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sbrown82 · 2 years
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wakandama2 · 3 months
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Wash n' Go's were invited by some lightskin 3b devil that has infiltrated the soul of our community and I stand on that😤😤😤
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mimi-0007 · 1 year
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Janet Jackson 😍🤩💜💜💜
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thejaguartour · 28 days
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Victoria Monét at Garnier Fructis’ vegan Hair Filler launch with Xochitl Gomez & Charli D’Amelio! 🤎💚
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not0fthiswurld · 1 month
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hypaalicious · 11 months
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Black Hair Care myths BUSTED!
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Since I’m fighting off the plague and have nothing else better to do but lay here pitifully, I’ve decided to talk about hair again after my last two posts on shampoo types and curly hair care , only this time focusing on Black folks’ hair and the misinformation lots of us grew up on.
Now, because I know the gowrls like to tussle (and Mercury in Microbraids along with an eclipse is upon us), lemme just say this: if you’re absolutely happy with your hair care routine, then this post isn’t for you.
This post is only for people who are curious and want to evolve and simplify their hair care routines.
OKAY LEGGO:
The hair typing chart is garbage.
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Everyone and they mama should be familiar with this chart. So many of us use it to determine what type of hair products to buy that work best for our hair type.
Unfortunately, the chart is pseudo-science.
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All hair types need the same basic care (shampooing/conditioning at least every week), and products that claim to cater to a specific hair type is just a marketing tactic. This chart also promotes texturism; Oprah’s stylist literally made up the type 4 category to say that the only thing to do to tight curls is to straighten or loosen them. 🥲
Products can’t give you the kind of curls you want.
I touched on this a bit in my first hair post, but it bears repeating here: Curl “activators”, Shea butter, raw oil blends, creams, leave-in conditioners, texturizing shampoos… all of them are finessing you, beloveds. If your hair isn’t holding defined clumps of curls immediately after shampooing, then your hair is likely chronically dehydrated and needs to be detoxed.
We’re kinda raised to product chase because we’re told that the way our hair grows out of our heads is bad and needs to be fixed, and the $2.5 billion Black hair care industry is always eager to offer us placebos for our coin. We see someone with the hair texture and length we want and we immediately ask “what products do you use??” as if the answer is in a bottle when it’s really just genetics. 🤷🏽‍♀️
Greasing/oiling your scalp does not moisturize it, get rid of dandruff, or make your hair grow faster.
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As a kid I remember my hairdresser using a fine toothed comb and “breaking up” the dandruff on my scalp before applying Sea Breeze to soothe it. Every single time, the dandruff came back worse. 😩 If I put oil on my scalp, it would take only a day before build up and large yellow flakes would rain out of my hair. But I thought because my scalp and my hair needed moisturizing that I couldn’t go without oils.
Well, I was right on one thing; my scalp and hair def needed moisture. But I wasn’t gonna get moisture from anything but water, and at the time I was avoiding water like the plague because I always had a fresh silk press or perm and I didn’t want my hair “reverting”.
If you have a scalp condition or chronic itchiness, you are very much making it worse by adding any of that to your head. The only solution is to wash your hair, loves. Yes, you may have to choose between looking “laid” and what’s actually good for your hair and scalp, but them’s the breaks.
The hair growth oils that line the shelves at Sally’s? Literally snake oil. Same goes for hair vitamins, biotin, MSM, rice water, JBCO, egg white/tea rinse/fruit or food products, African Black soap, rose water, etc. Nothing topical, save for specific medicated prescription drugs from a dermatologist, can make hair grow. Save ya money, hunny!
Co-washing and water-only washing doesn’t get your hair clean.
Conditioner is incapable of doing what shampoo does. You’re just gonna add layers of build up on your hair doing co-washes. Water-only cleansing is like never using soap in your laundry and expecting your clothes to be clean. 😬 Only putting shampoo on your scalp and carefully avoiding the length of your hair is the equivalent of white folks not washing their legs in the shower. Don’t do any of this.
