Healing Relationships

Things you should navigate with your partner at the beginning of a love story…to have a healing relationship

Do you have any boundaries/limitation about anything? Something that I should know at the start?

What do you need, specifically, in order to feel emotionally safe and secure inside our relationship?

How do I know/recognize if you're getting triggered? What do you think it's the best caring response from me? Any suggestion?

How can I help you feel most confident in the bedroom?

In your opinion, what are the mistakes you tend to make in a relationship, and you want to avoid in this one?

What's your biggest relationship fear? How do you think we should adress it?

Do you feel comfortable with the pace of our relationship? You think we're going too fast/too slowthe right pace?

What makes it hard for you to be your authentic self inside a relationship, and how can I contribute to make it easier for you?

What did you not hear enough in your last relationship and you want to hear more?

hot take but the reason why beez and gabriel figured their shit out so quickly is because they both have a solid sense of who they are as a person and the relationships adds to that instead of threatening their sense of identity.

if, for some reason, they had landed on "yeah no we won't work" they would have been sad/disappointed/heartbroken, but ultimately beez is happy with who they are and so is gabriel. nina and maggie decided to NOT get into a relationship for the same reason, they respect themselves and each other enough to put personal growth and their mental health first instead of attempting to solve trauma responses and hypervigilance by making someone the turning point of their world.

aziraphale and crowley, on the other hand, aren't just dogshit at communicating, they have also build their sense of identity around each other and thus the thought of not being together automatically comes with a loss of personhood, trapping them in "i need them to live and will be destroyed if they're not with me". which is incredibly self-destructive and deeply unhealthy, and not a foundation for a functional relationship.

the solution to that is not to glue them together and call it a day, it's to allow both of them the space and grace to grow as individuals and develop a healthy sense of self so the relationship is build on mutual respect AND self respect.

Are You Emotionally Unavailable? 🥺❤️✨

Many people believe that when someone is emotionally unavailable, it means they care about someone else instead of you. But that's not always true. Being emotionally unavailable can happen for many reasons.

Someone may have their own issues that make it hard for them to connect with anyone emotionally. They may be afraid of getting too close to others because they're scared of getting hurt. Some people really like being independent and might not show their emotions much in any relationship to keep their sense of self reliance. Some people are naturally reserved or don't show their feelings easily because of their personality, even if they care about you.

Signs of an emotionally unavailable person:

They might find it hard to talk about how they feel or don't even know their own feelings well.

They avoid talking about personal stuff or their past, making it tough to get close to them emotionally.

They don't always respond to messages or calls regularly, leaving you unsure about their interest in you.

They don't want to commit to long term relationships, even if they seem interested at first.

They keep away emotionally or physically, which can make the relationship feel like a back-and-forth game.

They focus a lot on their job or hobbies, often more than spending time with you or dealing with relationship problems.

When you're upset, they don't give you comfort or might feel uncomfortable when you share your feelings.

They might get angry or defensive when you try to talk about emotions or your needs.

If they've been hurt before, they might be afraid of getting hurt again and avoid opening up.

They might have trouble understanding how you feel or not realize how their actions affect your emotions.

They find it hard to say sorry or admit when they're wrong, even if they hurt someone.

Instead of getting emotional support from you, they might turn to other things like work too much, using drugs, or having close relationships with others.

When people say “I’m okay with Buck & Eddie not ending up together as long as their friendship doesn’t change”, I hate to say it, but that’s just not possible.

I’m not saying that they’re going to stop being best friends or anything, but if they get into actual, healthy, serious relationships, with people that are well matched & good for them, their current relationship is going to change. It’s inevitable.

I do believe that they’ll always be family, that they’ll do their best to be there for each other & for Chris, but they get so much from each other. In the past, even unintentionally, they’ve been more emotionally connected to each other than they have been with their partner, & that’s part of why their friendship is so solid, because they’re both only ever vulnerable with the other.

If they find good, healthy, stable partners, they’re not going to need each other in the same way, and that’s going to change their relationship. Do you honestly believe that Eddie is going to leave Buck as Chris’ legal guardian if he finds a partner that he actually & genuinely loves and enjoys being with? (The fanfic writer in me wants to say yes, but the realist in me says no lol.)

If Buck falls in love with someone who is accepting & soft and kind and understanding with him, that person is going to be the one he goes to first for everything, not Eddie.

So much of their friendship is rooted in the way they show up for each other in ways that only committed partners really do, and if they fall in love & get serious and marry other people, it’s not going to be the same.

I just, idk if I’m explaining it eloquently enough, if I have the right words for it, but unless Buddie goes canon or they keep ending up in these half-assed relationships where they repeat the same mistakes over & over again, their relationships and these “moments” everyone loves so much are going to stop.

its been a million years.  percy has gone from young millenial to squarely gen z.  i think that while he’s up on that mountain demanding the gods pay their fucking child support, he should tell hera at the top of his sixteen year old pipsqueak lungs that polyamory is a thing now and she doesn’t have to define her marriage the traditional way if she doesn’t want to.  she’s the goddess of all marriages!  that includes these modern ones too!!

hera is like zeus would you agree to an open relationship zeus is like SOLD i have been trying to do this for years, completely neglects to read the fine print that this goes two ways before signing on the dotted line for this deal with the prada wearing devil because fundamentally, zeus is an asshole

hera starts hooking up with committed married couples and having SUPREMELY powerful demigod children.  they are all her favorites and she lavishes them with powers and gifts and attention.  she has, unlike the other gods, no millenia of experience with mortal children to temper her reaction, and so this whole move honestly causes more problems than not.

meanwhile hades and persephone; poeseidon and amphirite; dionysus and ariadne; all of them have been trying to talk to hera about this thing for DECADES and then perseus fucking protagonist powers jackson comes in and turns a quarter of a century into wasted work.

