What I Have Learned About Men

1. The Way For Men to Choose or Chase You is By Them Putting You in Pedestal

The man has to see you as higher than him. I'm not talking about competing with a man, I'm talking about being better than man in something he could never do in this lifetime. And that's by being more beautiful and more feminine. Straight men won't be able to do that. Being smart and high achieving in career do work but this professional world is created for men. More often than not men are higher achiever than women. Then being prettier and more feminine is the thing you can do as a woman

2. It's Much Easier For You To Move On When You:

a. Giving Less or None to Men

When you are always in receiving end and you never make sacrifice for men, the only feeling you feel when you seperate with those men is some kind of regret or a lil lost cuz you used to have people do things for you but you no longer have that. But you don't have any kind of resentment because you lose nothing of your energy and resources. Look at those divorcee women or barbara the builder ex gf. What do they say when they crying about their loss? They always say "I did everything for him.. I was there for him when he was in broke and miserable, I paid for his tuition, I cleaned his house and now he left me for other women". You would never hear women crying and saying "I do nothing for him and he left me" cuz women do measure their emotional losses for how much they have given to men. But when men have given so much to you especially money.. you can break up with him thousand times and he will always want to come back. Men don't want to lose things and people they have invest in. You see tons of women have friendship breakup but you rarely see men having their bro breakup

b. Have Your Own Standard

The standard is not on specific person but on things. The standard is not Max but what Max have and do. The standard is not who Max is but how much money Max make and how much he gives to you. Loving someone for what they are is for woman not for man. For a man, partly you love them based on how much they give to you. So say that the standard is that you want a man that is able to give you like $2000 per month. That any man be it Max, Xavier, Dan that are able to give that to you will fall into that category. You can be hopeless romantic when it's toward yourself but when it's about man you have to be single focus. Doesn't care if a man has roster etc etc once the man has been proven to fulfill your standard, you go for that. And you may encounter men who fulfill your material standard but don't want you. Strong and confident women don't get insecure and have meltdown over that fact because as men's life get better their standard get better. Which is why I say there is more than just material standards. It also have to be emotional, mental, and genuine attraction and feelings toward you

3. Do Not Get Insecure On Things You Refuse To Do

So what? You get insecure of beautiful women a man follow on instagram but you refuse to work on yourself? You hate man for following sexy woman when you always keeping yourself look plain? Darling, do you think these sexy women will still be sexy if their feeds are contained with tnem wearing baggy clothes and with bed hair? Observe those women, they do everything to their looks and take the best efforts to take pics for them to be able to post a bombshell pic that a man like. Rather than being jealous toward those women, why don't you get inspired by them? Start observing what these women wear and how they take pics and do that to yourself while you find your best style. You can't hate on women who do so much to keep up with their looks when you are halfassing yourself. And these women have hella confidence for them to post their alluring pics on instagram. You can't be shy and stiff when being taken pic of and hoping it will come out as magnificent pic. Start being confident and post that then you will see you will care much less of those women you will never meet cuz you already become them

And why I use astrology tag? Because only Saturnian women learn about this. Saturn is brutal reality, love and romance are not just dreamy and beautiful things the whole dating can be harsh and cold and never be for faint hearted. Who is not the most perfect candidate to be able to tackle these challenges if it's not Saturnian women? They are accustomed for that. Which is why you see a lot of hypergamous women have prominent Saturn influences. Only strong women are able to tackle with those things when many people choose to be swept off by otherwordly love

🥀🐻‍❄️ ASTRO OBSERVATIONS XXIV🥀🐻‍❄️

Scorpio/8th house placements esp Scorpio Sun or 8th house Sun men will always think that you cheat. It's also somehow that they are always being faced with situations where the people they are attracted to seems to be around so many potential competitors or infidelity seems to be there meanwhile it's not always like that. Sometimes the energy can make the situation seems evoking paranoid for these natives

Bonus if the synastry between both parties are activated with 8th house/Plutonic synastry

2nd & 8th house synastry deals with posessiveness in terms of sense of ownership coming between one or both parties. Usually one of them will collect the belongings of the other party or just use it everywhere like accolades. One party can have tendency to take picture or film the other party

