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am-i-the-asshole-official · 10 months

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AITA for telling a bunch of pricks to quit the fandom?

Most of you here hate Kpop and its fans but I'm still sending it because many of you are friends with people like them for other reasons, I know this for a fact. So ignore I suppose.

I'm Asian, I was mutuals with some Americans and one European fan from other fandoms, they all became very casual Kpop fans relatively recently and they do all this:

• Pick fights with fans of western artists for small things nobody really cares about, using fandom and the Faves as shield, which gets them to send hate to our faves who we know have dealt with a lot of cyberbullying for years.

Kpop fans all get conscious about mental health and cyberbullying for about an hour when something bad happens, but don't stop doing it and say that specifically our faves are "too sensitive and selling their trauma" which is another thing, I digress.

• Laugh at jokes made my antis cuz it's not serious, often these jokes are racist and dehumanizing but normal to them.

• Laugh with their mutuals from other fandoms when they make jokes based on rumours, like one time they thought it was funny that one of the Faves got called p*dophile by antis just bcs he's a man who likes kids and is playful with kids he meets, only women can like kids unproblematically apparently.

• Play "devil's advocate" when bigger accounts or inflencers talk shit about the Faves, most of the time it's biased hateful nonsense but to them supporting it is a sign of being mature fans who can take criticism.

They do this all the time, genuine love for an artist is beneath them, kpop is beneath them it's not Ackshually Art no since Koreans also don't take it seriously?! It's just that the bragging opportunities and clout is good around here!

• Act like SJWs most of the time but constantly make microaggressive comments about Korean people in their private chats, joke about mandatory military service, call themselves misandrists yet judge the women in Kpop like they're dolls, get into discourse they have no clue about and give their shitty takes, tell everyone else they don't know Anything about kpop but still partake in these fanwars and discourses, bring the worst takes from twitter to tumblr out of context for laughs, judge Every Single Thing thru American/ western lens and expect us all to know their double entendre and culture etc.

I got fed up, nobody else says anything to their face because they can spin it to make it like us Mainly Kpop fans are rabid obsessive weirdos who care too much about strangers and they're rational mature women of varying refined taste who merely observe kpop from a healthy distance. And I told them to stop being in the fandom if they're gonna be everything but fans. You tell me how all that is fan behavior? They call themselves fans but oh they're too busy adulting to even listen to a 5 year old album, not busy when it is about trashtalking their own faves and fandom, okay!

But apparently I was too rude, the audacity of me to call leftist wocs racist! I cannot tell them what they can or cannot do! So here we are.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

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huntertherapyeras · 2 years

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i am considering posting here again. but first, i need to make some things clear. the reason i took a break from this blog was because i no longer felt emotionally safe / comfortable interacting with the amphibia fandom.

please interact with this post if u see it.

someone in the fandom disrespected my dni/byf and followed me anyway knowing that they were someone i wouldnt want to interact with. because i did not know this and trusted that people would respect my dni, we ended up becoming friends. once i found out that they were who they were and did the things that i specifically outlined i wanted to avoid in my dni, i felt really uncomfortable. we were in a big group chat together and i did not want to interact with them anymore.

because of this, i decided to leave the groupchat and block this person. this caused turbulence among our mutual friends and multiple people took their side (despite me not even trying to cause/start drama and just wanting to avoid this person) and started telling our other mutual friends about it.

this is no offense to anyone in the group chat at all, but when you're in a big and unfiltered space like that it is easy to get exposed to unintentional microaggressions. i didnt not expect this because a lot of people are still learning what is and isnt right etc. but it really wore on me. ultimately i decided that that group chat was not the place for me, as i do better in smaller groups. again, i bear no ill will towards anyone still in the group chat and still care for you all quite a bit.

this being said, being talked about and blocked by multiple people in the gc really sparked my paranoia. it made me want to completely disengage from the fandom. and i find it very frustrating that i would be judged for wanting to protect my peace.

so yeah. i might come back, but if i do i won't be posting anything personal here. and if you do want my personal main you can ask for it.

also, if you have a problem with me that's fine. like you really dont have to follow or engage with me if you feel uncomfortable with me in any capacity. if you do decide to continue interacting with me, though, i will assume that we are okay, so please don't talk about me behind my back. thanks. 💜

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