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#idk casual intimacy among friends idk
ivebeenghosting · 2 years
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I think canoncially bruce and clark should kiss. not like in a I want superbat to be canon way I don't want that and I know it will never happen but like I feel like after 20+ years of friendship they should smooch a little! on the forehead after a long battle, on the cheek when saying good bye, maybe even one big one on the mouth like a "mmmuah!!" after one of their patented grand gestures they do for each other that comic writers can't help but include in their cross over stories
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rexaleph · 4 years
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A few weeks back I got a very sweet birthday message from a classmate where she basically said that even though I clearly like to keep people at a distance, I should feel free to reach out etc. And that makes me wonder about my social situation. She's like one of my friendliest relationships at school or work, to the point where I sometimes felt like I was even crowding her a little. Like I definitely thought that I was acting very social and interested with her and other people in our shared orbit, because i do like them and am interested in their lives and opinions and all that. Like, growing up lonely did for real give me brain damage and after like a decade of struggling to become a person among people I still can not do intimacy at all but like. I thought I really had those friendly acquaintances/classmates/work friends down.
Some maybe 5 years ago I decided I wasn't gonna yearn for deep connections anymore and try and be as good as I can with the more everyday low stakes stuff. (A lot of that was about the inability to connect anyway as a closeted-ish trans person) And I think that was one of the things that started turning my mental health around for the better and also getting me to a place where I learned to be pretty friendly and outgoing. But if people can smell that thought process on me, or I project it, and that itself is what keeps me from, idk, making friends, then it's probably no longer a useful adaptation.
I've had a couple relationships die in a very obvious way over this. But I thought dating was always gonna be more complicated anyway, and I guess being interested in sth much more casual than my partner was a ... legible dynamic to me where I could just be like, oh I guess I'm an asshole, but I'm glad to be out of it anyway. And I have decided to be much more earnest and try harder next time. But maybe I won't be able to do that at all without fundamentally reconsidering how I feel about/approach other people.
Anyway, I guess the social distancing and the social distancing thinkpiece headlines are conducive to thinking about these things, idk.
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whirlwindamell-a · 5 years
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𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐬 !
FULL NAME.      elena amell. PRONUNCIATION.       el-en-uh. uh-m-ell. NICKNAME.       el. whirlwind (varric only). cupcake (varric only).  GENDER.         female HEIGHT.         5′2″ AGE.           18 (DA:O). 28 (DA:I) ZODIAC.         cancer. SPOKEN LANGUAGES.            common tongue. orlesian. 
𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐬 !
HAIR COLOR.       dark brown. EYE COLOR.        amber. SKIN TONE.         naturally pale, but tans easily.  BODY TYPE.        thick and curvy. by no means thin. very hourglass shaped.  ACCENT.         ferelden (english) VOICE.         usually very gentle and soft. doesn’t like to speak loudly, but very capable of doing so. has a bit of a mom voice when she’s angry or telling someone off.  DOMINANT HAND.         right. POSTURE.         good & proper. very straight. tends to slouch when sitting for long periods of time, though. SCARS.         lightning scars down her back and her right arm from fighting to escape kinloch hold.  TATTOOS.         none. BIRTHMARKS.         none. MOST NOTICEABLE FEATURE(S).       her scars, if they’re visible. otherwise her eyes. 
𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 !
PLACE OF BIRTH.        kirkwall, free marches HOMETOWN.         if you mean where she grew up, then kinloch hold, fereldan. FIRST WORDS.         she doesn’t remember and her parents were never around to tell her. SIBLINGS.         several unnamed brothers and sisters. all mages.  PARENTS.         revka amell (mother). unnamed father.  PARENTAL INVOLVEMENT.         separated at a very young age. elena doesn’t remember what her parents look like or what kirkwall looks like. 
𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 !
OCCUPATION.         enchanter in the circle tower at montsimmard. herald of andraste. inquisitor.  CURRENT RESIDENCE.          skyhold CLOSE FRIENDS.         interaction dependent? she tends to get along well with vivienne and cassandra though. def would consider cullen, josephine, and leliana among her closest friends.  RELATIONSHIP STATUS.          in a relationship with makerguideme’s cullen unless otherwise stated (ie: romancing someone else or interacting w/ another cullen).  FINANCIAL STATUS.         ???. well off now that she’s the inquisitor, but she doesn’t consider the inquisition’s money to be her money, if that makes sense.  DRIVER’S LICENSE.      yes (modern). CRIMINAL RECORD.         was very briefly held prison under suspicion that she blew up a bunch of people and killed the divine. VICES.        idk if a horrible sugar addiction counts, but she’s got a horrible sugar addiction. 
