I get that everyone has strong emotional reactions to the subject of cheating and I get it because I'm someone who values romantic relationships very highly and I'm someone who becomes careful of how I talk about even meaningless otome games because of how careful I am with the potential jealousy and hurt feelings of the people I love like that, and I do silly unnecessary things to prevent that (not in a way that's detrimental to me, I like doing that for them) but you guys forget that the consequences of cheating are not equal for men and women.

Yes maybe I'm overcorrecting for the issue but there's so much context people don't take into account. Saying there's differences between men cheating and women cheating doesn't mean "men bad, women good" it's not mindless girlboss rhetoric and it doesn't mean I love when men suffer and that I don't think women should be accountable. it's a real thing and that doesn't really affect the morality of the action itself when isolated but it does affect how we can choose to react to it because yes everyone already agrees women are narcissistic witches incapable of human feelings who deserve to be beaten and killed when this sort of thing happens while I see women make excuses for their boyfriends and husbands and blame themselves for their loved one's disloyalty. no, cheating is never good but you do contribute to the issue by treating it as THE ultimate unforgivable evil rather than a moral failing and betrayal that truly isn't higher up on the list than other betrayals within relationships such as physical abuse.

Sorry maybe my own experiences have warped my mind a bit but when my mom was strangled by my father she screamed for help and my brother ignored her because she's just a useless cheating whore to him now.

Not to mention, I know a lot of you don't take this into account because you're young and don't plan on getting married for like 15 years if even that, but there is already a huge imbalance of power in relationships between many men and women. You all know this but I'm not sure you even understand what this does to people or what it looks like sometimes. Middle class white men like preying on brown women in poverty and trapping them in marriage sorry I don't have sympathy for when they get cheated on. This isn't a hyperspecific scenario that's like "Well of course abuse is an exception stop bringing it up 🙄" because our attitudes about this still affect those women.