Οι μεν άλλοι κύνες τους εχθρούς δάκνουσι, εγώ δε τους φίλους ίνα σώσω.

- Diogenes

Other dogs bite only their enemies, whereas I bite also my friends in order to save them.

"It will just end how it started"

love will save you as a zam song is crazy btw.. just saying

Mourning

Mob Psycho understands that it's the little things that will save you.

I’ve seen a few people here talking about what shit friends Ray has. That they are terrible for ditching him when he is obviously self destructing. They should be there for him, taking care of him whenever he is drunk (so, always). I totally understand the sentiment but here’s the thing…

You can only try to save someone on a self destructive path for so long. This is a group who has been friends for a while. They have probably spent years trying to help Ray. How many times have they carried him home? How many times have they cleaned up the puke? Taken his car keys so he doesn’t drive? Calmed down others when he started a fight?

Sometimes, even when you love someone a lot, you have to recognize their part in their behavior. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. Even with alcoholism and addiction, they have to choose to get sober.

So I don’t think they are necessarily shit for letting Ray face the weight of his decisions on his own. They may be shit for a million other reasons, but not this one.

And, to those of you out there who have friends like Ray, you don’t have to fall into a terrible place to save them. It’s ok to love your friend and accept that they are self destructing. It’s totally ok to be there for them, support them, but please realize that in the end it is their choice. Please take care of yourself.

hunter tf you mean “grimwalkers can’t feel love?????” hello????? wanna say that again to camila? to gus??? to luz?????

"I'm going to tell you a story. Maybe it will sound familiar." Visionary x Insatiable x Status Asthmaticus x The Wolves of War

Emailing and calling doesn't have to stop at your politicians. If you can, email your school or your work and your union if you have one, but don't stop there. Any local organisation with a publicly available email address - environmental rights groups because this is an environmental crisis too, churches because look what's happening to Gaza's Christians, childrens charities, hospitals and health centres, journalists and newspapers, anything you can think of. Some will ignore you, some won't, some will already be organising shit in which case it's a good way to get involved

Hey as a super introverted but not shy person I'd just like to say the jokes about extroverts "adopting" introverts to "get them out of their shell" are actually completely unfunny and it just goes to show how little respect a lot of y'all have for the fact that we genuinely don't want excessive social interaction and that y'all are forcing us to do something that brings us extreme physical and mental discomfort because you perceive our introversion as a failing rather than as purely a difference in personality.

We don't need your "help" to socialize. We're not children. We're simply not interested in spending every waking second of our lives talking to people and being talked at in return.

being a person is so annoying it’s like oh my god no one is ever going to love me. anyway time to do laundry and hopefully when i wake up tomorrow this eternal gnawing dread sitting in the pit of my stomach will be gone

how's the job hunt going? would you ever relocate for a job love?

Oh wow what a question lol! Honestly i dont expect to be able to find anything new till this strike is over, the competition is insane right now. In the meantime my plan is to teach myself faster hard surface sculpting in z*brush using hockey gear \o/ mostly because i dont want to pay the $150 a month for maya, that shits insane. Like a fucking health insurance payment.

For the second question - i dont think i've ever experienced love like that. I think it would take a lot of devotion and sacrifice to give up your dreams for someone else. Admirable, for sure. And also a sacrifice that historically women are the ones expected to make. Every time. :( For a job? Lol, i would move in a heartbeat. I stayed in pittsburgh 6 years after college for my dream job - i only left when i lost it. Knew the next dream job wasnt going to be there, so made my way to LA. And now im having to come to terms with the idea that the dream job doesnt exist as i imagined it - or only exists for a very VERY select few.

And actually, thats not totally true about me and love. I think if i thought for one second that nick could love me back like i diid him, id already be in new england. When i applied to this one job, that sounded like a dream come true it listed the salary, and brian and i just read it and gaped. We looked at each other and i was like i dont even know what the fuck i would DO with all that. And of course the first thing that popped into my mind was i could buy that sailboat nick always talked about. When i was writing my programming textbook a decade ago, and really going through it, and nick and i were up until 3 or 4am every night painting theater sets, he'd talk about his sailing adventures, teach me rope knots, that sort of thing, basically a mental escape. And so last week i texted him like 'hey no promises but what if im suddenly actually making good money. Do you still want that boat?' Because, nick's worked so long and so hard and all he's gotten to is the point of still working on boats other people own, and its just not fair how devalued physical labor is, you know? And his immediate reaction was to launch into our very old daydream - the whole 'yes and you're coming with me, sail off into the sunset' stuff. And that hadnt occured to me - my idea was just- id give him the boat, and he'd fix it up, and id maybe demand photos or a visit or two every so often. Because i think finally -finally- im at a point in my life where being in love isnt enough - i want the other person to love me back. And lol definitely not someone who declares love one minute and then stops talking to me for weeks or months, and the cycle repeats over and over. I think its possible to love someone enough that you recognize you arent the one for them, but still want them to be happy? Happier than you could make them.

So long answer is yes, i would relocate for love, but i have learned the hard way to know when i shouldn't.

idk who needs to hear this but im giving you a free pass to not give a fuck about anything going on in the world and to unplug from tumblr for a while to focus on yourself and actually take a breath. your problems matter just as much and deserve just as much attention. dont over weigh the worlds problems over your own. you cant even help the world if you dont take a breather. focus on yourself and what you still need to heal or whateva's goin on for you personally.

rule: put your spotify on repeat playlist on shuffle and post the first 10 songs that come on.

Tagged by beloveds @grapecaseschoices and @sohmiya !

Sharing on this blog because most of these have IF associations in my mind (I rambled in the tags :) feel so free to ignore lol)

And tagging (zero pressure!!) @serenpedac @griffin-wood @lahellacute @amlovelies @toads-treasures (and anyone else who wants to!!! I get shy about tagging!!)

1. It's Called Freefall by Paris Paloma

2. Light by Sleeping at Last

3. Je te laisserai des mots by Patrick Watson

4. Kind of Love by Ellen Winter

5. Eat Your Young by Hozier

6. Cocaine Jesus by Rainbow Kitten Surprise

7. Jupiter by Sleeping at Last

8. Thin Mints by Evan Crommett

9. Not Gone by Ingrid Michaelson

10. Break Bones by Wild Child

anyways yeah i did make them in that character maker bc uh

thank you @transprincecaspian for sharing these