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solsticeivy · 1 year

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I'm CACKLING

#wikiHow #how to be happy #lol

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gloupblog · 9 months

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#pinterest #how to glo up #mindfulness #glo up #mindset #positivity #positive #advice #how to be happy #happiness

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turtlesandfrogs · 2 months

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Here's the actually* short notes for the course, "The Science of Well-Being" from Yale on coursera, which is available for free. Mostly focusing on the actionable steps.

Point the first: We/society at large is often wrong about what makes people happy/have a sense of well being. Unless you've been reading into motivation, happiness, flow, etc, already, in which case you're likely right on track.

We adapt to both good things and bad things, so neither one effects us as much as we think they will. Our brains adapt to, and filter out stimuli after a while. If we want to get the most enjoyment out of something/life, we should increase variety and take breaks. Like, drink a different kind of tea every day, or take breaks when listening to music. Also, practicing gratitude, savoring (pausing and intentionally appreciating the good moments in life), sharing experiences with others, and recalling past moments of joy. Also, you can practice negative visualization, when you on purpose think of how awful the world would be if you didn't have something that you do have.

A good job is one that allows you to practice your signature strengths and enter the flow state.

The income-increased happiness plateau is somewhere between $75k and $500k- but I found a recent article** after the comments to this effect, and "Yet is important to note that the relationship is weak, even if statistically robust. The correlation between average happiness and log(income) is 0.09 in the experience sampling data, for example, and the difference between the medians of happiness at household incomes of $15,000 and $250,000 is about five points on a 100-point scale. The flattening and accelerating patterns are even smaller modulations of a small effect. However, the emotional effects of other circumstances are also small. KD reported that the effect of an approximately four-fold difference in income is about equal to the effect of being a caregiver, twice as large as the effect of being married, about equal to the effect of a weekend, and less than a third as large as the effect of a headache." Which says to me I'm making the right move by going to a 4 day work week :P But seriously, that's great news.

We think in comparisons, and comparison is the thief of joy. You can reduce consumption of images of people who are richer, cooler, more skilled, etc than you, and that will help prevent mood deterioration. You can also reframe to compare to yourself in the past.

Being kind makes you and everyone involved happier. Buying things for others makes you happier than buying things for yourself. Giving to charity makes you happier if it builds social connection. (Why the focus on buying things to make you happier? Why not on actions you can take to make yourself or someone else happier? Probably because giving someone $20 is easier from a study's standpoint.)

Get 7 or more hours of sleep a day.

Move 30 minutes a day.

Meditate- look into mindfulness, loving kindness.

Social connection- doesn't have to be a romantic relationship! Just interacting with others, even strangers, makes us happier (still sounds fake to me, but I'm like a mega introvert). Spending time with people you like is good.

Having free time is important.

Create an environment that supports what ever change you're trying to make.

WOOP = Wish, Outcome, Obstacles, and Plan. "What's your wish for your goal? What's your best outcome? What are the obstacles? What's your if-then plan?" Really helps with actually accomplishing your goals.

*I realized I said short notes before, but then somehow that ended up being super long.

** Income and emotional well-being: A conflict resolved by Matthew A. Killingswortha, Daniel Kahnemanb, and Barbara Mellers

#happiness #wellbeing #how to be happy #health #mental health #is #physical health

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uaravsh · 7 months

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"If I didn't think, I'd be much happier."

- Sylvia Plath @silentroad

#sylvia plath #poetry #writing #literature #relatable #silentroad #tumblrpost #dark academia #quotes #lit #art #how to be happy #spilled thoughts #spilled ink #spilled in words #writers and poets #history #books and libraries

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beeclops · 1 year

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#bluey #season 3 #relax #bingo heeler #chili heeler #how to be happy

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cant-face-the-dark · 9 months

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#what was i made for #billie eilish #barbie soundtrack #I forgot how to be happy #i loved you pointlessly #i loved you #something I’m made for #what i was made for #i forgot #how to be happy

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religion-is-a-mental-illness · 4 months

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How to Be Happy.

#how to be happy #stop having thoughts #religion is a mental illness

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butch-reidentified · 7 months

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fuck living the life you always dreamed of; live the life you never dared to let yourself dream.

#mine #personal #finding yourself #self actualization #personal development #self improvement #life advice #life philosophy #motto #quotes #important #pursuit of happiness #how to be happy

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pearled-languid · 1 year

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easy and natural tips on being prettier for feminine-presenting people!!

try to tan/aloe use vera after tanning

Nails- long & natural or keep them professionally done- both are cute if you do it right.

Lip scrubs and lip oils and use chapstick!!!

Take care of your skin, lotion everywhere always especially feet/hands at night

Cold showers are rejuvenating for your skin and hair!!

