The Stances of each type.
Sourced from Enneagrammer.
An attempt at an actually good explanation of the head types
Let the takeaway be this: Curiosity, imagination & inquisitiveness is a shared characteristic between all of them.
With some 6 it gets shut down cause they get too bogged down in anxiety or superego correctness, kinda like those really numbed-out 3s sometimes, but the natural disposition is curious & imaginative as well. I mean, how would you concoct all those worst case scenarious without at least latent imagination?
Same for a tendency to want to analyze, understand and "track" what's happening, automatically looking for patterns. Also sometimes characterized as the funny triad, though, ive met some plenty funny 9s and 8s.
Another thing to note is that its not just "logic" that lives here but speculative imagination, future planning & conceptual thinking. What is logic but imagination that is disciplined by rules?
This is especially worth keeping in mind when you consider mbti combinations - ovsly Ts will be more overtly intellectual, Fs might show the imagination side more or be drawn to humanities-related concepts such as art, sociology, psychology... - though of course, both can have both. A xSFx who is a 6 will be more 'concepty' than a 9, in that sense that's a well-balanced combo.
All three tend not be noted for their perceptiveness, but immature individuals can also share the possible weakness of thinking their noggin is god's gift to mankind. (though the 6s are less obviously braggarts to avoid being targeted - more like, "people who share my politics are smart" or "its just common sense")
The fact that scary situations can stimulate planning is kind of an interesting hint at how the capacity for imagination evolved. With all 3 you can see a tendency to 'speed up' if something unforeseen happens that distinguishes them from the other triads, though it shows somewhat differently in each of them.
Now I have no clue about this at all as I don't really pick up on that sort of thing, but another commonality you sometimes hear mentioned which sounds kinda fascinating is a tendency for the eyes sometimes not quite match the rest of the expression or a lot of the expressiveness being in the eyes generally. Like someone acting aggro or cheery but you can tell from the eyes they're inwardly freaked out, or that's how I've heard it described.
So, now that we've established the commonalities and that no single one of them is "the" learning interested type, how do you nail which one you are? For this, it pays to keep in mind both the specific thinking style as well as the temperament that typically goes with it.
Soo... what kind of information can't you get enough of?
7 - the latest new stuff that is full of cool, exciting possibilities. Novelty, technological innovation, avantgardistic art & fashion, anything exciting adventurous & cool, working on a new project or skill every couple of months. Often very good at quick thinking, improvising, and talking people into almost anything. - this is most often an extrovert and usually an active, optimistic, confident, fun-loving and dynamic but not always all that reliable or responsible person. ~ sort of like an inventor or explorer who sees the potential in things. As a thinking style, it's the most associative & open ended, considering how all the multiple frameworks available could be used to solve your problem. Quick at concocting new plans on the spot. Like a mind map or web of loosely connected concepts. Focussed on securing good outcomes, can get anxious that they're not gonna get those good things. Tends to assume they're going to win, sometimes to the point of overconfidence or denial. Tends to discard ideas that are no longer useful or entertaining them & look for ever newer & better ones.
6 - keeping up with politics & important happenings, what is going on with the people in your circle, not missing any potential dangers or important developments, tests & questions everything not easily fooled by scams, looks for the truth behind everything & its trustwortiness - most often introvert but still somewhat sociable, but extrovert is possible - character wise, can be sceptical, argumentative, and a big worrier but also likeable, perseverant, funny, brave, and good team players. - a bit like a detective or journalist, looking for truths. As a thinking style, it's systematic and context-sensitive. Information is related to relationships, morals, political contexts, power dynamics etc. and categorizing things - but not in a simplistic way, but with awareness of how categories can intersect or contradict each other. Like building a map or grid. Focussed on preventing bad outcomes, can get anxious about those bad things happening. Tends to expect a struggle, sometimes to the point of overpreparation or combativeness. Tends to be concerned with whether to adopt or resist ideas, which should be adopted & which resisted, which are "correct" or "certain".
