I usually stay far away from Twitter and fandom drama and I don't follow fandom groups but given the dehumanizing posts I've been seeing online, I am going on a fairly long rant, this is just my view, of course, so please discard it if not relevant to you:

The people making posts like these:

are at the core of the bully mentality. You are dehumanizing a Human Being with the entitlement that you get to define how a negative experience affects them. You do not, in any universe, get to tell someone who has been affected by something at what level they have been affected. Simply because you are not them. Furthermore, you are biased and discriminating against Jared Padalecki because he is a celebrity. Jared is a human being first and foremost and, as we've seen in the past, he does do social listening. This means death threats and other cyber crimes do affect him, not to mention the very real stalking some of you do when he moves from country to country. You end up following him under his hotel or even worse situations.

This discussion happening within fandom should include him because he is a direct victim. Also, the intent to commit cyber crimes and sending death threats does not get cancelled out just because that person may or may not have read the thread/post. Do you get this? Do you understand that if your intention and energy is vile, whether the content reaches your target or not, your cyber crime is still in effect? "Jared is a big boy and he doesn't care". Really? In what universe would you be okay with receiving death threats, would your family love that for you? Oh, they would not? So why on earth would you say it is alright that Jared received death threats? Fans do affect an actor's psyche, actors live to bring you joy and when they see you go toxic and dangerous it does affect their psyche.

Aside from this, as mentioned earlier, some of you actually stalk him at cons and at different locations and do so with hateful intent. The gravity of your actions is what causes actors to hide in public, avoid open spaces, reinforce their security, have panic attacks and fear for their life. Yet here you are, online, claiming that it's all good because said person is a celebrity so who cares.

If you dislike Jared, that's a matter of taste and your business but if you dehumanize Jared to the point of denying the very real atrocious actions perpetuated towards him, then you are no different than the perpetrators. You are, in fact, the enablers so you are even worse. A bad intention or idea cannot form into action unless people enable it and you played a key part with your bias and lack of care.

Think of all that evil hitting your child or loved one or even yourself, is it still nothing now? Do you see how wrong it is to minimize the abuse people perpetuate? Jared is a kind human being, so he avoids getting into drama as much as he can but that doesn't mean he is not affected. Also, someone not being affected is never, ever, an excuse to abuse said person. It's pretty interesting how someone suddenly doesn't count as human in your eyes. Talking about the abuse Jared gets in no way takes away from the other victims, in fact, it provides evidence of the intent and maliciousness of the people who attacked those victims. So it is highly important to consider as well as discuss. If you actually care about the topic at hand and the people involved that is. If you actually cared about shifting paradigms and improving fandom experience.

Lastly, Jared does deserve an apology too, the behavior displayed towards him is inhuman, degrading and damaging. He's no different than all the other persons at the receiving end of atrocious behaviors. The fact that you cannot comprehend that shows you lack humanity and empathy. If this was you or a friend at the receiving end, you would do the right thing but because you resent Jared, you are trying to twist an important discussion to damage him further. Jared doesn't know you and never did anything against you yet you feel entitled to dehumanizing him.

Then there's this: The people who perpetuated these behaviors displayed them publicly as well, especially towards him, thus providing a horrible example for others to follow. If you really cared about resolving bullying you would know those were seriously damaging paradigms being disseminated online and encouraged. Those people felt entitled to tell others to end their existence and the reason this happened was because you chose to ignore it thinking "people are grown ups and they can defend themselves" and "that's a celebrity, I don't care". So you saw the very clear signs but ignored or encouraged. You enabled. Now you are trying to create drama centered on one of the victims instead of owning your part in all of that and working on ways to create healthier fandom experiences.

Let's look at this one:

"We can attack Jared haters(or Misha haters or Jensen haters) on any other day of the week" Not only is this person directly admitting to being no different than those perpetrators, she is actually saying that attacking is what they do on a daily basis. Is that supposed to be the normal response? To attack? So bullying is the solution to bullying? Since when? Since when has mobbing people become the norm? Behaviors can be addressed without even remotely attacking someone. If you've created vicious cycles where you gang up on each other then that's only going in one direction, the same one those cult girls had.

My point is, please gain awareness and focus on creating healthy paradigms rather than on victim shaming/blaming, attacking whoever you disapprove of (same pattern those cult girls had, silo mentality and one sided views) and stop enabling the people who created such a negative impact within fandom by allowing them to display disempowering behaviors. Stop feeding into negative patterns and starts building healthy ones. Change starts with you and, whether you are aware of it or not, your choices affect others.

