Enneagram system
A rewrite/more in depth post of the Enneagram system compared to my last post on it. Not an expert. May change later.
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What is Enneagram?
I mainly took notes from Riso Hudson theory.
A typology system that categorizes personalities into 9 different types. Each type is numbered from 1 - 9.
Each type has a desire and fear that motivates their actions in life.
Core and Wings
Core: Our main type. It is the foundation of our personality and does not change.
Wing: Acts as a complement to our core. Wing can be one of the two types that sit beside core type. E.g a core 2 can have a 1 wing (2w1) or 3 wing (2w3). But is not necessary to use since wings can change and/or can be balanced.
Levels of Development
Summary of healthy - unhealthy levels of personality
- Healthy levels -
Level 1: Liberation
Let go of self image so we are free to express ourselves however we want. Self acceptance of all traits.
Level 2: Pyschological Capacity
Begin to identify with positive qualities in our personalities and learn to improve ourselves with them.
Level 3: Social Value
Still strongly identify with our set self image and make effort to maintain image. Want to share our good talents and abilities to make a positive effect on self and others.
- Average levels -
Level 4: Imbalance/Social roles
Idealization of self image; have a major focus on either good or bad qualities, no in between. Fear is an obstacle here.
Level 5: Interpersonal Control
Insist on self image being accepted by others, which can cause conflict. Can lead to controlling and manipulation.
Level 6: Overcompensation
Overcompensate due to underlying negative feelings. Desperate for others' acceptance.
- Unhealthy levels -
Level 7: Violation
Desperation for acceptance leads to violation of one's self and others. Serious conflict can occur. May victimize themselves to excuse offensive actions.
Level 8: Obsession and Compulsion
May be overly obsessed with an image of who they want to be. Deceives others
Level 9: Pathological Destructiveness
Most unhealthy state, display very toxic traits and behaviours, may have mental breakdown
Disintegration vs Integration
Or basically Stress vs Growth
Disintegration: When under heavy amounts of stress, a type will go into their disintegration type. They will pick up the negative traits of that type and act like the unhealthy version of it.
Integration: When maturing/developing positively, a type will go their integration type. They will pick up the positive traits of that type and improve their character.
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* I will only give short descriptions for the triads. I will explain more in depth in individual posts.*
Centers of Intelligence
There are 3 centers of intelligence. Each center shows how and why we solve issues in life.
Gut/Instinct/Anger (types 1, 8, 9)
Gut center focuses on reacting and taking action immediately. This triad has an issue with control and anger.
1: Often perfectionists who repress their anger in order to remain morally good. They see their anger in a negative light.
8: The most open and comfortable with their anger. Uses it to assert boundaries, especially since this type fears vulnerability.
9: Often a passive type that dismisses or downplays their anger. They fear conflict and may worry being more assertive will cause a negative effect on themselves and others.
Heart/Image/Shame (types 2, 3, 4)
Heart center focuses on self identity and connections. This triad wants love and recognition and do what they believe is best to get that. They struggle with self worth.
2: They want to be needed and helpful to others. Pride themselves on being of service. Wants to receive love and to give love.
3: The most image oriented type. They always try to show their best selves and best efforts in order to seem admirable. Fears being worthless.
4: Wants to create a unique image for themselves, believes being boring will make them unloveable.
Head/Thinking/Fear (types 5, 6, 7)
Head center focuses on ideas, making rational decisions, and gathering info. This triad deals with fear and uncertainty.
5: The most internalized head type. 5's want to gather as much knowledge and resources as possible in order to stay secure and independent.
6: Quite an anxious type who seeks security through relations with others.
7: This type fears pain and suffering and seek out experiences in order to avoid negativity.
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Other triads
- Harmonic Triads -
How types handle conflict, coping mechanism
Reactive (4, 6, 8)
Reactive types are not afraid to show and speak about their true feelings. They may seem "dramatic" in a way.
4: Melodramatic and self absorbed in negative feelings, drowns in intensity
6: Will argue, stick up for the right thing, moody, anxious
8: Big and loud reactions, can be very fiery
Positive (2, 7, 9)
Positive types dislike negativity and conflict and have their own ways of avoiding such tension. Optimistic during hard times.
2: Actively tries to be a good and kind person, only tries to focus on the good aspects of people
7: Seeks out fun opportunities to make their life exciting (basically distraction)
9: Values harmony and peace, will not risk any type of action that will disturb these values
Competency (1, 3, 5)
Competent types are often perfectionists who want to show their best selves. Objective and rational.
1: Strives to be correct and right, wants to be precise in what they do
3: Represses softer emotions to keep up a certain image, thrives with work/passions so they can be the best at what they do
5: Detached from feelings to remain logical and objective, knowledge seeking
- Hornevian Triads -
Relationships with others, how they get what they want
Assertive (3, 7, 8)
Assertive types go against people to get what they want. Do not back down easily, can seem aggressive and forceful.
3: Pushes through obstacles for achievements, goal oriented
7: Asserts their right to have fun, refuse to be restricted
8: Asserts power and strength, places boundaries
Withdrawn (4, 5, 9)
Withdrawn types are very internalized and do not show their needs openly. Deals with things alone.
4: Feels something is wrong with them internally, feels misunderstood
5: Detached from others as to not drain their own energy, will figure it out themselves
9: Introspective, lets life happen
Compliant (1, 2, 6)
Compliant work with people to get what they want. Builds relationships for security, wants to be helpful to others.
1: Doing the right thing instead of one's own wants
2: Focus on other's needs more instead of self
6: Tries to build a safe and secure environment by getting ppl to work together
- Object Relations -
How we are affected by others, our own affect on others, how we react to personal wounds
Attachment (3, 6, 9)
Seek out bonds and companionships for particular reasons. Individuality vs adaptation.
3: Changes their image to suit whoever they are with in order to meet expectations
6: Creates support systems to help with their self doubt and indecisiveness
9: Adapts to the energy of the environment to keep harmony
Frustration (1, 4, 7)
Triad gets frustrated when their needs aren't met.
1: Has a need to improve every little imperfection they find
4: Dislikes shallowness, longs for depth and complexity
7: Not enjoying experiences, not feeling fulfilled
Rejection (2, 5, 8)
Their own needs feel unimportant to others, so they reject their own needs as well.
2: Rejects the need to receive love and guidance, instead focuses on connecting with others and helping them.
5: Ignores and minimizes all their needs, offers knowledge and expertise in some hope of being acknowledged for their intelligence.
8: Rejects by being never putting their guard down, wanting to appear strong and as the protector of others.
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Subtypes
Claudio Naranjo theory
There are three subtypes/instinctual variants that show our drive in life. There are 27 different subtypes in total.
Self Preservation (Sp)
Focuses on physical safety and security. Our physical health, financial security, obligations, and comforts.
Sexual/One - on - one (Sx)
Wants intensity and deep connections, one on one relationships are preferred.
Social (So)
Prefers to be in a community, wants to create good connections and bonds with others. Socially aware, focus on group goals and contributions.
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Tritype
Katherine Fauvre theory
A minor but still interesting piece of Enneagram. Tritype is formed of your 3 dominant types from each center. The first number will always be your core, followed by your other 2 dominant types.
E.g 369. 3 = core, heart. 6 = head. 9 = gut.
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How to Find Your Enneagram Type: Integration and Disintegration Lines
To all those still uncertain of your types: to be a certain enneagram type you *need* to admire the integration type's behavior, and hold contempt for the disintegration type's behavior.
