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sweaterkittensahoy · 6 months

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Hey, btw, if you're 40 and your parents are still in your life, you should spend some time figuring out how much personal caregiving you want to do for them.

My grandma took care of my great-grandparents, a great aunt, and two ailing husbands. She wants to go into a nursing home if she is ever unable to live on her own.

My mom wants to care for her even though grandma specifically does not want her to do that because grandma's lived it and doesn't want to put that work on anyone.

Nothing but respect for grandma. She chose to take on a full-time caretaking role several times. That's a fucking lot. I don't want to do that.

My mom, on the other hand, really wants one of the kids to take care of her. And, by extension, Dad. But. No. God no. Not for anything. Dad starts doctor visits by announcing he doesn't like being told what to do, and Mom literally ignored increasing hip pain for several decades while her hip joint went through bone death.

Mom also thinks my aunt asking for help in caregiving my grandmother when her eye sight started getting bad was my aunt being selfish. Which tells me a lot about how much of my time she expects to have (all of it).

No fucking way am I taking responsibility for these people in their golden years. I will vet caregivers and discuss housing options and provide support if there's serious medical shit.

For fuck's sake, Dad's got COPD and still smokes.

Anyway, like I said, if you're 40-ish, it's something you gotta consider. So, just consider it. It's one of those adulthood things that I think people forget until something big happens, and then you're making decisions while stressed and likely fearful, and that's not good for long-term plans.

#adulthood #caregiving #grown up shit

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whumpcereal · 1 year

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something no one tells you about being a grown-up is that, if you don't make your talent a career, it's almost like you haven't any talents at all. we encourage kids to foster their talents and spend time on their passions, and then, when you grow up, it's like that never happened. you're supposed to work and be a Grown-Up™️, the end. even trying to talk to your grown-up friends about those kinds of things can be difficult. it feels silly or needy. you should just grow up!

maybe this is exacerbated by spending all day in the classroom with teenagers and thinking, "i can do that too. i used to be special too." but there are a lot of grown-ups out there who are more than what they appear to be.

there's a lot of grown-up phobia in online spaces, but life doesn't end after your 20's. you still have things to offer, and your interests are valid and your talents should still be valued.

#not whump #just thinking about stuff #grown up shit

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minimoefoe · 2 years

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had the realisation that when i first read morganville vampires i was 15/16, pretty much the same age as claire, and now i'm 22, older than the main four by like 2-6 years depending on where in the series i am and it's weird to think about

#morganville vampires #natchats #i sometimes wonder if im gonna get to a poiny #where reading about 16-20 yos #is gonna get boring #like am i gonna be 40 years old and still reading this genre of booking #and doing my 20th morganville reread #or am i gonna be sick of readong about dumb teenagers #we'll see i guess #i already do have moments where im like ugh i wish the genre of book i like had more stuff set in college #or with adults #but i get that the stuff i like tends to work better in schools #uni would be good tho #like morganville is pretty good #bc theyre teens #but the shit they do is like #grown up shit #so they might ad well be like 20+ most of the time #other than the moments where they go on about claire only being 16 #it's pretty easy to age them all up to like 20 in my head if i really want to #or their ages just dont really cross my mind at all #my fave characters arent even the main gang Anyways so like who even cares #im here for the old vampires baby #i do looove the maon gang tho dont get it twisted #i finished bk 4 and started bk 5 today #sam glass watch out

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whatdoyoushay · 2 years

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never realized growing up meant dying inside but hey gang gang

#grown up shit #fucking adulthood #whatdoyoushay #relatable memes #does it ever end #life quotes #adulthood

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wrishwrosh · 4 months

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one neat bonus of being a picky eater as a child is that adult life is filled with so many beautiful discoveries. have you guys heard about caesar salad? im turning 26 this week

#i didnt like lettuce as a kid #but now as a grown up with a full time job i have the glorious opportunity to pay $14 for very delicious lettuce #im havin a shit week but damn if that salad cant fuckin caesar

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neanshi · 27 days

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Tye Dye Old Fucking Shirt and Brand New One

That mother fucker never cared about her and acted like a jerk all the time.

Just like a fucking mind, and I'm not able to understand anymore.

Yay, the difference between doing a fucking thing and caring is always an issue.

Then, how can that dumb ass know how to nurture her?

I should learn how to drive a car and be independent.

I will never forget how that asshole shook her like a crazy person.

One day, I will be super rich to only live with her.

Only the daughter shares the same blood as her mother.

