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davechat · 2 years

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straight trans people exist y'all

#i am not a straight trans person i'm just tired of seeing straight trans people comment on queer posts and be immediately shit on for it #/ being lumped in w cishets in ''all straight people are bad''-esque posts #mae.chat #dave.chatting #tag.chatting

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this-is-exorsexism · 1 month

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exorsexism is being bigender and being tired of people trying to shove me back into a dichotomy.

why do you want me to pick between "trans" and "cis" when i fit both descriptions? why do you want me to pick between "masculine" and "feminine", especially if you're going to make me use transitioning terminology, when I am moving towards both in a distinctly queer way. I've yet to see any argument against transmascfem / transfemmasc and transandrogynous people that isn't exorsexist, intersexist, and assumes so much about my body/life/childhood/hormones/chromosomes/and so much essentialist bs like that.

I am tired of people telling me I must be neutral, I am not neutral or even nonbinary. I am both points on the binary and I am shattering it. I am uniting the masculine and the feminine, the male and the female.

Then to have people tell me I can't label my orientation because I am both? Can't be gay because I'm also a lady, ignore my fiance and my whole teen history I guess, can't use Uranic because it's a "divisive microlabel", can't call myself "Straight" because it's internalized.... something, can't combine any existing labels because that's "nonsense". I just want to love men, and I've found one who can love both of me and all of me. I won't pretend to be Mspec for your comfort. Why can't you love me like he does?

I am tired of people telling me I have no orientation by policing me out of any and all language I try to use. Can't be aspec either, or they can't fetishize me as a bigendered trans person (and we can't have that). (sarcasm)

Exorsexism is coming out and feeling the same pressure from your queer siblings that you feel from the "outside". Exorsexism is wondering if you should just lie about who you are and who you love to your "community", because I don't know if I can stand getting shoved in the closet again. I don't care how pretty or progressive your language is while you tell me why it's bad for me to be Bigender, because we have to uphold THIS binary, THIS dichotomy, or everything will collapse and it'll all be MY fault for being greedy and not "choosing a side".

This is exorsexism and I'm sick of it.

this is exorsexism.

#exorsexism #this is exorsexism #bigender

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punkeropercyjackson · 4 months

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I'm making sure Percy Jackson beats the skater boy allegations by 2024.I'm sick and tired of seeing posts saying he is one canonically with like a bajillion notes because it happens so often when A)Him skating was referenced literally once in a 10 part saga where he was an mc for 9/10 of it and it was in the second book of the og series,when he was 13 and that came out over a decade ago,B)Piper saying he looks like one is actually proof he ISN'T because a big point of Percy's character is that he's not what most people percieve him as upon first meeting him and C)He dosen't 'act like a skater' because skating is a fucking sport,not a personality trait.Percy acts,thinks and looks like a PUNK and i don't mean what y'all think makes a character punk because you can't read books that aren't Harry Potter or watch videos that aren't shitposts or racist,i mean HOBIE BROWN punk.And no,grunge and punk are not synonymous-And Percy canonically dresses normally but i digress-since grunge is an aesthetic while punk is a historical subculture and a political movement that Percy canonically fits all the requirements for by being anti-authority,fighting corruption,playing a parental role/older sibling to young queer kids(Nico)and poc(Hazel),respecting all minorities and fitting outside of society's box of what 'normal' is.Not only is Percy not a skater boy but i doubt they're even fully a boy or straight up just a (trans) girl and i've read the books so many times i'm pretty sure i know them better than Rick himself-That was meant to be about the stories but it sounded like i meant Percy and hey if the shoe fits.But back on topic,i am BEGGING y'all to cut the 'he was a skater boy' shit out,Percy's not NEARLY enough of a normal guy* for that to be in-character and i know Logan messed up peoples perception of what he's actually like big time but Walker is fixing it and we need to put some respect on his and book!Percy's name

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cisgenderedcentaur · 2 years

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I see thing like this and I struggle to believe this person isn't seriously misinformed or just straight up lying.

[ID: screenshot of tumblr tags. It reads:

#ive seen other trans men talking about transmisandry and it is SO stupid #like oh my god i PROMISE you trans women aren't your oppressors #like let's say there's a discussion cis women are having about misogyny #and a cis man sees that and goes WHAT ABOUT MEN #would that not be kinda fucked up? why is this any different

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I've seen this kind of sentiment passed around and normally I just leave it alone but goddamn am I tired of endlessly explaining to people who refuse to listen. The situation is not similar to a cis man taking up space in a cis woman's conversation about misogyny because TRANS MEN ARE EXPLICIT TARGETS OF MISOGYNY. we are not saying that trans women oppress us. we are saying that making claims about trans men having access to patriarchal oppression force is out of touch with reality.

People take this *extremely* binary black and white "men oppressor women oppressed" and just slap it wholesale onto trans people. trans women are oppressed. trans men are *also* oppressed. by the same systems! by cis people! there's not a mechanism for meaningful oppression within the community based on gender alone.

