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blissfullyecho · 1 year
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how to create a leveling up/dream girl/rebranding plan 🤍🍸🖤
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establish your aesthetic
first thing’s first, you need to know where you want to go in life and what is your “aesthetic”? do you want to be giving “classy, businesswoman”? what about “nyc socialite”? of course these are just examples, but you should know what type of girl you want to embody. remember, you don’t have to fit a narrative, but you should have a general “aesthetic” that you want to be associated with. even if it’s 50 million different aesthetics, it’s whatever makes you, you.
visualize yourself/life
get inspired by making a vision board (physical or digital) and add to your board (if digital) daily. i find that this helps you stay in alignment with where you want to be in the future. you have to stay in that frequency and remind yourself of what’s next to come… because this new life is what’s next to come.
start with habits
please refer to my “starting your leveling up journey” post, but basically— you should create 1-3 habits for each of your goals and work on them until they become second nature. then when you’re ready, start implementing more habits that are aligned with your goals.
create routines with your habits
can you incorporate some of these new habits into a morning or evening routine? we all know that routines are important— they almost become our personalities and they set the tone for the day and night, and even the next day. for me, i know i’m only inspired to exercise in the morning around 10am, so exercise is part of my morning routine.
create daily + weekly goals
let’s say part of your journey is learning a new language. a daily goal could be learning one new vocabulary word in that language. your weekly goal could be knowing the alphabet in that language. use this method for all of your goals.
don’t overwhelm yourself with goals, routines, and habits
start slow; don’t overwhelm yourself. if you want to work on one goal at a time, then work on that one goal. burnout is real and it’s very hard to get back into the swing of things afterwards. i understand most of us are impatient when we just want to be a different version of ourselves, but it’s going to take some adjusting. i suggest not working on more than 3 things at once, but if you can work on more, go ahead
be a part of a community to keep you accountable
tumblr and facebook groups in my opinion are the best ways you can connect with other women who are working on the same thing. you can inspire one another, bounce ideas off of one another, and it’s super fun. you might want to even document your journey online.
set milestones and have a reward system
let’s say you would like to lose or gain weight, no matter the number, focus on 5-10 pound increments. when each milestone is successfully completed, reward yourself with something nice. maybe it’s getting your nails done, or splurging on a product that everyone on tiktok keeps talking about. apply this to any of your goals where there are milestones to get to.
don’t waste the day
you should not have any “zero days” meaning… you should be doing at least one thing everyday to reach a goal(s) you have. it doesn’t matter if one goal was to maintain a more organized, clean environment— do your dishes, set the trash out, clean up the hair from the bathroom sink, etc.
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coquettecoregirl · 3 months
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Controversial Opinion but one thing that I learned in the last few months of 2023 was to not accommodate my social anxiety at any cost. If you're someone like me, whose social anxiety is caused by fear of messing up and just not being used to socializing, then this is for you. Do not indulge or adapt to your anxiety, instead just do it. I know it seems ridiculous, but really you have to just expose yourself to what you're anxious and scared of, which in this case is socializing or basically doing anything publicly.
Exposure=Knowledge=practice=confidence=less anxiety because once you're exposed to your fear, it'll get easier. Sure, it may takes weeks, months and maybe even years, but you will eventually gain confidence and get better at it. For instance, let's say you suck at doing pull ups. But you practice it for 30 days and eventually you will see improvements. It's the same thing with social behavior, you won't get better at it if you don't participate in socializing. You have to show up, even if it's just for 5 minutes, even if it's just walking to the grocery shop. You need little steps to achieve confidence and fuck social anxiety up. If your anxiety is telling you not to do it because you'll look dumb or ugly or whatever, it's lying to you. You need to do it anyways. Literally cannot explain this enough, do it anyways, even if you're bad at it, even if you don't know how to do it. Do it anyways.
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being-addie · 11 months
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Sunday Resets
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Setting aside time for yourself is so important. I don't think people understand how vital it is to pay attention to your body and just take a day to let your body r-e-l-a-x. We're all so busy fighting to reach the top, that while climbing the corporate ladder, we lose ourselves somewhere along the way. Burnout, depression, and monotony come into play when we don't listen to our bodies telling us they need a break.
Once every two weeks or so, on a Sunday, I turn off all my notifications and have a day dedicated to me. Giving my body some TLC, resting and preparing for the next week. If I have plans on a Sunday, such as brunch or a meeting, I shift that day to Saturday, or at the very least, a day where I have at least 4-5 hours to spend leisurely.