𝐬𝐞𝐱 & 𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 !
SEXUAL ORIENTATION.         heterosexual (debatable, but that’s what she thinks).  ROMANTIC ORIENTATION.         panromantic. PREFERRED EMOTIONAL ROLE.       submissive |  dominant |  switch. PREFERRED SEXUAL ROLE.       submissive  |  dominant  |  switch. LIBIDO.         don’t really know? probably on the high side once she gets going.  TURN ON’S.         cuddling, morning kisses, stolen moments of intimacy.  TURN OFF’S.        unnecessary cruelness, intense physical pain, lack of communication. LOVE LANGUAGE.  physical touch followed closely by quality time.  RELATIONSHIP TENDENCIES.       she tends to love with her entire heart and sort of epitomizes the idea that love is blind. once she’s committed to someone, even if that person isn’t exactly committed to her, she’s 100% theirs. she’s super quick to forgive anything her partner has done wrong and tries really hard to rationalize bad stuff away. she’s very all or nothing and doesn’t really understand casual relationships. 
𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐨𝐮𝐬 !
CHARACTER’S THEME SONG.         landscape by florence + the machine. king by lauren aquilina. HOBBIES TO PASS TIME.         baking. cooking. eating. anything that involves putting things in her mouth. reading. MENTAL ILLNESSES.        ptsd. separation anxiety. PHYSICAL ILLNESSES.         none. LEFT OR RIGHT BRAINED.         right brained. FEARS.     losing the people she loves. losing her new family again. it’s not exactly a fear, but things that remind her of kinloch tend to set off her ptsd and send her into a panic unless she’s with someone she trusts.  SELF CONFIDENCE LEVEL.         surprisingly low, actually, especially when it comes to her appearance and like...things that involve personal matters? she’s confident in her abilities to teach and has grown more confident in her abilities to lead, but she doesn’t think very highly of herself.  VULNERABILITIES.        how openly and willingly she loves. her stubborn naivety. how much she loves/loved her family (the mages in kinloch and now the inner circle of the inquisition) the fact that any unexpected mention of kinloch sets her off. cullen.
stolen from: @relixblelxdies tagging: anyone who wants to. 
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puddingcatbeans · 7 years
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fic rec days; hq edition.
i’m terrible at these things bc i kind of want to just slap all almost-300 of my ao3 bookmarks here but that’s cheating. i also feel like i haven’t read hq fics in so long omg, gotta rectify that. meanwhile, i hope you enjoy these works if you haven’t read them already, and if you have, i hope you let the writers know! 
under the cut, in no particular order, some hq fics i definitely rec!!
It’s Always You by @icespyders | bokuaka, rated g, college au
Akaashi meets a stranger at the school library. And then meets him again. (But it's only a coincidence.) And again. (But that's a coincidence, too. It has to be.) But as their paths keep crossing in the strangest ways, Akaashi has to wonder if it could mean something more. And, more importantly, if he wants it to.
// everyone knows i’m a sucker for college AUs but this 14k+ journey of wonderful characterization, the dumb stressfulness of college life and small pockets of optimism before you have to face the real world, the deliciously slow burn of their relationship... i read this in one go, and you should, too.
the way you look at me by ThinkingCAPSLOCK / @mocaw | bokuaka, rated T, pro volleyball au
Bokuto sees him every day, every commute, at the final train. The stranger he only knows as Train Guy. Wrapped in coats, mystery, and distance - that is, until Bokuto breaks their familiar silence. He struggles with the hardest part of befriending someone he thinks he already knows: taking a step back to reevaluate all his assumptions. He finds the easiest part is getting to learn about Train Guy all over again.
// the characterisation is!! so!! good!! not yet completed but every chapter has me curious about more development. i love the insight to bokuto as a person, as someone independent and surrounded with friends and teammates, and seeing akaashi through bokuto’s eyes is such a quiet, poetic thing.
another sunny day by @museicaliteacup | fukurodani, gen, canon-verse
Fukurodani loses at Nationals. No one on the team handles it very well. Konoha is no exception.
// i think this is one of the first fics that made me fall in love with the owl team. it’s sad, it’s angst, but the undeniable feeling of team togetherness is so warm. this will always be one of those fics i keep thinking back to, just because it impacted me so emotionally the first time i read it.
preferably forever by @risquetendencies | bokuaka, explicit, established relationship
Bokuto is more than a little excited when, breaking from their usual traditions, he and Akaashi go away on vacation for Christmas. It's sure to be relaxing, but then there's also the Christmas presents. Even though he's sure he's bought the best gift, he can't help but wonder what he might be getting in return.
