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anexperimentallife · 11 months
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Help a Filipino family with a newborn and three other kids stay in their home!
UPDATED POST about the Tolentinos' situation after some negotiation with the new landowner!
Right now they have to come up with 6,000 pesos (about 120 dollars) by the end of April, 6,000 more by the end of June, and 12,000 pesos (about 240 dollars) more in December. (So basically around 480 dollars, with a quarter of it due immediately. This is less than what they WERE going to have to pay.)
Thanks to you, $98 of the first payment has already been raised! Thank you! We're still not quite there, though.
Here's Jhane Tolentino's PayPal donation link
In case you missed the earlier post, here's the deal in the nutshell: Jhane's* dad is partially disabled, and works as a taxi driver two days a week, for about 10,000 pesos (less than 200 dollars) a month, which is about all he can manage. But twenty years ago, the Tolentinos built a house for their family on land they were told they could occupy forever.
The landowner passed away, and his heir refuses to honor the agreement. He is demanding the Tolentinos start paying rent or vacate the house they built. After some negotiating, the price is dropped a bit, and he is allowing them to purchase the property their house is on (once again, the house they BUILT there, because they were promised they could stay there forever), but they have to come up with the above amounts by the times indicated or forfeit the deal.
If they can get through these first few payments, they hope to be able to handle things on their own, but this came out of the blue, and right now they need a hand.
*In case you don't remember Jhane (@geniussheepworld), she's been a friend of the family since 2021, shortly before El was born. Back when I was hooked up to an oxygen machine for a month, Jhane moved in with us to help Zoey (@thesurestthing) take care of Baby El and me, and pretty much just became part of our little family. She's living with us again to reduce the financial strain on the rest of the family, but that's all we can really afford to do.
P.S. This is originating on my blog instead of hers because she's new to Tumblr, and we don't want her to get mistaken for a bot or anything, whereas I've been here since 2012.
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thesurestthing · 2 years
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21 September 2022: URGENT Disabled US family overseas in danger of separation and imprisonment in bureaucratic/medical nightmare
TL;DR: Through no fault of our own, we have a little over a month (possibly two) to come up with an estimated 7,000 USD--possibly more--in visa overstay fees, clearance fees, and travel expenses (even though we COULDN'T leave before) or risk possible separation from our daughter and indefinite imprisonment until those fees are paid. 
We ( @anexperimentallife, our daughter, and I) are a US family in the Philippines who, through a combination of illness, lockdowns, complicated  pregnancy, a mistake on our daughter's birth certificate, and sluggish bureaucracy, have been unable to leave the country with our baby daughter. Now that we've gotten past most of the bureaucratic hurdles raised by both the Philippines and US, we're being charged for involuntarily (and I stress that it was involuntary) overstaying our visas while we waited for them to sort things out. The Philippines jails people who cannot pay their overstay fees indefinitely, until someone pays them. We have no idea what would happen to our daughter if worse comes to worst.
We could have afforded all the fees if not for all the unexpected illnesses, pregnancy complications, and bureaucratic issues, which we already had to spend a heavy chunk of donations on.
We've already gone over 13,000 USD in debt for all this, despite previous donations, and our only income is Rob's disability, since I (Zoey) am not legally allowed to work here.
Here are our donation links. We prefer pay pal donations, because they take the lowest fees, but we can also accept donations through go fund me and ko-fi.
pay pal: https://href.li/?https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=AAPN4HRA9YLA4
ko fi: https://href.li/?https://ko-fi.com/anexperimentallife
go fund me: https://href.li/?https://www.gofundme.com/f/family-riding-out-covid-overseas
Thank you all again, beyond words!
In-depth explanation:
The long version (and story to date): We are an interracial, neurodivergent, disabled US couple in the Philippines (*see below for explanation). Rob got sick, and nearly died, at the very beginning of COVID (March 2020), and had to be hospitalized literally the day the first lockdown started. Unbeknownst to anyone, this would be the start of nearly two years of lockdowns and inter-city travel restrictions that changed sometimes overnight with zero notice. There were occasions when people who were already in the air were not allowed to enter. Even if not for the lockdown, Rob's doctors agreed that his health was too fragile for travel with the possibility of getting COVID again.
A few months later, still under lockdown, and with our visas about to expire, we found out we were having a baby. There were complications that required me (Zoey) to be hospitalized twice during the pregnancy, and Eleanor was delivered by C Section in March of 2021 (still under lockdown). Also, by this time, we were having to pay overstay fees because Rob’s visa had expired.