5 - indiscriminately retains all manner of unrelated random stuff just because, for its own sake. Will obsess endlessly over and absorb every last detail about anything that personally interests them even if its something totally obscure, completely theoretical, gross/disturbing, esoteric or of no practical use. Usually very strongly introverted. Blunt, cynical, eccentric and rather sensitive in disposition, but since they're so reclusive they can tend to be known only as "that weirdo who only talks about [current obsession]" - like a collector or philosopher. As a thinking style, its about looking for contrasts, underlying principles, and to try to look at things from as much of an unbiased perspective as possible. Like a decision tree or filing cabinet. Doesn't tie themselves to particular outcomes but rather to anticipate what's going to happen & how to navigate it. Can get anxious that they can't deal with what's coming. Tends to have low expectations, sometimes to the point of being defeatist or doomerism. Rather than rely on outside ideas, try to synthesize their own version, phrasing everything in their own words.
Addendum: I find a lot of confusions come from shared traits in triads being more emphasized in some of the typical descriptions - that's how you get 9s and 5s landing on 4, 6s landing on other reactives, and 6 and 7 landing on 5.
Doesn't help that there's been this shift in the later authos to discuss mostly the temperament for 7 and 6, but you gotta dig out palmer, maitri or naranjo to learn what that actually makes them mental types, whereas with 5, the nerd stuff stayed but all the specifity was lost in regards temperament - The defeatism angle alone would sort out all the mistyped 6s and 3s real quick if it was more emphasized.
Maybe this is in part cause 6 and 7 have roughly even F/T ratio whereas 5 somewhat skews toward T, though by far not as much as 8 or 1, or as much as 4 and 2 do the reverse.
im gonna say it, i hate how glorified enneagram type descriptions are why arent people talking about this?
"threes are the achiever and they work insanely hard and they complete all their goals and they can become a millionaire in a week"
"sevens are crazy party maniacs and enjoy having fun and also do drugs"
"sixes worry about safety and panic all the time and they also go insane when they think something will go wrong and they buy a stupid amount of things to keep themselves safe"
bro tf why are you describing it so extremely,,
nobody talks about threes who dont reach their goals or what sevens do when they feel pushed into a corner
Enneagram Types Cheat Sheet: For typing purposes (from the enneagram institute)
Type 1 - The Reformer
The Rational, Idealistic type; Principled, Purposeful, Self-controlled and Perfectionistic.
Basic fear: of being corrupt, evil, defective
Basic desire: To be good, to have integrity, to be balanced
Holy Idea; Perfection, Serenity. Sin; Anger, Resentment.
Key motivations: Want to be right, to strive higher and improve everything, to be consistent with their ideals, to justify themselves, to be beyond criticism so as not to be condemned by anyone.
Disintegration (stress): methodical Ones suddenly become moody and irrational at Four.
At their Best: wise, discerning, realistic, and noble. Can be morally heroic.
Ones are conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change: always striving to improve things, but afraid of making a mistake. Well-organized, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards, but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience.
Type 2 - The Caregiver
The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Generous, Demonstrative, People-pleasing, and Possessive
Basic fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
Basic desire: To be loved
Holy Idea; Will, Humility. Sin; Pride, Flattery.
Key motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
Disintegration (stress): needy Twos suddenly become aggressive and dominating at Eight.
At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.
Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs.
Type 3 - The Achiever
The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious
Basic fear: Of being worthless
Basic desire: To feel valuable and worthwhile
Holy Idea; Hope, Truthfulness. Sin; Deceit, Vanity.
Key motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.
Disintegration (stress): driven Threes suddenly become disengaged and apathetic at Nine.
At their Best: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to be—role models who inspire others.
Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness.
Type 4 - The Individualist
The Sensitive, Introspective Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental
Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance
Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an
Holy Idea; Origin, Equanimity. Sin; Envy, Melancholy.
Key motivations: Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a "rescuer."
Disintegration (stress): aloof Fours suddenly become over-involved and clinging at Two.
At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences.
Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity.
Type 5 - The Investigator
The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated
Basic Fear: Being useless, helpless, or incapable
Basic Desire: To be capable and competent
Holy Idea; Omniscience, Non-attachment. Sin; Avarice, Stinginess.
