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#gnc femme lesbian
chapst1ckmcdyke · 1 year
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So ive had this saved in my drafts for a while now- but theres a point id like to make about butch/femme identity and expression and think this is ready despite the crap i might catch for it
On my days off and when i go out for fun, lots of times i look like this vvv
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And other times, especially because im a blue collar dyke, i look like this vvv
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The thing that both these photos have in common is that, regardless of how i may appear, i am a femme lesbian. I am not magically butch at work just because i have to wear jeans and work boots for safety. On the clock I am often mistaken for a man and harassed for using the women’s bathroom, people call me sir and damn near keel over trying to correct themselves. I understand that people will look at me as masculine because im in a mans trade.
And yet im still a femme!
You know why? Because being femme is not about how i dress or how long my hair is or the job i work or the body im in, but who i am, how i love, and how i want to be loved back. Its my reclamation of my gender and sexuality and romantic life.
Theres this idea that femme lesbians are “the girl” lesbians and butches are “the boy” lesbians. Femmes are stereotyped as straight passing hyper feminine (and often times cis) girls. But if youve ever met a femme thats not always (in my experience- USUALLY) the case. We often are nonbinary (hi! Also me!) and/or gender nonconforming even in our femininity- taking the things that cishet society hates the most in women (ie body hair/body fat/masculine jobs/deep booming voices- etc) and owning those characteristics in ways that make us feel free and most like femmes 💕
I personally feel most comfortable being feminine off the clock and covering myself in glitter and being a tacky fat furry muppet because its how i feel best recognized by the butches i adore so much! But i get to reclaim womanhood or whatever adjacent, gender-fucked, lesbiany, thing ive got going on, and that doesn’t change when i wear jeans and work boots.
Femmes get to be whatever the hell we want- being broad shouldered and deep voiced and fat and furry and in a trade are not traits that magically make me incapable of being femme- and im over this whole ordeal where y’all assign butches and femmes as either “the boy” or “the girl” of the relationship and expect us to be exclusively feminine or masculine and never cross or mix- just recreating useless gender roles that we have zero reason to uphold.
(And this goes the absolute same for butches/studs who express feminine traits and DOUBLE for trans butches/studs/femmes)
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aardvaark · 6 months
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uhhh lesbian as a gender and lesbianism and gender being inextricably intertwined compilation
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comics: all from alison bechdel
book page about butch identity: from Butch Is A Noun by S. Bear Bergman
image IDs in alt text (you have no idea how long that took lol).
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bratprincedyke · 7 months
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Outfit for butch bar ⚔️
My new tshirt is available here!
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genderqueerdykes · 8 months
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i love you fellow male lesbians, lesbian men, boydykes, lesboys, genderfluid lesbians, multigender lesbians, gender non conforming lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, genderqueer lesbians, faggy butches, drag kings, daddy dykes, butches, studs and bois who are men, transmasculine and FTM lesbians, lesbians who need or want to be viewed and addressed as men, and every lesbian who identifies as partially or wholly male. you are radiant and a beautiful part of of the lesbian community, thank you for existing, please don't let anyone ever tell you you don't belong.
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stormysapphic · 1 month
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even dykes in dresses can hold up the world. photograph of louise rafkin in common lives/lesbian lives no. 15/16, june 1985
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thesunflowerdyke · 3 days
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I’ve seen so many posts on here lately with people referring to their partner as “my butch” and my heart is literally fluttering from the mere thought of being referred to like that one day.
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transsexualmasc · 1 year
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The "nature versus nurture" debate has meaning for each of us here because we are constantly being asked in life: Why are you the way you are? When did you first know you were different? Do you think that while you were in the womb your tiny fist inadvertently clenched an essential gene too hard? Or was your mother domineering?
And my answer is: Who cares! As long as my right to explore the full measure of my own potential is being trampled by discriminatory laws, as long as I am being socially and economically marginalized, as long as I am being scapegoated for the crimes committed by this economic system, my right to exist needs no explanation or justification of any kind.
"allow me to introduce myself" - introduction at the 9th annual Texas "T" (Transgender) Party by Les Feinberg, recorded in Trans Liberation (1998)
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princessefemmelesbian · 6 months
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Just saw someone say that femme lesbians can’t reclaim dyke. 😕 Are you kidding me?????
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l0ve-d0ctor13 · 4 months
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horrormoviebutch · 9 months
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"it's a bad look for a butch to tell femmes not to infantilize themselves" have you considered the infantilization of femmes directly contributes to and fuels the demonization, dehumanization, and sexualization of butches/studs? and to further claim that to infantilize yourself is to be hyperfeminine or ofos? unbelievable.
femmes abuse butches/studs. femmes cause interpersonal harm in their communities. femmes enforce harmful institutions. this is especially common among white, cis, gender-conforming, abled, and skinny femmes. asking femmes to consider themselves as full human beings shouldn’t be a big ask. and when you take into account how butches/studs are constantly being treated and the subsequent disbelief that a butch/stud could ever be hurt by such a sweet feminine person, how dare you even suggest that it's somehow "policing" or "invalidating" for a butch/stud to defend themselves against rhetoric that actively harms them?
butches/studs and gnc femmes are not oppressing you by asking you to consider how your gender-conformity, strict american housewife femininity, and rampant infantilization impact others and yourself.
if you can’t consider the fact that you can be causing harm or even be critical of yourself, you have no vested interest in community and should not call yourself a femme. the end.
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munegirl · 3 months
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the many shapes, sizes, and colors of women
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strawby-salad · 8 months
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Yes I am gender nonconforming. Yes I am femme and a woman and conform to my gender in almost every way. We exist.
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cistematicchaos · 2 years
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I don’t see enough of these so this is your sign to embrace your feminimity in whatever form you wish to. Don’t be afraid to transition, to try out whatever clothes or makeup feel right, don’t worry about intruding, or stealing or looking “weird” because feminimity does not work like that. Anyone is welcome no matter what bigots say. 
Whether it’s clothes or eyeliner or hormones or pronouns or just allowing yourself to accept that it’s a part of you, go ahead. Doesn’t matter if you’re a trans girl or a genderfuck or a trans man, a femme or a butch, old or young, whatever. 
Happy Pride to everyone struggling with their feminimity, to everyone trying to accept it, to everyone who has accepted it, to everyone with a complicated queer relationship with it and to everyone who is just having a load of fun with it. This one’s for you. <3
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bratprincedyke · 6 months
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Autumnal walk
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entropy-sea-system · 5 months
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Femme Lesboy Flag I made
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my take on a femme lesboy flag !!
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As a lesbian, I have literally never been bothered by the things non-lesbians have told me I have to be offended by.
Ace lesbians? Cool.
Aro lesbians? Swag.
Aroace lesbians? Neat.
Lesbians with split attraction? Wonderful.
He/him lesbians? Sure.
Transmasc lesbians? Whatever floats your boat.
POC lesbians with their identity influenced by their culture? Lovely.
Bigender lesbians? Nice.
T4T lesbians? Amazing.
Butch 4 butch lesbians? Rad.
Femme 4 femme lesbians? Great.
Like there are so many issues we actually face that we'd love y'all to get fired up about, but instead you chose to play identity and respectability politics with members of our community just living their lives and not hurting anyone??? It's wild.
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