For example, a 5 needs to dislike 7 reasoning, since that's how 5s act when unhealthy, hence what they *see* as unhealthy. They also admire 8-agressiveness because that's what health looks like to them.
So, to be clear:
To be Enneagram 1 you need to disdain: (4)
self-pity
special-syndrome behavior
melancholic individualism
and admire: (7)
relaxed unseriousness
YOLO
hedonism in general
To be Enneagram 7 you need to disdain: (1)
strictness and perfectionism
stick-up-their-ass behaviour
self-punishment
and admire: (5)
complete immersion in a subject
slow concentration
introspection
To be Enneagram 5 you need to disdain: (7)
scattered-brainess, underthinking
pain avoidance by silliness
inconsistency
and admire: (8)
invincibility syndrome
agressiveness
straightforward action
To be Enneagram 8 you need to disdain: (5)
overthinking
nihilism and cynicism
self-isolation
and admire: (2)
mother-hen/caretaker syndrome
self-sacrificing for others
tenderness
To be Enneagram 2 you need to disdain: (8)
rudeness and insensitivity
hostility
vengefulness
and admire: (4)
irreverence
individualism
authenticity
To be Enneagram 4 you need to disdain: (2)
flowery-basicness
servicing others
praise-seeking
and admire: (1)
self-righteousness
discipline
self-control
To be Enneagram 3 you need to disdain: (9)
laziness
conformed compliance
neutrality
and admire: (6)
honesty
humility
loyalty
To be Enneagram 6 you need to disdain: (3)
fakeness and superficiality
overworking
selfishness
and admire: (9)
stoicism
detachedness
chillness
To be Enneagram 9 you need to disdain: (6)
impulsive reactiveness
fear-mongering
paranoia
and admire: (3)
ambitiousness
competitiveness
determination
inspired by this post!
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MC profile
Some info about my MC Chris Mongrel. Profile is under the cut.
Name: Chris Mongrel
House: Slytherin
Birthday: 24th November
Gender: Male
Sexuality: Demisexual, demiromantic
Nationality: British
Residence: Oxford, Oxfordshire, England
Wand: Black Walnut Wood, Phoenix feather, 12 ½" Length, Rigid flexibility
Patronus: Dingo
PERSONALITY
MBTI: INTP
Enneagram: 5w4 sx/sp
Four temperaments: Phlegmatic-melancholic
Strengths:
logic
creativeness
resourcefulness
resilience
quick-thinking
he can be a good listener if he wants
loyalty
he can notice patterns in close people’s behaviour and figure out when they are not okay by small changes in it
Weaknesses:
disconnection and tendency to get easily lost in thoughts
low self-worth
adrenaline addictiveness
absolute recklessness regarding his safety
prone to self-isolation and melancholy
trust issues
insensitive at times, especially when he’s absorbed in a new project/puzzle
Hobbies:
drawing (he likes to do sketches of anything he finds fascinating)
experimenting with magic, whether forbidden for students or not (though he avoids Dark Magic), enchanting muggle artefacts (like making a fountain pen with everlasting ink, a self-sharpening pencil or a notebook with extension charm)
Amortentia (what he smells like to others):
cedar wood (smell of pencil shaving) due to his habit of making notes and sketches, and he finds muggle stuff more convenient for it
forest and fresh air (as a result of frequent flying and exploring Forbidden Forest)
wiggenweld potion (a side effect of being adrenaline addictive)
Favourite subjects:
Charms
Transfiguration
Study of Ancient Runes
Defense Against Dark Arts
Least favourite subjects:
Care for Magical Creatures (how can you deal with something that is, with rare exceptions, as far from being logical as it gets?)
Herbology (it’s just boring)
History of Magic (nothing wrong with history itself, but, gosh, professor Binns’ lessons are such a waste of time! You can read everything you need to know in a book much faster)
Divination
When you are an adrenaline addictive introverted bookworm.
Childhood:
"Mongrel" isn't his real surname. When he was 11, Chris discovered himself at the doorway to a muggle charity school, a typical so-called bluecoat school in those times where orphans and kids from poor families lived and got educated (if they were lucky to get a place there). He didn't remember how he ended up there, how he got the fresh scar on his face, where he had lived before, who his parents were, not even his surname.
A local boy passing by mentioned to Chris that weird kids with mental problems would never be accepted to any school, where there's not enough space even for "normal" children and the best place for them is living on the streets or in workhouses. Chris didn't know if it was true but decided not to reveal to anyone that he didn't remember anything, just in case.
The school's headmaster, a man with a strange, absent-minded expression (he was under the Imperius Curse), expected the new student to arrive that day. When Chris was asked his full name, he made up his surname promptly, saying the first word that crossed his mind. It was from the phrase the boy had told him, "Y'know, nobody wanna deal with mental mongrels like you."
A bit later, Chris realised that some snippets of his childhood were still tucked away in his memory: the precious and warm moments with his father, a muggle professor at Oxford University. Nevertheless, Chris didn't remember his name or what had happened to him.
Some facts:
★He struggles with insomnia and nightmares, especially the repetitive ones about an unfamiliar (or not?) boy with milky eyes. The dragon attack was, of course, a shocking experience for Chris, but when he first entered the Slytherin common room, he was even more stunned to meet a person who resembled the constant participant of his nightmares, though 5-6 years older.
★They didn't get along at first. Or, more precisely, Ominis was hostile towards the new fifth-year. So even when he had to mention Chris to Sebastian, for example, he called him anything but by name. He could say "that walking magnet for troubles", "your accomplice", "your new best friend" (with some extent of sarcasm in his voice) or "the neophyte". It took Ominis some time before he addressed Chris by name for the first time.
★Before Hogwarts, Chris had never participated in magic duels. In fact, he didn’t even know that magic existed, being very sceptical about it. But anyway, he had to hone his reflexes in the frequent scuffles at the charity school, full of boys with behaviour problems.
★No matter the weather, he often feels cold, which makes him favour sweaters. Like most of his belongings, his clothes are quite shabby due to his extreme lifestyle and orphanhood. Besides, even when he earns some money running errands for other people, from potions delivery to eliminating trolls, buying new clothes is his least priority.
★Having all the extra assignments and schoolwork to catch up on, he always tries to push himself to the limit, sometimes neglecting to sleep. Due to his low self-worth, he feels he must do the maximum to prove to himself that he matters like others. He’s either the best or nothing. He doesn’t value his life at all, which, together with adrenaline addiction, makes risking it daily easier.
★He can forget to sleep but tries not to miss meal times as he was often hungry in the charity school. Not a picky eater.
★When he's nervous, he uses humour as a defence mechanism. While sometimes it helps to relieve difficult situations, it can also be not appropriate at all.
★He can easily break the rules if he doesn't see any sense in it or if the pros might outweigh the cons.
★He has claustrophobia.
★The Sorting Hat doubted whether to place him in Slytherin or Ravenclaw.
★He isn't the type of person who says "I love you." often, but even if he does, it may sound like,
"I think I love you."
"You…think?"
"Well, all the symptoms confirm the diagnosis".
★He was never good at emotions and feelings, mostly "postponing" them to process later and pulling on an overconfident mask. Still, the irony is that he was chosen by a black walnut wand, which doesn't like when its master practises any form of self-deception and misbehaves when it happens, which in the case of Chris' lifestyle can be fatal. So, he had to learn how to manage his feelings promptly, primarily by trial and error.
