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hypergamiss · 3 months
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I get it, women take a lot more accountability than men (imo) because society is currently set up this way. Women fill up churches, support groups, therapy, they’re purchasing more self-help books and literature than men, and there are a million pages on social media dedicated to women bettering themselves while there are barely any for men. Overall, anything related to self improvement and reflection is dominated by women. Socially and culturally speaking most parents hold their daughter more accountable than their sons. That’s why a 15 year old boy can be out galavanting late with his friends but a 20 year old woman has a strict curfew.
At some point you have to realize (as a woman) that you automatically deserve more from life and the partner that you choose because it is your birth right (imo).
Just because the majority of men are not decent humans, doesn’t mean you have to settle.
And just because you’re constantly being groomed by society to improve as a woman doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you or that you’re not good enough every time a man doesn’t know how to act right.
Lift your head high and accept the power that you hold. Stop questioning yourself every two seconds and accept that men can often do wrong. Be confident.
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bootobeneficiary · 2 years
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Three Big Girl Investments I’m Asking Him For
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The girls in the femininity/hypergamous courses wouldn’t tell you what I would for FREE! Take notes and like ❤️ to save for later.
Disclaimer: I am not asking for anything I am not financially prepared to invest in myself if I am told “no”. These are all “Hoe” appropriate asks for the man I don’t want to marry but he’s cool for this chapter. These are all advanced asks and not suggested for anyone to use as reference if you are not educated nor prepared to do so.
A Gas Station/EV Charging Station
We are transitioning into tech based times and major car companies are producing electric vehicles which indeed need charging. Road trips for work, relocation or vacation isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.
I bet you wish you owned a gas station when the prices went up earlier this year. Gas prices in the 90’s were like $1 and NOW WE ARE AT SIX DOLLARS A FUCKING GALLON!
MY IDEA: A location right off a highway and preferably not surrounded by a chain of gas stations. I also want to be accessible for truckers whether it’s day or nighttime.
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Male Dominated Business
A cigar lounge. A barbershop. A sports bar. One of the wisest things I’ve been advised as a woman is to invest in a male dominated business. Men who grow their hair need shape-ups, so I cannot wait to begin construction on a barbershop. Men are die hard loyal to their favorite pubs and sports bars (especially if their team is in the playoffs) so I want to profit off of that and have no shame.
Most strip clubs, bikini bars and burlesque clubs are owned by men. I want to flip the script for my personal satisfaction (and profit).
MY IDEA: I prefer to get my feet wet with a barbershop in order to gain hands on insight on the male consumer since the barbershop is where men vent and bond. I would secure a location in a neighborhood where I can secure enough black barbers both male and female.
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A Franchise
At first I wasn’t interested in owning any franchise, however when I did further research I figured out how I plan on maximizing my investment. People are more willing to purchase something when they’re waiting for their flight/bus/train so I’m going to go that route.
MY IDEA: Maybe a Dunkin/Subway in a bus/train station. Amtrak isn’t going anywhere until we can teleport so I want to capitalize off of folks who want a coffee while waiting for their delayed train. I know someone pocketed big bucks off of me!!!
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Egg Freezing (bonus)
This one is suggested for anyone who intends to become a mother. This costs around 10,000-20K according to this source with an average storage fee of $800 a year. I’m thinking long term and I want to pass on investments to my children. Even if you insist on not being a parent, you may want to save them just in case on someone else’s dime. Nothing against those who do not desire children because I commend anyone responsible enough to opt out of a responsibility they know they do not want. That’s smart.
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Hope this inspired you in the slightest! Happy healing 🕯🧿
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teauchiha · 2 months
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Idk how to say this nicely, but ladies, do not have a significantly uglier best friend (woman). This will inevitably lead to jealousy and resentment. The ugly(er) friend will certainly use any opportunity possible to compete with you in only the categories they excel over you and take every chance to lower the effect of your grace.