And the worst part is that it's an easy claim to make. "trans men are men so must have oppressive force" is an *easy* claim to convince people with if they're ignorant about the discussion at hand. clearly even other trans people struggle to wrap their head around the concept that patriarchy does not reward trans men for being men.

it's frustrating and I'm tired.

#talk tag tbd #transandrophobia #i am purposefully leaving the ops name off these tags do not be weird to them or me about it

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glitched-dawn · 2 months

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I don't want to flex or anything at all, rather get rid of praise, but I've been told by a few people online and in real life (and an author on an assignment I made that wasn't even on my novels lol) that my writing is extremely good, and I've only given snippets and scenes to them. One guy even told me I could be the next Tolkien, and holy shit that is some uplifting praise, but I'll settle on people just knowing that I'm the one who wrote that little series. That's enough for me.

But the thing is. If I do blow up, whether that be like Rick Riordan, John Green, Susanne Collins or anything in between, I am going to get so much fucking backlash.

See, I purposefully make my novel series insanely diverse. Both with color, sexuality and gender, mental illness and fantasy races.

There's like. A total of three straight couples in the series. The entire main cast is queer, both in sexuality and gender, and most of the side characters are queer too. Not to talk about diversity - even though a big part of them look white, they are from all over the world, and I swear to fucking god if someone dares to turn the novels into movies without the characters' accents I am personally going to lobotomize you

Anyways. There's a lot of representation and diversity. So imagine the fucking backlash I'd get from TERFs and homophobes, not to talk about transphobes, as me and one of the main characters are trans! (I stole my name from him lol :3)

All I'm worrying about it people hypersexualizing stuff, for example onne of the main characters and the main-main character are both on the aspec, and the main-mc has explicitly told the audience (through my written words) that he is fucking tired of people hypersexualizing him, as he's handsome as shit, but his whole thing is that it doesn't matter if someone is the most wonderful person ever on the outside, they can be fucked up beyond humanity on the inside.

So let's go I want this to blow up now lol I wanna see the bigots burn

#writeblr #writing #my writing #wip #writers on tumblr #writers #writing inspiration #authors #author #my novels #novel #novel series

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bumpingbees · 3 months

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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I'm probably too tired/stoned for this and I have absolutely no idea why you sent me this anon.

But first of all, I personally believe that 90% of the population is bi/pan/poly/omni etc. Because almost all of us have an exception if we say we're only straight or gay. And the fact is, nonbinary and trans people exist. It's very hard to say "I am not attracted to any person outside of one specific gender" when you might be a straight woman say and see a masc presenting person who identifies as nonbinary. Well, congrats, you're not just attracted to cis men anymore. There are so many people we just haven't seen that we could be attracted to or not.

But also this goes for allo people. There are, of course, asexual/aromantic people who just don't experience attraction at all. I'm one of those people. I'm not sex repulsed, but honestly, I don't understand primary attraction to begin with. I've never looked at someone and immediately found them sexually appealing (though I can appreciate aesthetic from a back burner view if that makes sense.)

Seriously, anon, why did you pick an autistic agender asexual guy to make this question out to? Also I think the best way to answer your original question, some people just prefer dicks or vaginas or butts or mouths or nothing (etc.)

As Princess Bubblegum once said:

#anon ask #i know a lot of people don't view this the same way #thats okay #sexuality is a spectrum #humans are weird #just let people enjoy things #i'm high #and tired #please ask for clarification before judging #and I'm open to hearing how other people view this question #princess bubblegum #adventure time

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transenbyconfessions · 10 months

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my hot take this wonderful pride season is that we should start genuinely celebrating cis, straight, and allo identities. even white/western and christian cultures, idk.

"why on earth would you say this during pride month" i can hear you asking (rhetorically). and the answer is simple. i am fucking sick and tired of being an Exception. i want to raze default expectations to the ground. being cis is just as unique and diverse as being trans. i want cis people to OWN their gender, to go "hell fucking yeah I'm a woman cause i feel it in my bones and I'm proud and I'm happy with my body and I feel so nice in swishy skirts". i wanna hear straight people explaining what it feels like to fall in love with another gender, as if we've never even heard of that kind of attraction before. i want a christian to give me a tldr rundown of what Christmas is and why it's important to them as if they're the token Christian at their workplace and not like, one person from a dominant religion in this country.

this pride, i don't want only the minorites to have to earn their pride. i wanna hear all the details that make cis and straight and allo people happy with their identities, too. i want to hear people's stories with no assumptions about what is or is not a "basic" part of the human condition. i want to hear about trans men embracing their patchy facial hair right alongside cis men that are celebrating their balding. i wanna see the aspecs talking about their unique attraction styles alongside the allos talking about how important their own attraction is to them. i wanna see the agenders hanging out and wishing their funky gendered friends luck with their presentation, i wanna see..... community between the queer and the normative. i wanna flip the norms on their head and make them explain and celebrate themselves.

