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Hi! I hope you’re doing okay! And Congratulations on 300 followers!!🎉

I’d like to participate in your game if it’s possible, I reblogged, was already following, commented and liked❣️

My Yes/No question is, will my FS be from the same country as me? My initials are M.A and my favorite colors are Green, Pink, & White (I’m sorry I can’t choose😩 but if I absolutely had to, it would be Green🙄)

Thank you so much for this💓💓

Hi baby,

Alright I'm so sorry first of all I had to make you wait. I had to take a break, but here we begin, so let's go!

Alright with The World card I'd say yes. But here's the catch. Besides it I have V of Wands, now here's the thing. It straight away seemed to me that yes, this person will be from different ethnicity atleast and someone either from his or your family, a man, who is in quite control or is the breadwinner of the house won't agree with you two being together. I can't really tell who's side this is, maybe I'm being kept in confusion for a reason. But I clarified these V of wands, I wanted to know more. And guess what I got? Ofc the Emperor, The V of Swords, And Heirophant. The emperor is a 4, V of Swords and Heirophant are 5's and Then back of the deck I have 6 of Swords. 4, 5 and 6.. its progression here. Literally a story unfolding. Damn. Your energy is so smooth in this reading like cards back by so quick I couldn't even process. But here's how the story is unfolding.

You'll meet someone from different ethnicity or something, someone will not approve of this union, I cant get on whose side this is coming from but its most probably yours. I saw someone rich, maybe it's your future spouse. So they are quite well off. Ok this person, this man that I'm seeing that wont approve you guys most probably has issue with either of yous..background??. I heard risky. Maybe this man (or fatherly/authoritative figure/ someone masculine or has energy like that) thinks its risky for either of you's to be together. Let me clarify damn, yeah so I did hear illusion or paranoia, and then i asked clarified and I got 9 of wands, now that's something. I always saw this card as the anxious one and paranoid one being extremely guarded of something. This masculine figure is protective of you and have their paranoia hitting when it comes to this relationship. But here is the thing, the 9 of wands is in reverse, which still doesnt make it any better, I went to read the book for clarify on 9 of wands reverse and even the book claims it means obstacles etc. What's more interesting is that I saw some women only instigating more fire to the situation by talks. They maybe your from your family or something but this will only make this masculine figure to like look over you guys all the time and act nosy, like legit spy and is standing with the sword up to attack anytime they see something fishy, damn they really have trust issues not sure what caused it. I do see this ending up by you guys moving away with your family so that this person doesn't bug your relationship anymore. You might have a male child first, or the child will be a Leo or just has masculine energy. You might live surrounding the greenery, I see sunshines and greens. You'll live a good empress like life tho. But this authoritative figure is gonna cause lots of drama. So be patient and believe yourself and instincts!. Dont fall for others words but decide with yourself. Becaus you know the best and also trust your intuitions. Not sure how right this person will be with their constant suspicion of your partner but rather you stay careful with your eyes open. Nvm let me clarify eye. Ok 2 of cups fell many times but after that I also got 2 of Swords, you'll be confused for once. But decide with your heart and logic. Stay happy and healthy <3

Alright I think I've compensated both your readings in one!

#asks!🌙#300 special edition <3

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katerinafeddy-blog · 5 years

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Us and Them [Ilya Fedorovich]

Summary: Inspired by "Us and Them" by Pink Floyd. Ilya confesses his love to the reader and smut ensues.

Requested by: @72bread-pasta88

Us and Them

And after all we're only ordinary men.

The sky was incredibly beautiful that night. No matter how many fairy lights lit up the roof the stars still shone brighter. The weather was warm but not humid, there was a slight breeze coming from north. The wine in the bottle was waiting to be opened and poured in a nice antique glass and the record kept playing masterpieces.

The music from downstairs almost couldn't be heard and you were glad. You usually loved partying with your friends but today the mood was kinda off since work had been extra tiring this week and all you needed was to relax. So David helped you set up a way to a flat part of his roof after you suggested the idea.

What is even going on downstairs? You wondered as the beat of the loud music kept shaking the whole house.