#grow-up stuff #grown up shit

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kissmyconverse · 4 months

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Guys! I’m getting married in April!!! We both hate weddings so it’ll be a super small ceremony. We’re gunna use the money to go on a bomb ass honeymoon instead! I just wish I could convince someone we know to get ordained so they can marry us 😂😂

#grown up shit #im so excited #real life

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my-fool · 4 months

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Not so much going crazy about robin hobb books so much as making an sound investment so i can go crazy later

#grown up shit #logged #farseer tag

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thewatcherman05 · 9 months

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Getting more mature is thinking you can take a bear, or crocodile in a fight, only to later in life look at the sane animal and realize, the fuck was I thinking

#shitpost #grown up shit

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beybuniki · 2 days

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they should go on a fishing trip pt.1

#DONT COMMENT ON THE BACKGROUND I KNOWWWWWWWWWWWW #anyway this is day 1. they take a bus. the bakugo household has fishing gear so ´deku is wearing bakugo's onesoe (?) and bakugo is wearing #his dad's. and notices he has grown :')#anyway they take a BUS and don't feel like doing this at all it's awkward for so many reason #also trying to relax after everything is neurologically just really hard they might be hyperivgilant dik #and there's so much they never got to unpack bnut they have to and they have to start somewhere and with someone #deku makes that flower crown while bakugo preps everything and they both look at it and are thrown back into their childhood 🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️#and at first they just sit and wait for the bavarian fish to bite (rody should make a cameo tbh) but then bakugo breaks the iceeee.#and he starts with their moms because their moms have been such a stubbron connection between these two :')#and deku answers with the usual 'good :) how's your mom :)?' and to everyone's surprise he actually opens up #and tells deku about his mom's insomnia because she watched her son die (that shit was live streamed tpo 10 bnha tweets btw)#idk i love to think of their moms being a very easy subject to connect through i think it's easier for them that way to be more vulnerablei #and then some fish biteeeeeeeeeeee #but like 3 small ones so they have to gather berries and mushrooms and make stew (dw there's an aldi this is bavaria after all)#but yeah day 1 is a bit weird like it's just them in the woods with no distractions #which is so different from whatever went on during their 1st year of high school #don't read this i will throw up i just need this somewhere this is my public scrapbook #bnha #deku #midoriya izuku #bakugo katsuki #the flower crown on their knees makes this a bit homosexual but fishing is always homosexual im not fighting against that #au:#fishing

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muppetminge · 3 months

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wow i love twitter sm.

on a serious note - i think it's funny to portray women not wearing make-up as silly and childish when you're the one apparently caring so much about what other people are doing to their faces.

ask yourself: why do you find bare faces not appropriate for formal events? why does it bother you to see a woman without makeup? how does it effect you? why do you think it effects you?

you're so insistent that there are no societal pressures at play, that women are doing this exclusively for themselves and for the joy of it - then where does this urge to force it on women who don't find joy in it come from? why does it annoy you to see women in their natural way of being? it's a choice, but also there's a right choice, apparently, and anyone stepping out of line shoud be promptly shamed into submission. right?

"a little (whatever) never hurt anybody" okay and neither does a bare face. grow up.

#mona mona mona #anti beauty culture #anti beauty industry #anti makeup #feminism #radfem #every week i see some variation of “every woman should know how to do (specific kind of makeup)” or “i can't take grown women who don't do #seriously" or straight-up shaming women for the crime of having a face and not painting it over to start over #also this attitude that “it's only little x” you say that about everything!!!!!!!!!!! a little of this here and a little of this there and #bit of this and that. that's a full face babe!#also i literally don't care! i don't give a shit about how litte whatever i don't want to do a little of anything. at all.

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omni-zombi · 1 year

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Adulthood is being able to buy a tub of ice cream for yourself.

Adulthood is also realising that you need to drive to the store and pay for it with your own money.

#funny #meme #lol #memes #daily life #life #life quotes #real life #lifestyle #lifeisgood #adulthood #adulting #grown up shit

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batwynn · 9 months

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I’m seeing a weird uptick in people commenting nasty stuff on people’s non-cat/dog pet stuff again and not so gentle reminder:

Your phobia or dislike of certain animals does not give you the right to harass and bully people who love and share them.

Use the blacklist tag like a normal human being, and leave people who love rats or snakes or bugs etc. the fuck alone.

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whitelacerabbit · 2 years

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just sent the group chat four paragraphs about medical billing. . . what happened us? I used to be (moderately) fun.

#grown up shit

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yupekosi · 1 year

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hello dp x dc fandom i have. a concept for u

so one of those 'Phantom meets the Justice League' fics (maybe with Ghost King!Danny?) and Danny's trying so hard to be as Mature and Adult as possible so they take him seriously and he makes a good impression. he's practiced this with Clockwork he can Be Professional he's totally got this

most of the League is ranging from diplomatic to outright suspicious (cough cough Batman) of this powerful unknown entity who apparently comes from an entire species of extradimensional creatures they had no idea about

J'onn J'onnz, local telepath, is watching this go down knowing full well that Phantom's thoughts are swinging wildly between 'holy shit i'm in SPACE this is so cool i get to meet the JUSTICE LEAGUE oh man they're so awesome' and 'ancients PLEASE think i'm a Mature and Capable Adult'.

(EDIT: i don't plan on writing this shower thought into a fic but if anyone wants to, feel free! just plz give credit in the notes or something :3)

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neanshi · 1 month

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My cousin told me she just had sent me a black cross to keep the bad luck away. Well, I felt like only breathing attracted drama. =]]

#kaonashi #grown up shit #my name's nean!

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