An error on El’s birth certificate prevented us from registering her as a US citizen, meaning she could not get a passport, meaning that even if we (Rob and Zoey) could leave the country, Eleanor could not come with us. We did not find this out until August 2021, when we were trying to register her with the US embassy. (Again, since travel restrictions changed at times with no notice, we could not take the chance on leaving the country without knowing when or if we'd be allowed back to reunite with our daughter.)
Thus began a bureaucratic fight with the Philippines bureaucracy that took nearly a year’s time, two lawyers--one of whom had to sweat an affidavit that fifteen was a larger number than fourteen--a priest, pediatric vaccination records a pediatrician’s word, a baby book, a newspaper publication of our daughter’s birth, and a favor from a friend, just to get the Philippines to correct her birth certificate. (If you're wondering how hellish the bureaucracy is here, one of our local friends is still officially named "Baby Boy" in his forties, despite years of his best efforts.)
In the middle of our legal battle in October 2021, Rob got COVID (again), nearly died (again), and had to be on an oxygen machine for a month. Shortly afterwards, the left side of his face also became temporarily paralyzed from blood clots, and clots unseated the retina in his right eye–he’s still in treatment, but the doctors aren't sure he will ever fully recover.
In May of 2022, the Philippines finally gave us El’s “corrected” birth certificate (with a different middle name than the one we chose for her, but we couldn’t afford another ten-month legal battle).
After this, I emailed the embassy to be certain that we would have an appointment shortly after submitting all our paperwork and the necessary forms. They emailed back and said yes, we would have an appointment between 3 and 10 business days from the date that they received our paperwork. So we planned our long and expensive trip down to Manila, and once we were there we sent in our paperwork. After a few days we get an email saying that our appointment was scheduled for the END OF AUGUST. This was in June, so they screwed us over majorly. It cost us over 200 USD just to get down to Manila, and over 1300 USD to stay there.
While we were in Manila, we finally decided to get an evaluation of Rob’s ingrown and chronically infected big toenails. At this point he had had the nails removed at least 3 times during COVID lockdown in Baguio, and they kept regrowing and becoming infected over a period of two years. During the consultation it was determined the nail bed would need to be cauterized to prevent the nails from becoming ingrown and reinfected. To have this done in a satisfactory medical facility cost us 800 USD. We had to stay in Manila an additional 2 weeks or so following this, and spent another 200 USD to get home.
During the preparation for Rob’s surgery, his blood pressure was alarmingly elevated, so after we got home to Baguio we had him consult with a cardiologist and have made medical and dietary changes to mitigate this. (This is apparently another effect of long COVID.)
His toes were still infected and resisting all the antibiotics that had been tried, so he had to go see an infection specialist and have testing done to make sure his bones weren’t infected. Luckily they weren’t, and after an actual wound culture (which no one had thought to do until after two years of this) and this latest round of heavy duty antibiotics, it is finally cleared up.
That brings us to August 2022, when we went back down to Manila again for our appointment scheduled with the Embassy. Luckily everything went well, we had all the correct documentation, and Eleanor was formally declared a US citizen. It’s been a couple weeks since then and we now have her passport. Rob and I were also able to get married over Zoom through the Utah court system, which is a huge relief for us and something to bring us some joy in this whole mess.
Unfortunately, this is not the end of our ordeal. We still have Eleanor’s immigration fees to pay and we have to secure an exit clearance for each of us before we can leave the country to reset our tourist visas. The hope and the goal is for us to be able to get the SRRV, which may be anywhere from 5,000 to 12,000 USD, which will allow us to stay here without the hassle and expense we’ve been going through, even if there’s another lockdown.
Everyone’s monetary and emotional support through this whole thing has been so wonderful, and we are so grateful to you all. Hopefully we’re able to resolve this soon but even after we get things somewhat settled, we still have an overwhelming amount of credit card debt staring us right in the face.
(* “Why were you in the Philippines to begin with?” After Rob's two adult sons died, he moved to the Philippines both to fulfill a decades-long dream, and to make his disability payments stretch further, as it’s basically impossible to live on in the US. I started talking to him online a few months later, and eventually flew over to be with him. Until COVID, everything was fine here financially--a family of three can easily live on under a thousand USD a month here.
