opinions.

Adaptability: They are open to change and embrace new experiences. They are willing to step out of their comfort zone and take risks to pursue their goals.

Discipline and consistency: They practice self-discipline and maintain consistency in their actions. They set routines, establish habits, and follow through on their commitments.

Emotional intelligence: They possess a high degree of emotional intelligence, understanding their own emotions and the emotions of others. They can manage their emotions effectively and maintain positive relationships.

Growth mindset: They believe in their ability to learn and develop new skills. They see setbacks as opportunities for improvement and are open to acquiring new knowledge and experiences.

Self-care: They prioritize self-care and well-being. They recognize the importance of taking care of their physical, mental, and emotional health, which helps them maintain a positive mindset and stay motivated.

Me rn downloading and manifesting good luck, good vibes and money 🍀✨💹💰

My life is becoming...

Going to brunch with friends

Solo picnics in the park

Pottery classes, candle making and little hobbies I enjoy

Weekend getaways

A consistent workout routine

Being consistent with skincare

Drinking 80+ oz of water a day

Going to bed early

Everyday there are an infinite amount of stimulants competing for your attention. Your responsibility is to always choose the best for YOU.

Compromising usually leads to resentment down the road and nobody has time to be harboring negative feelings. Don’t feel guilty for making decisions that benefit you. Believe me, you are NOT the only one.

You got this. Cheers to the drop down menus in our lives. May the best [insert choice here] win!✨🥂

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