Submitted June 14, 2023

#transgender #trans #enby #nb #nonbinary #non-binary #non binary #pride #queer

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redditreceipts · 4 months

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One thing that was always a ... idk ... something that should have made me "peak" but didn't quite yet was how we were not allowed to talk about sexuality as attraction to sex. I'd see ridiculous arguments from ppl saying, "well, you don't know what's in someone's pants so how can you say you're attracted to sex?" As if secondary sex characteristics aren't a thing and as if you can in anyway perceive what someone's internal gender is. Like wtf are ppl saying when they say sexual orientation is attraction to gender??? And I was and am still sort of fine with ppl labeling their sexuality that way. But it is infuriating how we can't even define ourselves by our sex and our sexuality as an attraction to sex without being "transphobic."

And I'm tired of seeing lesbians being told they're actually bisexual because they're attracted to a non-passing trans dude.

It's so infuriating. Anyway, sorry but I might be using your inbox as just a space to vent these years long suppressed frustrations. I'm that lesbian anon that sent that long ask a little while ago about being frustrated with trans ideology. I really appreciated your response and I'll be sure to check out Julie Bindel.

thank you!!

and yeah, the entire attraction thing is so stupid. Like, I know that we shouldn't objectify people, but biology plays a very important role in sexuality. you could even say that it is one of the driving forces of human evolution, and I know that many people don't want to hear it because they like to imagine that their partner is only attracted to their personality and not their bodies. but that's just not the world we live in.

also, how the fuck are you supposed to know what someone identifies as?? imagine your girlfriend started identifying as a man during sex and that would make you bisexual for the time being.

my first partner was a trans man who had not started transitioning as well. it was kinda weird because for me, I had had a homosexual experience, but I wasn't allowed to talk about it because we were a "straight" couple lmao. it really made me upset at that moment, but only years later I understand why it was so weird to me: my ability to express what I experienced was taken from me.

I get what you mean. but no, you are not bisexual because you find trans men attractive before they transition. I mean, what the fuck? do these people even hear themselves?? by that logic, everyone would be bisexual lmao

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swampgallows · 27 days

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i straight up get violent now when i hear people say "post covid". covid has completely fucked up my life and career. it's kept me from getting the medical care i need because even healthcare facilities won't take precautions anymore, leading to a threat of being infected on top of my original problems.

it has permanently fucked up the lives of some of my closest friends. my best friend was infected for the third fucking time last week; he takes every precaution imaginable, even getting his groceries delivered, but was infected by the person preparing his fucking taxes. another of my best friends now needs an inhaler and walking stick and isn't even 30 yet. yet another close friend most likely has long covid, suffering short term memory problems and a chronic chest cough despite normal xrays. another friend has lost over a dozen family members since the pandemic began, with his father, brother, and uncle all passing away in December 2020.

i want to say that people who reflexively knee jerk say "covid is over" are living in a bubble, but i think the more accurate reality is that they've forced people like me and my friends to live in a gutter.

i can't write any more. I'm so fucking tired of having to be angry about this. i am in a really bad place mental health wise and wish i could go get help but i can't imagine anywhere more likely to catch covid than a ward, save for an actual covid wing of a hospital.

if i get covid, i could die. i have a blood disorder that already impairs my iron and clotting and oxygen levels, and a single infection of covid could result in a stroke. if i don't die of stroke, it could disable me for life. if i don't have a stroke, i could still get a clot that leads to pulmonary embolism. or i could just be saddled with long covid or chronic fatigue as my anemia disables me. this is the risk i face every single time i go out in public. any encounter could kill or disable me. and it is me against literally the entire world. i am told over and over that me and my friends are not worth protecting, that we're expendable, that we're "those people" who would have died of something anyway. we have mental illness, or chronic illness, or are trans, or people of color, or even a combination of these things, so society is fine isolating and killing us.

this is all ive had to think about as ive watched it be reinforced by everyone -- friends, family, communities, leaders -- for the past four years. every waking moment spent in hypervigilance and exhaustion and depression, mourning the life i had, the present life i could be having, the future i want being withheld from me. mourning, and yet still not having the space or time to grieve, because it is still going on. it is still happening. there are still thousands of deaths a week, and that's nothing to say of who is becoming disabled.

i just want to breathe air. in public. i want to be able to access healthcare without the threat of being infected. i want to go outside. i want to be able to get a job where i don't have to fear that my coworkers or the general public can literally kill me in complete ignorance. i want being in public to not require a particulate respirator.

i am sick of being told that these requests are unreasonable and that i might as well just die because infection is inevitable. at this point it's a race to see if my misery will kill me before covid does.

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incarnateirony · 1 year

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It's kind of a sad statement of the LGBTQ community's fakeness and digital structure online when the only person I've been able to openly talk out my trans bullshit with is my het dude military buddy, and trust me, what I rage about would get me hung online by people with agendas, but I have a feeling they're things other old queer people sit on while we stare at this digital shithole making us all look like clowns.

