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You didn't deserve to be filmed during your most vulnerable moments. You didn't deserve to have them put on the internet for everybody to see, even if it was "just for friends and family". It's not funny and you're not overreacting for feeling humiliated, upset or uncomfortable because of it.
That goes for the people who initially gave consent as a child. It doesn't matter. Shouldn't have happened regardless, and I hope you can find peace.
Believers in narcissistic/borderline/anti-social/histrionic abuse DNI
#parental abuse#tw abuse#neurodivergent#actually neurodivergent#autistic meltdown#npd safe#cluster b safe#bpd safe#aspd safe#hpd safe#emotional abuse#childhood ptsd#childhood abuse
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Zuko is smart.
Sometimes I see joking in the fandom about Zuko being dumb, or a himbo. And part of the reason it makes me uncomfortable is because we know that was how he was treated growing up—Azula is always calling him Dum-Dum. It's the narrative told in his family about who he is, by the people in his life who treated him poorly.
And, some joking aside—famously that moment with Aang on their field-trip—the Gaang doesn't call him dumb or think of him that way, because he isn't. He's ridiculously resourceful, thoughtful when his emotions don't push him to do something rash, and perceptive. If he can be a little literal-minded at times, that seems to come from lack of exposure to the world—to friends, honestly.
Personally I just remember the moment when I understood the narrative my family told about me wasn't true, once I stepped outside my house—that I wasn't a dull, depressing person who annoyed everyone; that I was, in fact, very loving and curious and funny—and what I love about ATLA (among so many things!) is that we get to see Zuko experience that too, when he joins the Gaang. Unlearning the ways in which his family never valued him; learning how to be with people in the world, what friendship means.
Zuko isn't dumb. He's learning.
#zuko#atla#childhood abuse#and recovery#everyone can reimagine canon in their way#the himbo discourse is just#a bit painful
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Hey y'all. Healing is possible. It's hard and it takes years. There are things you may not be able to fully heal and there are things you will let go of quickly. It's okay. There is no timeline for healing.
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The tragedy of Severus Snape
The reason why Severus Snape is the most tragic character in the Harry Potter series
Snape‘s character isn‘t so tragic because he didn‘t „get“ Lily.
His character is so tragic because he was doomed from the very beginning.
It‘s so tragic, because he was hit by his drunk father.
It‘s so tragic because he was neglected by his mother.
It‘s tragic because he was separated by his childhood friend by being sorted into a house where you couldn‘t survive as a halfblood if you didn‘t adapt to the social rules of said house and joining a hateful cult.
He is a tragic character because he is bullied from day one and sexually harrassed in front of the other students.
His loss of Lily is so tragic, because she was the only friend he ever had.
It‘s so tragic because she was the only person in his life to show him understanding and kindness, warmth and love.
The love of a friend.
It‘s so tragic because noone ever showed him love again after Lily.
It is so tragic because he is silenced over the werewolf incident and forbidden from telling anyone he was almost murdered.
It‘s so tragic because he has to see his almost murderers and bullies get away with it without any form of punishment.
He is silenced.
It‘s tragic because he has to watch the love of his life marry his childhood tormentor.
It‘s tragic because he has to kill one of the only people he ever cared about. The only person who knows about his true loyalties.
It‘s so tragic because he dies believing the world will always believe him to be the villain.
A traitor and the murderer of Dumbledore.
He dies thinking that the truth about his loyalty will die with him and Harry.
It‘s so tragic because the only other person in his life to show him kindness(, when he stays with him while he dies,)is the son of the love of his life who he lost.
It is so tragic, because he dies in the belief that he has doomed this boy, the boy he always protected.
He dies in the belief that all of it was in vain.
He dies thinking that all of it was for nothing.
He dies believing that he is sending Harry who he tried to protect all these years to his death.
His death is so tragic because of all of the above reasons and also because he is murdered in cold blood.
He is killed slowly. He is terrified. He knows what‘s coming and that he can‘t safe himself.
He is killed by the person he fears the most.
His death must have been unbearably painful and agonizing.
He must have been in so much pain.
It’s so tragic because he never had a chance.
Snapes character is so unbelievably tragic because he was never intended to have a happy ending.
It‘s so tragic because his whole life was nothing but a tragedy.
#pro severus snape#severus snape#always#harry james potter#harry potter#redemption arc#tragedy#tragic#childhood trauma#childhood abuse#Snape is the most tragic Harry Potter character
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Offering a big hug to the emotionally neglected people who have no idea how to cope
The ones that can't grasp the concept of coping. The ones that don't even know how to start identifying their emotions. The ones that don't understand coping mechanisms. The ones who only have maladaptive coping mechanisms. The ones who only know how to repress. The ones that feel ashamed for not knowing how to cope. The ones that feel angry for not having anyone teach them. The ones that feel hopeless about healing. The ones that feel like it's impossible for them to cope
I'm sorry you have to build up from scratch something that other people should've taught you. I see how hard you're trying, I see how exhausting and difficult it is. I wish I could give you so many affirmations, but I'm in the same place you are. Ily
#emotional neglect#childhood neglect#coping#mental health#emotional abuse#childhood trauma#childhood abuse
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anytime i think about my parents comforting me it actually makes me physically ill
#it makes me EVEN MORE upset#i'm getting upset rn just thinking about it#what is wrong with me#toxic parents#child neglect#childhood neglect#emotional neglect#child abuse#childhood abuse#emotional abuse#childhood trauma#trauma#“what is wrong with me” probably one of these things
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Don't worry. Your father is only your father until one of you forgets.