★Though he rarely shows emotion or affection, it doesn’t mean he isn’t capable of it, but it takes him much time to open up to someone.
★After school he plans to work as a Curse-Breaker or a researcher in St Mungo’s Hospital, focusing on ancient magic and its impact on dark curses.
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r u familiar with the enneagram system? if so, i'd be curious to know what u think dazai, akutagawa, yosano, or anyone else's type is. of course, that's just a suggestion. i really like ur blog and hope life's going well for u.
I am familiar with it!
I'm not a huge fan of it for several reasons that I won't get into here, and as a psychology student I do feel compelled to alert people that tests like the Enneagram and MBTI, while fun, are not statistically valid or empirically grounded, and that I absolutely hate how these kinds of pseudo-psychological tests are still sometimes used by companies in the hiring process. They have no place there.
But, like I said, they are fun to do and I think my young teenage self, who spent literal years trying to rework some of these tests to yield more consistent results when analyzing fictional characters, would like it if I gave it a shot!
I'll do Dazai, Akutagawa and Yosano, and I'll add in Atsushi, Kyouka and Tachihara because of the recent episodes. :)
Dazai: I think he kind of has to be a 5w4. (I hate it I hate it that's my type arghhhh) 5s tend to withdraw and become detached observers - their ideal is to become as knowledgeable, intelligent and competent in their area as possible. The 4 as a wing meanwhile gives this type an emotional underpinning it wouldn't normally have. The 4 wing makes the 5 desire more in the way of self-expression and makes them tend to turn their knowledge and information gathering about people over hard facts. While the 4 might be considered an alternative, as 4s tend to be melancholic and feel separate from the rest of the crowd, it's also too focused on self-expression to be right for Dazai's character. 5s may have similar feelings but they deal with it more by rationalizing these feelings or withdrawing from people. 5s also tend to move towards 7s when under stress or in a bad place, which typically involves frantic attempts at spontaneity or excitement in an attempt to not feel so drained, trapped or incompetent. When in a healthier mindset, they tend to move towards 8, which enables more assertive, leader-like, and protective behaviours.
Akutagawa: I'd say a true 3. 3s are all about achievement, objectives and competency - and about gaining recognition for it. While they are normally characterized as extraverted, I think the core is there in Akutagawa - the need to win above all else, the idea that love and recognition are based on accomplishment, the projecting of their own insecurities onto others. These are traits that are present even in Beast, and likely rooted in his survivalist mindset. Akutagawa will go about whatever means are required to succeed, and he is objective-driven and direct in his ambitions to an almost extreme degree. Under stress, they go to 9, which leads them to stubbornly continue on the path they have set and put themselves under immense pressure without questioning why or branching off to something different, likely out of familiarity with the struggle and a fear of revision. This is quite clear in the main universe, with Dazai's approval being one of the only things that matters to him and making him largely unable to see alternate paths and driving him to reckless action. In a healthier mindset, they move towards 6, which makes them more committed team players. This seems to be where Beast was going, and hopefully we see that with shin soukoku as well.
Yosano: I'd say type 8w9 for sure. 8s are protectors, powerful and assertive to avoid showing weakness or vulnerability. Nothing else really makes sense for Yosano; she's always been an assertive person, and she doesn't mince her words - she likes to get to the point quickly and get things done. She also projects an image of intimidation and doesn't reveal much about herself to her coworkers. The 9 wing brings a more mellow side to the type 8 and focuses their protectiveness more on places of safety - like the Agency for Yosano and how protective she is of it and the people in it! Under stress, 8s move to 5, which causes them to withdraw into themselves as they try to detach from what's going on and question themselves and their usual confidence... yeah... In a healthier setting, they move towards the 2, which enables them to put their confidence and control towards helping those who need it, instead of focusing only on minimizing their own vulnerability.
Atsushi: I waffled between 2 and 6 for him before deciding on 2w1. 2 makes sense with its emphasis on helping others to be needed and building an image of being someone who helps others so they don't have to bother/deal with their own issues. 6s are too suspicious and focused primarily on security to be a good match for Atsushi, who, while he doesn't want to be hurt anymore and loves having a supportive group of people to come back to, is uh. Often very reckless. The 1 wing is that undercurrent of not just doing helpful things for others, but of doing helpful things that are also morally right and just. Underdeveloped 1 can result in some black and white thinking, which Atsushi can be a bit prone to, especially early in the series. 2s can be prone to becoming strongly prideful via their good deeds, but they can crash hard if they neglect their own needs for too long or somehow "fail" another. They are not supposed to be "selfish", and I think we see Atsushi struggle to fit his own needs into his image of the "one who saves others" he thinks he needs to be to be worthy. When under stress, they tap into the sudden aggression of 8, which may cause them to try to exert power to stop feeling vulnerable, but the growth towards 4 lets them explore their own feelings and perceptions to figure out what they actually want.
Kyouka: Probably a 9w8. Kyouka has very simple, straightforward wants and needs - part of the beauty of her character is that while everyone is angsting over big picture things (and she does too, continuously questioning her own goodness and worthiness), she also pretty quickly gets to the heart of it - "the crepe was delicious" "i like bunnies and tofu" - her desires are all simple little things that bring her happiness and give her a reason to fight back. Seeing Kyouka come to life over the course of the series is genuinely one of BSD's biggest joys. 9s are all about comfort, repression of anger, "going with the flow", etc. They tend not to be incredibly assertive, but are supportive and can quickly turn obstinate and quietly protective if their stability and home are threatened. Under stress, they detach, go numb and essentially keep their heads down and do what they're told, which is reminiscent of how Kyouka was so distant at the beginning of the story. In a growth mindset, they move towards the 3, which allows them to actively pursue their goals, not just for others but for themselves. The 8 wing was chosen due to Kyouka's sudden action and decisiveness when someone/something she cares about is threatened - she's less concerned with the morality of the 1 and more about protecting what matters to her by any means.
Tachihara: I'll be honest, I'm not entirely sold on this but I'm thinking a 6w7. 6s are all about the group, and are hardworking and committed types, but also known for being skeptical, uncertain, and questioning. The thing about Tachi is that he's actually a pretty loyal dude, he's just unfortunately attached to two different groups... what's interesting is that the resolution to this conflict is related to his earlier proclamation that "orders make him who he is", and that loyalty to the boss' (Mori's) wishes is a crucial factor in his choice to stay with the Mafia. 6s tend to feel insecure without some stable structure around them and tend to like having some direction from others. At the same time, some of the indecisiveness and uncertainty is alleviated by the 7 wing, which brings a little more impulsiveness and energy to the usually muted 6. Under stress, 6s move towards 3s, which makes them feel the need to accomplish and succeed to "measure up" - I think about Tachihara always being compared to his brother until one day he just gave up. 6s move towards 9s when in growth, and this is at the core of what a 6 wants: they really crave security and belonging, and the 9 alleviates some of the suspicion the 6 carries and makes them feel more relaxed.
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Hey babe <3 I know I asked for a Band of Brothers ship before (Dick Winters), but I didn't ask for a Pacific ship, so I thought I'd cover all my bases <3
About Me:
– your gender/pronouns: Female, She/Her, but really sort of indifferent.
– your sexuality/gender preference: Also indifferent, but for the purposes of the ship, men.