It was only all the bureaucratic and legal hassle stemming from El’s birth certificate error, covid, the national lockdown, and the unexpected medical issues that put us in a tight spot. It’s fairly common for people to move to the Philippines on a tourist visa, renew every two months for 40 dollars until they hit the three year mark, at which point they have to leave the country for a day to reset. Thanks to ever-changing travel restrictions, Rob's health, and then El's stateless status, we were unable to do this.)
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quimbyflether · 17 days
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emmmsie · 13 days
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Hey Tumblr, so my town has experienced a tragedy and I am coming to tumblr to ask for the power of tumblr to help our Fire Emergency Chief Becker rest in peace and his family. Chief Becker leaves behind children, a wife, and his parents. He sadly passed away the other day due to a vehicle crash… due to someone else’s selfishness…..
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Tumblr, this website is powerful and I am asking for help for Chief Beckers family from you all. If you could please share this and reblog this and get the word out and please help us make his family’s goal of $10,000, it would be greatly appreciated so much.
His family’s goal currently: $7,365 / 10,000
Chief Beckers Family Goal Update(3/16/24): $8,510 / $10,000
Guys if you could please share this, donate, reblog, tell everyone you know… please help us and his family come together and help them out to get to their goal. Chief Becker has been laid to rest today. Rest In Peace Chief
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If you see this on your dash, please reblog asap and share and please donate to our chiefs family!!
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nutzo0001 · 8 days
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Friend need help:
In just 60 days we will be forced to leave our home. Rent prices in California has made it very very hard to find a new place despite our efforts. Owning this house is out of reach which is very depressing since my parents have worked countless years to keep this roof over our heads just for it to be taken away.
$1,495 USD raised of $5,600 goal
Finding a home that truly fits our needs has been a struggle, and planning for the future has caused us stress. But we're staying positive. We're working hard to save money and protect my nephews from this situation. Recently, our landlord offered to sell us the house we're currently in. It's tough right now, as we're barely making ends meet, but we're exploring options like seller financing or rent-to-own deals. House hunting has become monotonous, with unresponsive listings and deceptive schemes. It's not easy, especially with little kids, to find an apartment where noise isn't an issue. However, we believe things will work out. The support from our community has been incredible, and we're grateful for every dollar we receive. Though we know there's still a long road ahead, we will remain hopeful.
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happynightmoonsworld · 4 months
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chinookorca · 1 year
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Hello everyone. As some of you are aware it's been a hard year for me and my daughter. We are currently staying with family while we wait for a new apartment. We are hoping to be in by 31st of this month.
Since I'm using all the money I currently have on moving us into our own place again I will not be able to get my kid anything for Christmas.
If you are willing or able to help here is her wishlist . I told her I'm having Santa bring her stuff to my dad's. This is going to be the first year we are not going to have our own tree.
Also if you would like to help with the moving fees that would be amazing.
Cashapp:AndiPerkins23
Paypal:https://www.paypal.me/AndiPerkins
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theeonlycatlady · 4 months
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I'm raising money on behalf of my family. Eviction is looming and we are facing a lot of uncertainty. I have several autoimmune conditions which make it difficult for me to hold down a full time job. However, I am a gig worker and work as much as is physically possible for me. My partner was laid off in July and is still waiting for his unemployment to go through. He has been applying for jobs since then with no luck, he has a bachelor's degree in biochemistry. Unfortunately, we live in a small city that doesn't have many jobs relating to his degree. We appreciate any amount of help and if there are any locals that may know of any jobs/careers in town that hire people that have a Bachelor's in biochemistry. Thank you & much love!
https://gofund.me/467da793
💜#gofundme #donate #help #fyp #foryoupage #evictionnotice #ayuda #familianecesitaayudayapollo #familyemergency
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roguedawn · 6 months
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So, a fellow member of a game server in has fallen on hard times. They have recently received a new job offer that can turn things around, but are lacking the funds necessary to move themselves and their family to where their new job is located. They just need money to pay for food, gas, and hotels to get them to their new location until they get their sign on bonus and first paycheck.
They have been a very kind and helpful person, and any help would be appreciated. If you can't donate, please consider sharing so the word can be spread and they can get to their new position soon.
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missjackil · 1 year
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Gofundme Update 10/12
I had to choose to pay the electric bill this pay check, instead of paying on the car because I am on a budget plan with the electric company and I can't go into arrears or I'm taken off the plan and will have to pay the full amount due or get shut off.