You would think female friendships, especially BEST FRIENDS, would uplift each other any opportunity possible. Nope. Absolutely not in this bff combo. Social class, wealth status, degrees, the car you drive, boyfriends/husbands, purses, makeup skill, etc etc might be considered contention points. Being prettier than said other person is in comprehensively more important and contentious than any of these.
Be wary but better yet REFUSE being best friends with a significantly uglier girl. She will take every chance possible to artificially inflate her worth and put you down, especially in front of others, especially in front of men. Don’t think she isn’t using every opportunity to gossip and spread rumors behind your back to make people believe you’re ugly on the inside because she cannot stand how pretty you are on the outside. Don’t get me started on how she will literally copy/emulate all the uniqueness you have about yourself to make the things that make you you less authentic, use your light and attention from others to benefit herself, try to steal your men and friends, and downplay your intelligence. If she can’t convince others you are not beautiful (because everyone knows you are), she will make it her life mission to make others believe that’s ALL you are- JUST a pretty face.
Please beware.
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haruharuz · 2 years
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This is your sign to learn how to do things on your own. Not because you have to, but, because if you ever DO have to, you can.
First: Supplies
For everything you learn you want adequate supplies stored PROPERLY. I will admit here and now that the first set of nail supplies I got... Was not stored in an organized fashion. Quite literally tossed it all in a cubby bin. I know, horrendous.
But it's important that you store these things properly, or, you'll end up like me. With a lot to organize, throw away, and buy.
Amazon is your best friend for supplies. I'll be reorganizing ALL of my supplies into plastic drawers to keep things clean and neat. You can get em at Walmart, cheap.
Second: What To Learn
Hotties, you want to be able to do damn near anything on a budget at HOME if you can. So here's a massive list of things that can upgrade your lifestyle.
Nails (gel, dip, acrylic, natural, manipedi)
Hair (wig installation, braids, overnight curls, straightening, detox // clarifying, updos)
Makeup (cut crease, half cut crease, halo eye, glitter application, properly setting makeup, illusions with mild contour)
Brows (ombre/tint, waxing, threading)
Self Massage (shoulders, back, legs, feet)
Lashes (fake extensions // individuals, lash lifts and tints)
Photo editing / self photography
"I don't know how to learn these things!" YouTube, TikTok, Google. Practice.
Mwah!
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scorplafemme · 1 year
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How to approach men first while in your femininity?
Ensure he is alone and easily ask for directions. You cannot pretend that you’re lost because it’s easy to see through. You need to genuinely not know where you are or how to get to your destination.
This works because he is in his masculine. He is helping you.
If he is sincere, he will also attempt to chat you up. Not flirtatiously, but tell you where he is headed or where he came from.
In general:
• Smile lots
• Bat your eyelashes and maintain eye contact
• Occasional touches and hand gestures
• DO NOT give your name unless he asks for it. DO NOT exchange any contact information.
By giving your name, you appear less mysterious, especially if you ask or give yours first. He doesn’t know you and could easily search you up on Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. even if he only has your first name.
After receiving his help, politely thank him and go about your day. No need to follow him or wait for him if he’s going the same way. Unless he offers to walk you there himself, smile, say thank you and leave.
This will leave him wondering who you are and how he can connect with/see you again.
You will be on his mind. If it is meant to happen, you will run into each other again. He may randomly recognize you a few weeks later, approach you, and ask you out on a date.
For tips and personal advice on femininity, flirting, sugaring, and men in general, feel free to drop an ask in my inbox. Kindly, do not message me.
Best,
Ky.