Things I like to do on my Sunday resets:
Wake up early/sleep in: Depending on my mood, and how much sleep I've had during the week, I'll either be up at the crack of dawn or still in bed till it's nearly noon. There's no shame in staying in bed till 11:30 if you're particularly exhausted, but I recommend waking up at least before 11 AM because then you'll feel tired and groggy (of course, this doesn't apply to everyone)
Clean my room: I always make my bed without fail, and if my room is messy, then I'll clean it. Clean the vanity table, my desk, closet, art cupboard and bookshelf, and then the bathroom. If my mom needs help around the house, I do that too.
Food: I make myself a good breakfast, taking time to move around the kitchen and just breathe. I'm getting to eat good food, the sun is shining and I'm alive. It's great. Sometimes my dad cooks for the whole family and we just sit and eat together.
The Everything Shower: I take my Everything Shower on Sundays, where I wash my hair, deep condition, use a hair and face mask, exfoliate and do a face massage. I don't shave because I get my waxing done in a salon. I then slather myself in cocoa butter lotion and apply lip balm. Then do my hair routine (curly hair). It takes a few hours, but it's worth it.
The Next Week: I prep for the next week by cooking something I can take to my classes, like granola bars or homemade pita chips. I also sit down and plan my schedule (any dinners, meetings, parties, etc) and make a rough plan of my goals for the week, like assignments and deadlines.
Errands: I usually make a list of things I need to do during the week, like any specific separate groceries that I use, art supplies I'm low on, or needing to top up the air in my tyres. Then I go complete all of those in the afternoon.
Walks: In the evening, I take a walk around the block with a friend. I usually am too busy to do this during the week, so getting some fresh air is always a treat.
Relax: The rest of the evening is spent relaxing. I watch Netflix with my family, chat with my younger sister, read a novel/play the piano/write poetry. We have dinner together and then either watch a movie or just spend the time talking about our week, or the news. It's fun.
Double-check: Before I go to sleep, I make sure to double-check that my work is done, my bag is packed, clothes are folded and all my devices are charged. I'm in bed by 10:30 PM.
Remember that not all Sundays will be like this. Sometimes I'm extremely drained, so I'll sleep in, order food and just lay in bed recuperating. It's okay to take a rest day. This guide is if you want to be more productive, and it helps the week go smoother. Be the person who has their life in charge. You've got this.
<3
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swabian-princess · 1 year
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Why patience is key
Hey girlies,
I think we all know this situation: we write down our goals and how we’re gonna achieve them.
We start working out, do our skincare religiously for a week, eat clean…but after two weeks that feel like years we don’t see much progress.
We don’t have ABs, our skin is not crystal clear and cooking three meals a day annoys us.
We get mad because we did everything we could but can’t really see a difference.
Well, I have bad news for us all. It’s not possible to change your life in a few weeks.
We have to be patient, no matter how hard it is.
We can’t expect our body to completly transform in a few weeks after we neglected it for the last years.
We can’t expect our skin to clear up in a week after we did nothing for the last few months.
It is painful, I know. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, I know. But we have to stay strong and patient.
Results will come with time, remember that.
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bootobeneficiary · 1 year
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How to Love Yourself
How to LIKE Yourself!
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A lot of us tolerate ourselves. (Probably) you as well.
TOLERATE (verb): allow the occurrence, existence or practice of something you don’t necessarily like without interference or rebellion.
Speaking for myself, I absolutely tolerated myself for most of my life. I was born. I was born into a family I wouldn’t have picked with my eyes closed. Now I have to survive in the chaos of life (debt, violence, etc.). I didn’t necessarily dislike nor hate myself, but I was “going with the flow” until my death date.
Many people enter my inbox asking for advice on how to love yourself when in fact the goal isn’t to love yourself. At least not immediately.
If this is you, here’s my overall answer: The goal is to LIKE yourself to build the foundation of being able to LOVE yourself. Love is never enough in any relationship but particularly the one with yourself.
Don’t flood my inbox with “hOw Do I LiKe MySeLf” cause I gotchu girl:
BECOME ACQUAINTED WITH SELF. Just as if you met someone new and you’re getting to know them. “Hey, how’re you?” “What’s your name?” “Favorite color?” The basics. Learn YOUR basics because I promise if you’re having trouble loving yourself, you’re unfamiliar of the 101’s of the current you.
CASUAL COMPANY. Take yourself on “mini” dates such as the park, a posh cafe (you know the ones with the $7 coffee?). Maybe a walk to a park in the nicer neighborhood. When it comes to “loving” yourself, it’s often pushed to take yourself out on solo dates such as the movies or dinner. In my opinion, it’s important to start off with the baby steps. See what you like, you don’t like, what you want to do next time.