I actually do not know where the myth started that Black folks hair is somehow too fragile to handle shampoo, a thing that is specifically formulated for hair. 😅 If shampoo is drying your hair out, you need to make sure you’re using the right kind of shampoo, not ditching shampoo altogether. If you need help, I touched on shampoo basics here!
Using a spray bottle to “refresh” your hair doesn’t do what you think it’s doing.
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Tiny water droplets from a spray bottle only sit on the surface of your hair, even more so if your hair already has product in it. If your styles aren’t holding until your next wash, you may need to re-examine what you’re using, how you apply it, and how you set it. If you need to refresh a style or get moisture, nothing less than washing your hair will do.
Finger detangling or using a wide toothed comb or denman brush isn’t doing the job.
I know we’ve been raised to think that because our hair is tightly coiled, that we have to treat it with kid gloves. But we actually do more harm to our hair by not detangling correctly. Detangling is the act of getting shed hair out from your head so it doesn’t wrap up in your healthy hair and cause breakage. A wide toothed comb can’t do that, and neither can your fingers. A denman brush is ONLY supposed to be used to hold tension in the hair when blowdrying it straight. What you want is a Felicia Leatherwood brush and to use that bad boy in the shower right after putting conditioner on sopping wet hair, trust me.
Protective styles don’t exist.
Buns, braids, wigs… all of them look fantastic when done right and it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t wear them. But they are all just alternative styles; nothing is being protected. I know a lot of us love the low maintenance that having these styles provide, but I want us to examine why they are thought of as low maintenance: it’s because folks are less likely to wash their hair/detangle while having them.
Any style that discourages you from weekly hair washing cannot be protective. It instead promotes hair neglect. Yes, I know, it can cost thousands of dollars for those waist length box braids or sew in, but you paid for the labor that goes into those kinds of styles, not the ability to keep them in for as long as possible. Not touching your hair for weeks on end means you’ll have dehydrated hair with mad buildup to get rid of. And btw, that type of damage to the hair cannot be fixed in just one visit to the salon. For as many weeks as you go without washing your hair, you need that many weeks out of an alternative style with frequent washing to help it recover.
Dry hair is determined by its behavior, not how it feels.
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This one has a lot of folks tripped out because logically, we should be able to just touch our strands and know that it needs moisture. Unfortunately, so many of us don’t know what our actual hair feels like without it being slathered in products, so the moment that we stop using them we think our hair is “dry” when it’s really just how our natural hair texture may feel. It’s def not easy in the beginning to let go of the familiarity a nicely oiled head of hair presents. 🥲
So, how do you know if you have dry hair? If it can’t hold a curl pattern without manipulation, is hydrophobic (if water doesn’t completely flatten hair to your scalp when you wash it, it’s not absorbing), is extremely difficult to detangle, breaks off easily, etc.
You don’t need to rinse your hair in cold water.
Only reason you should even consider it is if you have vivid color in your hair, but… lemme tell y’all sumn.
Years ago when I started dyeing my hair, it was typical for a permanent black hair dye to act like a semi-perm and wash almost completely out or turn grey in a few weeks. Now that I have a much better hair regimen that keeps my hair in the best health it can be, my semi-permanent fashion colors last for months until I decide to touch it up again. And I absolutely do not relish being cold in the shower, so I just use hot water.
The health of your hair matters more than any gimmicks or products you can use to fix a problem.
Long hair/shiny hair is not an indicator of health, it is an indicator of genetics.
I want DESPERATELY for us as a people to break the shackles of thinking that the only hair that matters is long and thick, or that someone who has long hair is an automatic authority on hair care.
If you want an idea of how long your hair can get, then look to your family. If your mom or dad don’t have hair touching their waist then it’s highly possible you were not blessed with the DNA to get your hair waist length either. And that’s okay! You aren’t any less valid. It will just save you a LOT of heartache to learn to embrace your hair the way it naturally is rather than to run around buying products and chasing haircare trends in hopes that a miracle will happen. Not to mention, I’ve seen a lot of folks with long hair but they ain’t had a trim in years and it absolutely shows. 😬
A lot of folks do not have shiny hair, that is once again due to genetics not hair health. Matte hair has a different surface texture and that’s absolutely fine! Only manufactured beauty standards glorify long and shiny hair.