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blissfullyecho · 1 year
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Give us the low down on sugar daddies please
yeah a lot of the girlies ruined it for everyone else. how? because they post this sh*t online for everyone to see. they post on youtube “how i scam sugar daddies online” and “how i made $200 from a sugar daddy”.
yeah first of all, the girlies ruined the value of a dollar. $200 is nothing. real sd’s give and SHOULD give you at least $1,000 each time you see each other. asking to get your nails done for a little $150 is weird and broke.
another thing the girlies ruined is what is considered “damsel in distress”. a rich guy doesn’t want a girl who is broke or who acts broke. a lot of girls are like “omg pretend you need money for a flat tire.” babe you’re 21 years old and you don’t have $200 for a flat tire?
another thing the girlies ruined is they confuse “doing the deed” with sugaring. real sb’s know that going out to dinner requires funds, taking me shopping also requires me funds on top of what you are spending on me. anytime you spend time with me, you pay me cash on top of whatever you’re doing. i never did anything extra with my sd’s until about 2-3 months later. there was one that i never did anything with.
so now you go on these sites and guys are offering $500, $300, “oh i just want to make sure there’s chemistry before anything”, they ask you to send tons of pictures, they are no-shows, etc.
it’s very rare to find a sd these days— a good one. to me, a good one is you give me at least $1k every time we see each other and you leave me alone. i don’t wanna talk to you everyday so respect my space and i’ll respect yours.
but they are really annoying. they wanna talk to you all the time and most of them are not hygienic or attractive. they also like to nickel and dime you when they get mad at you (again like i said several posts ago, they are super insecure because they’re old and ugly). i could go on but i wouldn’t recommend it anymore. if the girlies acted like they didn’t need them and stopped worshipping the ground they walked on, it would be a different story. but the girlies are obsessed with the idea of a sugar daddy and these men know that so they will push limits to the point where YOU are THEIR trick, and not the other way around like it should be. these men have money for a reason. if you’re a 25 year old girl and you think you know how to run game on a multimillionaire, you are mistaken lmfao.
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highclassheaux · 1 year
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Safety & Protection Tips For Heauxs:
Always trust your gut.
Screen hard and heavy.
Do not accept dates, arrangements, etc when you're desperate.
Have a plan in place in the event that something does happen to you (test this plan out - i.e. making sure that the emails, texts, etc get sent and work correctly)
Use A VPN and offshore hosting.
Have a security system with a camera and have some kind of app or device (like alexa) that can be voice activated (i.e. if you scream help it calls the police, blasts and alarm, alerts someone, etc.)
Never use your primary phone (have a heaux phone)
Never post pics that you have already posted on your personal social medias (pro tip: delete your personal social medias or at least lock them, set them to private).
Make sure someone knows where you are or where you're going.
If you choose to have a weapon (be it a gun, mace, taser,etc) get proper training and never stop training. (1-2 classes don't count, you now own a weapon that can be used to seriously hurt [if not kill] someone including you. never stop training).
But most importantly: LEARN SELF DEFENSE. There are specific classes for women that will teach you how to defend yourself against a physical assault from a man. Take these classes and keep taking them. Don't stop at just 3 classes. You want muscle memory. If you ever find yourself in a situation you don't want to have to rely on your brain to remember what you learned in that weekend class. You want your muscles to automatically know what to do without you having to think about it. Take the classes and never stop taking them.
