Being close has nothing to do with distance or time. Some people living oceans away can touch you in ways a person sitting right next to you never will. Someone you've known for a short time whom you've physically never met, can know you better than someone you've lived with for decades. Because for some, "love" is merely physical. Others can go deeper and touch your very soul.
You guys have to internalize the fact that having low empathy or no empathy doesn’t make you evil.
I have no empathy. I have very little sympathy. However, I still make the choice to listen and help others when I can.
Stop demonizing people with low/no empathy. We’re not monsters and we’re not evil.
affective vs cognitive empathy:
affective empathy is the ability to feel the emotions of others. someone with affective empathy may see another person crying, and feel sad as a result. they may feel happy and excited when their friend shares something that made them feel good.
cognitive empathy is the ability to recognize the emotions of others, without necessarily feeling/sharing those emotions. someone with cognitive empathy may see another person crying, and understand that that person is feeling sad. they may understand that their friend is happy and excited, but not necessarily share that emotion.
neither of these is required for someone to be a good person. both of these are spectrums and are situational/context dependent. you might think people with low empathy only exist in horror movies, psych wards, and prison cells, but in reality we're everywhere! there's a good chance that you walk past plenty of people with low or no empathy every day. you probably call many of us your friends, too.
empathy is not a black and white thing. it's a diverse spectrum, and where someone happens to fall on that spectrum says nothing about them as a person.
True soul connections are rare. Not every friendship or relationship has it. You cannot force it or try to make it happen with anyone. It’s there or it isn’t. If you call every relationship or every interaction you have with someone you’re fond of a “soul connection,” then you are watering down what true connection is and cheapening it. When you have that deep connection, when someone has seen and touched your soul, you bloody will know it. It’s unmistakable, you feel it in your bones, and nothing can substitute it.
warning for empath serial killers: if you kill with your eyes open you may absorb the pain of your victim. make sure to tie them up then put on a blindfold. this way they stay in one place and you can kill them without suffering. stay safe <3
MODES OF ENERGY
Energy modes are classifications of special types of energy systems individuals and entities can have. Most of these energy modes people are born with (with some exception that can be learned or occur due to specific circumstances). Many people will not have a mode and just have a neutral energy system or even have multiple energy modalities.
Someone who is hypersensitive to the emotional energy of others.
Someone who strongly affects the emotional energy of others.
Someone who does not naturally generate enough energy to sustain themselves, and must regularly receive energy from an outside source. They are not evil as media has portrayed them. This energy modality can be learned or occur due to any number of circumstances.
Someone who naturally produces too much energy and needs to let it out through grounding or donation.
Someone who has a very light or thin energetic core. They take on energy around them to a very high degree, often due to integrating external energy deeply for a long time. They often mimic other's energy at their core. This is different from empaths. This modality can not really be learned as it is an inherent difference in your energy field. People who are Neurodivergent can often display these same qualities but I will NOT say that ND people are "gifted" in that sense or are all energetic chameleons because that is spiritual bypassing and we don't do that here.
Someone whose energy reflects the energy of those around them. Their energy does not change, but when others look at them they will see their own energy reflected back. This can lead to a lot of contradictory views depending on who is looking at them.
Someone who takes in the energy around them and amplifies it so that it increases. This means their output of energy is more powerful than what they took in.
Someone who can transform energy from one type to another. This can be innate or acquired. It can more widely be called energy transmutation that can be a learned skill.
As stated earlier, you can be one or more of these. I knew someone who called herself a "butcher" which meant she took in energy, converted it into something conducive to the present circumstances or her will, and sent it back out into her surroundings.
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