Key motivations: Want to possess knowledge, to understand the environment, to have everything figured out as a way of defending the self from threats from the environment.
Disintegration (stress): detached Fives suddenly become hyperactive and scattered at Seven.
At their Best: visionary pioneers, often ahead of their time, and able to see the world in an entirely new way.
Fives are alert, insightful, and curious. They are able to concentrate and focus on developing complex ideas and skills. Independent, innovative, and inventive, they can also become preoccupied with their thoughts and imaginary constructs. They become detached, yet high-strung and intense. They typically have problems with eccentricity, nihilism, and isolation.
Type 6 - The Loyalist
The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious
Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance
Basic Desire: To have security and support
Holy Idea; Faith, Courage. Sin; Fear, Cowardice.
Key motivations: Want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.
Disintegration (stress): dutiful Sixes suddenly become competitive and arrogant at Three.
At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.
Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent "troubleshooters," they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion.
Type 7 - The Enthusiast
The Busy, Variety-Seeking Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, and Scattered
Basic Fear: Of being deprived and in pain
Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled
Holy Idea; Wisdom, Sobriety. Sin; Gluttony, Planning.
Key motivations: Want to maintain their freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out on worthwhile experiences, to keep themselves excited and occupied, to avoid and discharge pain.
Disintegration (stress): scattered Sevens suddenly become perfectionistic and critical at One.
At their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.
Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over-extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness.
Type 8 - The Challenger
The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational
Basic Fear: Of being harmed or controlled by others
Basic Desire: To protect themselves (to be in control of their own life
Holy Idea; Truth, Innocence. Sin; Lust, Vengeance.
Key motivations: Want to be self-reliant, to prove their strength and resist weakness, to be important in their world, to dominate the environment, and to stay in control of their situation.
Disintegration (stress): self-confident Eights suddenly become secretive and fearful at Five.
At their Best: self- mastering, they use their strength to improve others' lives, becoming heroic, magnanimous, and inspiring.
Eights are self-confident, strong, and assertive. Protective, resourceful, straight-talking, and decisive, but can also be ego-centric and domineering. Eights feel they must control their environment, especially people, sometimes becoming confrontational and intimidating. Eights typically have problems with their tempers and with allowing themselves to be vulnerable.
Type 9 - The Peacemaker
The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent
Basic Fear: Of loss and separation
Basic Desire: To have inner stability and "peace of mind"
Holy Idea; Love, Action. Sin; Sloth, Indolence.
Key motivations: Want to create harmony in their environment, to avoid conflicts and tension, to preserve things as they are, to resist whatever would upset or disturb them.
Disintegration (stress): complacent Nines suddenly become anxious and worried at Six.
At their Best: indomitable and all-embracing, they are able to bring people together and heal conflicts.
Nines are accepting, trusting, and stable. They are usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. They want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. They typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness.
Finding Your Type: Problem Solving
(Transcribed from this post by Kambrie Ross.)
In conflict, thinks about the "right" thing to do—based on a sort of moral standard, system, or principle—doesn't want to fail.
Consciously seeks to separate themselves from overwhelming feelings in order to solve the problem at hand with competent, dichotomous thinking.
"Right" for me means it serves a purpose, whatever it is. If it doesn't serve some purpose, it's in the way or causing a problem. If I can fix it I'm happy. if I can't, I stress.
I want to be taken seriously—I don't want to present myself as anything but composed and rational. I try to distance myself from my emotions—they are messy and hard to understand. Being rational is just more efficient.
Positive Outlook Triad
Tends to ignore, gloss over, and push aside conflict and problems rather than address them (both externally and internally).
Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as divisive, which interrupts the flow of the relationships that give them their sense of identity.
Numbness to negative emotions. And numbing my own feelings so I can do more for others.
I try to see the positive in every situation.
I am the glue in relationships. It's hard for me to verbalize what I'm feeling and it's hard to bring up things that bother me. I will almost always opt to avoid conflict to preserve the peace.