It is truly heartbreaking how people can twist their love for a show into hating actors and other people instead of using that passion to connect with like minded souls and create beautiful experiences together.

i think that damijon 'pick your ship' poll is so funny bc the tags are just this

damijon.shipper: #im so proud of us! look how far we've made it!

other-person: #i dont even like the other ship #i just want damijon to lose #anyone who ships damijon should be cancelled

I've been playing FFXIV for a while. I've been a healer main in the game for a while. I am also a notoriously salty healer. And all I'm gonna say is this;

If you, a tank/DPS/co-healer/whatever, bully sprouts/first-timers because you're impatient and "this run is going too slow"

I will gladly let you die (⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴗ⁠ꈍ⁠)

As many times necessary until you stop being a twat.

You help a sprout grow with water and care, not salt and impatience. You want to do a run as fast as possible without worry of wipes? Queue with friends next time.

Anyways, worked on the conference paper today, I'll make like four more slides for the presentation and I think we'll be dandy

I promise I'm gonna write a longer piece about SSO's writing one of these days but before I do that, have this general tldr I just spawned because I was thinking about why I'm so fucking disappointed in Anne's character writing in particular (I have a lot of positive things to say about Anne's writing but I also have a lot of complaints about it)

I want this game to be interesting in execution, not just in concept

This entire game is so fucking well set-up and it's so interesting as a setting, and SSE are really good at introducing interesting conflict in the story but then doing fuck all with it (for many reasons, primarily what reads to me like not wanting to make the "good side", i.e the druids, but even more so the soul riders, "morally questionable") Biggest example being Anne not being allowed to go far enough in her character set-up of being disappointed in her situation (like her only being allowed to be disappointed, not pissed and angry and vengeful, she's just kinda miffed about it), like how when she runs away with the clover SSE has THE free-est fucking conflict ever, and they just do not go far enough with it because we can't have the soul riders disagreeing, and that's so fucking Boring and Frustrating, because so much of it is Right There but they NEVER ALLOW THEMSELVES TO DO ANYTHING WITH IT for so many reasons and it pisses me of

I hope when i write theres a gothic horror feel to it in some way. Now idk how, because what i know of gothic horror is Not the Actual Definition or specifics, just the vibe i feel reading Carmilla Dracula Frankenstein Edgar Allan Poe and Sarah Water's Fingersmith (which absolutely Hits as creepy as any of those). And then my only other references of That Vibe are Stephen King and Grady Hendrix, which aren't Quite that gothic vibe (whatever that is vaguely in my head) but are still creepy and offputting but in a more homey close inside you modern kind of way. And like even when I read Holly Black in high school it was that fucked up down to earth feeling of you're in a parking lot, and the broken beer bottles are in oil slick reflecting rainbows and something's beautiful, and off. You're in a city it's dark and you'll look to the shadows for danger, and something moves, and it could be a person or a shadow or a creature that doesn't exist but now it does, and you've accidentally slipped so far into the cracks you've found yourself in another world deep inside your own, and then cue to Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman where you discover a magic in the world off the grid, alongside ours. And I know at this point the trail has veered away from gothic horror. But there's this thread of the natural and the developed and the truth underneath and the unknown of it all. There's anne rice's vampire chronicles and how sometimes they read like historical fiction, just cities and places and points in time from a couple centuries to right now the modern and all, and its just theres the demons and the unknowable who dont even understand themselves, who are at once both at home in an old monster story in the wilds and in the city playing in a band, but either way the monsters are just as lost as any human in this big world and the mundane just as mysterious and lingering with pieces underneath as the supernatural. The line between realism and magic is thin, is a vague fog with no actual distinction, because whats real can be just as frightening and unknown, as enticing and lovely and might as well be magic, the magical just as lost as us and mundane and stuck in the grind of existence abd wondering what else is out there. And then? Theres this sense inside whatever narrators mind, maybe multiple, that even if there were clear definitions and understandings, the narrator is unable to see with a birds eye perspective. They are drowning in the muck as much as anyone, caught up in the world and the greater sprawl regardless of their understanding or not of it. Im not sure what to call that feeling, but i love it in stories.

this is what the next album will be called won't it /j

having thoughts about true bdsm couple. like……. one wants to be punished/craves release and the other craves control.

nicest people you’ll ever meet, but behind closed doors…..