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diamondluxesugar · 8 months
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Hi so I’m really going through it atm and would appreciate some input/advice please💕 so i just found out that the guy I was talking to for a year long distance has had a gf all this time...the girl reached out to me calling my phone and I knew immediately it was weird that a Miami number was calling me...anyway she was wondering who I was because she said she saw my number on her boyfriends phone...I told her everything then sent her screenshots to confirm. While I was sending her them, the guy was texting me and then I called him and was like “you have a girlfriend” and he goes “you had a dating app” then hung up and blocked me...I don’t understand this because why would he cheat with me for a year just to block me when the girlfriend found out?? She said they broke up too...I’m just so hurt. She also blocked me after telling her everything so I can’t ask her if they are actually broken up or not...I tried calling him many times a weeks after from No Caller ID and he texts me “stop fucking calling, how it’s clearly over, to move on, stop being so obsessed” I denied it but I was just so hurt especially because he’s lied to me and led me on for what?? Why do this to me when we’re long distance why hurt me like that? Anyway, like 2 weeks later called me many times kept telling me to call him so did he goes “just wanted to apologize clear the air sorry you had to go through all that” and I was like “ok” then before I could say more he hung up and blocked me....then like 2 weeks after that messaged me “yo, kept calling me and I told him I couldn’t talk that I was at work at he goes “right” and I was like “I am” and he goes “bet” and I was like “what” and he goes “forget it” and I was like “?” Then he emphasized it...then I said I could talk later and he liked the text then I sent him “If you’re going to be rude and upset me then we don’t need to talk. You’ve really hurt me a lot. I didn’t know you had a girlfriend all this time so would have never even come to Miami to begin with to see you...that is gross. you putting me in the middle hasn’t been fair especially being that you’ve lied to me so much, made my anxiety way worse we’ve just hookup and you’ve left me every time being blacked out and all and could have died..... I really don’t understand why you would do that to me...or this girl really. You’ve wasted my time and money and don’t know why you would think that is okay....” then he emphasized that we would talk later but then when I tried to call him blocked again....why is he doing this?? Then I just stopped calling him for 2 weeks then this last Monday he calls me 3 times in a row, texts me “yo” then within 15 minutes blocked me before I could answer him..why is he doing this? I don’t understand and then blocking me....I left him alone so I’m really not understanding I’m also not understanding why he blocked me when the gf found out but would do this to me for a year....
My question is, why haven't you blocked him? He's getting off on being able to contact you. You need to completely remove him from your life. Block him on everything. All social media platforms, his phone number, everything. Whenever a phone call from an unrecognized number comes in, immediately block and delete it from your call log.
I agree with him, you're obsessing over him, KNOWING that he was intentionally hurting you for more than a year at this point. You're only going to keep hurting yourself by interacting with him and by entertaining the thought of him and this girl.
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hypergamiss · 5 months
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Reason #2 why I love men. When you come across a man who was raised really well. They just get it. They open your door, they cover the tab, they send you a car/driver, they send flowers, they are self-aware, they make sure your taken care of, they make you feel safe, etc.
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highlyari · 2 years
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I am expanding my skills and drifting away from social media. So far I'm working a lot on my nail skills and going full on with puzzles... Feels very fulfilling.
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cocofetti · 1 year
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Lowkey wanna start an advice blog. I don’t be doing right, but a bitch gone lead you in a proper way!
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haruharuz · 1 year
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How did you get into dancing? Do you recommend it to others? Are there certain types of people that should avoid dancing?
Long story short, 17 year old me stumbled upon the world of SW and outright decided I wanted to try stripping one day. At 20 I decided to say fuck it and go for it, moved halfway across the U.S. and went to an audition.
I don’t recommend it to anyone, but I also don’t say that they shouldn’t. I love dancing but the industry is fucking BRUTAL. I’ve watched good girls become felons from drug charges and a plethora of other things. It really depends on if you WANT to dance and if you have the skill set. There’s a massive skill set needed to dance, if you don’t have it or learn how to build it you won’t make anything.
Absolutely, In no particular order, if you have these you might want to reconsider:
(People with/who:)
Jealousy issues
Little to no self esteem
Money management problems
Past drug addiction issues
Past alcoholism
Addictive tendencies
Fear of rejection
Little to no stamina
Low pain tolerance
No rhythm
No variety in music taste
No social skills
Little concept of being seductive
No makeup skills
No hair skills
Can’t handle being touched
Don’t like being judged
Have bad hygiene skills
This is a small list of things you may want to consider going in. You have 100% certainty to be judged for your body, skin, teeth, hair, voice etc. You WILL need money management skills (send an ask if you want a list of mistakes and advice). And you absolutely cannot avoid being rejected, laughed at, touched in some cases, bruises, scraped, and in pain.