I'm receptive at recognizing boundaries and reading moods without needing to speak them.
In conflict, finds an anchor in future goals—pushes hard into mentally assessing, then quickly and efficiently eliminating all blockages—avoids failure.
Tends to see emotions as obstacles that complicate problems and obstruct the path to efficiency and progress.
Every action should be intentional. I'm constantly searching for my purpose and doing what I can to achieve it.
I'm an achiever. I know if I want something, I'll get it done.
more often than not, it's hard to relax or feel fulfilled unless I'm accomplishing something or making effective use of my time.
I think logic trumps emotion almost always, and get angry with myself when I have emotions that are illogical.
Has big, emotional reactions in conflict—feels a need to be authentic to the moment and their current feelings—wants to be heard, validated, and understood.
Believes (subconsciously or not) that the way you solve the problem is by addressing the emotional experience.
I wish people understood the importance of processing emotions...I don't want people to categorize me as "dramatic" or "too deep" when they lack understanding.
I've been told I'm very expressive when I talk about things (especially when I'm passionate or opinionated about something, which happens a lot). I often encourage others to not dismiss what they're feeling, whether good or bad.
I saw something once that said nothing feels small to a 4 and that felt really true. 4s CARE.
In conflict, thinks about data and facts—wants to think and process the problem before solving it—doesn't want to fail.
Believes you must shut down emotions to solve problems—feelings are messy, hard to understand and cloud judgment, but facts are straightforward and make sense.
I see lots of possibilities and I like to take my time to think everything through.
I'm extremely rational, logical, and level-headed. I put facts, morals, and usefulness first when dealing with emotions, making decisions, forming opinions, and gathering and proving knowledge. people always come to me for logical solutions to problems.
I try to learn how people like to communicate...usually doesn't work because people are human, not science, and always change things up.
In conflict, wants to verbally process fears, concerns, and feelings in order to assess stability (relational and otherwise)—has a natural radar for threats.
Believes (subconsciously or not) that external affirmation of their thoughts and feelings will solve the problem.
I can pick up on if someone I love is emotionally off within seconds.
I feel like people don't understand my need to talk through scenarios. I want to be prepared for everything.
It's exhausting at times to feel like the only person who can see the problems with someone else's scheme or to be treated as overly negative when voicing intuitive concerns. I'm hard-wired to spot problems and threats and it's NOT just all in my head: it's good to think through and process all of the things I see and not dismiss them.
Positive Outlook Triad
Seeks to avoid or reframe negativity—often spins things in a more positive, exciting, or fun way (in the moment and retrospectively).
Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as unpleasant, (usually) unnecessary, and as hindering their ability to keep going and stay "up"—doesn't want to feel stuck.
I'm quite low maintenance in a relationship as it doesn't take much to make me happy—just spend time with me, don't be a Debbie Downer, and do fun things with me, even if they're simple. I'm so spontaneous and I see the good in people in life, so I rarely feel sad or let things get me down.
I see the world through a kaleidoscope lens. Everything is colorful, bright, and my mind jumps from piece to piece...As a 7 with depression and ADHD (as well as a chronic illness), life can be pretty sucky sometimes. But I'm able to look on the bright side and channel my pain into action (on most days).
Has big, passionate reactions in conflict—doesn't feel the need to censor impulses or emotional reactions—often pushes for contact to have a stronger sense of being.
has no problem with confrontation or challenges—engages with conflict boldly and willfully in order to keep moving forward.
I'm very upfront when I'm angry. I let people know.
I am so honest that I seem mean. So sometimes I am mean because it's easier than being misunderstood.
I make myself seem larger and louder (an outward defense mechanism to hide the vulnerabilities within myself).
When I feel threatened I go to "fight or flight."
I tackle conflict head-on so the tension is gone and we can be at peace.
Positive Outlook Triad
Tends to avoid and withdraw from tension, conflict, and drama they don't deem as worth the effort.
Sees conflict, problems, and negativity as unnecessary disruptors of peace—will engage in conflict if they can heal the connection and restore harmony.