"Hey" A soft voice caught you off guard, shaking you out of your thoughts. You didn't need to turn around to see who it was, however you did because getting to look at him was a blessing "I was just wondering how you were"

"Hi" You spoke, shyly scooting over so he could sit on the blanket with you "I'm good, how's the party going downstairs?"

"Actually? It's boring. You aren't there" His words affected you making the blood rush on your cheeks "I cant get drunk with you up here, what if you fall from the roof and I'm too fucked up to save you?" He joked earning a roll of your eyes.

"Idiot" You mumbled "Why am I always the one to pick up your drunk ass, remind me?"

"Because you are the only person who puts up with my shit without scolding me. Thank You for that by the way."

Me, and you

God only knows its not what we would choose to do

The record kept playing as you admired Ilya speak. He was telling you the story of a party where him and Dima got arrested for underaged drinking. It seriously sounds like them. But as he proceeded with the story you couldn't help but notice once more how hypnotic he actually was. You loved everything about him. His mesmerizing brown eyes and his heavenly soft, now long hair.

"I love this song" He announced, interrupting his own story. You squinted having not heard him being caught up in your mind"I love this song" He repeated once again as "Us and Them" by Pink Floyd was playing. He stood up and walked close to you offering you his hand "Wanna dance?"

You smirked and took his offering as he pulled you close to his chest and wrapped his arms around your waist as yours crept up to his shoulders.

His breath was so close to your neck as you moved to the beat of the music. The moment was perfect. You were in the arms of your love, the love you will always love. Dancing to the perfect song as he whispered the lyrics to your ears.

Forward he cried from the rear

And the front rank died

And the general sat, as the lines on the map moved from side to side

Black and Blue and who knows which is which and who is who.

"Y/N?" You sighed at the sound of your name coming from his mouth and you nodded removing your head from his chest to look straight into his eyes "I love you so fucking much"

"What do you mean Ils?" You asked as his palm cupped your jaw. His expression held so much love and adoration as pushed his forehead against yours. You knew exactly what he meant.

"I love you. I have for the longest of time, I'm so addicted to you" He explained "Its okay if you don't love me back, I just wanted you to know"

"I love you too Ilya. So much more than you'd ever know" You responded and he didn't waste no time at all. His lips were crashed to yours with so much emotion. So much passion. His hands were pulling him even closer to you know as the chorus of the song reverberated in the background.

You separated for a split second to breathe and instead of saying anything else, Ilya gripped the back of you neck, leaned forward and kissed you for a second time. Instantly you melted into him letting out all deep hidden feelings you kept safe in your heart.

Us and Them. Us.

Ilya's hands pushed under the hem of your shirt, still not touching you, just enough to feel the goosebumps rise on your skin "Are you sure?" He asked as you took a step back from him, removing your shirt and exposing yourself to him as you were left with only short shorts and your bra.

"I want this. I want you" You responded ever so softly and kindly as you leaned upwards to nip on his earlobe. He picked you up and gently laid you on the blanket on the ground, careful enough not to hurt you.

"Absolutely beautiful" He praised, almost enough to bring the color in your cheeks. However he wouldn't notice as he was busy sucking on your collarbone and his large hand moved over to your breast, softly skimming his thumb over your sensitive nipple, earning a quiet moan from you.

Once he was satisfied with the mark he had left on your chest, Ilya pulled away briefly to discard his shirt next to where yours had been abandoned on the floor, and immediately wrapped his arms around your waist and pressed your body tightly against his. You both needed skin to skin contact. Needed there to be nothing separating the two of you.

His fingers ached to touch you in your most intimate area between your legs and it was everything you needed in this moment. Ever so slowly he pushed his hand under your shorts and cupped it over your heat, still covered by your panties. He was happy and a little bit surprised to find that you were already soaking through the thin material. He rubbed you over your panties, causing you to bite down on your lip to contain any noise you might have let slip.

It wasn't long before Ilya just couldn't take it anymore and pulled your underwear and shorts off the way to be able and touch, see all of you.

"I love you" He whispered against your lips as he run his fingers down your folds, earning a soft gasp from you. His lips attacked yours before you could say it back but it didn't matter because he knew.