Leo placements need to have extra attention on themselves. Mocking Leo placements' body or physical appearances is gonna be one of Leo's hardest hit. Other placements like Sagittarius or mutable placements in general may laugh it off but if you pick on Leo placements' physical appearances, it will attack right to their self confidence

Company-employee synastry is so important because one employee can have quite major different experiences with other employees despite being in same company or even department. Company-employee synastry may also explain the benefits you may get from that company either material or non material one like skils, networks, and else

Scorpio/8th house placements people especially prominent ones, stellium that involved Sun, and also have Plutonian aspect tend to give innate feeling of security in romantic and friendship. Less likely the other party question about these natives' feelings or motives. However due to fixed sign nature, it almost impossible to change their mind unless they want to and most of the times with all fixed sign, you get what you see and you deal with things at face value

However same energy usually doesn't exist in air placements especially Aquarius and Gemini. Bonus if they also have Libra placements. Especially if they are air dominant. These air placements unfortunately always fail to give effortless feelings of security to the other party so the other party always think that these signs are uncommital, cheating, and flirting. Unfortunately the allegation is not truly wrong as many of these natives are immature so they defend their flirtiness as their nature and refuse to change that

Which is why learning about your natal chart is very important. From your Venus, Mars, 7th house, 5th house including the signs, ruler, planets, aspects, you become to know the type of people you want to be involved romantically or friendship which is why when you are incompatible, you just end things rather than trying to convince other party to become something they refuse to do. Recognizing your own pattern means you may be able to seek someone that is similar with you and since you are alike, the whole thing may become smooth

It's Venus-Pluto men that are extremely obsessive, possessive, and may do some stalking either cyber or offline

Venusian (Libra or Taurus) placements men tend to pay extra attention on women's looks. They are the one who pay attention to shape, color, or dirt in your nail, your hair texture, the body shape, smell, and else. However the same thing may not be the attention of Aqua placements men unless they have significant Venus influences like 2nd house placements. Scorpio placements men especially stellium also don't really notice about this since many of them put emphasize on emotional intensity

In other words, Scorpio stellium placements men especially if it involves Sun may tolerate women's physical messiness more than men with other placements as long as the women have unwavering loyalty and intensity within themselves and toward these Scorpio stellium men and somehow patient enough to be with them, which not every woman is capable to do that

The thirst to consume other people emotionally, mentally, and physically even exist in Scorpio Sun men with Scorpio stellium and with Pluto aspects or 8th house

Sagittarius placements women especially Sun or Mars tend to be into jokes a lot and generally funny in messy way. They tend to be crack jokes without even intending to. Gemini placements' jokes tend to be calculated, word plays, and witty but Sagittarius placements' jokes are brash, messy, and almost always clown likes

Sense of familiarty and comfort present in 4th house synastry. Long term relationship sometimes need the presence of 4th house and 6th house. It's one of generally indication of long term relationship. Saturn synastry sometimes only indicate long term in terms of lessons, not necessarily the relationship itself. Relationship, friendship, or any kind of relation need the comfort and security aspect so that it doesn't become toxic and unbearable. 4th house and 6th house in this case are the glue

4th house synastry may also make you to be with people that you are comfortable with emotionally and mentally. Somehow, sometimes you can see the natives you are involved with as equal or lower, which can be true or subjective. Unlike 8th house or 12th house synastry especially that can make you deal with people out of your league, 4th house synastry can make you deal with people you feel are in your level, eventhough may not necessarily so (they actually can be higher than you). Like any other water synastry, it's the feeling that predominate the perception of the natives even if in reality it doesn't reflect so

Which is why for hypergamous community, it's important to be in relationship or dating with someone who has 4th house synastry with you. You may be in different level of wealth and status with them, but you are less likely to feel insecure with them or feel like you don't deserve them. Also make sure 6th house or 8th house synastry present with just one or two planets of 8th house synastry. 8th house synastry make you be spoiled financially but it's from 4th house or 6th house synastry where the sense of providing come. Especially from planet person to house person. The vice versa still work similarly. 7th house synastry may also important if you want to continue that to marriage

Heavy water sign men usually are more subjective when it comes to romance. Others may see that they have wealth, looks, and anything else that can make them choose more beautiful and wealthier women but somehow they choose the woman they like despite the external qualities may be seen less than other women. Feelings and connection somehow are more important for these men and their own perception toward women. Which can be helpful if you do want to practice hypergamy