I hate conflict, tension, and drama. I will engage in conflict as peacefully as I can to break the tension and bring peace back.
I see the world full of conflicting people who refuse to attempt to see things any other way and that's hard. The little things where humans are good to each other makes me happy. I see things with more potential good than many people I know. Conflict, tension, or passive-aggressiveness being present around me make me want to fall through he ground into the center of the earth.
I will do anything to avoid confrontation or conflict.
Enneagram + The Big Five Traits
The Big Five traits are Extraversion, Neuroticism, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness, and Openness.
Extraversion: Varies. Higher if 1w2, lower if 1w9.
Neuroticism: Moderate to high. Self-control may lead to them not appearing outwardly "neurotic". May score high on the Anger facet.
Conscientiousness: Highest of the enneagram types.
Agreeableness: Varies. May want to do the right thing, but may seem disagreeable when their idea of "right" clashes with that of others.
Conscientiousness: Varies, but typically moderate.
Extraversion: Typically high but can be low based on the individual.
Neuroticism: Varies. May not appear outwardly "neurotic" if that is not the image they want to present.
Conscientiousness: Typically moderate to high.
Agreeableness: Higher if 3w2, lower if 3w4.
Conscientiousness: Typically low. May not want to comply with the demands of others, but may follow self-imposed rules.
Agreeableness: Low to moderate.
Conscientiousness: Typically low. May not want to comply with the demands of others, but may follow self-imposed rules.
Openness: High particularly in the Intellect facet, but can be low as Openness focuses on having a variety of interests, while 5s focus intensely on a select few things over a variety.
Extraversion: Varies, but typically introverted.
Agreeableness: Varies. Lower if counterphobic.
Openness: Typically low.
Extraversion: Highest of the enneagram types.
Neuroticism: Low, or if high, at least may try to avoid those negative emotions.
Conscientiousness: Lowest of the enneagram types.
Extraversion: High. Higher if 8w7, lower if 8w9.
Neuroticism: Low. May place high on the Anger facet, but low on other more "vulnerable" feelings such as Anxiety, Self-Consciousness, or Vulnerability.
Openness: Typically low, particularly on Imagination, Artistic Interests, and Emotionality. Intellect may be moderate to high. May be high on Adventurousness and Liberalism.
Neuroticism: Low, or if high, may not appear outwardly as such.
Agreeableness: High. May be lower if 9w8 or SO blind.
Remember that this is an estimation based off the observations I've made of type descriptions, which describe average health. An individual may score differently from what I've written here, and one's trifix may have an influence on it. For example, someone who is a core 1, which typically has very high conscientiousness, may get a lower score than average on conscientiousness if they have a 7 fix.
- Reminder that this is not based off how people of each type self-report (misinformation, lack of self-awareness, and changing oneself to fit type descriptions in the typology community is rampant, therefore self-report means not a lot). This is based off average descriptions from various sources of each type.
INFP + enneagram combos
(these are my assumptions about these types, might not necessarily apply to all or be 100% accurate so take it with a grain of salt)
INFP + 4 : the most common types of INFPs out there. Very introspective and in-tuned with feelings, and very self-reflective. The Fi already is, but this INFP more identity-focused and highly idealistic (more so than other INFPs). Fi prefers authenticity, and 4 prefers uniqueness, so this 4 isn't going to shy away from being their unique selves. (often times 4w5 > 4w3)
INFP + 9 : a confusing mess. may have been mistyped as other enneagram since the 9 can relate to most other types (except their own sometimes). may look like 4s because in a way, 9s are also identity-focussed. The Fi + 9 clashes and the INFP can forget themselves. (often times 9w1 > 9w8)
INFP + 6 : anxious and loyal, they tend to be phobic rather than counterphobic. They think a lot more than other INFPs in my opinion, as they often worry and think things through. Since they are 6s, they can constantly question things/authority. Often looks for a support group.