"Ilya please" You moaned as he was now rubbing circles over your clit, the pressure he was putting adding to your pleasure. Your hand grasped his arm and squeezed it as he sneaked a finger between your labia and pushed inside. Your back was arched and you couldn't form any words without letting a moan interrupt your sentence. "Ilya please I need you... I need all of you"

Ilya moaned when you raked your nails down his chest and stomach letting your hand reach the waistband of his jeans. You looked right into his eyes and he nodded, encouraging you to let him free of his restraints.

You were both completely naked for the first time in front of each other. Yet you felt safe. You trusted and loved Ilya with your whole life and heart. The moment was perfect.

Ilya crawled on top of you, holding himself up just enough so that his body was touching yours but he wasnt putting any of his weight on you.

With his lips pressed to yours in a kiss of true love he began sliding his length up and down your heat, coating himself with your wetness. You almost moaned just from that, just from feeling him against you. He took a moment to confirm that you still wanted this. That you still needed him and then he positioned himself at your entrance, burying his face in your neck. Slowly, he started inching his way inside. Ilya was so gentle with his movements.

You gasped when you took him all in. He was pretty big and stretched you out in the most delicious ways possible. You had expected Ilya to move right away but he didn't. He held himself in this position. Right at this moment Ilya decided he was at his favorite place to be. In the love of his life.

When he finally started to move he was slightly grinding against you, not necessarily teasing you, but offering the both of you a feeling of intimacy you both craved. He needed this to last longer. If he could he'd be there loving you for eternity.

"Mm" You hummed, unable to keep it in when he gave you a particularly hard thrust and sucked on your neck.

"Its okay baby" Ilya said when he heard the moan you tried to contain "Let me hear you"

Before you could respond Ilya pushed both of his arms back under you, pushing himself up so he was sitting on his knees and pulling you with him without ever allowing himself to slip out of you. From this new angle, Ilya was hitting parts of you he hadn't been before creating a whole new feeling inside of you.

"Oh Ilya" You sighed, wrapping your arms around his neck as he continued the relentless pounding into you, practically growling at the feeling. He left a good amount of hickeys on your neck, wanting to make sure everyone knew you were taken. Ilya was a jealous man, to say.

Your moans turned him on more than anything in the world could and your panting kept him going. He chased to feel you clenching against him. He needed you to come around him. He needed to feel you clenching your muscles around his length.

He was a goner the moment you pushed his hair that had fallen out of his ponytail out of his face, looking at him with such adoration and love when he settled you back in the ground, keeping his pace even.

"Fucking hell I love you so much" He whispered before kissing you with raw emotion you hadn't felt ever before. Ilya had your heart

"I love you too" You gasped before drawing out a long moan "Fuck, I love you so much Ils"

This wasn't just having sex. This was making love. When realization hit you, it sent your emotions into a frenzy and that along with your upcoming orgasm almost brought a tear to your eye. Ilya could tell you were close when he felt you clenching around him, but he had no idea what was going on in your mind.

"Ilya I-"

"I know baby, I can feel you. Let go for me princess. Let me see you fall apart for me" Ilya interjected before you could tell him you love him once again. Suddenly, your orgasm came. It was blinding, hot white pleasure from deep withing crawling its way to your whole way as you whined to your lovers ear that you loved him. Your release triggered Ilyas whose hands were gripping your waist and cheek.

"Can I come inside you?" Ilya begged, almost whining "Please baby" And you simply nodded (having been on the pill) as you were unable to form any kind of words. You cupped his face and pulled him close to you so you could kiss him. He whimpered against your lips as he spilled inside of you,collapsing against your chest.

Even if he knew that he was completely done he just opted staying inside of you a little longer, savoring the moment. However he turned you around so you would lay on his chest with him holding you against him tightly, pulling a blanket to cover the pair of you in case an intruder decided to interrupt your moment.

"Have I told you how much I love you?" He whispered, completely spent as you giggled "No I'm serious. I'm completely myself when it comes to you. Like the real, deep hidden me. You make me feel safe and I vow to myself to protect you until my dying breath. You are so precious. You are my baby" He mumbled, his voice soft and loving as he peppered your face with kisses.