COMMITMENT. I’m using the analogy of “leading up into a relationship”. Before loving yourself, commit to yourself. Commit to changing the way you sleep on yourself. Commit to regular dates with yourself. Commit to remaining loyal to yourself. Ask yourself if you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level. This is essentially the step before loving yourself full fledge.
As far as loving yourself, it’s pretty much romanticizing your life. Strive for a romantic drama type of experience. Make that shit a movie.
Here are some shadow work prompts:
In what ways do I lack like for myself?
How did my upbringing contribute to my current insecurities?
What are some ways I plan on committing to myself in order to encourage self loyalty?
What parts of my being do I dislike yet want to love?
Closing Thoughts: When your next step is overwhelming, simplify it. Be creative as well. Confidence is hard to build so stick to the baby steps to avoid further overwhelming feelings when it comes to healing.
Speaking of healing, Happy Healing! 🧿💕🕯
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lilislevelingup · 11 months
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My morning affirmations renewed 💕
I like to share my affirmations because I materialize what I want with them, and I want to share them because if I made them or I embrace them, they are going to work for me and for everybody if I want it that way, I know.
I covered three aspects: self love, money and success.
💗 I deserve love, respect and be taken care of
💗 I love what I am
💗 I am deserving of all the good that this life can offer me or give me.
💗 Every action and circumstance in my life brings me money
💗 Money loves me and loves my company
💗 The money I have, multiplies every second
💗 I am an example of greatness, success and personal growth to everybody
💗 From this day forward, all fear or doubt is permanently removed from my mind.
💗 Every day I get closer to the greatness of my soul.
So be it, so be it, so be it / or you can say amen as well.
Some of them are actually created by Pilar Sousa, she has an amazing YouTube Channel with videos of affirmations. Some of them are created by me.
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People will only be mad that you have standards if they can’t meet them.
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cute-st · 2 years
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I’m tired of the bs that suggests wearing a certain dress will get you a ring or that it’s the behaviour or personality of other races that gives them greater dating success. I do think it’s important to get a Black Woman’s point of view on dating because what every race of woman has at her disposal is different.
I’m here to tell Black Women what ACTUALLY separates them from other women. Click the link below to read:
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khajiithaswitchywares · 5 months
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Go hiking. Fake your death. Become one with the forest. Elevate to forest god. The simple things.
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blissfullyecho · 11 months
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ideas to work on during your self-improvement journey [that girl]
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1. body language— both reading and practicing (perfect for those of you who are verbally awkward)
2. being more exclusive with your time, effort, energy, and presence
3. finding a theme or mantra during your self development journey— it helps if you are someone that finds quotes and words helpful and as reminders
4. strengthening your life skills such as cooking, baking, cleaning, budgeting, shopping smart, self-defense, etc.
5. evaluating your boundaries and communicating your boundaries
6. not letting anxiety or depression become who you are and defining you as a person
7. learning how to enjoy being alone without feeling lonely
8. identifying self-destructive behaviors such as taking toxic exes back or self-sabotaging
9. becoming more bold with the actions you take towards something you really want aka going for it with your whole heart
10. not letting rejection hit you personally. it’s okay that we’re not a right fit for someone just like it’s okay when they’re not a right fit for us— that doesn’t mean we think horrible things about them and vice versa so stop taking rejection personally
11. not getting attached prematurely
12. not pushing anyone away once we feel like we’re becoming close
13. setting standards for yourself and who + what comes into your life
join my self-development membership page here that has dozens of free ebooks that i’ve purchased, 2.5 hours of leveling up audio content that i don’t post on tumblr, and the addition of weekly content uploaded every wednesday or thursday 🤍
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coquettecoregirl · 7 months
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What do if you overeat/binge
Note: I am not a professional, these are just some things that have helped me when I overeat. I do not have an ed, but if you do, then please please visit a professional dietitian/therapist/etc. If you can’t afford one, then check out more healthy eating content on social media uploaded by actual professionals.
What NOT to do:
Don’t starve yourself. This is dangerous! Do not say “I’m not gonna have anything for an entire day because I overate in lunch” etc. Starvation is not the way, it only makes you feel deprived and all you’re gonna do is, overeat again. I do not care if you binged on a whole ass cake or 5 plates of mac n cheese. Do not starve yourself.