INFP + 5 : this INFP doesn't relate to most INFP stereotypes at all, and instead appears more logical than "stereotypical INFPs". Often curious people who can inspire others around them with their innovative thinking. They can feel and be misunderstood by others and thus withdraw from them (especially those with 459 archetype tritype). (often times 5w4 > 5w6)
INFP + 2 : don't necessarily relate to the "shy loner INFP" stereotypes, and do like to be by themselves but may become lonely over long periods of alone time. They tend to be more of a people-pleaser and read social cues. More people-centric and gregarious than other INFPs that they can mistype or come across as a Fe user. They can be more aggressive too. (often times 2w3 > 2w1)
INFP + 7: more excitable and eccentric than other INFPs, and they can be more sociable (or they are shy but hyper with close people). but since they're still INFPs, it can drain them. the 7 and introverted-ness of an INFP can clash and cause frustration. they tend to be searching for experiences, satisfaction, or meanings to things. These INFPs are 7s, so they distract themselves from anxiety and negativity with fun. I assume they use their Ne a lot and so can mistype as ENFP.
INFP + 1 : their Fi and 1 give these INFP strong ideals, and make them quite self-critical as well. They repress their anger and can worry about being "not good enough" but they are sensible and humble INFPs. I don't know much about these INFPs since there aren't many out there, but I think they tend to be more orderly than other INFPs.
What is the sp vs sx vs so stuff that I see you talking about with enneagram types, if you already talked about this could you link the post bc I’m not sure where to look
Ahh...yes, where do I start?
So every human being in this world is motivated by the need to protect themselves. And they go about with it in three different ways:
save up resources for self
join community that would commit to saving resources
find a mate who can complete you, propagate reproduction, and help you save resources.
Now, these are just basic instincts that are we're stuck with, due to pre-historic reasons. And every human being will make use of the all these three traits to protect themselves. These traits (they're extremely simplified) are your instinctual variants. You have self-preservation (sp) , social (so), and sexual (sx).
Now, how does this come to play with our enneagram?
So enneagram is what we fear about ourselves, and how we try to cope up with it. Any form of coping == protecting, saving or conserving. Since our internalized fear forces us to protect something (ourselves), we are sort of pre-conditioned to use our instincts, which eventually adds a flair to your coping mechanism.
Which is why people belonging to the same enneagram tend to display different characteristics which are a subset of their core fears.
Self Preservation types primarily focus on protecting themselves by taking care of their immediate needs. These are the type of people who will be more concerned about materialistic issues like money, food, comfort, security.
Social types focus on establishing connections that would keep them safe. In other words, they focus on creating a community of like-minded people which would make them feel secure.
Sexual types are a bit more tricky. They have and constantly search for 'heat', since in early human era they were focused on finding a mate, and reproduction. However, in today's world, since they have a lot more options and places for them to expend that energy, these types are mainly focused on merging with an experience, passion, or a person. They love the feeling of being consumed in desire, have an all or nothing tendency.
Similar to cognitive functions in MBTI, all everyone uses all three of their instincts, just in varying degrees.
I feel like this post is a bit too long, so I shall stop here
The Mental Habits (Fixations) of Each Style
A habit is something we do repeatedly without thinking about it. There are constructive and destructive habits, yet they are so ingrained in us, that all “habits” are worth reconsidering so we are choiceful about what we do.
Enneagram One: Resentment
Paying attention to flaws so that nothing ever seems good enough
Enneagram Two: Flattery
The gaining of acceptance through giving compliments or other forms of attention to others
Enneagram Three: Vanity
The strategic thinking about how to create an idealized image based on being or appearing to be successful
Enneagram Four: Melancholy
Thinking continuously about what is missing, with accompanying thoughts of being disconnected or separated from others
Enneagram Five: Stinginess
A scarcity paradigm that leads to an insatiable thirst for knowing, a reluctance to share – knowledge, time, space, and personal information – and to strategizing about how to control one’s environment
Enneagram Six: Cowardice
The thoughts of doubt and worry that cause the continuous creation of worst-case or anticipatory scenarios
Enneagram Seven: Planning
The mental process by which the mind goes into “hyper gear,” moving in rapid succession from one thing to another
Enneagram Eight: Vengeance
The process of rebalancing wrongs through thoughts related to anger, blame, and intimidation
Enneagram Nine: Laziness
Lethargy in paying attention one’s own feelings and needs, thus disabling him or her from taking the action you most desire
Enneagrams Ordering in the Drive-Thru in a Van
Type 1: "Everyone, shut up! I need to know all of your guys' meals so we can order in a timely manner."