"I love you more than you'd ever know" You hurried your head in his chest earning another kiss and a low chuckle that reverberated in his chest.

"Its right. The song. It's me and you after all"

Me and you. It doesn't sound bad at all.

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Briceson Ellis

Cognitive Dissonance Theory

This theory states that we experience mental discomfort (dissonance) when there are inconsistencies in our beliefs or a belief and an action. We seek to have consistency in our actions and beliefs, therefore dissonance is often reduced by changing the behavior or the cognition. This theory also tells us that there are multiple ways in which individuals deal with cognitive dissonance.

Background

Good Will Hunting is a movie centered around the life of the main character, Will Hunting. Will is a genius. He posses a level of intelligence that is greater than all the professors at his local college. Shockingly, he's not a student at this college, he is a janitor. Rather than pursuing where his talents could take him, Will spends his time getting into trouble in South Boston with his friends.

Will’s Cognitive Dissonance: Vulnerability & Self-Concept

The two main aspects that cause Will cognitive dissonance are his vulnerability and self-concept. In this post, I will examine how his cognitive dissonance is evident throughout the movie in the interpersonal relationships he possesses. How Will deals with this cognitive dissonance and how he attempts to resolve this dissonance will also be explored.

Vulnerability

Throughout the film, we see Will’s stout resistance in showing any transparency and vulnerability in his interpersonal relationships. This can be attributed to the fact that Will was an orphan, was severely abused, and has abandonment/trust issues. Because of these things, Will holds the belief that people are out to get him and him opening up will make him once again experience the pain he felt in his childhood. Therefore, Will pushes everyone away, with the exception of his three best friends. This causes him no cognitive dissonance because his beliefs and behavior are in harmony with each other.

Sean

Will finally meets his match after going through multiple court-appointed therapists. The other therapist appointed before Sean couldn't deal with Will’s games and defense mechanisms. To keep them at bay and preventing himself from opening up, Will would toy with them and waste their time. In his first few sessions with Sean, Will attempts the same games and mechanisms, but Sean refuses to fold like the others. This is when Will realizes Sean is different than the ones before. Sean understands and can break Will down in a way most people cant. Furthermore, there is a high degree of relatability between these two men as both are from the same hometown, and experienced similar childhood abuse. The more time they spend together and the more self-disclosure Sean engages in with Will, the more Will’s walls begin to crumble.

The crumbling of these walls and subsequent development of trust creates a lot of dissonance for Will. We know he believes in hiding his emotions and vulnerability, yet he also feels that he can trust and open up to Sean. This dissonance reaches a boiling point as the last of these walls give way during a session where Sean continually repeats to Wil “its not your fault”. Sean is referring to the abuse he was subjected to as a child and Will continues to repeat “I know”, brushing it off and continuing to hide behind his last wall. Sean continues to repeat the phrase and Wills’ eyes begin to swell with tears. It's in this moment that Will faces a showdown with his cognitive dissonance. He has his 20-year belief of showing no weakness and vulnerability to people on one shoulder and his new belief that he can be vulnerable with Sean because he trusts he won't hurt him. We see this is tough for him to choose as he looks at Sean and says “don't mess with me, not you Sean” as he physically pushes him back while also having tears in his eyes. The pushing him away and tears in his eyes can be viewed as physical representations of the two conflicting beliefs living inside of Will has.

Will pulls Sean in and the two embrace in a passionate hug where Will immediately begins sobbing. He has finally chosen between his two conflicting beliefs and brought harmony to his cognitive dissonance. All walls are gone as Will decides to change his cognition and lay completely vulnerable in Sean’s arms as he cries, letting out the emotions he's kept bottled up for so long.

Will’s Cognitive Dissonance Regarding His Self-Concept

The second of Will’s cognitive dissonance exists between conflicting views of how he views himself. For the majority of the film, we see Will display and act out the belief that he is shackled to the troubled, blue-collar, Boston life forever. He thinks he is deserving of this because of his abusive, orphaned, childhood. He makes this apart of his self-identity because this life is comfortable. Living this blue color delinquent life is a way for Will to keep his cognitive dissonance in harmony. It doesn't challenge him to grow and confront his conflicting views about his vulnerability and self-concept.