– your main flaws and most defining traits:
My friend said it was my stubbornness, but my most defining traits based on her assessment are my hardworking behaviour, my hyper-independence, and my intelligence. I also like to think I have a pretty good sense of humour (wry/observant/playful) and am secretly quite giving and warm. For example, if someone does something for me, I'm old school and will usually write them a physical thank you note, or make them cookies.
I also am pretty solid at shooting down anyone who tries to go toe-to-toe with me, and I can usually read people pretty well. I easily cut off people who I mistrust or who think they're pulling one over me- I pretty much live by "If I cut you off, chances are you handed me the scissors." I don't sweat the small things and small slights. But if someone thinks because I don't sweat the small stuff they can walk all over me, they're sorely mistaken (I'm not a serial killer, I promise).
– your hobbies and pastimes: I like culture, so anything surrounding literature, history, architecture, you name it. I also like long walks in nature and sports/weight lifting (I used to play elite-level volleyball before my knees/ankles gave out (cause I'm old, wahay), but I like to just get outside in fresh air now and listen to music/make playlists on long walks. I like good coffee shops and places where it's just quiet and civilized.
•Optional:
– your appearance: 6'0, athletic, just past shoulder-length ash brown hair with some face framing blonde highlights/money pieces. People say the prettiest part of my face are my eyes, which are pale green.
Some people who don't know me well see me as "aloof" or "intimidating"- probably just based on the fact that my Dad is Eastern European and I have natural RBF, but you get to know me, I'm sensitive and described at work as a "positive" person who's a "delight" to have around (their words in my quarterly review- not mine lol).
– your personality type (example: ENFP; Enneagram 7 or 7w6): I'm an INTJ , and an Enneagram 5. I forget what my wing "officially" is, but I feel Enneagram 5w6 is more fitting. I used to be more of the "philosopher" type in the past, but I feel life has forced me to bring practical solutions to the forefront.
I'm also a Virgo, but with a Leo Moon and a Leo Rising sign. Which basically means I like things organized and neat and plan ahead, but people assume I'm gregarious and probably more a "Leo" than I actually am. I can fake being an extrovert, while needing time on my own to decompress.
I've also always been between a Slytherin and a Ravenclaw. I like learning for my own sake, just like the only person I'd be in competition with is myself. I'm never the type of person to step over someone else in order to accomplish my own goals- I work hard and let my work speak for itself, and let others who might be jealous or try to take me down fail on their own merits. I'm not a game player and I think it's honestly petty and stupid when people are, because I'm a good judge of character and 99.9 percent of the time I can see through someone's behaviour.
– any pet peeves: People who mistake kindness for weakness, people who don't smile at people when they make the effort, people who don't respect basic manners. Basically, people who are unnecessarily cruel for no reason.
– your love language: I just took this- acts of service, followed by works of affirmation. But I'm going to be honest- my heart swells when even coworkers or someone who's a friend does something to take something off my plate, or pays me back in some way by getting me a coffee or tea. (I'm a cheap date, what can I say).
Anyhow, work your magic, sweetheart, and thanks again <3
Hi again @currahee :)) I would love to give you a TP ship! I hope you like this one :)
I ship you with:
R.V. Burgin from The Pacific!
Ship theme song: The Woman in Me by Shania Twain
this man admires you sm and has the most respect for you <3
you have no idea
you are the love of his life
but also just like a really good role model in work and life
and Burgie really likes that in a person
for Burgie, work and family are of equal importance
so he completely understands your inner drive to do well at work
and he doesn't mind taking on more of the domestic side of life while you go out and conquer the world
the first time that you take down some sexist prick in an argument
you can bet that Burgie totally had a hard on haha
"I literally married the hottest, most smart lawyer lady in the world!!"
is what he's screaming in his head the whole time
he also just loves when you start unraveling y'all's kids' arguments
y'know lol once they get to that precocious little goblin-mode age
this man will literally make some popcorn and just sit at the dinner table and watch it happen
basically, anytime that you're using your intellect or being objective in an argument is when Burgie realizes that he's so in love with you
he's the kinda guy who memorizes your coffee order
and then goes home and makes it for you exactly to your liking the next day
he also loves taking you to scenic places to go hike around Texas
he would 100% agree with your co-workers:
you are a total delight and the most positive person he's ever met
and the most beautiful ;)
your pale green eyes captivated him the first time you met
I'm pretty sure that our sweet Burgie is also an INTJ :)
you're both pretty good at hiding behind your "extrovert mask"
but at the end of the day, you both enjoy just staying in and reading to each other on the couch
Burgie isn't much of a game player either tbh
his mama taught him from a very young age to be intentional in his actions
and he is very much intentional with you
Burgie's mama also taught him that "please" and "thank you" are the bare minimum
he's a Texas Gentleman after all!
Burgie is also an acts of service kinda guy
he's incredibly handy
so any kind of household item that needs repairing
he's your guy to do it
or car stuff
he's all over that
his heart swells 3x when you write him a sweet thank you note
or make him his favorite dessert
Burgie considers himself the luckiest lad in the world to have you!
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ㅤೀ 𝐑𝐄𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐃𝐔𝐓𝐘 ! EVAN CHO sets sail to assist those with broken hearts . the THIRTY-NINE year old is known to be UNETHICAL , but makes up for it by being EFFICIENT . you can usually find him listening to REQUIEM FOR MY HARLEQUIN BY POETS OF THE FALL ; might be a way to unwind from working as a PSYCHOLOGIST at CH HEALTH & EMERGENCIES . ﹕ ꒰ lee dongwook, cis man, he / him ꒱
𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒄 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒔
name: evan cho.
pronouns: he / him.
nickname(s): doc.
date of birth: november 1 @ 0001.
zodiac signs: ☼ scorpio, ☾ taurus, ⇧ leo ( western ), dog ( chinese ).
language(s): english, korean, latin, german.
orientation: pansexual / panromantic.
occupation: psychologist.
moral alignment: lawful evil.
enneagram: 3w2, the enchanter.
mbti: intj-t, the architect.
hogwarts house: slytherin.
temperament: choleric.
signature scent: tiziana terenzi’s sirrah ( top notes: passionfruit, quince, saffron, & green pepper. heart notes: osmanthus, mountain air, amber, rose, & cardamom. base notes: white musk, leather, sandalwood, birch, & patchouli ).
inspiration: won sangah ( little women, kdrama ), ko moonyoung ( it’s okay not to be okay, kdrama ), seo moonjo ( strangers from hell, kdrama ), jung sunho ( i remember you, kdrama ), yujin ( the good son, book by youjeong jeong ), margot scott ( tell me lies, audible original by jp pomare ), patrick bateman ( american psycho ), hannibal lecter ( hannibal, tv show ), + my own imagination.
𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒔
─── [ REDACTED ].
𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒄𝒂𝒏𝒐𝒏 𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒔
─── born and raised in london. got his psyd in clinical psychology at the university of manchester.
─── throughout his time spent getting his education, along with his clinical training, he placed a heavy emphasis on personality & dissociative disorders which eventually became his specialty whenever he opened his own practice.
─── ranks 4.6 / 5 in primary psychopathy and 2.4 / 5 in secondary psychopathy. the difference between the two being that primary deals with superficial charm, manipulation, & the lack of empathy, while secondary deals with impulsivity & is often related to hostile behaviour.
─── piggy backing off the above, he’s had many years to learn how to fit in, to blend seamlessly into the community around him. to the outside world, he’s well-educated, charming, warm, outgoing, etc. ( all without being too much ) while, in reality, it’s all a facade.