Speaking of hair length…
Shrinkage is not your enemy.
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A general rule is that the only hair length that matters is how you regularly wear it.
My hair stays comfortably at the nape of my neck now that I wear my curls 100% of the time. If I pull it taut, then it’ll reach mid-back. But I don’t plan on straightening my hair ever again to show that mid-back length, so… 🤷🏽‍♀️ I have short hair because that is how it lays without manipulation. And that’s fine.
Shrinkage doesn’t scare me because it’s what healthy curly hair DOES. If my hair springs like a coil and retains shape, then I’m doing something right! I have always wanted long hair, I won’t deny that. But if I have to stretch my natural hair in any way in order to GET that long hair, it’s not worth it to me. I’ll just wear a wig for a hot min if I wanna whip my hair back and forth.
Air drying your hair isn’t better than diffusing it with a hair dryer.
Another thing we’ve been told is that heat damages our hair and that air drying is best. That’s not necessarily true.
DIRECT heat can damage your hair (flat irons, blow outs, pressing combs). INDIRECT heat (hooded dryers, a diffuser attachment on a handheld dryer) does not. In fact, diffused heat sets your wash and gos/twist outs way better than air drying. It cuts down on frizz and ensures your style will last through the week.
Also, it’s better to dry your hair completely rather than wait hours for it to air dry and then maybe sleep on wet hair. Fun fact: Leaving your hair wet for too long can cause mold to grow in your hair! 😱 And if you lay a wet head on a pillow, the bacteria transfers to your pillowcase and you continue to sleep in that until you wash the pillow!
You can’t “lock moisture in” your hair.
Water evaporates. It’s what it’s gonna do. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Putting leave ins or oils on your hair in hopes that water stays in your strands longer isn’t a thing, despite what a lot of us have been told. The only thing you’re gonna be left with is greasy, dehydrated hair if you don’t wash it weekly.
Avoiding getting a hair cut will not grant you healthy or long hair.
Hair grows an average of half an inch per month, regardless of race. The belief that “Black hair doesn’t grow” is rooted in anti-Blackness. 😅 If you’re not seeing growth, then it’s most likely that your hair is simply breaking off faster than the rate of growth, or you have an underlying health issue that needs to be addressed by a doctor.
I know I used to hate hairdressers who seemed “scissor happy” because I was always chasing length, so I would often only tell them to “dust” the ends if they do anything. Now, I will grab my clippers and cut inches off my hair in a heartbeat if my hair starts looking raggedy. Clinging on to scraggly hair because it takes “so long to grow” doesn’t do you any favors, trust me. 😭 Take better care of your hair and you will retain length a lot easier, and that includes getting quarterly haircuts.
Porosity does not matter.
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How many of us did this whole “put a strand of hair in a cup of water and see if it floats or sinks”? Well, what if I told you that it means absolutely nothing for everyday hair care? 😭 Porosity isn’t even a static state, so many things can change it on a dime!
The only time porosity matters is if you are getting a color service and that is only for your stylist to determine. And you will never see a stylist worth their salt putting your hair in a cup of water to figure it out. Also, a lot of “low” porosity hair is just product build up.
Using home remedies to address hair loss concerns doesn’t work.
No, it doesn’t matter that your grandma did black tea rinses regularly to stop her hair from shedding. It doesn’t matter what women in India do with their hair, either. This may be a hard pill to swallow, but it’s perfectly okay to evolve past things that aren’t truly helpful even if it’s a Black culture staple.
Please don’t be afraid to go to a dermatologist. 🥺 There’s even a Black Dermatologist Directory to reference if you don’t wanna go to just anybody. Yeah, it may seem pricey, but Dermatologists have the training to cut through the guesswork, pinpoint what the problem is and save you a LOT of time and pain. You don’t wanna fuck around and make your hair loss WORSE by doing psuedo-chemistry in your kitchen.