Cognitive Dissonance theory tells us that one way people reduce dissonance is justifying one of their inconsistencies. We see Will do this during one of his sessions with Sean. He is pressed by Sean on the subject of what he wants to do for a living. Sean tells WIll he could be doing anything in the world he wants and he's settling for jobs like laying brick. Will realizes, in his head, that Sean is right and this causes him dissonance. In response to feeling this dissonance, Will lashes out at Sean “what's wrong with laying brick? That's someone’s home I'm building, that's a living to be proud of”. While Will is not wrong, given Will’s gift of intelligence, its not a job Will should be doing by any means.

Will tells Sean there is nothing wrong with laying brick and working as a janitor because there is honor in these professions. But we know Will isn't doing janitorial work because of the honor embodied in such work. No, Will is working as a janitor because it allows him to address his second conflicting view within his self-concept.

Will holds another belief believe about himself, one where he believes he can do great things and there is more to life than the small-minded, comfortable, reality he is living out in Boston. Will doesn't just work as any janitor. He is a janitor at the number one technical college in the world. This position allows him to stay close to the feeling of what his life could be if he confronted the dissonance in his mindset and applied his gift. The books Will reads and the things he studies are consistent with that of a scholarly student, not a janitor. This is another sign of dissonance that calls his first belief into doubt. If he was satisfied with the life of a janitor and didn't think he could be anything greater, why does he study and read things most janitors never think to read? This leads us to another example of inconsistency in Will’s beliefs. This is evident by how at night he solves equations on the boards. No other student at the school can solve these equations, much less any janitor. The interesting thing about Will solving the equations is that he wants no credit for it. When he is caught solving the equation he cusses at the professor and runs. This is another attempt by Will to avoid dealing with any cognitive dissonance. He knows if he gets credit for the equation, they will expect more and more from him. He will be brought into the light where he is vulnerable and will no longer be able to live the complacent, comfortable life he currently lives. This will force him to confront the fact that his first belief is wrong, and resolving dissonance, as we know, isn't always easy.

Skylar

We see both subjects of which Will has cognitive dissonance about play out in his relationship with his girlfriend Skylar. Wills conflicting views about vulnerability and his self-concept causes the relationship to crash and burn. Skylar wants to know and love Will, in order to get to know him better she pokes and prods in an attempt to get him to open up. Similarly to how Will begins to experience dissonance with Sean because he begins to trust him, the same starts to happen with Skylar. Yet Will doesn't have the same positive breakthrough in cognition that he did with Sean with Skylar. Instead, his belief that his childhood abuse defines his self-concept and that he isn't worthy of love causes him to shatter the relationship. His fears of vulnerability cause him to think Skylar has ulterior motives in her pursuit of him. He believes Skylar just wants to have a fling with a member of the lower class, instead of believing she loves him for him.

Applying what we know about cognitive dissonance theory we can get a better understanding of why Will had this reaction to Skylar. We as humans, according to the theory, don't like dealing with challenges to our cognitions and Skylar presents a large challenge for Will. It's easier for him to act in harmony with his belief that Skylar is out to prey on his vulnerability and inconceivable of loving him, than for him to believe her about her true intentions. Seeing her for her true intentions would require Will to move to resolve his resulting cognitive dissonance, a much more difficult thought to battle with.

Chuckie

Chuckie represents that closest friend all of us have. We can say we have 5 best friends and we love all of them equally, but when push comes to shove we know who fills the number one spot.