─── definitely a pleasure seeker in a physical sense and no one, except those that would become a problem or disrupt his carefully staged set up, is off limits. enjoys a good adrenaline rush, too.
─── regarding the whole impulsivity thing, he is the world’s most patient man. which is one of the biggest factor as to why he’s able to get away and come off as a walking white flag without a red one in sight.
─── the reason why i said he’s unethical is because he’s never really followed the ethics normally placed upon those within his profession. he tends to get just a bit closer to his clients, maybe whispers some things he shouldn’t as their psychologist bc he often sees him as his play things.
─── also known within the circle of wealth for his.. charity. before joining the cruise, he spent many hours doing volunteer work, offering mental health services to orphanages and shelters, etc. was also a big donator.
annnnnnnnd i think i’m gonna end it here. i feel like he’s a muse that’ll be fun to learn about through interactions and development bc is he being real? is he ever telling the truth? who knows! i don’t! anyway, as i’ve said before, thx for putting up with us <3
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Hi there Flo! It is me Sarah again! And I was wondering if I can have a Outsiders ship please?
Physical Appearance: I have long brown hair with blonde highlights, ocean blue eyes with bluish-purple glasses, I have a curvy but lean body with strong calves thanks to the years of dancing (cheerleading and ballet), horse-riding, running and jumping, I am 5'1 feet tall, I have pale-tan skin with freckles on my face and also I got random moles and freckles on my arms and legs as well and people say I got a smile that can brighten up any room.
Personality: I am an open-minded, kind-hearted, optimistic and friendly girl with a love of learning things like zodiac signs, MBTI types, crystals and Disney etc. I can be very impatient, stubborn, naive and I am also in the spectrum so I can be blunt and quirky only because I see the world in a different way from other people but I see the good in people no matter what and I am loyal and dependable to my friends and family and when someone hurts my friends and my family I can be fiercely protective all over them.
My type for a perfect person: I just want to be my best friend and partner in crime, I want a gentleman or gentlelady who will be proudly hold my hand and being glad that I am their girlfriend, I want someone to bring me flowers and compliments everyday and being the mother/father of my future kids someday and treat me like a queen all the time.
Sexuality and Pronouns: Bisexual (Both male and female preference) and She/Her
MBTI Type: INFJ-T
Big Three: Sagittarius sun, Cancer moon and Aquarius rising
Moral Alignment: Lawful Good
Enneagram Type: Type 2 (The Helper)
Temperament Personality Type: Sanguine-Choleric (The Influencer)
Hogwarts House: Slytherin
Likes: Singing, dancing, acting, writing, reading books, typing, watching Disney movies, Zodiac signs, MBTI types and crystals.
Dislikes: Mean people, vegetables, yelling, someone who hurts the ones I love the most and bullies.
Random Facts: I've been in the school musical productions for 5 years and my childhood nickname was Sarah-Bear.
your perfect matchup is 𝐣𝐨𝐡𝐧𝐧𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐝𝐞 💌
𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐣𝐨𝐡𝐧𝐧𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧 <𝟑
𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝟐 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 <𝟑
because johnny doesn’t have a job or attend school i think you too meeting would be a real coincidence.
like you’d really have had to bump into each other in order to meet.
so i picture you at the drive in theatre with your separate friends and you start fancy a sweet treat so you walk over to the little kiosk that sells snacks but to get to it you have to pass the outsiders.
dallas started hollering and harassing you but to johnny’s surprise you stand up for yourself basically telling dallas to back off.
to johnny this is insane, girls never tell dallas to leave them alone.
and just as dallas is about to make another comment johnny surprises himself by saying “shut up dallas”
he watches you walk off and in that moment he realises he can’t let you leave without at least learning your name so he summons all his confidence and runs to catch up with you.
when he reaches you he apologies for dallas’s behaviour and you thank him for helping.
he flushes and shyly asks your name.
softly remarking how such a pretty name suits you.
he tells you his name and on his hand you write your number with a little heart telling him to keep in touch. neither of you realise that this is the beginning of something very special <3
𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 <𝟑
you two are the kind of couple that no one expected but when they find out it just makes perfect sense.
he honestly can’t believe you chose him over everyone else and he can get kinda of insecure so you have to remind him that he’s the one you chose.
intj x infj compatibility means that you two are completely on the same wavelength about things.
his favourite moments with you would be the two of you just quietly sitting together holding each other.
he hangs onto your every word; he’s so enamoured with you.
he’d love to read play scripts with you such as romeo and juliet or far from the madding crowd.
he’s not very rich so he can’t afford lavish gifts so instead he makes like bead bracelets for you.
and if his home is becoming too unsafe he stays with you.
you also end becoming close friends with the rest of the gang so like you discuss horse-riding with sodapop, plays with ponyboy, mickey mouse with two bit and you have a long chat with dallas about the line between flirting and harassment.
needless to say everything is better for johnny now you’re in his life and i’m sure you feel the same. <3
𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 <𝟑
hugs and kisses, flo <333
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Notes from Reading People - Anne Bogel
accept and understand who you Actually are
There’s no good or bad personality
We’re all ambiverts
Strike your own balance with introversion and extroversion in your planning. Consider work, family, friends
Some things might not be important to you. But consider if it might be really important to someone you love.
Realise there are church introvert or extrovert personalities
HSPs need: clean space, noise. No people
Personality tests are like maps. They don’t get you to places. But gives you better idea of environment
David keirsey - I’m probably an idealist. Wanting to change others. So I end up correcting others out of love. But really, what things are actually Necessary to get 100% correct on
5 Love languages
love bank account
MBTI
answer Qs quickly. Gut level answer. Don’t overthink. True answer, not who you want to be, or learned to become. What I was like as a child.
Mbti isn’t an excuse to not do certain things.
Chapter 7: Understanding the 8 cognitive functions of mbti. Pattern of mental behaviour.
Introvert: directed inwardly, to the inner world. Extrovert: directed outwardly, to the external world. Not to do with sociability
Our personality types don’t change. We just grow in our minor weaker abilities. Dominant, auxiliary, tertiary, inferior
It’s about the functions, and what order
Clifton's strength online talent assessment
for one person, reading might be a helpful way for them to build on their strengths. But for another, not really
Enneagram
Type is based mainly on Motivations. Helps us see junk. And better manage it. Each personality type is seeing the world through different glasses. Pros and cons
Awareness. Acceptance. Action. Adherence. Appreciation - Dr Daniels
Emotionally intelligent couples understand the negative stuff is the fact of life in any relationship. Most marital arguments aren’t solvable because most disagreements are rooted in fundamental differences of lifestyle personality or values. We grow in our relationships by reconciling our differences , not by fixing them - John Gorman
Our personality types don’t determine our life, but inform it
If personality is the lens I look at life through-with awareness of own personality I can look at the glasses, not just through them. And also see how others looks through their lens
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I do consider the 6 typing for myself but it ends pretty quickly. I do not see the 6 -> 3 movements in myself much under stress. Since I am a 6-fix they are there, but I have to squint to see them. 8 -> 5 is profoundly obvious though. So is 9 -> 6 to a slightly lesser extent. I always knew since the day I discovered enneagram, "I act like a 6 when stressed" but I couldn't map the 9 -> 6 movement in myself until very recently... lol.