Don’t punish yourself through exercise. All you are going to do is throw up and develop an unhealthy relationship with workout because you’re only using it to ‘punish’ yourself. There is no point in going for an hour workout or 2 hour run, literally no point. You’re not helping your body, you’re hurting it.
Don’t Panic or shame yourself. Words and thoughts have an impact - don’t do it. A deep breath in and out. 
What to actually do:
Take a deep breath in and let go. Once you’ve binged or overeaten, there’s no going back. What’s done is done. The future is more important. Doesn’t matter if you had an episode two minutes ago or an hour ago, it’s in the past. We do not panic over our past actions, we learn from it.
Find our your why/ What triggered u? 
Are you overeating because you’re not getting enough nutrients like fiber and protein?
Or are you eating while being distracted by your phone?
Are you eating out of hunger or boredom?
Are you stress/emotional eating?
Eating because of undealt trauma?
Are you eating because it’s a childhood habit to?
Drink cold water. Seriously. This helps so so much, especially if you overeat on sweets or greasy foods. Just the feeling of cold water not only make you more aware but also help with the grease in your mouth.
Brush Teeth/Mouth Wash. This obv gets rid of the food residue in your mouth and makes you feel fresh again. You probably won’t feel like eating again because you’ve just brushed your teeth.
Take a shower. This is so so helpful especially if you’re someone who tends to either panic or depress over the amount you’ve eaten. A cold shower is especially beneficial since it makes you feel fresh, gets your mind off and removes any ‘sticky’ feeling you may have after eating too much.
Wait at least 4-5 hours to have your next meal. You can still eat, just make sure that this time around your food is more nutritious and is a healthy serving. If you’re having a pasta, add vegies to it. Or eat a salad, but make it filling by using plenty of veggies and protein. Make a air fried or oven fried fries. Literally anything but make sure it’s an appropriate serving - not too small but not too large either.
Go for a 10 min walk rather than a 2 hour workout. Put on some music, Rihanna or whatever makes you feel like a bad bitch. This time use exercise as a way to de-stress and help digestion, not to punish yourself. Do not tell yourself that you need to do it. Tell yourself that you’re doing it because it’s fun, because you’re going to have fun. 
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being-addie · 11 months
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This is your Wake Up Call
Enough. This is your LIFE. Do you understand? Think 70 years left. Thats it. It's ridiculously short and yet here you are, stagnant, scrolling on your phone, mindlessly consuming useless junk. Get up. Wash your face and change your clothes. Go for a walk, or to the gym, or do some yoga (I don't care what just move your body, you need the goddamn exercise) and when you get back, make yourself some food with protein and fibre. Play some music and make your bed. I freaking guarantee you will feel better afterwards. Aren't you tired of living in the confines of mediocrity? This is your sign to pull yourself out of a rut and start fresh, even if it's 4pm in the afternoon. OK?
xoxo
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swabian-princess · 1 year
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I refuse to complain.
I have no right to complain, not about my appearance nor about my health.
I have all the tools and knowledge to transform myself into the best possible version and until I tried everything, I simply refuse to complain about anything.
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theambitiouswoman · 4 months
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How To Become A Brand New Person ✨✨
Self Reflect:
Journal daily.
Think about past decisions and how they impacted your life.
Meditate regularly.
Create a vision board to visualize your goals.
Review your strengths and weaknesses.
Identify your core values and beliefs.
Figure out your passions and interests.
Think about your childhood dreams and aspirations.
Evaluate your current state of happiness and fulfillment.
Set Clear Goals:
Define specific career goals, like "Get promoted within two years."
Set health goals, like "Lose 20 pounds in six months."
Create financial goals such as "Save $10,000 for a vacation."
Establish personal development goals, like "Read 24 books in a year."
Set relationship goals, such as "Improve communication with my partner."
Define education goals, like "Complete a master's degree in three years."
Set travel goals, like "Visit five new countries in the next two years."
Create hobbies and interests goals, such as "Learn to play a musical instrument."
Set community or volunteer goals, like "Volunteer 100 hours this year."
Establish mindfulness or self-care goals, such as "Practice meditation daily."
Self Care:
Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day.
Follow a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables.
Prioritize getting 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.
Practice in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or yoga.
Take regular breaks at work to avoid burnout.
Schedule "me time" for activities you enjoy.
Limit exposure to stressors and toxic people.
Practice regular skincare and grooming routines.
Seek regular medical check-ups and screenings.
Stay hydrated by drinking enough water daily.
Personal Development:
Read a book every month from various genres.
Attend workshops or seminars on topics of interest.
Learn a new language or musical instrument.
Take online courses to acquire new skills.