“Do what works for you” doesn’t have the mileage you think it does.
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When people don’t want to hear that their current hair practices aren’t really helping them, they default to “Well, it works for ME!” or “Everyone’s hair is different!”
Nobody’s hair is so different that it doesn’t need a weekly wash with shampoo. Nobody’s hair is the magical unicorn that grew 4 inches in a month because they used JBCO. Your hair is not “built different”, and believing that it is will lead you to spending money on things you don’t need. Doing what works for you only comes after you have nailed the basics of healthy hair care, and it only varies in like… if you prefer to use styling foam to set your wash n go as opposed to gel. Or using one brand’s shampoo over another. Not “my hair likes butters and oils and staying in protective styles for months on end and is doing just fine, and you telling me otherwise is anti-Black”.
If you have unexamined hatred of your natural hair texture, then nothing in this long-ass post will hit for you. If a large part of your identity as a Black person is rooted in product chasing, protective styles and taking an entire business day to wash your hair, then a lot of this will offend you. I’m really sorry for that, and I am not here to argue with anybody. I’ll just tell you “if you like it, I love it” and go on about my business.
For everyone else, I really hope this post helps to shed some light on hair care and set you on a better journey that gives you more time and more confidence in your styles! 🥹
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wakandamama · 5 months
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Wash n Go's are a figment of thee imagination.
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Wig Reveals
Eddie loves nothing more than spending time with you, in all the small ways that make the tender moments all the better. 
@munsonology commented on a fic about needing Eddie watching a wig install and I of course had to deliver. I modified it a little, but I hope this still satisfies that itch!
Modern!Eddie Munson x Black Fem!Reader
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When you step into the apartment, the lights at the front are off. Ozzy, the black cat you and Eddie adopted a year and a half into your relationship waltzes up to you. You know it’s him, only by the soft brush of his fur against your legs. It’s Tuesday--which means Eddie had meeting that ran until 5:30. Though you’d taken Tuesdays as the days that you went into the office you still made strides to get home at 5 on the dot so that you could start dinner and have it ready or near ready by the time Eddie surfaced from the office. 
It is a shared office--the second bedroom of the apartment converted into an office space for both you and him. He worked as a software engineer for a predictive test and grammar checker for a business to business company or at least that’s what you understood of his dealings. You worked as a project manager. Working from home was a luxury both your roles provided, but when projects were put into crunch time Eddie spent more and more of the days in meetings meeting with UX researchers and designers and data analyst to make sure he understood what each project needed. So on Tuesdays, when he had most of his meetings, you tried to be out in the physical office for you job so Eddie wouldn’t have to worry about any surprise meetings on your part. 
And every Tuesday you come home to a dark living room. You can see, even with just a peek down the hallway, the light on in the office from beneath the door. A habit, you noticed, of Eddie’s that never seemed like it would die. You’d leave out in the morning, leaving the light on knowing that Eddie would be home and traveling from the kitchen to the office for lunch or snacks. But every Tuesday you come home and it’s off. 
‘it’s wasting electricity. I’m not up there all the time,” Eddie said when you asked him why the lights were always off. 
Now, the door swinging close behind you and careful to keep Ozzy inside, you flick on the light. You slip out of the loafers, picking them up and carry your backpack still on your shoulders into the bedroom. There you happily slip out of the business casual attire, bra too, and then sigh with relief. You feel like you, even in the bitty shorts that Eddie’s sure to play at your ass in and then carry on back to the kitchen. 
On the whiteboard next to the fridge, you notice that Eddie’s scratched down baked ziti and sweet potatoes. It’s easy enough but you know given how long it can take for the potatoes to bake you worry that dinner will be much longer than it normally is. SInce he was the one that asked for it, he knew it would take longer. But still, you find yourself searching for your phone, realizing you hadn’t taken it out of jacket pocket. 
Getting dinner started. Will be a minute though. 
The text lifts and then settles. A moment later more bubbles appear. I got the oven pre-heating. Potatoes should already be cleaned up and stabbed. 