On the other hand, it's particularly affirming when the same issues I deal with are things that set him off on Manrants.

Like listen, I already had to accept the terrible string of "i am a straight man" in order. Like man, do you know how long i clung to he/him lesbian and just avoided talking about what I can only call Phallic Issues?

Cuz there's not even anywhere to talk about it. For one it's difficult and often inappropriate and for two, a bunch of digital goblins that aren't looking to Pass As A Life They Live, but rather Stick Out In Digital Arguments With A Rainbow Label have made this fucking conversation ungoddamn navigable to the people it was actually originally about. There's some bored person with 2.5 kids who's husband still hasn't found their clit trying to figure out their sexuality coming in fucking up literal like neuroscience and other dialogue because, how dare the *straight man be here at all, much less like, talk about sexual shit. People can't do that, that's illegal.

So where am I left going? Literally to my dudebros, that say all kinds of shit I generally don't even agree with politically, but they're the only motherfuckers who haven't set up so many fake social justice fences based on their own personal garbage comfort demands so I can literally go, no. Can you believe these dipshits want me to explain like they're five what happens inside a man's head?

And they be like nah man that's a trap the second you breathe a word about it you're cancelled.

Yeah, no shit.

Honestly I'm tired of so many things. I mentioned recently that coming out as a trans straight guy is a trap. You're man enough to be the token straight punching bag, but not enough for your perspective to be considered in conversations, without being grilled to justify Basic Truths until you have to say some shit someone can act offended about. And boy are the terfs pissed and happy to blow them dogwhistles on us

God i'm tired

it's not the gamerdudes on reddit driving up the trans suicide rate. it's you assholes. They genuinely Do Not Care if you identify as attack helicopters. They don't. They don't care I'm a dude. They were basically like yeah what about it you've always been dudegirl that's whatever dude. It's this digital shithole that turns it into a whole goddamn ceremony fused with astrophysics.

I'd rather hang out with dudes I've known for 20 years that occasionally fuck up a pronoun by force of habit and actually laugh at how it looks/sounds now, than deal with you assholes acting like i skinned your child because I didn't read a 3 page Carrd about your narcissism or people who decide every convo is a chance to proselytize their own personal label's struggle.

And that says nothing about the fact that people have set up this conversation so we can't even address that YES, THERE ARE FAKERS. Are trans people dangerous, no. Are narcissists that can play boggle with gender arguments dangerous? Yes.

Think about 2po. I still call him him, because his friends, like his pal snotrag that doxxed my friend with him, even still calls him pat. But see, when he went viral as a proven fail and everybody was talking about pat, suddenly, pat had a gender discovery and was they/them will. Nevermind the more masculine name and that the person was initially a cis man, I guess they had a deep come to jesus moment and deeply identified as the Fail Gender. I guess that script blast was so hard it knocked the he/him right off of them. Considering the pepe memes his buddy uses, I wouldn't be surprised if 2po logs onto his personal to psot attack helicopter jokes and laugh at this godforsaken shithole.

(That's not to say all they/them nb is invalid either before some titanic dickhead proves the real point of this whole post and the need to add constant asterisks to avoid some shitheaded bored kid seeking attention starting a fight)

People only make the bad, dead, beat out joke at our expense because of the people that make us look like fucking comedy with their weird bullshit. Stop it.

But sure keep hyper obsessively segregating us into microlabels and pretending it's helping trans people or breaking down gender roles or what the fuck ever.

Yeah them microlabels are decent ways to describe facets of human sexual potential, and can/should be tools to help you sort your head out. But my bio shouldn't have to look like an ingredient label on processed food to engage in this conversation. It's not fucking complicated, Karen. If you have to do that many goddamn backflips to argue your way into this conversation maybe stay the fuck out of it.

Just because it's true that you don't need active dysphoria to be trans (and sometimes almost have Triggers specific to things like, I dunno, sexuality) doesn't mean it gets to be the jungle gym of every fucking teenager on the internet trying to figure out their general identity, and stop trying to call my still untransitioned trans ass a terf or a truscum for it, you fucking terfs. Stop flipping this shit around.

Literally if you look at twitter/tumblr, 50% of the world is trans. And while that's a charming thought for a dialogue about the repressed minority or the truth of Gender or whatever the fuck, in the real world, less than 1% identify, and those of us that exist in real world queer spaces might GENEROUSLY estimate maybe 5%? like cap? If I took 95% of you motherfuckers, unplugged your internet and dropped you in the Appalachians, you probably wouldn't be trans or care about trans issues by the time you stumbled out. But that's the life some of us have actually been through, so stop shitting on the mountain trail, it's rough enough out here.