Many people told me they can't shut my electric off between October and April but it seems I need to be over 60 (which I am not) or under 18 (which I am not) or otherwise need electricity to power my oxygen or cpap etc (which I do not)
Still a ways from goal...I hope this is over soon
Thank you all for your help
Direct contributions can be made to $MissJackiL on Cash App
Otherwise follow or share the link below
https://gofund.me/4a8e4f51
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anexperimentallife · 2 years
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Disabled, neurodivergent US couple and daughter caught in a bureaucratic and medical nightmare overseas
Summarizing the situation until now (new post because the old ones were getting bloated woth updates): We got pregnant in the Philippines at the beginning of what turned into a two-year national lockdown, with nearly expired visas--which has resulted in thousands of dollars in overstay fees, even though we COULDN'T leave.
Our daughter was born here during the pandemic, with complications requiring a C Section, and an error on her birth certificate kicked off an expensive year+-long struggle to get her paperwork corrected so she could be acknowledged as a US citizen--because even after travel restrictions were lifted, we could not take her with us if we left the country until her citizenship was confirmed and she had a passport. That meant MORE overstay fees, because there was no way we were leaving the country without her.
Many thousands of dollars in donations later, El's citizenship is at long last confirmed, and we finally have her passport, but the struggle is not over.
We now have to come up with an estimated 4,000-6,000 USD more for additional overstay fees (which are several times more than normal extension fees) for all the time it took to get this sorted, and another trip to Manila before any of us are allowed to leave the country. This is in addition to the 13K in debt we've racked up over this.
And the longer it takes, the more the fees add up.
My disability is our sole source of income, as Zoey is not allowed to work here.
While dealing with all of the above, I had covid twice, and with my existing health issues, it nearly killed me both times--I spent a month on an oxygen machine--and have developed other issues (heart, eyes, joints, and a persistent two-year infection that just finally got resolved after a surgery and industrial strength antibiotics) as a result of long covid. That's taken a huge chunk of the money already donated.
Once we get the funds together to pay off our overstay fees, we plan to take the cheapest tickets we can find.
@thesurestthing and I finally managed to get married (turns out Utah will do weddings over Zoom, even for non-residents). Now that we're married, other options may be open to us once the immediate crisis is resolved. But we have to get through this first.
If you can help or reblog, we'd appreciate it. Thank you, and thank you to everyone who has already kicked in or reblogged. We would not have made it this far without you.
PayPal donation link (lowest fees): https://href.li/?https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=AAPN4HRA9YLA4
ko-fi: https://href.li/?https://ko-fi.com/anexperimentallife
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quimbyflether · 4 days
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darkmagenugget · 9 months
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This one not for me:
But my sister was screwed out nearly $5k on a false commission scam and is in desperate need of help. If you can, consider donating to help her and sharing this around! She is a good person who got massively hit by this.
https://gofund.me/cbba7a56
Let's do what we can to help her out. She really didn't deserve to have this happen. I am no good with tags, so add any tags yet, so add any tags that allow this to be seen if you can.
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madhattersez · 1 year
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This is Dot.
She's a close friend of my kiddos, and her Mother is one of the coolest, toughest, hardest fightin' people I know.
This convention could hold answers and help and guidance at a way quicker pace than searching elsewhere for resources on this rare condition. If you can, please help out in this awesome family's time of need - Dot is an absolutely wonderful, sweet, smart, hilarious, and caring child that has taken so many challenges from life in stride and absolutely deserves this.
Thanks for hearing me out. I don't personally have a ton of money to assist, but I figure a post here could end up helping far more than I can alone.
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skellydoodles · 8 months
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She was very brave getting her bloodwork done yesterday. Should be getting the results back later this week to see how everything looks.
She’s still set to get her surgery on the 28th. We are in desperate need of funds for her bills, the vet gave us an estimate of $1200 and we were not prepared for that type of expense.
Any like, share, and donation means the world to us. We already got $235 and are so so so grateful to everyone who has donated.
If anyone is able to help us we would be eternally grateful. This cat means the world to us and we want to get her all the help she needs ❤️❤️
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naturallynatalye · 1 year
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This will probably get passed over but I wanted to try my luck. Our family really needs help paying rent this month.
If you are willing and able to give, it would be such a blessing. Any help is much appreciated! 🙏🏾
God Bless!
Venmo: @natalye_xo
CashApp:$NatalyeScott
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