I love making ocs because it’s like “and you’re going to be a vessel for this shitty aspect of my life and you’re going to be a vessel for this trauma and you’re going to be a vessel for this mental illness i have and-”

You can so...why don't you?

Please forgive me for the below rant, I just might cry if I'll see one more AA post that shows lack of balance and complete disregard of self and others over a ship or celebrity:

You can...choose real family and friends over fictional ships and celebrities.

You can...invest money in Yourself and your Dreams instead of going into debt over conventions.

You can...work on your self concept, image and body until you reach your desired state instead of blindly worshipping that celeb with the fitter body or whatever attribute you put on a pedestal (mental, physical, etc).

You can...choose role models that can uplift, inspire and guide you instead of worshipping z listers like Danneel who bring nothing of value to your life.

You can...invest in knowledge, mentors, collaborators instead of stalking celebrities.

You can...choose self worth and care instead of devaluing yourself over a celebrity's image (need I remind you they have entire teams of people who handle their body and image?)

You can set healthy boundaries and find resonance with real friends instead of mass bullying others who have different views over fandom faves and fandom related topics.

You can...choose to see your fav actor as a real human that has both good and bad aspects, just like you, instead of making up an unrealistic image with false expectations that will pull you into mania and other mental unbalances.

You can...use your admiration as inspiration to build your own dreams instead of choosing envy or jealousy.

You can...love your fav without hating the others. You can...give yourself permission to have your own views and allow other to do the same.

You can do all this and so much more but the question is: Will you?

I believe in you. Please believe in yourself. You are enough.

Fandom and art can inspire you but should never overshadow you or the gifts the Universe blessed you with.

just found out the cl*rgy (c*tholic) have rings. what the fuck are they? magical girls /j /lh

ok no you know what. yeah. the previous post is about aro/ace exclusionists, people who are elitists about "geek culture" and anime getting popular, terminally online fandom participants who gatekeep who is a "good" or "bad" fan of something, and various types of Christians. (not an exclusive list, but those are the things closest to me.) y'all SHOULD be overjoyed that you have people who love and support you. I know I am.

I really really want to be a cis guy in an action comic who gets to beat up bullies in HS or go on a revenge quest or try to become the best fighter or something T.T

this a bit late but I saw ur tags on that sp easter episode gifset "not my ass pulling a stan at the tender age of six" - I'm so curious what ur easter questioning origins were 👀

i was (…am?) a lil insane growing up, like ok, I have memories of telling everyone in my kindergarten class that santa wasn’t real and wouldn’t care if they cried, bc they HAD to know the truth like, how could santa deliver those gifts in one night? why does he only give gifts to kids in america/ with enough wealth? You can still love the specials, and the holiday, the characters of the santa mythos, but believing a lie told by adults just didn’t sit right with me. also bc my parents told me he wasn’t real lol. (listen. my mom grew up very very poor. My grandma told my tias and tio that Santa wasn’t real, and only existed for the gringos with money jfkfkfjf) so. yeah my religiously zealous ass is the preface for even more religiously zealous stuff

so I grew up as a conservative christian girl that read the bible like a storybook every night, but I also have memories of questioning everything, it drove everyone crazy. I would hound my pastors after service with new questions someone my age wouldn’t usually have? I knew they thought it was kinda annoying if not mildly cute but I needed answers for every goddamn thing. Easter traditions bein one of them 😅 Now, I was raised very traditionally, as in, we examined good friday and went to a long Easter service and then, that’s it. Eggs, Rabbits were worldly, and had nothing to do with Christ, and tbh the most my fam enjoyed was the after church carne asada and the trip to walmart the coming monday to get discounted candy to munch on thru summer lolol. But I asked my classmates and teachers at school like at what point did easter become abt eggs? so if you’re not christian then, what exactly are you celebrating? You’re just doing elaborate stuff to eat candy. what’s the true purpose of the bunny? where did this originate? and everyone was like, just paint ur damn plastic egg for class Cel, you’re 6. 😂😅

Well that’s done and over with and I’m completely sane now. Also I did not paint and properly prep my first easter egg and participate in an egg hunt until last year with some friends and it was cute lol.

sorry but i'm so delighted over how diaspora arabs have been realizing that turkey is very hostile towards them which is why many of them thought twice about going on vacation there and decided not to. take this as a lesson to NOT idealize a country to absurd amounts like the muslim diaspora loves doing with turkey

Every time I go on a dating app I feel hopeless -.-