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slfcare · 9 months

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every time you assume that others are thinking negatively of you or judging you behind your back, you are bullying yourself through them. at the end of the day, you don't know what thoughts are running through their heads unless they verbally express them to you. until then, every one of 'their' opinions about you is nothing more than your fear, and whatever assumption is born from your fear is yours to let go - not theirs to disprove.

#telling myself this because i'm back to thinking Mean Things about myself THROUGH others #and that's unfair to everyone #growth in the self #the healing (starts here)#comfort kindness family #learning to be a social being

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beamingdesign · 7 months

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trust divine timing

#t #the healing (starts here)#growth in the self #comfort kindness family #self care #self love #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #self validation #mental health #learning to be a social being

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neighbourhoodelfy · 1 year

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I hope you can be the other half of the moon to yourself one day.

#inner peace #self growth #mental health #self love #self healing #positive mental attitude #loveyourself #growth in the self #growth #peaceful #peace

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recomvery · 7 months

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One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

#healing #positivity #self growth #self healing #self improvement #self love #self worth #selflove #recovery

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selfhealingmoments · 3 months

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#change #mental growth #self growth #growth #mindset #self reflection #self improvement #self help #letting go #new life #positivity #new beginnings #inspirational quotes #mental health #be yourself

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sugarsprinklesoul · 2 months

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Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

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iambrillyant · 3 months

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“your gut instinct is not a liar, those initial feelings exist for a reason, sit on them if you need to, process whether your feelings are valid or just projections, but never dismiss your intuition when the signs are staring you in the face and your nervous system is agreeing.”

— iambrillyant

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the-joy-of-knowledge · 3 months

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25 Laws of power for women

Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.

Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon

Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.

Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say “I forget my keys all the time,” “I don’t know how to perfectly park a car “. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.

Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.

Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other women’s style

Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.

You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.

Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!

Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.

Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.

We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, don’t expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.

Don’t attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.

Choose yourself all the time; never put any one’s feelings above yours.

Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go

Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.

Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them

Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then don’t ask them for their opinions or please them.

Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.

Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.

Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.

Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.

Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isn’t subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.

Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Don’t push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.

Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.

Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.

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in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine · 5 months

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#healing #journey #growth #progress #patience #self-compassion #innerstrength #resilience #emotionalwellbeing

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slfcare · 1 year

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The positives of ‘putting yourself out there’ are worth it. Having a great conversation with a stranger will be worth the awkwardness of starting that exact conversation. Joining a small community of people you will see regularly is worth having to get through a scary first day. Getting your dream job is worth the scariness of chasing it. Don’t pick and choose experiences based on the level of ease now, but choose them based on how you want to come out of them.

#the healing (starts here)#growth in the self #comfort kindness family #self care #self love #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #self validation #mental health #learning to be a social being

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sunbon · 5 months

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Yes it is and so it’s yours

#spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #healing #growth #personal growth #love #self love #spilled thoughts #loving yourself #spiritual development

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neighbourhoodelfy · 2 years

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Slow healing

Slow healing in my opinion should be as the name suggests, slow. So what if I wake up everyday in the process of healing I fall down, and then wake up the next day and plan to heal and let the cycle of falling down and getting up go on? Maybe my ways aren't the best, I'm learning to fix each and everyone one of them with each cycle. So are you, I believe that when we start incorporating our fantasies with our reality, healing becomes easy. I crave simplicity, but a mind like mine that lives in some medieval video game drinking non alcoholic drinks (which I smuggled of course) and dancing to songs all night long in the tavern, simply cannot establish simplicity. For my mind craves simple living but my heart chases an adventure. They both clash, but at the end of the day I only live in my fantasy to escape people and environment of my reality.

Slow healing includes so many factors, one of the greatest factor I have started to feel are external forces. I wake up each morning with a positive mindset but because of few issues I cannot keep up with it. But it doesn't mean that I must beat myself up, after all I tried didn't I? One of the things I have heard when I attempted at healing was to surround myself with people who genuinely love me, but right now I cannot find anyone such as that except my own comfort, and maybe that is okay. Not maybe, that is okay. It is okay to feel kind of lonely in this comfort, but sooner or later this too shall pass by and the phase of slow healing will be imbedded in us.

Let it take almost years to come to a point where you can finally breathe freely, let it take almost years for you to come to a point where you can think back at your difficult times and have a hearty laugh. Let it, is what I'm trying to say. Healing for all can depend on the depth of the wound. Just because some people could get out of their rut in a year or less doesn't mean it'll be the same for you, and the sooner we realize and accept it, the better.

Slow healing as the name suggests, should be slow. Slow enough to match up with you, and your progress. Healing will take you through phases you could've never imagined before, and healing will let you end up in a space where you can finally realize the slowness was worth it. Your pace is just as good as others, I hope you realize that.

- wishing you a day of peace

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recomvery · 7 months

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It's ok to want money. It's ok to be upset that you're poor and wishing to be rich. I understand. People who say that money doesn't buy happiness have never eaten pasta every day because it's 50 cents at the grocery store or been short on money for christmas presents. Constantly scraping by makes people miserable and depressed and of course you're gonna dream about money, about being happy and priviledged. That's not greedy or horrible, that's life. It's ok.

#healing #self growth #self healing #self improvement #self love #self worth #selflove #positivity #recovery

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sugarsprinklesoul · 2 months

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Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals

DOPAMINE: the reward chemical

• Complete a task

• Doing self care activites

• Eating some food

• Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN: the love hormones

• Playing with a dog

• Playing with a baby

• Holding hands

• Hugging someone

• Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser

• Meditating

• Running

• Be in the sun

• Walk in nature

• Swimming

ENDORPHIN: the pain relief

• Laughing exercises

• Essential oils

• Eating dark chocolate

• Running

#inspiration #self love #motivation #self care #self help #self improvement #glow up #becoming that girl #glow up era #manifesation #self confidence #self awareness #self development #personal growth #self growth #growth mindset #growth #positive mindset

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todaysmodernmindset · 3 months

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#quotes #motivating quotes #self improvement #personal growth #todaysmodernmindset #todaysquoteoftheday #motivation #motivational quotes #daily motivation

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theambitiouswoman · 3 months

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Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

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