#f1#formula 1#max verstappen#web weaving#jos verstappen#charles leclerc#lestappen#childhood abuse#sad childhood#poetry#lines#booktok#f1edit#senna#prost#brocedes#aesthetic#sportsaesthetic#sad#dts#quotes#racing#motorsport#sports#carlos sainz#redbull#christian horner#daniel ricciardo#maxiel#kelly piquet
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#trauma art#actuallytraumatized#childhood trauma#mother wound#vent art#emotional abuse#childhood abuse
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I am so tired of seeing people filming their children having meltdowns/"tantrums". I don't care how unreasonable you think it is for them to be having these big feelings (they're a CHILD, of course they're going to have a hard time regulating their emotions - most adults can't even do it), have a fucking conversation with them. Talk to them about why they're feeling this way and try to find ways to make it better. Don't pull out your phone and shove it in their faces while they're in tears. Don't post that footage for the entire world to see, for that very child to see when they get get older.
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How does being safe ever feel? How does it look like? It is real at all?
#trauma#vent#traumacore#actually traumatized#venting#actually ptsd#complex ptsd#cptsd#cptsdsurvivor#actually cptsd#actually abused#actually mentally ill#actually addicted#childhood abuse#childhood trauma#trauma survivor#ptsd#tw ptsd
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I promise I'll do a proper post about this sometime but
House was so different before the infarction, and we as a fandom don't talk about that nearly enough. His gentleness and vulnerability with Stacy (at the end of The Mistake "so what do we do now?" - in the middle of the ep with her husband). In s1e21 Three Stories, he's so gentle with Cuddy even though it was her hospital's mistake. He doesn't shout at the nurse or rail against anyone, just quietly insists on his (borderline suicidal) course of action.
Basically, the level of abrasiveness, misanthropy, etc etc that we see in the show pretty clearly (though subtly) didn't exist prior to the infarction. Is it exacerbated by the clear self-esteem issues, implied trust issues, and ofc his usual anti-authority attitude that clearly came from a lifetime of being raised by John House? Yeah.
But House could be and was vulnerable before the infarction. Sometime I'll write a post about his different life stages through the show, but tldr;
the abuse House suffered as a child was only one of the core drivers of his "walls to keep people out;" the infarction was another massive change / hit for him.
#can't wait to write more fanfic where he gets to come to better terms with his disability (disabilities)#and read#anywho hopefully this is semi coherent but I want us as a fandom to start talking about the infarction#and the infarction trauma#just as often as we talk about House's childhood trauma#meta#gregory house#infarction#abuse#childhood abuse
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1 against 1 is a rivalry.
You know. Like what Harry and Draco had.
4 against 1 is not a rivalry.
It is 4 bullies against 1 victim.
The marauderers and Snape had no rivalry going on.
4 of them were bullies and 1 was the victim.
I hope i explained this simple enough so that the snaters may understand;)
Have a blessed day.
#severus snape#pro severus snape#always#harry potter#anti james potter#anti marauders#severus#1 on 1 is a rivalry#4 against 1 is bullying#bullying#this was no rivalry this was assault and abuse#childhood abuse
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"I did my best."
We've all heard it. Usually as adults, usually when we've started to understand the fog we've been living in and want to discuss it with our parents.
It's very "I'm sorry" it's never "I wish I was different." It's always "I did my best." And at first we believe it, afterall, we were there too. We know it was hard. We know they had their own issues, we are mature now, we understand that sometimes your best isn't good enough.
But then they don't try to be better. The kids are adults. We give them the benefit of the doubt and we choose to believe them when they say that the absolute shitshow they made out of our formative years was "their best", but we can also see they're not trying to do better now.
They're still petulant. They're still angry. They're still biting and cruel. They won't say sorry. They won't accept blame. They try to tell us we were asking for it as children. They try to make us feel crazy.
We realise they're not trying their best now to be good to us, and in that we start to wonder if they ever tried their best at all.
#abusive parents#childhood abuse#raised by narcissists#parental abuse#dysfunctional family#dysfunctional household#childhood trauma#cptsd recovery#ptsd recovery#narcissistic abuse recovery#abuse recovery
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being in elementary school and every single adult in my life, including my parents, happily telling me that i was so "independent" and "mature" for my age
#“you're so independent for your age!” thanks! i did not connect emotionally with my parents#childhood neglect#child neglect#childhood abuse#child abuse#childhood trauma#trauma#toxic parents#emotional neglect
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