Actual 6s believe they are 3s or 3-fixes of some sort (regardless of whether or not they actually are) because they disintegrate into 3. I have never once considered a 3 anything for myself. It is the type I relate the least to. I can feel myself becoming more 3-like in times of joy and I can feel 3-like behaviour as an aspirational thing for myself... kind of. This is all why I typed as 9 for so many years and still entertain the thought of myself being a 9 core. But me as 6 core? Just no. It is not fitting. Unless your concept of 6 is a bunch of stereotypes and "hehe the uncool type that we dump all the annoying 8-9s into".
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hey i know you do hexaco analysis and i was wondering if you like any other typology systems? if so, what's your opinion on #dazaiso4sweep on pdb? my apologies for bringing up that accursed site.
Hey hey anon!
Ok so I do want to clarify: HEXACO is actually not typology at all! It's a psychological personality inventory that has been pretty extensively statistically tested and the scales tend to correlate nicely with certain measures of behaviour and future outcomes (it's kind of like an expanded Big 5 - though there's always contention over the usefulness of measures that describe personality traits, especially since manifestations of a trait in one culture can lead to a formal definition that may not apply in another culture. There's been some concern about the way Openness is defined for this reason.).
The difference lies in that typology categorizes people - it's an "either or" result. HEXACO is an inventory, which means everyone has all these traits - instead, it places people on a scale, or six scales in this case - it's a "score" result.
Psychology no longer likes categorizing, as hardly anyone fits neatly into a single category, and a lot of that kind of work was based on psychoanalytic theory, which relied a lot on introspection and dream analysis, which is now... largely bunk. Still cool, though, and I think there's nothing wrong with the MBTI or Enneagram for analyzing fictional characters - I used to do it all the time in high school (actually I spent an embarrassingly long time - several years - trying to make firm definitions and a revamped MBTI test specifically for this purpose). I still think they can be useful tools for initial crafting of characters tbh - it helps differentiate ways of thinking and core values and stuff like that. I just hate that it's still sometimes used in the hiring process, when it should never have been used for that in the first place. It tells the hiring manager nothing meaningful and it does not dictate what job you should have or how well you will blend with a group. It should NEVER be used for any decisions with real-world stakes. (Sorry, this kind of thing really irritates me. Personality tests have no place in the hiring process if you've set up your interview properly.)
The benefit of using scale measures of traits is that they align better with what we know now to be true - people cannot often be neatly categorized, but instead, we tend to have varying levels of traits or behaviours between us. That's also the way the mental health field is moving as well, as we discover more and more that many symptoms of mental illness (not all, but a substantial amount) are simply unmanageable extremes of "normal" -> typical traits and behaviours. I know. Shocker, right? (That was sarcasm.)
Now, the way I'm using HEXACO is very much a bastardization of it. HEXACO does give an output like the one I do, with traits being ordered from highest score to lowest relative to each other. However, I cannot administer a test to fictional characters, so I was forced to assign a value from 1 to 5, which is already an issue in that I am only using whole integers, while the actual test uses decimals in between values which are determined by an average of each item on the scale.
Ok, going much further beyond is probably way too technical (I'll just tell you that HEXACO also uses percentiles, which, if you know what percentiles are, it'll become quite apparent why I can't do that - if you don't know what that is, don't worry about it).
Oh my god I'm so sorry what was your question again?
Ohh ok. Well, I'll just say I have an entire revised MBTI-adjacent set of definitions I made in high school which I still enjoy using to get a handle on my characters but since I never shared it with anyone I don't think that really counts, haha!
Also I'm glad you called pdb "accursed" because it really is. I've never gone on there and agreed with the choice, or even if I did, I never liked the reasoning. Dazai as a type 4 huh? I don't know... I get why, but I'd want to also look at the type 5 tbh. 4 has a lot to do with feelings of alienation and sadness for that reason, which works well, but a 4 also can't help but emotionally express that alienation as a core part of their identity. While Dazai flaunts his "inhumanity" on occasion, more often than not, he appears more ashamed than anything. The 5 deals with detachment, and of collecting information to feel prepared to deal with and make sense of the world - they may in fact withdraw until they feel they are equipped to deal with life, which of course means that they may never feel it's time to emerge at all (that would tie with Dazai's notorious lack of initiative taking). The stress line makes more sense for 5 to me too tbh: Dazai is going to be an unhealthy version of whatever type he is, and the stress line leads to 7 - essentially craving external stimulation and excitement to avoid thinking about or dealing with problems. Idk. I could be wrong but really enneagram is always going to be swayed by personal interpretation. Mind sharing your thoughts on this anon? I'm curious as to whether you agree or if you have doubts.
One more thing: if you do like this sort of thing, I wonder if you've ever heard of DISC? It's a type-personality test meant to indicate how you work with others in an organization. Kind of neat! (Again, I caution against real-world applications... but everyone loves a fun test, right? :D)
Here's HEXACO if you want to try, and DISC for fun!
Sorry for the long-winded reply!
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Does every enneagram has a fear of abandonment?
Hello! I'm currently trying to study the enneagram after 2 or 3 years studying mbti (which I found with your help, I'm one of the recent Ne dom ask, I settled for ENFP so/sp). I'm reading the detailed profiles of the enneagram and I'm under the impression that the core of every type is the fear of abandonment (because this fear is always popping up somewhere). So is it the case and the enneagrams are coping strategies or did I misunderstood, and the core fears are really different?
The core fears are indeed different.
1 - fear of being wrong / amoral
2 - fear of being unloved / unwanted
3 - fear of being unimportant
4 - fear of being normal and fixable
5 - fear of being overwhelmed by life / unable to cope
6 - fear of abandonment or being alone
7 - fear of being trapped and unable to seek happiness
8 - fear of being controlled
9 - fear of conflict
I suspect it might be a Ne dom problem, because the more I read the more I identify with many types.
This could indicate 9, since they see themselves in everything.
I definitely recognize 6w7 ish behaviours in myself: apart from being quite anxious and wary of consequences, I am always checking if people are okay with me/are still liking me, staying in touch with people, eliminating problems before they are becoming one, wanting to have stable and safe relationships but planning many things in my life and having a kind of FOMO. I only fear to miss important social events that would put me aside from the group.
I saw myself very much in 2w1, 2w3 and 3w2 for a time, being I am very accustomed to guilt trip about relationships (whether I am not sufficiently here for a friend, for a family). A good deal of my self worth is tied to me being helpful to people (and I am a medical resident, it doesn't help). I can become quite a workaholic to achieve what I want.
Lastly for a time I typed as 9w8. People always find me very calm and agreeable. I really rarely get angry (and I am good at numbing it) but I can explode from time to time. When I am chill even in stressful situation, I process later. I am also not very assertive in my close relationship (but I am with strangers to a certain degree) and don't want to bother. I also escape workload by daydreaming.
Checking to see if people still like you could be a 6 thing or a 9 thing. 9s are chill and unconcerned with worries, whereas 6s are the opposite. To draw a parallel between a 6 and a 9, I'll share a scene that a friend recently reminded me of. We are both NFPs. She's a 9w8 and I'm a 6w7. We went to a major city two years ago for the day and there encountered hundreds of homeless people scattered all around the capital building and in public parks. My mind immediately leapt to the danger and I got anxious since I couldn't predict what any of them might do, as it scanned through various scenarios in my mind. She just went on as if nothing were a potential threat, and did not give it a second thought. A similar situation unfolded with an 9w1 who told me about wandering around NYC alone while her husband was at a business meeting. She inadvertently wandered into a dangerous part of town and peeked into a window into an empty cafe -- empty except for two men having an intense discussion in the back. The owner waved her in and served her food. She sat there and after a while, started getting a weird feeling about it that hadn't occurred to her immediately -- that this was in the "mafia district," and it was suspicious that there were only two people in this particular restaurant during a busy time of day. But she didn't want to get up and leave to soon, for risk of offending the owner. The instant she said "I went off alone," and "I wandered around without a plan," my 6 brain went "uh... no." And by the time she started describing the very-likely mob bosses at the back table, I went "OH HELL NO." Being a 6 has me constantly on the alert for threats. 9s don't think that way at all, and sometimes are surprised by anyone else feeling like this situation is potentially dangerous.