You carry yourself back into the kitchen. How could you have missed that? And sure enough the red light is on, letting you know the oven is preheating but not done yet. You take in the aluminum lined cookie sheet with the sweet potatoes already laying on them. Whoops. I see them now. Thanks stink. Totally missed it the first time. 
All good, love. Should be wrapping up soon.
By the time Eddie unearths himself from the office, you just get started on browning the meat. The potatoes are all squared away, baking now in the oven for about ten minutes at most. His arms slide around your waist, lips easily finding the crown of your head. He inhales the hair spray still lingering. 
“Hey,” he hums into your neck. “Welcome back.”
“Feels good to be back. Thanks again for getting those potatoes ready for me.”
“Of course.” He kisses your cheek before his hands slide, palms resting against your stomach and side and then Eddie’s touch is gone. His voice is not though, “How was your day?”
“Had a meeting with that finicky client.” Your job holds you to tight NDA standards so you can’t delve deeply into it, but Eddie knows. He knows that there’s one client you work for that never seems to be happy with anything the team delivers. They also get pushy when you try to compromise. You truly feel like it’s always losing even if it is a win. 
“Please tell me they were on their best behavior,” Eddie returns, the end of this sentence is swallowed slightly by the rush of water. 
You see now, turning up from the seasoning in your hands to spot Eddie washing the dishes that have culminated. Not many, but still, it’s nice that he helps without prompting. “They were acting like children when I told them we couldn’t afford to move the project deadline to before the holidays. It would cost them more in overtime pay.”
Eddie sighs, though his hands are wet and the drip the floor beneath your feet, he turns still to urge you forward. The kiss is soft and sweet. “I’m sorry.”
You shrug. In reality, they could do whatever they wanted. You were just advising them of their best options. “I’m a goddamn baby sitter,” you laugh. 
“But the sexiest baby sitter around.”
“You’re not counting Steve into that equation, are you?” Eddie hadn’t hid away his early teen year crush. You two can laugh about it now, you well before Eddie could. He felt mortified at the cliche of it all when it first came up. Of course, Eddie had a crush on Steve because why wouldn’t the town freak fall for the star jock. It never went much of anywhere, given Eddie’s repetition of his senior year and his deep desire to get the hell out of such a small town. 
THe moment Eddie could leave, his degree under his belt so he would at least have something, he took off. He hadn’t looked back. He never planned too. All Eddie wanted to do is look forward. And forward means you. Forward means planning meals for the week on the Friday before they grocery shop. Forward means he helps you every Sunday with your wash day routine. Forward means every night (or morning) he stands behind you at your vanity and he helps with every take down or retwist. Forward means Eddie preps sweet potatoes in the ten minutes he had between meetings just so you wouldn’t have to worry about it. Forward means a thousand small moments that are all filled with you. 
Eddie doesn’t miss the town, really. Just some of the people in it. LIke Harrington--his crush aside, like Wayne, Like Henderson, like Buckley, like Sinclair, like Gareth. It’s easy to miss people, Eddie realizes as he takes down the casserole dish for you, transferring the first half of the noodles too in the process of doing his best to assist and not be in the way. 
People are easy to miss and Eddie worries that he’s let himself be content with the miss, but never put action. It’s been nearly a decade now--7 years to be exact since he left. He’d only gone back twice now that he thinks about it. Wayne visits him most often but not the other way around. 
“Would you be okay with going back?” Eddie questions, watching you layer on cheese to the meat and onion mixture already resting in the glass dish. 
“Back where?”
“To Hawkins. For the holidays.” It was only a few hour drive, really depending on traffic they could make it in three and a half. 
“Sure,” you reply. Your family did most of the celebrating during Thanksgiving anyway as most people had a variety of plans for Christmas. “I’d love to surprise Poppa Wayne. Know he hasn’t seen you in a minute.”
The sound of you calling Wayne such an endearing nickname makes Eddie’s heart flutter. He finishes layering the last of the cooked pasta noodles to the dish and you move in to spread out the last of the meat and onion mixture. “You keep saying shit like that and I’ll have to marry you.”