The giving tree is so James Potter coded what

Take absolutely everything that I have so that I can be helpful to you because if there’s nothing that I can do for you, then there’s no reason for you to want to be around me and I have no purpose in life.

Alenoah, where Noah cares about Alejandro, more than Alejandro's family did:

Noah: I will now torture you.

Alejandro: Kinky!~

Noah: I think you are brilliant and beautiful.

Alejandro: Wait!

Noah: You deserve to be cared for and loved, despite your mistakes.

Alejandro: No!

Noah: Your feelings and needs are valid, and deserve to be heard.

Alejandro: I need a safeword! 😳

Real.

Jason : I can't fix him.

Jason : But I can sure as hell marry him and pull him away from the influence of his demanding father. Maybe then that would finally calm him, and I'm sure as fuck It will do wonders for his frayed self worth.

dalinar and navani both have undiagnosed neurodivergent parent swag and you can really see it in the way they are passionate about their fields of work but like. the way they both go about sharing special interests with each other is so extremely different. because like ok dalinar doesnt really give a shit about fabrials and navani doesnt really give a shit about battle strategy and weaponry but when navani is out there infodumping to dalinar she always throws in a couple of tidbits about how the projects shes working on could be applicable in combat or explains stuff while using an analogy linking it back to something dalinar would care about. because she wants dalinar to understand because she loves him and she wants to cross over her two big loves in life even though that is quite frankly impossible. meanwhile dalinar is like. well navani obviously doesn't care about war in the same way i care about war so im just not gonna talk to navani about war unless its like in the way where i need to vent to her about Feelingz while being a general. to be considerate.

I love Mrs. Mariella!! 💗

I'm in a healthy relationship but sometimes I feel so disconnected from the sexy part of our relationship...Am I becoming ace???

Mrs. Mariella is flattered 😂💕

And I'm pretty sure you're not becoming ace 😅 In a healthy relationship we tend to relax because we feel safe and at ease with our partner. It's perfectly normal if we feel a little disconnected from the spicy part of our relationship. There's nothing wrong with you/your partner/your relationship.

Being out of the "honeymoon phase" can affect our sex life, some of us can feel numbness/pain before or after sex/ weak orgasms or even inability to have one!

First thing to know: it's a phase

Second: it can have a reason/multiple reasons/no reason at all (and that's ok).

Honeymoon phase = high passion, high curiosity. There's a promise of adventure/new experiences/possibilities.

Stable phase = relax, habits together, the sex life has its ups/downs. This status allow the body to relax and sets the base for growing together. This growth often make us face our past relationships traumas and they "show up" in a different way one of them is being disconnected by our spicy-self.

How to fix it? WELL ...sit down 😅 you're not going to fix anything cause you're not broken lol.

First: accept it. Because sex is all about acceptance. And the anxiety that follows the thought "I need to fix this issue"... doesn't help.

Second: let your body figure out what you need, your sexuality speaks the language of ✨ sensations ✨ so listen closely.

Third: be willing to stay with those sensations... sometimes it takes courage. Communicate with your partner for support, always.

Bonus exercise: lay down and explore yourself. Using sound, physical touch, breath, movements can be helpful to... awaken your awareness about the blockage you're experiencing. You can do it alone or with your partner, sit down and hug them.

The whole experience can be intense, so consider to follow this journey with a professional. I hope this helps, good luck! ☺️

If a man has no self control he is a weak man. True high value has nothing to do with looks, how much or little money you have or how tall you are. If he doesn't have self control, he's a liability to you and your (future) children. If you accept his unacceptable behaviour he knows that he can treat you badly. (Full video)

the thing so sweet to me about step dad!touya specifically is that your daughter isn't being raised in a toxic/abusive household. no, you and her father aren't together, but you both love and care for her, time is split fairly, you two can stand to be in the same room as one another and at events together to support her — so she has no qualms about being like "love you!" to touya and that THROWS him OFF.

Didn't Kate canonically groom Derek? Why do people still ship Derek with an actual kid

broooo not my ex making posts abt how hard it is to come to terms with being conventionally attractive while having low self-esteem issues and how wild it is to get compliments randomly on their appearance when they go out and how they're worried that their new transmasc boytoy is only into them bc they're hot -_- i'm tired... meanwhile i'm just seen as a gremlin now that i'm not hyperfem... they truly have the biggest issues in the world lol

also they were like "omg turns out i'm not ace i just needed a bf lol" and i'm like yeah. i know. you've been lusting after male characters for years. you were horny as fuck just not for me bc i didn't transition. you only made moves on me when you were bored, lonely or drunk. i always asked if that was the case and you were like no baby it's just your insecurities i don't need you to transition uwu. for 5 years. my trust issues are thru the roof now yayyyyy /dies

They watered the plants that sat in the bay window, soaking up the sun that peeked through the clouds - as if playing peekaboo with the world below.

"Grow little ones. I want Anton to be able to come home to a place that is lively." They whispered gently, a finger stroking the verdant sprouts in one of their more fresh plants they had purchased from the nursery.

Anton would probably need the life around him if he came home.

No. When. They needed to stay hopeful. They would see their lover soon. They could be patient. They blew a kiss to the plants before moving to the other window where more plants waited to be watered. They didn't see the the dying fronds of the love fern as they went.

i'm not even anti meat i just hate our culture's relationship (or lack thereof) with meat production so you get people who will say "you shot an innocent deer? that's fucked up" while happily snacking on chicken nuggets