// i’m always down for domesticity between these two but this fic made me tear up more than once, but in all the right ways. the characterisation makes me smile, bokuto is so vivid, their interactions with each other so natural i can’t help be jealous, just a little. this was such a joy to read, i’m sure you’ll fall in love, too.
Character Development by @silvercistern | bokuaka, rated T, fake relationship au
"That’s some kinda gratitude. I get the ideal guy to take you to prom, and you act like he's not even here? What happened to my painfully polite little brother?" "I doubt I’d let him take me to the hospital if I were bleeding to death."
Keiji needs a date. Bokuto needs dating lessons. Nothing could possibly go wrong.
// i’ve seen everyone rec this but i just had to bc holy shit i had a riot reading this. akaashi’s characterisation is so interesting? like i was deeply invested from the first few paragraphs, i’ve never wanted to root for someone as much as i wanted to smack them on the head. i love ensemble cast making cameos, and watching bokuto and akaashi slowly grow together in one of the best fic tropes is so. much. fun.
Connected by Tsucchi | ennotana, mature, space au
"It wasn't supposed to happen to him. He wasn't supposed to be Connected to anyone, nevermind this jerk he wanted nothing more to do with. He was supposed to work for his pardon, alone, and then start over - have a normal, peaceful life, with no one inexplicably tied to his fate."
Karasuno Operations always had unconventional methods, but this special tactics unit they've formed beat the rest. The ship full of eccentrics was intended to take on minor covert missions around the star system in the military's place, but instead they got caught up in grander schemes they never expected. And stuck in the middle are two men who don't see eye to eye, bound by a natural phenomena and forced to work together.
// this author singlehandedly converted me to this ship?? but seriously, this fic has been an emotional rollercoaster. the team feels is still there, the banter, the action and excitement, the character development and relationship growth, the mystery and slowly revealed character roles, and the world-building. holy shit the world-building. i’m still in awe, tbh.
smells like air salonpas by psidn | karasuno first years, rated T, canon-compliant
The Karasuno first years develop some new hobbies and strengthen their friendships.
// i loooove fics starring the karasuno first years friendship. and this fic does it in such a charming, fun way. i love the support that are shown in different ways, the dumb dweebness that comes with teenagerdom, the colourful days spent with these friends, and natsu appears? what more could you want.
it’s like the hunger games, but better | seijoh, gen, paintball
“Kindaichi,” Hanamaki laughs, striding across the room to pull him into a tight hug. “Kindaichi Yutaro you son of a bitch, I thought you were dead.” Kindaichi blinks, glancing to his left to see Kunimi - sitting crossed legged on a table next to a very sweaty looking Watari - looking just as confused as he feels. “Has— Has everyone lost their minds? It’s just a game of paintball.” “Just a game of paintball?” Hanamaki parrots, eyes widening as he takes another step forwards until they’re standing practically nose to nose. “Kindaichi, Kindaichi, my poor naive Kindaichi. This is more than just a game.” Kindaichi frowns. “It...is?” “Kindaichi,” Oikawa says sharply, shoving Hanamaki out of the way so he can grasp Kindaichi tightly by the shoulders. “This is a matter of life or death.” “I mean, I don’t think it’s really tha—” “Life or death,” Oikawa, Hanamaki, Matsukawa and Iwaizumi say loudly in unison.
// if you somehow haven’t read this yet, go read it immediately. especially if you’re having a bad day. i lost count how many times i’ve read this, but every single time i burst out laughing so hard it takes me a second to remember how to breathe. the memes. the shenanigans. the seijoh gang. the drama queens. this fic is fucking gold, i tell you.
i’m a house with no windows, you’re the flowers on the front porch by miracleboysatori / @tendouaf | ushiten, explicit, growing up together
Wakatoshi likes absolutes. He likes the idea of something being unchangeable, immovable, because he doesn’t have to worry needlessly about it. He can focus his energy on other, more important things. And among the absolutes he feels in his life, his bond with Satori is one of them. (aka: a fic focusing on ushiten's development from childhood through adulthood that no one really asked for but I felt an extremely strong urge to write anyway)
// i really, really love the characterisation of ushijima and tendou, and then the rest of the shiratorizawa team. i’m so very weak for childhood friends, and this fic follows them growing up together and into each other, and it warms my heart how far they’ve come and how far they can still go.