Most of you are logging off to your 2.5 kids and husband anyway. Don't call me a biphobe for it. By all means sweetie go figure your shit out, fuck up and out whatever storm with whomever you want, go figure out your bullshit, but stop trying to make your bullshit the communal bullshit. We fucking get it. You got to the party late and your shit still has you uncomfortable. Stop trying to take over the fucking party, your music choice sucks. Back to the hetero world with you.

But most of you never will. You're never gonna pursue it. You're just gonna fuck around in our conversation to try to actually make it to conform to you, which somehow always makes the hets and terfs the dominant force on this conversation under all the screaming noise. You won't LET it impact your lives the way it has those that have lived experiences, you try to make US clean up and sterilize OURS. Lived experiences also doesn't mean Have Already Fucked And Found Out, and if you even thought that argument, disqualify yourself from ever speaking on this again, because you clearly aren't even vaguely in touch with the queer experience, you're in touch with the Seeking A Place To Belong experience. It's adjacent, but not the same.

Realistically, 99% of the supposed digital queer community are, at best, Questioning, and using digital personas to fuck around and find out. The fucking LGBTQ conversation has been just. utterly hijacked and clowned unto itself by people Questioning, but not willing to ask the hard parts, and demand those uncomfy parts stay away from their LARP.

Hard pass.

#lgbtq #trans

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wc-confessions · 1 year

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using a new blank blog to send this confession bc anon is off and I don't want to associate this with my main blog, but also I'm sick and tired of this and I just want to get it off my chest.

I am VERY ready to get sent threats for this, but I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE when Warriors rewrites/aus make Brambleclaw/star evil or just bash Brambleclaw/star endlessly. I KNOW he's an abusive dickwad and I DO NOT condone his actions in the SLIGHTEST. But he was still my one of my favorite characters of all time as a kid - I'd even go so far as to say he was my comfort character. (That's not the case any more obviously.) The Darkest Hour was my first ever WC book and I adored Bramblepaw standing up to Tigerstar, and his determination to become better than his father ever was. I loved how he was flawed in TNP but still knew where his morals lay in the end. I loved his relationship with the Three in POT. I was so excited to see him become leader in OOTS, but now I wish he never became leader, because I can barely even recognize Bramble now. This isn't the Bramblepaw/claw I grew up with and adored so much, and I despise the Erins for what they did to him.

But back to my main point - I also despise when Warriors rewrites/aus make it seem like Bramblestar was always evil, like he was always an abusive cocksack, because THAT LITERALLY WAS NOT THE POINT OF HIS CHARACTER. The point of his character, and the reason why I loved him, was that he was someone who rejected his evil family and always strove for good. I assume that a lot of these rewrites and AUs were made by people who joined the fandom when they were younger and have only known Dickmuncher Bramblestar, but it still hurts. I also have autism and RSD and am a hyper empath, which of course makes the hurt feel that much worse, as it just feels like they're ignoring the point of Bramble's character, just like the Erins.

And don't get me STARTED on the people who villanize Brambleclaw in TNP rewrites only to turn around and make Crowfeather, Ashfur, or Hawkfrost the heroes and the Squirrelflight love interest. THAT IS LITERALLY STRAIGHT UP CHARACTER/SHIP FAVORITISM AT THIS POINT! AND IT'S HYPOCRITICAL AS FUCK TOO! ALL THREE OF THOSE CHARACTERS ARE JUST AS BAD AS MODERN BRAMBLESTAR. ACTUALLY, NO, FUCK IT, I'M JUST GOING TO SAY IT: CROWFEATHER AND ASHFUR ARE WORSE THAN MODERN BRAMBLESTAR! Even as a kid I MUCH preferred the bantery friendship Brambleclaw and Squirrelpaw had over their romance, and in my WC reimagining I see them as queerplatonic partners (with Bramblestar being gay and with either an equally reworked Ashfur or with Stormfur, and Squirrelflight as a trans MTF asexual lesbian with Jessy, or as just straight up a single girlboss), but like BREAKING NEWS: YOU CAN PREFER ONE ROMANTIC PARTNER FOR A CHARACTER WITHOUT DEMONIZING THE OTHER(S)!!!! HAVE THOSE PEOPLE EVER HEARD OF RON THE DEATH EATHER??????????? OR DRACO IN LEATHER PANTS???????????????????????

VERY sorry for how long this got, and if it got a bit personal at points, I just REALLY needed to get this off my chest. Now if you excuse me, I'll be in the corner reading rewrite/au fanfics of the himbo cinnamon roll nursery dad never-becomes-leader Brambleclaw who endlessly supports his QUEERPLATONIC PARTNER/BESTIE Squirrelflight/star that the Erins SHOULD have given us in canon :D

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#confession #text #rainycoffeedragon #long post #warriors #warrior cats #wc #bramblestar #ask to tag

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bloodcrosses · 2 years

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Since the coward who wrote this tripe has blocked me, I'll just write my response here.