I would investigate 9 fully first, before considering 2 or 6.
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Hey sweetheart- could I ask for a ship from both Band of Brothers? 🖤 So glad you reached out 🖤
About Me:
– your gender/pronouns: Female/ She/Her
– your sexuality/gender preference: Honestly? Indifferent. If I fell in love with someone, I fall in love with them. But for this case, gender preference, male.
– your main flaws and most defining traits: I asked my best friend this because I'm terrible at defining myself. She said my main flaw was my stubbornness (Fair- I'll be stubborn/immediately cut someone loose on principle if they're being an asshole- or just hold them at an arm's length and side eye them for the rest of their lives). I think it's just a discerning sense of not rewarding asshole people for their behaviour, but you be the judge. 💀
My most defining traits she said were my hard working behaviour, my hyper-independence, and my "audaciousness." The first two I feel are self-explanatory- she feels my audaciousness comes from doing things most people would without a second thought- like moving all over the place for opportunities (England, Australia, back to Canada, where I'm originally from), and living in other cities with no connections or no background in them if it'll help develop me and my opportunities as a person. So she means it in a way that means less like an "imprudent lack of respect," and more like, " a willingness to take surprisingly bold risks." I'm not jumping out of planes or anything (sorry boys), but I am doing modern equivalents of things that would get me ahead and help me grow as a person.
– your hobbies and pastimes: I love history- I also love exercise of any sort (although I don't really keep a schedule)- I used to play scholarship level volleyball. Now, I just love long walks in nature on my own, and weight training. Besides that, I love drinking overpriced lattes and taking in coffee shops, listening to music, and listening to podcasts/audiobooks.
•Optional:
– your appearance: I'm tall for a girl (6'0/1.83m)- Dark blonde/ash brown hair, green eyes, pale. I'm athletic, played high-level volleyball and swimming, and now mostly keep to doing weights and running. I'd say my eyes are the prettiest part of me.
– your personality type (example: ENFP; Enneagram 7 or 7w6): I'm an INTJ, Enneagram 5. Basically the analyst, always.
– any pet peeves: People who mistaken kindness for weakness, bullies, people who don't recognize their own privilege, rudeness, cruelty.
– your love language: I literally just took this quiz. 🖤 My love language is acts of service, which tracks. When people do things for me, because I'm so used to shouldering everything myself, it really feels appreciated. My second love language was words of affirmation. I'm always humble/sheepish when taking compliments, but especially if it's from a significant other, it makes me feel special.
•Examples of bonus info:
– your zodiac sign (or big three): Virgo Sun, Leo Moon, Leo Rising (I know- it's a lot of hidden Leo). I'm honestly a stereotypical Virgo in that I'm a perfectionist, plan ahead for everything, like things in order and neat, slightly cynical (but it doesn't mean someone isn't out to get you), and modest. I'm also highly independent.
As for Leo Moon and Leo Rising, people often think I'm an extrovert because I put on a positive face and am described as a positive person who lightens any workplace I'm in and lights to be self-depricating (I'm also obnoxious about my hair, which apparently is a Leo Moon trait). I can be the leader if I have to be, but I usually don't offer unless nobody else is taking charge- and then I take charge just to get things moving.
I'm an introvert at heart, however. Most nights unless it's something really fantastic I'll spend on my own or doing activities I like to do on my own, or talking to one really good friend. I'm a fan of long walks in nature, hot beverages, and quietness/ acoustic music.
– your Hogwarts house: I used to think Slytherinclaw and used to get Slytherin a lot- however, I lean more towards Ravenclaw these days. I'm not just running after something in order to define my self-confidence or self-esteem anymore- I'm confident enough to do that myself, and I don't need awards or kudos to do that for me. I like knowledge for knowledge's sake (I also never needed to step over anyone in my ambition- I just did my own thing).
– your insecurities: It's hard- because I feel as though my insecurities have shifted too as I've gotten older.
I'm going to say my biggest insecurities (which sound sad, which is why you'd never hear me say them outloud lol), would be finding someone who sees me and loves me outside of just being "a nice person." I think people see me as someone inherently likeable, but nothing more. Or smart/ capable, but nothing more. Sometimes I feel as though nobody ever sees me as someone who would be datable, instead of someone they like in their friend group. And to be fair, I've made myself hyper-independent in order to survive- but as I've gone into adulthood, I think I've realized, sometimes it's nice to have someone to depend on, and I want to work on being seen outside of being hyper-capable as someone not "intimidating" or "aloof" (when I literally just have a resting bitch face and am just vibing 💀). I held hands with a boy the other day who helped me across an ice patch, and I just realized how nice it was to have someone's hand in yours, sometimes, as cheesy as it sounds.
My other insecurity I guess is related to being sure I'm on the right path. I'm in training for a prestigious law position and becoming a lawyer after graduating from law school, and although law is interesting, I'm not sure if the practice of law itself is right for me. I'd much rather teach other people it as a professor, or analyze things as a policy analyst to help people more organically, than be a lawyer who charges people per hour. I know it's less "prestigious," but I'd rather be a force for good with my law knowledge than a force for ambivalence/ black letter law stuff. My insecurity would be whether or not if I choose a slightly different path that pays less/makes me more happy, if I'd be disappointing people/not living up to my potential/ shooting myself in the foot after being called as a lawyer. Sad, I know, but there you go. 💀
ANYHOW, do your worst, babe, and I appreciate whomever actually takes the time to read this. 🖤
Hi babes!! wowowow your blog is the prettiest✨💕 so glad I found you!
I ship you with:
Dick Winters from Band of Brothers!
ok but dick was the only logical choice here!
hear me out
this man is in love with you
and it’s like the classic slow burn that everyone pines for in life
but you’re lucky because you actually get to experience that together!
you probably meet each other as officers in Toccoa or Fort Benning
as officers
Dick shyly admits it now, but he was a little intimidated by you at first
You had an independence that he wasn’t really used to in ladies back home
Girls back home married young and depended on their boyfriends and husbands to make the right decisions or bring home a paycheck
But dick didn’t get that sense from you at all
He’s an observant guy
So the more he sees you at work
Being an absolute badass
The more he starts to fall in love with you
This man thinks you can do anything you set your mind to
And God help anyone who stands in your way
your jobs might take you to different places around the world
And it could mean that you spend long periods of time apart
But in the end, Dick will always wait for you
And is so beyond proud of you💗
I can see the two of you taking some classes at Rutgers together after the war while Dick works his first job at Nixon Nitration Works
As lifelong learners, I think you would both enjoy classes together
Adding it to your list of shared hobbies :)
Dick felt so privileged when you started inviting him on hikes with you
Since he knows that’s your sacred alone time
You both used to play sports in school
So you both understand how important physical activity is for your health and well-being
If you both decide to start a family together
I can see y’all teaching your kids how to play volleyball and football together 💕
You show him all your favorite podcasts and audiobooks
He instantly loves them!