Put All Your Fears to Bed by chromyrose / @zahhaked | bokuaka, rated T, fluff without plot
Sometimes Bokuto needs solid reassurance; Akaashi is always willing to give him that and more.
// i find myself revisiting this fic sometimes, just because of how soft and warm and, idk, safe? the fic feels to me. bokuto’s mental state etc is such an important thing to me, and i love how these two are portrayed here, the closeness, the comfort. 
Under the Stars by writinghomunculus / @hanavmaki | kyouhaba, rated g
Hands dance along his back, and Kyoutani feels his skin catch on fire.
// this fic is lovely in the writing style itself, the snapshot moments between them, and the vivid sensory details. i’m personally weak to small touches of physical intimacy, and this fic paints kyoutani in such a gentle way, it really soothes my heart, because i know that everything will be okay.
myth au (series) by ilgaksu | levyaku, bokuaka, kuroken, rated T
// these are hauntingly poetic retellings of greek myths, starring our volleyfaves, and each one breaks my heart over twice. i’m in love with the writing, and even though greek myths don’t usually end well, the heartache is worth every word.
The Feeling in Our Chests by kiyala | kuroken, rated g, established relationship
Kuroo is in love. Luckily for him, Kenma is too.
// look at these two, being all gross and in love. i love how absolutely easy it is for them, the casual intimacy, the familiarity. this fic was so sweet, it was like breathing in deeply and then exhaling slowly after a long day.
Purcell by carriecmoney / @carriecmoney | iwaoi, rated T, college au
Tooru's got a busy semester lined up, so he shouldn't have time to worry about one irritating classmate following him around. And yet...
// the banter and frankly, ridiculous sexual tension between iwaizumi and oikawa here is hilarious. i love watching them bicker, and this author’s characterisation of them is always on point and highly enjoyable. i’ve reread this series so many times, and each time i find myself with a smile on my face. what are you waiting for?
tell me i’m lying by seconddaysea / @heroicsx | kagehina, gen
// this fic explores genderfluild kageyama in such a sweet, gentle way, i swear i was brought to tears. i love how supportive and sunshine hinata still is, how they fumble, but it’s okay. he’ll be alright. they’ll be alright.
salt in the wound by celestialfics / @tadachans | tsukkiyama, rated T
Tadashi’s always been drawn to traditionally feminine things, but he doesn’t think that means he’s a girl. He certainly doesn’t feel like he’s a boy, either, but to be something entirely different and new is a bit scary and hard to handle.
// this fic explores nonbinary yamaguchi and i love how strong yamaguchi is. he grows into himself. and his friendship with hinata is just great, and i love the portrayal of his and tsukki’s relationship. this fic both made me cry and made me laugh, and i’m sure you’ll enjoy it, too.
The Vanishing Castle by SilentNorth | bokuaka, rated g, howl’s moving castle au
Akaashi tells himself that he's perfectly content with his life. And he is. Probably. But somehow he attracts the attention of some sorcerers. Not his fault. And winds up cursed. Also not his fault. And finds himself in the middle of a war he has no business being part of. What exactly did he do to deserve this again? In order to go back to any sort of normalcy, Akaashi will have to turn to magic if he's to have any hope of breaking this curse. And the Vanishing Castle is one place to start.
// if you’re a fan of howl’s moving castle, you’ll fall in love with the rich worldbuilding and romance of magic in this fic. akaashi’s stubborn nature and his quiet strength is so prominent here, bokuto is as enigmatic and captivating as usual, and it’s just so easy to lose yourself in this au. it’s just breathtaking, honestly.
This Floating World by lowermiddlechild / @bicyclestandard | daisuga and more, explicit, modern fantasy au
Being a Dream Doctor isn't the easiest job Suga's ever had but after six years, he usually knows what to expect. That is until the day comes when he lands in a dream, ready to fight off nightmares, only to be shoved out of it a moment later. With one of his closest friends, Oikawa, avoiding him and his second closest friend, Kenma, avoiding his own problems, it looks like it'll be up Suga to figure out what exactly is going on.
// i’m a little behind on this fic but nevertheless it never fails to excite me when i see an update. the whole cast is there, the character interactions are refreshing, the magic is unsettling yet fascinating, the worldbuilding is definitely intriguing. i’m always on the edge of my seat wondering, what’s next?
... i’m gonna stop there for now, but know that the hq fandom produces some insanely great works. pls let your fave authors know you love them! thanks for sticking through with my babbling. ‘til next time, i guess!
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