We are finished? Women are finished because some of them made a choice regarding a contentious legal case that, no matter how much you insist otherwise, was not as straight forward as you would like to believe? What utter, offensive nonsense.

I expect that kind of shit from incels. Literally, this is the kind of benny they throw over women liking bad boys. Congrats on being just as misogynistic as...well, as misogynists.

I also notice how you interestingly cherry pick which evidence is believable. Johnny Depp on a hospital gurney with blatant injuries like cigarette burns on his face? No mention. A rape claim with no physical evidence when it would have cause horrendous internal injuries? Totally true. A woman on tape withholding medication from a guy trying to detox from painkillers (as an addict, I can tell you straight up that is fucking torture)? Apparently you didn't hear that. Or you refused to hear it.

I'm not even going to get in to the sexist shit about how the only reason anyone would defend a guy is because he's a "dilf" and a woobie and clearly women are too stupid to see past good looks (again, congrats on being just as misogynistic as your average MRA) because I'm tired and this rpant is long enough already. But I will say this: I don't think Johnny Depp was 100% innocent. He admitted grabbing Amber by the neck, so there's no question some of this violence was mutual. Toxic relationships happen, and rarely are they just one sided. That's not the point.

My point is: I'm sick of women being expected to fall into whatever line certain "feminists" expect us too. I am a feminist. I will always be one. But feminism as it stands these days has become fascist. I've been called a handmaiden for supporting trans people, banned from r/UnresolvedMysteries for standing up to TERFs, been condescended to by men who think of themselves enlightened because I disagreed over a fucking movie, been harassed for liking another movie, been insulted for noting my personal experiences with an actor that feminists on Tumblr couldn't bear to hear anything bad about, and the list goes on.

To me, feminism should be about being your own person, refusing to conform to society's strict gender roles. Somehow, feminism became the very thing it was supposed to be against. It's one thing to act a fool like Hadley Freeman and constantly insist Woody Allen did nothing wrong (she's free to like his movies all she likes, but come on) but quite another to piss on someone for loving Chris Nolan movies (which happens to me a lot).

Feminism needs to take a fucking long, hard look at itself. Because if you declare women are done for thinking differently than you, you are a fascist. No ifs, ands or buts.

#Feminism #Disappointed #Johnny Depp #Terfs will be blocked on sight so don't bother

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talisidekick · 1 year

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I don't think I've ever said this here but:

All my life I was called slurs like "queer", "fag", "faggot", and "tranny" despite staunchly saying I was straight and a boy and had people call me a "bitch", "prissy", "pussy", "girl", etc to insult my gender and insult my person. I'd try to be adversarial when insulted because that was the expectation: for young boys to fight. Of course, that never was my nature, so I couldn't back it up and always got the living crap beaten out of me at least once a week in highschool and it would still happen even if I backed off from the start. It was the same constant insults during the assaults too, I'm not a man, I'm a girl. I was beaten sensless in the woods behind the school by bullies I didn't recognise, left to bleed out unattended after getting hit in the face with a baseball bat, thrown off a second story balcony, kicked down a full flight of stairs so I'd roll down them and lay unconcious at the bottom (and no one stopped to help), ambushed and chased down the street getting shot at by stale paintballs (so they wouldn't explode and hurt more), had some bullies chase after me as I went home with a rope saying they were going to hang me, and had someone pin me to a desk and sexually assault me with a screwdriver just to name a few incidents. By far, not my worst, but up there. The reason? Everyone assumed I was gay and no one wanted to help me, not even the adults.

The comical part of this is the moment that I turned around to the world and said: "You know what? I agree. I am, as you put it, a "tranny fag bitch". I'm a transgender woman, I like women, enbies, and just one man in all of human existance, and I am tired about keeping that quiet and lying that that I never was this way." They turned around on me and went "You're the manliest man, everyone can tell you're a man, you'll never change that!" because the truth never mattered. They never cared if I was gay or trans or secretly a girl, I just didn't conform to their world view and because of that they wanted me dead. They legitimately tried to kill me, and let me die, because of percieved non-conformity.

They didn't teach about queer people in highschool when I went, and a part of the student body tried to openlyhurt and on occasion kill me and the rest of the student body and teacher staff stood by, watched, or pretended not to see because they felt weird about stepping in to help a POTENTIAL queer kid. I didn't conform in their eyes, and that was enough. That's all that mattered.

I see the world today, the slow walk back of progress for womens rights to bodily agency, bodily autonomy being questioned, queer protections and trans acceptance being systematically destroyed, etc. and all I can see is ... elementary school through highschool. All I can remember is the smell of iron, of my own blood, their enraged faces, their laughter at the suffering they cause. And I am beyond terrified.

They claim it's for protection of children, but I grew up living in that kind of "protection", watching it, being a victim of it. It's not protecting your kids, it's legitimizing violence and exonerating people of any age to violate other children on grounds of non-conformity. Your child will get accused of being some form of queer and abused because your kid might be a little different. Because I had ADHD, OCD, and right now, I'm looking to get confirmation I'm autistic, and they started calling me these things when I was 7 years old. I did things differently, in a way that worked for me, and that was enough to abuse me for something I never fully realized or admitted to until I was 26 years old.