I can see him working at his desk late at night
Listening to some obscure history podcast that you showed him
You can bet your ass that he plans your honeymoon to some historical European town that you’ve wanted to visit for ages
see what I did there? ;)
I’m pretty sure that it’s canon that Dick is an acts of service kinda guy
So it works perfectly that you both show each other that same kind of love
Anything you need done
Whether it’s mowing the lawn or a grocery store run
Dick is very eager to please
He’s also the king of sweet compliments 💕
Sharing a foxhole in Bastogne together
His kind compliments and encouragements keep you going during the harsh winter
I wonder what your enneagram wing is?
Bc if you’re a 5w6, I’m pretty sure that Dick is a 6w5.
So that means that you would be mirroring each other :)
6w5s and 5w6s enjoy being capable and independent and secure
So you’d have that in common
Based on mbti, seems like you both are more introverted and like to lead a more planned out life
And Dick is very content with that
Also canon that Dick loves tall girls 😤
He thinks you’re lovely 🥰
Neither of you can abide bullies
Long talks about how frustrating Sobel is to deal with
You can show him that taking bolder, calculated risks can pay off :)
You’re both pretty stubborn
But I can see you also teaching him that just saying no to toxic people, no matter how much they may need your help, is best in the long run
In return, Dick can show you that doing what you love is the key to ultimate happiness
And that you’re loved first of all just for being your amazing badass self
Not just because you’re “nice”
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&. ABOUT
FULL NAME: aranya sunglass. NICKNAME(S): the serpent , the seeress . AGE: twenty one, born deep in the summer month of june in the fortress of house sunglass. AFFILIATIONS: house sunglass, tba . GENDER: cis-woman. PRONOUNS: she/her. SEXUALITY: bisexual. BIRTHPLACE: the riverlands residing house sunglass, mid-june. RESIDENCE: sunglass fortress, right tower. OCCUPATION: sister to the ruling lord of house sunglass. RELATIONSHIP STATUS: single. EDUCATION: she can read and write, but had studied in secret. languages spoken are thai, english, and old valyrian. CHILDREN: none. SKILLS: expert in throwing knives, and daggers. POSITIVES: disciplined, independent, methodical, loyal, and observant. NEGATIVES: cynical, reserved, paranoid, private , and vindictive. HEIGHT: 5′1. ENNEAGRAM: type eight, the challenger. MBTI: ISFJ, the defender. INFLUENCES FOR THIS CHARACTER: eowyn ( lord of the rings ) , dominika egorova ( red sparrow trilogy ) , rosita espinosa ( the walking dead ) , daenerys targaryen ( a song of ice and fire ) , sansa stark ( a song of ice and fire ) , aslaug ( vikings ) , and katniss everdeen ( the hunger games ) . PLAYLIST: tba.
SOME BACKGROUND NOTES : tw. physical abuse. tw. assault mention.
I. her story, like many women’s stories, begins with survival. out the womb she arrived, already with the taste of blood in her mouth. her father was a drunk and oftentimes released his anger on her, as she was one to normally spit out an insult back at him. she is born to a village where there were droughts after droughts, a heat that was never-ending and soon her skin grew thick with the weather. often-times looked down at and underestimated, she was determined to be a woman unforgettable, or unforgivable. whichever came first. she took to sharpening knives and had ordered a trainer to accompany her during nightfall to help her practice by the time she was eight. on her tenth birthday she was offered a gift of twin gold daggers, which she keeps wrapped around her thighs at all times.
II. not one to search out social clubs and/or social company in general, her mother began to shun her in front of the public. what use is a girl if she cannot marry? what use is a girl if her womb is not being made a home? while she knows she must eventually marry into another family in order to keep her parents’ name intact, there is a small idea that has begun to sprout inside her. marriage as her own way of becoming god, becoming memorable. she must find the perfect suitor.
III. she often wears her hair down, but has been known to braid it tightly into one long braid. this is her signature look during important events and/or important meetings. while it is encouraged that she wears a dress at all times, there has been several occasions where she dons a black robe, tied tightly in the centre as she walks through the streets while muttering things about thrones burning and bloodlines dying. some call her behaviour eccentric, others call her mad.
IV. she has never killed anyone, but there’s been a few occasions where she’s had to ward scoundrels off, leaving deep scars from her daggers’ blades. wanted connections can be included in either helping her ward these attackers off, or being one of them. some wanted plots would be arranged betroths, enemies, childhood friends, a spy she’s hired for information around the kingdoms. any and all are welcome !!
V. the most important aspect of aranya includes her seeress reputation. come one and all, lady aranya is able to tell your fortune ( or at least a part of it ) . does she experience true premonitions? of course. very rarely and they appear to her as though underwater, muddy and cloudy, entirely vague. however, she claims the gods have favoured her and her power of observance has saved her each and every time. she has told fortunes to the poor and the royal, all have left feeling accomplished and seen. although, she only charges the royals a hefty price. this can be applied to a thread or plot, but i’ll be sure to have the mun’s permission!
IMPORTANT NOTE: aranya has four doberman pinschers, two females and two males, all are familiar with the sunglass castle, as well as aranya’s siblings. more guard dogs, however, than pets.
MORE POINTS TBA !!!
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hi, this probably doesn't make sense but i think i'm mistyped. i'm typed as a 9w1 and i relate with type 9 characteristics a lot but not the 1 or 8 wing. i sometimes do enneagram tests from websites and i always score high on types 4 5 6 7 9 (especially 4 5 9) and low on 1 2 3 8. so does this means that i might be a 4w5 or 5w4 (?)
i think i'm the latter bc i don't relate with what 4w5 disintegrate into. i relate with type 5 disintegrating into 7 but not that thrill seeking, extremely adventurous, bold, reckless trait when stressed (i procrastinate and will tend to run away from my problems when i feel overwhelmed)
i noticed that 7 and 9 are kinda similar in their ways except that 7 is more outgoing and surrounding aware, 9 is more easygoing and prioritizes peace, so my question is, can it be due to me as an 5w4, is so reserved and withdrawn (to the point that it was sort of unhealthy) that when i disintegrate into 7, it was toned down and looks more like a 9 instead? is this why i don't relate with any 1 or 8 wings characteristics but only type 9? asking this bc i need answers and advice, thanks in advance!
from how you describe yourself you could be either a 5 or 9; both display similar behaviours. i've seen people mistype as the other before and people also mix them up in theory (e.g. when typing fictional characters). since it's indeed curious that you don't relate to either 8 or 1, 5 sounds more plausible though
as for 5 -> 7 disintegration, i don't get the supposedly thrill-seeking and adventurous descriptions either. from my obervation disintegrating 5s just run away from their problems without confronting them and distract themselves 24/7 so they don't have to think (like a 7); that's why 8 is their integration point: to get out of their head/inaction/isolation and instead become more decisive and start actually doing stuff
to be honest, a lot of what i just said also holds true for 9s. a disintegrating 9 gets paralyzed by stress/fear and tries to numb themself out. their integration point is 3 because it helps them to actually have a goal they can work towards to and get them out of their sloth/inertia
that's why for a quick distinction between 5 and 9: 5 is more cerebral and constantly overthinks stuff, whereas 9 has a more laid-back attitude and thinks that people worry too much
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