Thank you for the ask babydoll, ask box is still open always <3
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scorplafemme · 1 year
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You can figure out a man’s intentions by asking the right questions
Men literally tell on themselves, you just need to be willing to listen!
This man’s style wasn’t anything special. I couldn’t care less about his style or the way he put himself together.
The thing is after asking 2 questions, he told me his intentions in 1 message.
“I hate spending money”
That message gave me the ick - I actually shivered when I read that.
And I guess you could also ask… as a man who hates spending money, why are you on a dating site?
But the answer to this is quite simple and obvious:
He wants free pussy.
I went on to ask “so you hate spending money on clothes or in general?”, and he had the nerve - the audacity - to say:
“In general… I just try to spend less money as a whole”
Ew. That is embarrassing. 😖🥴
As a man, how is he not embarrassed? You’re literally in competition with other men on dating apps.
I didn’t even bother responding after that. I was so disgusted. After less than 24 hours with no response, he eventually deleted his account.
We need less dusty, broke men and more masculine men on dating apps. This is ridiculous.
Nothing good comes out of entertaining or staying in contact with broke men.
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highclassheaux · 1 year
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Black Friday Lingerie Sales:
If you are making the transition into high end s*xwork now is one of the best times of the year to buy lingerie and begin building your wardrobe. Summer sales, anniversary sales, sample sales and Black Friday/after Christmas sales was when I would buy almost all of my lingerie when I was first starting out.
Most of these sites/designers are a bit on the pricey side (which is another reason to buy when it's on sale) but I put a few mid and lower cost options/brands in here as well because not everyone has Agent Provocateur money.
Agent Provocateur - 30% off site wide (use code AP30) this may not seem like much but if you purchase from their outlet (pieces that are already discounted) it will add up nicely (doing it this way and you can literally buy a set for less than $100).
Bluebella - up to 50% off site wide definitely check out their "outlet" section as well
Bloomingdales - 25% off selected items
Curvy Kate - up to 50% off site wide - great store if you are plus size
Dita Von Teese - 20% off and though that may not be much, her sales page is definitely worth checking out
Fleur du Mal - an EXTRA 30% off of sale items with code 30FLEURYOU
For Love and Lemons (on their site, not VS) - 30% off everything, use code CYBERWEEK (if you're into very feminine, pink, "girly" lingerie, definitely check out their sales page)
Harlow and Fox - 30% off all in stock items (they don't have a large collection of in stock items because their lingerie is usually made to order but I wanted to mention them because their bras go all the way to G cup)
Journelle - 20% off everything which includes their sales page
Moxy Intimates - $10 off $50, $25 off $100, $45 off 150 + free US shipping
Net-A-Porter - up to 50% off select styles
Playful Promises - up to 85% off of everything
Revolve - up to 70% off
Saks Fifth Avenue - up to 80% off of select styles
Studio Pia is having a sale as well (the discount depends on the collection).
The Outnet - an additional 25% off of everything with code BLACKFRIDAY
And my absolute favorite: HONEY BIRDETTE IS 50% OFF select styles (just stop reading and go right now)
Honorable Mentions:
Ann Summers - up to 50% off everything
Yandy - up to 80% off sitewide
I know Ann Summers and Yandy are not considered high end, however, I'm mentioning them because if you need photos, doing online s*xwork or need additional pieces to create content to post on your social media, these 2 sites can really come in handy. However, if you are really slim and/or have a small chest be very careful if you order from Yandy, a lot of their sets have a tendency to run slightly on the bigger side (even their size small) and a lot of their pieces are actually sized S/M and M/L not S, M, L, etc. They do have some XS pieces that will fit A cups fine. But if you are plus size, they have a substantial collection of plus size lingerie.
I'm not mentioning SHEIN because although they are also doing a Black Friday sale, their shit is always cheap lol.
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