It's not about protecting kids when they try to criminalize queer people, queer culture, and their access to healthcare. It's about causing harm for being different, and it won't matter if your kid is cisgender if they're suspected of being transgender. All they're doing is making convenient ammunition to target whomever they please.

If you want to know why I fight for acceptance and equality, that's why. I already know how this turns out, and it's safe for no one.

#trans #transgender #2slgbtqia+#lgbtq+#lgbt+#queer #talisidekick #talisidekick things

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anfeycare · 1 month

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hello! welcome to my blog!

i'm Anfey Care, a queer non-binary artist and writer! i go by gender neutral words ("they/them" — "elu/ê/-e" in portuguese)

i enjoy art and science. i love specially Undertale, Adventure Time, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Omori, The Owl House and Utena. i'm brazilian, too. by the way, if you're brazilian, you're welcome to follow me if you enjoy:

art, pixel art, animation;

books, comics, mangas;

cuteness, horror, comedy;

games, music;

indie, alternative things;

queer, LGBT+, gay stuff;

shows, cartoons, animes;

thought-provoking stuff;

nerdy things in general.

if you're not brazilian, but you enjoy these, you can follow me, too. that's why i'm speaking english — it's to let you understand me

( ˙ ꒳ ˙ ) [cute face*]

(*texts in brackets like this describe text emojis for screen readers; similarly, i can use texts in brackets preceded by a slash as tone indicators, such as: [/silly] )

💙 i now offer custom art orders!

✨ order yours here! ✨

✨ upcoming schedule ✨

🐾 ooo, look! you found a boop post! 🐾

💙 you can support my art on patreon and ko-fi

💙 i think generative A.I.s and N.F.T.s are dumb

💙 my art tag here is "#anfey care"

💙 i don't allow reposts, just reblogs of my posts

💙 main social medias and links: ✨ here ✨

💙✨ about me: ✨

i'm an introverted, shy, and usually asocial person. somewhat antisocial too, sometimes can be completely silent and spend weeks alone when too overwhelmed from socialization. (INFP and pisces, but i don't take these seriously, although i can relate)

completely atheist. i don't mind religion, even if i might take it as stories and thoughts, but i just don't mind as long as it isn't fanatic christian stuff — i was raised around these people and it got me very tired of those things.

i'm in psychology college (i got a full scholarship), but i made a game development technical course along with high school (public education, got in through an entrance exam, was in first place on the classified candidates list), and am often studying things on my own, like languages. i draw, illustrate, research, write, can animate, design and code, and also make pixel art — sometimes i try making music, photographing and cosplaying. i'm on my way to be an indie game dev (plus a psychologist), but i'm mainly an artist and writer

as for how i identify as LGBT+, i'm queer as in all pan aspec atraction-wise. gender-wise, i identify as pangender, which in my case includes agender, genderqueer, and cassgender; this means i'm trans and non-binary. i usually put it all in short by just saying i'm queer and non-binary, but i don't shy away from saying i'm just gay (as in i'm definitely not straight)

i could be considered legally blind, as i can't see anything a few inches away from my face without glasses (8 degrees in each lens, but i've been needing a new prescription for some years... couldn't afford it yet). i suspect i might be neurodivergent (ADHD and autistic, mainly), and have lots of symptoms of depression, anxiety, some of ASPD and C-PTSD, but also can't afford to look into those. (yep, really ironic how i'm studying psychology before being able to go see a psychologist-)

i know spanish and french, besides portuguese and english. i don't have a lot of practice with those other two languages, but I can understand them well (speaking portuguese helps, heh). i still want to learn more languages — for now, i'm also studying japanese, LIBRAS and ASL from time to time

i aim for diversity, inclusivity and equity, specially for my games. that's a reason why i study a lot, and that's also why i want to make most of my creations available for free. and that's why i encourage you to give me support if you want, as it helps it all to be free of charge, and can give you a custom art or some cool extra content for a low tip (i can also think of opening a shop with prints and stickers to help it all, if you ever get the interest)

i'm a fan of:

Undertale;

The Owl House;

Good Omens;

Omori;

Revolutionary Girl Utena;

The Picture of Dorian Gray;

Deltarune;

Dracula;

Adventure Time;

She-ra and the Princesses of Power;

My Little Pony;

Sonic;

Don't Hug Me I'm Scared;

Welcome Home;

Puella Magi Madoka Magica;

and Dead Plate.