Set aside time for daily reflection and self improvement.
Seek a mentor in your field for guidance.
Attend conferences and networking events.
Start a side project or hobby to expand your abilities.
Practice public speaking or communication skills.
Do creative activities like painting, writing, or photography.
Create a Support System:
Build a close knit group of friends who uplift and inspire you.
Join clubs or organizations aligned with your interests.
Connect with a mentor or life coach.
Attend family gatherings to maintain bonds.
Be open and honest in your communication with loved ones.
Seek advice from trusted colleagues or supervisors.
Attend support groups for specific challenges (e.g., addiction recovery).
Cultivate online connections through social media.
Find a therapist or counselor for emotional support.
Participate in community or volunteer activities to meet like minded people.
Change Habits:
Cut back on sugary or processed foods.
Reduce screen time and increase physical activity.
Practice gratitude by keeping a daily journal.
Manage stress through mindfulness meditation.
Limit procrastination by setting specific deadlines.
Reduce negative self-talk by practicing self-compassion.
Establish a regular exercise routine.
Create a budget and stick to it.
Develop a morning and evening routine for consistency.
Overcome Fear and Self Doubt:
Face a specific fear head-on (example: public speaking).
Challenge your negative thoughts with positive affirmations.
Seek therapy to address underlying fears or traumas.
Take small, calculated risks to build confidence.
Visualize success in challenging situations.
Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people.
Journal about your fears and doubts to gain clarity.
Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.
Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.
Embrace failure as a valuable learning experience.
Embrace Change:
Relocate to a new city or country.
Switch careers or industries to pursue your passion.
Take on leadership roles in your workplace.
Volunteer for projects outside your comfort zone.
Embrace new technologies and digital tools.
Travel to unfamiliar destinations.
Start a new hobby or creative endeavor.
Change your daily routine to add variety.
Adjust your mindset to see change as an opportunity.
Seek out diverse perspectives and viewpoints.
Practice Gratitude:
Write down three things you're grateful for each day.
Express gratitude to loved ones regularly.
Create a gratitude jar and add notes of appreciation.
Reflect on the positive aspects of challenging situations.
Show gratitude by volunteering or helping others in need.
Send thank-you notes or messages to people who've helped you.
Keep a gratitude journal and review it regularly.
Share your gratitude openly during family meals or gatherings.
Focus on the present moment and appreciate the little things.
Practice gratitude even in times of adversity.
Be Patient:
Set realistic expectations for your progress.
Accept that personal growth takes time.
Focus on the journey rather than the destination.
Learn from setbacks and view them as opportunities to improve.
Celebrate small milestones along the way.
Practice self-compassion during challenging times.
Stay committed to your goals, even when progress is slow.
Keep a journal to track your personal growth.
Recognize that patience is a valuable skill in personal transformation.
Celebrate Small Wins:
Treat yourself to your favorite meal or dessert.
Reward yourself with a spa day or self-care activity.
Share your achievements with friends and loved ones.
Create a vision board to visualize your successes.
Acknowledge and congratulate yourself in a journal.
Give yourself permission to take a break and relax.
Display reminders of your accomplishments in your workspace.
Take a day off to celebrate a major milestone.
Host a small gathering to mark your achievements.
Set aside time to reflect on how far you've come.
Maintain Balance:
Set clear boundaries in your personal and work life.
Prioritize self care activities in your daily routine.
Schedule regular breaks and downtime.
Learn to say "no" when necessary to avoid overcommitment.
Evaluate your work life balance regularly.
Seek support from friends and family to avoid burnout.
Be kind to yourself and accept imperfections.
Practice mindfulness to stay present and grounded.
Revisit your priorities and adjust them as needed.
Embrace self love and self acceptance as part of your daily life.
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lilislevelingup · 1 year
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My mom says these night affirmations to be thankful about life everyday, she says gratefulness is the key to be happy, so there you go:
I am grateful to be alive
I am grateful for the food I ate today
I am grateful for having a roof over my head
I am grateful to be safe
I am grateful to be protected
I am grateful to be loved
I am grateful to be respected
I am grateful to have been able to end this day alive and well
I am grateful for the incredible person I am
I am grateful because I love myself
I am grateful to be beautiful
I'm grateful to be deserving of every single blessing I have in my life.
I am grateful for my family and my loved ones
I am grateful for every single person that wishes me well and is there for me
I am grateful for all my senses
I am grateful of my well-being
I am grateful to be in peace
Pick the ones you like the most because I know they are a lot, love ya 💕
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People will only be mad that you have boundaries if they wanted to cross them.
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