Scalp massages help to initiate faster hair growth (look it up for better instructions)

Trim hair every 6-8 weeks

a little bit of water in dry mascara makes it creamier

the magic of mascara is usually in the wand and not the formula, you can reuse better wands in less expensive mascaras instead of buying more!!

Beard dye on eyebrows to make them darker can help to add more definition and structure to your face

Spf moisturizer everyday!!! find skincare products that work for you, it is worth it even long-term!

Drink so much water (like actually)

Take good care of teeth, make sure they are visibly clean and your breath smells good

A quality deodorant, body lotion and a little perfume are always important

Jewelry and accessories always help you look more put together.

Face/hair masks 1x a week

Posture, you can do exercises to improve it and be aware of it always. It helps to slim your body visually and appear more confident wherever you are.

Castor oil (and if you can afford it eyelash serum) eyelashes/brows

Ice cubes for the face 3-4 times a week

Using a form of jade roller moisturizes more effectively

personal opinion belly rings specifically/other piercings look amazing on EVERYONE and are huge confidence boosters!!

Biotin oil for scars and stretch marks 2x a day at least to help them fade, takes time but works after a month or so!!!

If anyone would want me to make another about weight loss I lost 30lbs in 3 months and can help you guys out in healthy and effective ways. trying to boost confidence!!!

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to-each-based-on-need · 18 days

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been feeling like i’m twenty again but without the social structures or spacial freedom that college let me have, with more trauma and debt. i will not make enough money to move out and live around here until I get my masters. i feel like i’m finally healing all the stuff that I walked into my twenties with. i know that’s a gift. i’ve just accumulated so much more since then. how do thirty year olds make friends? how do they fall in any kind of love? i haven’t had a crush in three years. i really care about and feel cared about by some people, but i don’t know if that’s enough, and i don’t want to live in a world where i have to choose that.

#how to be happy #very personal

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gloupblog · 2 years

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Appreciating the small things in life is so important. A bookstore on a canal boat. A matcha latte sweetened with cinnamon . Unexpected sunny days. A call from an old friend. The kindness of a stranger. One interview invite after a dozen rejections. Oversized pasta shells. A book that moves you. The more I look, the more things I find to be grateful for.

#gratitude #how to glo up #mindfulness #glo up #mindset #positivity #advice #how to be happy

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foreveradora · 8 months

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Never lower your standards for ANYONE!

babe, why the hell are you crying over him?

First of all you can do WAY better, I know you can. You are the most beautiful girl that I have ever seen in my lifetime and you are crying over an ugly teenage boy? Girl, I can't defend you at this point!

How about Song Jia? She is NOT crying over some random man who can be easily replaced. Song Jia does not date some random man, she dates someone who is worthy to date her and who is willing to appreciate her and meet her standards. Be more like Song Jia, set your standards high and don't be afraid to be picky.

You need to avoid the problem of lowering your standards! Never do it, you and I both know that you are beautiful and crying over some random dude?

Date who you want, just remember how hot you really are. Set your standards high, I never want to see you make that mistake ever.

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smallblueandloud · 4 months

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man it's so easy to forget but the world is such a wide and wonderful place. i am going to see and learn so many cool things over the next month. it's going to be a new year! an even-numbered year!

for the first time in my life i looked in the mirror a few weeks ago and went "damn, who is that? she looks so cool!" and then i realized she was me!

i can't predict if 2024 will have bad things but i can decide to keep pursuing this self-expression thing. i want to go back to writing things by hand again. i am going to investigate a potential career path. i am going to keep assuming my friends care about me rather than assuming they don't. i am going to keep writing stories. and i would like to keep learning new things

#it is so so hard to be hopeful about the future #(this is why you guys see me talking myself through it so much)#but truly my life has never been full of more potential than it is right now #and god is that so scary. it's scarier than anything i can imagine #but. maybe. maybe. there can be not-scary parts too #maybe i can trust myself to have my own interest in mind #maybe i can try to find the excitement in what comes next #sb and l rambles #how to be happy

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anabanana-romanova · 11 months

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People often wonder how I'm so happy and optimistic

Honestly I think it comes from experience and life and observing society.

I think as we grow up in an ever-growing tumultus world of confusion, anger, violence and hatred it becomes hard to see the good things. The media and news is flooded with bad news of wars and rumours of wars, murders, crimes, everything bad. There's hardly anything good in the news nowadays, unless it's a massive thing.

I think this constant barrage of negative information unconsciously teaches us to notice all those bad things in life, makes us feel that the world is falling to a point of no return and especially teaches us that happiness and goodness and joy can only be found in big things and events.

We seem to think (from my observation,) that happiness only comes when life is perfect, or when other big milestones happen, such as getting married, getting rich, etc.

In reality, that's not true.

We do not get joy from sitting around and waiting for these things to happen. We do not get joy when the world is fixed. We do not only experience the euphoric happiness of life when big major events happen.