In the final confrontation of Will’s cognitive dissonance before he acts to resolve it, we see Chuckie challenge his cognition at their blue-collar job. Chuckie questions him about the high-level job interviews Will has lined up, jobs that include possibly working at top levels of the U.S. government. Will trivializes the job opportunities with words like “If I work for them ill be doing long division the rest of my life, ill be a lab rat.” Will trivializing the job opportunities is a way for him to deal with the dissonance he is feeling as a result of Chuckie forcing him to confront his conflicting cognitions. If Will downplays the opportunities he can live in harmony with his cognitions and behaviors as he works construction day in and day out. Wills final attempt to avoid confronting the dissonance he is feeling is his line of “you don't know that”. This is the last gasp Will can muster up to launch his final opposition in hopes of preserving his negative cognitions about his self-concept. But it isn't enough as Chuckie delivers the final blow that forces will to act to resolve his dissonance.

The final blow Chuckie delivers is in the words above he says to Will. These are the words that are the final straw forcing Will to confront his cognitions and stop suppressing them. Chuckie is one of the few, if not the only person, Will trusts. Which is why Chuckie saying such a harsh reality is the eye-opener for Will. He dealt with his cognitive dissonance from everyone else by just blowing it off and saying they don't get him. But he can't deny the words of Chuckie, Chuckie knows him better than anyone. Chuckie’s words outline his belief in the cognition Will has inside of him, that he can be great, not the cognition Will shows, which is he is satisfied and can't do better than his current life.

Resolving His Cognitive Dissonance

At the end of Good Will Hunting, we finally see Will resolve both aspects of his cognitive dissonance. He decides to go visit Skylar in California. This is behavior that we wouldn't have expected from him when we saw the breakup in her room. This is evidence of a change in Will’s cognitions. Through his trust and therapy with Sean, he is able to give Skylar a chance. He now holds the cognition of openness and not so fearful of vulnerability.

The second resolving of Will’s dissonance is evident by him fulfilling the destiny of Chuckie’s “best part of my day” speech. Will finally leaves Boston on the exact terms Chuckie said. No good by, no see you later, just gone. This is something we wouldn't have predicted of Will earlier in the film, given our knowledge of his negative self-concept cognition. Will replaces this cognition with the belief in himself and his potential. Will no longer seeks to hide behind the comfort of his underachieving life, instead with his new cognition he begins to engage in new behavior.

Summary

In the movie Good Will Hunting, we see how Will dealt with two significant aspects of cognitive dissonance in his life. We analyzed how he was brought to challenge and eventually resolve his cognitive dissonance through his interpersonal relationships with Sean, Skylar, and Chuckie.

His first aspect of cognitive dissonance is inconsistent views about his vulnerability. We see this dissonance causes him exponential interpersonal relationship turmoil. He has believed for years that he shouldn't let anyone in and be transparent in his relationships because it will make him vulnerable. This vulnerability has burned him already once before when he was a child. Will experiences dissonance as he finds himself developing trust for Sean and Skylar, this calls into question his vulnerability cognition.

Wills second major aspect of cognitive dissonance is his struggle with inconsistent thoughts and beliefs about his self-concept. He allows his childhood and past experiences to be proof that the complacent underachieving life he currently lives is one he was meant for. He actively tries to stay away from anything that will cause him to challenge his beliefs about himself. Yet, on the other hand, Will knows he has a gift and that he isn't using it, and could be living a much better, more meaningful life if he applied himself.

At the end of the film, Will finally resolves both of his cognitive dissonance issues. He decides to change his cognitions about vulnerability and his self-concept. His vulnerability and negative self-concept cognitions have been replaced by more positive cognitions. Will is more open to the idea of opening up in his relationships and hold a more positive self-concept about himself. This is something that can be predicted by the cognitive dissonance theory. Within the three typical ways to resolve dissonance, Will resolved his by changing his cognitions.

He finally leaves Boston to go see Skylar. This shows that he is no longer scared of being vulnerable and no longer has a belief about himself that someone shouldn't love him. This also speaks to a change in his cognition about his negative self-concept. He leaves Boston, escaping the comfort he's resided in for years so he can go apply himself in the way Sean and Chuckie challenge him to. Will finally gives into his cognition that he can be much more than just a janitor and he is deserving of Skylar's love. Will has spent his whole life running from and protecting himself from anything that challenges him and causes him dissonance. With the help of three challenging interpersonal relationships, WIll has been able to resolve his dissonance and take on the world with new cognitions.

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