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Finding Your Type: Problem Solving

(Transcribed from this post by Kambrie Ross.)

Type One

Competency Triad

In conflict, thinks about the "right" thing to do—based on a sort of moral standard, system, or principle—doesn't want to fail.

Consciously seeks to separate themselves from overwhelming feelings in order to solve the problem at hand with competent, dichotomous thinking.

"Right" for me means it serves a purpose, whatever it is. If it doesn't serve some purpose, it's in the way or causing a problem. If I can fix it I'm happy. if I can't, I stress.

I want to be taken seriously—I don't want to present myself as anything but composed and rational. I try to distance myself from my emotions—they are messy and hard to understand. Being rational is just more efficient.

Type Two

Positive Outlook Triad

Tends to ignore, gloss over, and push aside conflict and problems rather than address them (both externally and internally).

Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as divisive, which interrupts the flow of the relationships that give them their sense of identity.

Numbness to negative emotions. And numbing my own feelings so I can do more for others.

I try to see the positive in every situation.

I am the glue in relationships. It's hard for me to verbalize what I'm feeling and it's hard to bring up things that bother me. I will almost always opt to avoid conflict to preserve the peace.

I'm receptive at recognizing boundaries and reading moods without needing to speak them.

Type Three

Competency Triad

In conflict, finds an anchor in future goals—pushes hard into mentally assessing, then quickly and efficiently eliminating all blockages—avoids failure.

Tends to see emotions as obstacles that complicate problems and obstruct the path to efficiency and progress.

Every action should be intentional. I'm constantly searching for my purpose and doing what I can to achieve it.

I'm an achiever. I know if I want something, I'll get it done.

more often than not, it's hard to relax or feel fulfilled unless I'm accomplishing something or making effective use of my time.

I think logic trumps emotion almost always, and get angry with myself when I have emotions that are illogical.

Type Four

Expressive Triad

Has big, emotional reactions in conflict—feels a need to be authentic to the moment and their current feelings—wants to be heard, validated, and understood.

Believes (subconsciously or not) that the way you solve the problem is by addressing the emotional experience.

I wish people understood the importance of processing emotions...I don't want people to categorize me as "dramatic" or "too deep" when they lack understanding.

I've been told I'm very expressive when I talk about things (especially when I'm passionate or opinionated about something, which happens a lot). I often encourage others to not dismiss what they're feeling, whether good or bad.

I saw something once that said nothing feels small to a 4 and that felt really true. 4s CARE.

Type Five

Competency Triad

In conflict, thinks about data and facts—wants to think and process the problem before solving it—doesn't want to fail.

Believes you must shut down emotions to solve problems—feelings are messy, hard to understand and cloud judgment, but facts are straightforward and make sense.

I see lots of possibilities and I like to take my time to think everything through.

I'm extremely rational, logical, and level-headed. I put facts, morals, and usefulness first when dealing with emotions, making decisions, forming opinions, and gathering and proving knowledge. people always come to me for logical solutions to problems.

I try to learn how people like to communicate...usually doesn't work because people are human, not science, and always change things up.

Type Six

Expressive Triad

In conflict, wants to verbally process fears, concerns, and feelings in order to assess stability (relational and otherwise)—has a natural radar for threats.

Believes (subconsciously or not) that external affirmation of their thoughts and feelings will solve the problem.

I can pick up on if someone I love is emotionally off within seconds.

I feel like people don't understand my need to talk through scenarios. I want to be prepared for everything.

It's exhausting at times to feel like the only person who can see the problems with someone else's scheme or to be treated as overly negative when voicing intuitive concerns. I'm hard-wired to spot problems and threats and it's NOT just all in my head: it's good to think through and process all of the things I see and not dismiss them.

Type Seven

Positive Outlook Triad

Seeks to avoid or reframe negativity—often spins things in a more positive, exciting, or fun way (in the moment and retrospectively).

Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as unpleasant, (usually) unnecessary, and as hindering their ability to keep going and stay "up"—doesn't want to feel stuck.

I'm quite low maintenance in a relationship as it doesn't take much to make me happy—just spend time with me, don't be a Debbie Downer, and do fun things with me, even if they're simple. I'm so spontaneous and I see the good in people in life, so I rarely feel sad or let things get me down.

I see the world through a kaleidoscope lens. Everything is colorful, bright, and my mind jumps from piece to piece...As a 7 with depression and ADHD (as well as a chronic illness), life can be pretty sucky sometimes. But I'm able to look on the bright side and channel my pain into action (on most days).

Type Eight

Expressive Triad

Has big, passionate reactions in conflict—doesn't feel the need to censor impulses or emotional reactions—often pushes for contact to have a stronger sense of being.

has no problem with confrontation or challenges—engages with conflict boldly and willfully in order to keep moving forward.

I'm very upfront when I'm angry. I let people know.

I am so honest that I seem mean. So sometimes I am mean because it's easier than being misunderstood.

I make myself seem larger and louder (an outward defense mechanism to hide the vulnerabilities within myself).

When I feel threatened I go to "fight or flight."

I tackle conflict head-on so the tension is gone and we can be at peace.

Type Nine

Positive Outlook Triad

Tends to avoid and withdraw from tension, conflict, and drama they don't deem as worth the effort.

Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as unnecessary disruptors of peace—will engage in conflict if they can heal the connection and restore harmony.

I hate conflict, tension, and drama. I will engage in conflict as peacefully as I can to break the tension and bring peace back.

I see the world full of conflicting people who refuse to attempt to see things any other way and that's hard. The little things where humans are good to each other makes me happy. I see things with more potential good than many people I know. Conflict, tension, or passive-aggressiveness being present around me make me want to fall through he ground into the center of the earth.

I will do anything to avoid confrontation or conflict.

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