The beautiful thing about happiness is that it's so simple. We are led to believe that happiness is a complexity that we can continue reaching for but will never grasp, but I don't think that's the case.

(Of course, those of you who are struggling with genuine concerns and mental illnesses, etc who are literally limited are the exception because happiness is really hard to find when there's a chemical imbalance in your brain, but this is more targeted at us who don't struggle with those things. Maybe this might help you, maybe not, but just keep going, you're facing a really hard battle, I love you.)

Let us look at a little child. The epitome of pure, wholesome joy. I don't know if you've seen little kids (we're talking 8 and below) but they have such a powerful goodness about them. Of course they're going to mess up, they'll make mistakes, they'll do s oome bad things. We're human, not perfect. But children have an inherent, unbiased view of the world and when they look at it, all they see is a new place for them to discover with excited curiosity and amazed wonder. The get excited over a butterfly. Or a bug. Or a flower. Or food. Or literally the thought of doing something. When was the last time we saw a butterfly and got excited? Or we skipped down a street with a flower in hand? When was the last time we saw a really cool car and watched it with wide eyes and an open mouth?

We have lost the wonder in noticing those little things. Those flowers and bugs and cars and trains have now become just part of every day mundanity, a part of the backdrop of our tumultuous lives. We've been led to think that being childish (in a good way, as in being excited and happy over little things, etc. Not being stubborn and unwilling to share) is a bad thing. It's not.

Mostly us (those who have experience significant trauma are the exception,) remember our childhoods, our early childhoods, as a time of golden innocence, where the world was wonderful. What's stopping us from looking at things like that again? Why shouldn't we smile at the massive fluffy could above us and imagine that we can pull them from the sky? What's wrong with getting excited about a dandelion and watching the seeds blow away in the wind? Why shouldn't we enjoy the warmth of our bed on a winter's morning, or play in the fallen leaves in autumn? Why shouldn't we be allowed to rediscover the beauty of nature?

Some of you may be thinking that life is too hard to do that. That there are too many things going wrong or bad to experience happiness.

Let me use my life as an example. Do not compare your struggles with mine, or think that you're weak because everyone is struggling with different things and THEY ARE ALL VALID STRUGGLES.

I'm going blind. I struggle to maintain friendships and I feel like a complete outsider in every friendship group. I wonder if I'll ever find someone who lives me the way I love people and I spend a lot of time in solitude. I worry that I'm not good enough for my dream universities and that I might not be able to do what I want in life.

Yet I'm still happy. I still laugh with joy whenever I walk past a very specific part of my street because it has the most magnificent view. I can still say I had a good day even with all my struggles.

Why?

How?

(Part of it is because of my religion which has definitely helped me in a lot of it, but becay se we all have different beliefs and values I'm focussing on a more general thing.)

Because life is hard. Life is the most challenging thing. There will be times when we want to just give up. But life isn't only about the hard things. Just because things are hard, doesn't mean they can't be good. An author can spend many challenging months formulating and drafting a book, wondering many times if they should just give up, but the reward of their own book being published and the learning and growth they experienced in the journey of writing the book makes everything worth it.

We cannot give up because things get hard. We must keep going.

Sometimes things don't get better. I'm not going to magically be able to see again. But I can still be grateful for what I have and see the blessings that are in my life. And they don't have to be dramatic, grand things.

I'm grateful for the clouds, because they're pretty. I'm thankful for the sun, especially in late autumn and winter afternoons. I'm thankful for cups of tea with buttered scones on mum's fancy china. I'm thankful for books, for technology, for my friends who still talk to me and listen to me even when I do seem a bit much. I'm thankful for what I can see now and that I had the chance to experience sight. I'm thankful for the time I have to be alone because I can do the things i live, like read or write or just think. Im grateful that i have the opportunity to even consider the possibility of going to a prestigious university and that I have a chance. I'm thankful for my talents and skills and I'm thankful for learning so I can develop more. I'm thankful for my creativity, for leaves. I'm thankful for the butterflies, the dandelions, the trains and the really awesome cars.

There is so much good in the world. It doesn't have to be majestic or grandiose to be good. It can literally be a shower. Or chocolate. Or a really funny cat video. It can be anything that makes YOU happy.

Happiness comes when we seek out those little things. When we make the effort to notice them. To put on music that makes us feel better and to do the little things we love. To go outside and look around us, not on the pavement. When we take the time to really think about what we have and the potential we have.

These are just my observations on why I'm so happy and optimistic. Because I don't wait for happiness to come in a grand fixing of my problems, but because I go out, I become like a little child and I learn to enjoy the small little things that give me bursts of joy.

#happiness #thoughts #optimism #how to be happy #joy #little things #wholesome #fluff

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braindamaged007 · 1 year

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etakeh · 4 months

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#shannon wheeler #how to be happy #consumerism #shopping #people #lonely #alone

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