Type 2: "I'll get a medium 3 with a coke...no sauce....unless they ask. If they do ask, could you possibly do BBQ? But only if they ask. Well, actually-"
Type 3: *becomes a salesperson* "If you are looking for spicy food, Number 3 is a great choice. However, if you like the classic burger taste-"
Type 4: "I'll just get- *exquisite custom order* -and that will do it for me."
Type 5: "I'll just have a water and fries. I want to go home and watch a documentary."
Type 6: "I don't know what I want...ya know? Like I think I know what I want right now, but by the time I get to the window to receive my food I may be in the mood for something else."
Type 7: "Ooooo! I know a good shop down the street that sells killer ice cream. We can go there next."
Type 8: "You're literally so slow Ordering! *pushes slow poke to the side* They would like a number 4 and I'd like a number 5."
Type 9: "I'd like a number 1 please. Oh yes. Medium is fine. Yes, a coke would be great." Crap I don't like coke.
6 vs 9 open-mindedness
This morning I was reminded of the truth that while 9s are credited with being the most open-minded, it's an instinctual thing with them where they have permissive boundaries (yet, once they decide what they think, they put down roots and stubbornly refuse to budge), whereas 6s can also be open-minded in the interests of fairness. But it is a conscious choice for them as a head type -- the decision to seek both perspectives, and being aware that polarizing views exist both from a mental perspective (I need to explore both to seek the truth) and an attachment perspective (people are saying different things). The 9 will ignore things that irritate them whereas the 6 will argue against them -- the 9 will decide, "This isn't fair, but I don't want to deal with it, it's not worth my energy to debate," whereas the 6 wants to know where that person is coming from (what's the "reason" for this decision -- a head type preoccupation), and here's what I think, and it's wrong/bad to prematurely reach a conclusion that doesn't involve conscious thinking and weighing of both sides. Again, 9's open-mindedness is instinctual; 6's is "hard-fought." 9 comes from the gut center, a bodily sense of knowing; 6 comes from the mental center, everything is the process of inner debate, because the 6 is out of touch with an "inner knowing." They are trying to land on "inner knowing" by weighing and judging and debating.
counterphobic 6 is a fake type
why does no other type have a counterphobic edition which is treated like its own type separate from the main type? counterphobic 6 has literally become Enneagram 10. you have 6s identifying as either "phobic" or "counterphobic". This is a terrible misunderstanding which I will explain in this post.
First off, I want to say... I really think the community invented counterphobic 6 to dump all the cringey, annoying 8s who they didn't wanna admit are 8s. because the internet and even the more "professional" typology communities want to deify and fetishize and also dehumanize 8, as this terrifying god type who lives without fear. I dont understand it, especially since 8 disintegrates into 5 which is the most fearful and paranoid and vulnerable type.
my guess is that typology itself is a 5-ish field, and we are collectively trying to integrate to 8. so we both fear and fetishize type 8, which is what people do to their integration type.
the truth is that ALL 6s, regardless of instinct (sp, sx, soc), have a duality of Phobic and Counterphobic. In all three instinctual subtypes of 6 there is a Phobic and a Counterphobic manifestation. sp6 is not purely Phobic and sx6 is not purely Counterphobic. I don't give a damn what Beatrice Chestnut says... it has never made any sense when studying the enneagram symbol itself for 6 to be this snowflake that is split into two whole separate types whilst every other type is one type. that idea was invented out of the blue by someone for probably stupid reasons.
if you told me that 9 is a snowflake, I might believe it, because 9 is the only type that has no symmetry with any other type. but 6? really? 6 has vertical symmetry with 3. if you're gonna make a Counterphobic 6 then you need to make a Countershame 3 otherwise the symbol loses all harmony and the whole thing is bullshit.