i also play RPG, like D&D, besides liking the RPG video games genre itself. as you see, i'm all over the place — i'm not completely organized and i allow myself to let some things be messy (like tags)

i like lots of things! and, though i enjoy horror, i don't make much art of this kind. plus, i create original stories, art, and characters of my own, like Safey — they're my mascot persona, and they're the fox creature on the pixel art by the start of this blog post. i have a bunch of projects i develop on my own, including ideas of comics and games! and sometimes i write poems, generally in portuguese, but i mix languages and write in english at times

i usually make cute things! whenever i happen to make something scary or with sensitive topics, i let it with the warnings i think it needs. rarely allude to NSFW — it can be there as subtext if i ever include anything like that at all, but i do enjoy artistic nude art, i do like philosophically/sociologically/literarily analytical thoughts and texts that could be about/related to sexual topics, and i also do like (well, you know) horror. i take a different approach on my own art that's around these, but you can avoid it if i ever make it due to the warnings, and i hope you will use the opportunity to avoid it if you're sensitive or don't want to see it. overall, specially for other people like me, i want my space to be a safe space

Undertale is my most favorite piece of media, so i'm drawn towards it most of the time. Sans is my favorite in it (sorry, heh). Flowey is also a favorite of mine

nice to meet you, and i hope you will like what i create!

thanks for reading! see ya! ^꒳^ [cute face smiling]

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demonicintegrity · 2 months

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Watching from the sidelines as photomatt makes a fool of himself. and I'm just tired.

Listen im not gonna say "i hope someone dies in a car explosion full of hammers" has like, the strongest high ground standing. I'm above that. So may you. But I am gonna say it highlights the double standards pretty well. Are we gonna pretend like half the site wasn't openly wishing for Trump or any sort of alt-right politician to die? Not even like in a cartoony way? Just straight up memes about preparing the crave rave if anyone went? Which was a lot more passionate and strongly motivated than this? I watch so many people get straight up nazis in their askbox. I see so many bigots remake blogs without a sweat if they're even deleted in the first place. Misinformation and racist memes abound. But this small thing gets someone and all their blogs nuked off the website? Okay. Sure. Yeah. That tracks.

Hell, the fact no one can even tag him now shows a special standard. Wdym none of us can blocked being mentioned by others but the specialist ceo can because he's getting flamed for his own double standards? We can actually, its just buried in my settings I didn't know was possible until writing this and double checking. LMK if yall knew that was an option cuz I sure as hell didn't. @staff can still be mentioned and replied to on some of their posts, I'm sure some genuis is gonna have the bright idea to bother them even though they have no control over him. Hell, I've seen them being tagged in posts about policies and drama and all that! The ability to bother the working folks is never taken away but the ceo is above that.

(and no, it's not comparable to a kys joke, which I have never and will not ever condone. That's a fucking crime and terrible.)

(And if the average person can't get the police to do anything about the weirdos in their dm's, if celebrities couldn't get the police to help by being stalked by paparazzi, I doubt they're gonna take "someone on the internet I don't know wished I would be dead by a silly way" seriously. They wouldn't even take my roommates bike being stolen on camera seriously. That was a bluff out of his ass and we know it. He just wants to throw around power he doesn't/shouldn't have.)

("I hope X person dies" is harassment at best but not a credible death threat. It's hard to prove any sort of legitimate attempt behind the words. I would know, queer people get told they should be dead all the time and there's nothing that can be done because it's not a threat. I don't even think it was mentioned at him or anything like that, so it wasn't even intended to be seen by him. So yeah.)

And that's what all the outrage is about. It's the double standards. It's about how all these legitimately awful people still stick around because its not hard, but some random queer or otherwise marginalized person will get scrubbed off the face of the Earth because they were a little rude once. Or because they've done nothing at all. Remember when normal-horoscopes' blog got nuked for no fucking reason at all? Have no idea if that blog was ever restored. But man, all those posts unable to be searched for again.

And to be clear, I'm not surprised by this. In the slightest. When have ceo's ever reacted will to the people using their product not giving a shit about them? I may not know the entire story of who this trans women is and her history but like. But this part doesn't shock me. It sucks but its not surprising when Whatever Rich Ceo picks an enemy out of thin air and tries to drag them around as an example. It's happen so many times. I'm not shocked.

Nor does seeing the transphobia spike AGAIN because of it.

It's just exhausted that I set up myself here all comfy and everyone I follow is considering jumping ship again. I doubt I'll ever use any of the tumblr copycats. I got rid of my twitter. I've been putting off making an instagram for forever. If this goes assume your best chance is finding me on discord or by carrier pigeon. And ill be upset as hell because I love tumblr, it's my homebase, and I just set up my art blog here.

Yeah. So none of this is surprising. Disappointing, but not a surprise. You mean the website that regularly thinks any depiction of a queer person deserves a mature label with no ability to really appeal and fight against that, is being mean to a trans person?? Is the sky being blue also shocking??

Yeah whatever. This isn't changing or personally affecting me in any way but like. Man. Sure. Okay. Might as well be an issue on top of the others on this god forsaken webbed cite.

#rambles #photomatt #current events ig

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