I have seen sp6s be Counterphobic and sx6s be Phobic. a Counterphobic sp6 is highly intellectual and debates politics and ideas to protect themselves and stops seeking a saviour to assure them about what to think and believe. a Phobic sx6 is highly anxious about their sex appeal and their intimate desirability and their intimate relationships.
all 6s switch between being surrendered to their fear of exclusion and disconnection (Phobic), and using their fear of exclusion and disconnection to challenge or rebel against the way their relationships / communities / societies are (Counterphobic). And... here's an idea... all 6s have Phobic and Counterphobic tendencies in them AT THE SAME TIME! It's incredible right? Phobic / Counterphobic is not a binary. its a spectrum that every 6 and 6 fix moves around on.
I repeat: it makes absolutely no sense for 6 to be this snowflake that is divided into two whole separate types. and I have no idea why we decided to do this so rashly.
unrecognized things about the ennea types!!
1: stepping out of their comfort zone is hard, but it can do them a lot of good
2: their physical appearance is important to them
3: need people more than theyll admit to
4: honesty is more important to them than kindness
5: cant sleep because perpetual stress keeps them awake at night
6: always have a tragic backstory
7: the inside of their brain is louder than new york city
8: they protect the ones closest to them (and often self-sacrifice in doing this)
9: a lot of them seem sleepy all the time
Communication Style by Type
Communication and the lexicon of the Enneagram type’s is fascinating. Our ongoing research has revealed what Katherine Fauvre’s 1994 Enneastyle research found: people of the same enneagram type utilize the same adjectives, phrases, word combinations, favorite sayings, symbolism and metaphors to describe themselves. The combination of the persons lexicon reveals their primary type, tritype, instinctual subtype and wings. Aside from the actual words that the types themselves use the way they talk in is extremely important. The style or flavor of communication can reveal just as much about someone’s potential type as the language itself. By characterizing the type’s language and communication style we can begin to gain greater accuracy in recognizing the type. Of course when characterizing talk style it’s important to think about context and audience. We recommend thinking about talk/communication style in relatively comfortable situations as it will reveal the more authentic talk style. Although you can observe aspects of talk style at someone’s job of a specific performative situation you just have to reserve that some of the content will be specifically focused toward that job or role and could look like another type. Interpersonal relationships reveal the communication style the best.
Teaching, preaching, mentoring, pontificating, criticizing, correcting, appropriate, polite, affectionate, declaiming, parental, judging, reasonable, patrician, irritable.
Helping, effusive, relationship-focused, complimenting, flattering, bossy, managerial, supportive, seductive, sentimental, nurturing, demanding, manipulating, superficial.
Expedient, competent, professional, bragging, socially appropriate, rehearsed, smooth, charming, inspiring, coaching, task-focused, proficient, dazzling, artificial, Pollyanna
Breathy, lamenting, sarcastic, cynical, intellectual, analyzing, specializing, haughty, symbolic, shy, reactive, quipping, elegant, complaining, contrary, metaphorical
Technical, knowledgeable, quiet, self-contained, idiosyncratic, unemotional, rational, professing, dry, frenetic, high-strung, provocative, philosophical, scientific
Tentative, qualifying, provocative, testing, argumentative, anxious, warm, rebellious, questioning, funny, skeptical, cross-examining, friendly, bantering, teasing, complaining, contrary, catastrophizing
Fast, entertaining, storytelling, captivating, charming, intellectual, evasive, arrogant, flippant, future-oriented, generalized, excited, sophisticated, joking, performing, exaggerating
Brash, strident, definite, unemotional, matter of fact, impactful, empowering, intimidating, deadpan, firm, jolly, rabble-rousing, commanding, demanding, clipped, challenging, insensitive, few-words/high impact
Agreeable, accommodating, receptive, rambling, diplomatic, mediating, diffuse, dreamy, non-specific, stubborn, unconvinced, easy, relatable, sentimental, quietly-intellectual, slow-paced, simplistic, un-focused, unaffected