Without a word you hold up your left hand, the marquise cut diamond sparkling in the fluorescent light. “Wonder who gave me this thing then?”
“I don’t know, but the man is lucky and smart.”
“I’m a lucky woman,” you return, kissing Eddie’s cheek. 
After dinner, Eddie insist that he cleans up--which isn’t a lot, but you let him win the argument. Ozzy settles in the back of your legs, face pressing up into the back of your knees. It’s a spot he loves to cozy up in. You scratch at this head and behind his ears, feeling the shakes of his his pur. You know you shouldn’t get too comfortable. Once Eddie is done he’ll lead you to the bedroom. You’ll take a seat and he’s smile at you through your vanity mirror before asking, 
“What are we doing tonight?”
“This wig’s gotta go. For my sanity,” you laugh. 
“Say no more.” He turns on the heel of his socked foot to the bathroom and returns a few moments letter with alcohol, cotton swabs and cotton balls. 
Eddie sets it all in front of you, but you know better than to raise your hands to help. So you just watch his ringed fingers below you, sorting through the combs, loosening caps on oils, and popping the top on the alcohol. 
“How was your day?” you ask. “You walk to Wayne?”
“Yesterday. He’s doing good. Day was a day, you know. Can’t really complain.”
“Last meeting was rough?” You close your eyes when his hands lower down into the top of your periphery vision. The touch is soft as he works the alcohol down over the glue holding the unit to your forehead..
“The last thing I need at the end of my day is to be berated by the guy who can’t even do my job,” Eddie sighs. 
“CEO?”
“Yeah.”
You’ve heard the horrors of Eddie’s company’s CEO. Half of Eddie’s team left within a month. Turnover is high and you’re never sue why Eddie stays. He’s talented in his field and could be elsewhere with a bigger company and at the very minimum with a better one if he didn’t want to go up in company size. He remains though. Steadfast and always delivering, but it’s not without it’s own cost. 
“I think one of my client’s is looking to hire.”
“Thanks, baby. But it’s nothing I can’t handle.”
“Just want to make sure you’re okay, you know?” The front is loose, the right side nearly lifted fully too. The dabs are gentle as the glue bonds break. 
“I’m okay. They’re looking to internally promote. If I can get the director position, I can have more weight. I want my team to be successful, but right now the CEO is too bullheaded.”
“Sounds like you want to make a difference?”
The right side fully peels away and Eddie’s swift to move to the left. “Yeah, I know I could say things now. But I mean how likely is he to listen to just some engineer. But if I’ve got a title, then I feel like he could take me more seriously.”
The left side of the wig peels away. You pause Eddie, already on his way to put the wig away on the mannequin head you have stowed away in the closet--it’s a unit you wear most often, so it gets the honor of having a head to rest on unlike the other ones. The stroke of your thumb is soft over his wrist, tender really. “Just as long as at the end of the day you’re okay, then I support you. I just worry. Burnout is real and change isn’t easy to instigate.”
Eddie watches the way your eyes swim. He knows--though the change Eddie wanted to see was just at his company and the change you were trying to push forward on was on the societal scale--he knows that and has seen first how how much it demanded of a person, how much it demanded of you. 
“I’m going to be okay,” he promises, turning fully towards you and dropping into a squat. “I promise I will be.” His palm swallows your cheek as he cups the side of your face gently. 
“You’ll let me know if you need backup, yeah?”
“You’ll be the first person I call, sweetheart. You’ve got a nasty right hook and I love it when the three claps come out. I know you mean business.”
You snort. Eddie’s grin is bright, causing the skin around his eyes to crinkle. “You’ll have to hold my earrings though.”
“I’d die for those earrings.” He pulls you in by the back of your head, fingers pressing into the wig cap to guide you in and you let yourself go. HIs lips are soft in the kiss, a little chapped too and you figure he’s been worrying at them. “I’ll be right back,” he whispers against your lips as he pulls out of the kiss. 
You nod and though it’s going to make Eddie fuss, you work at the glue holding down the wig gap and get it almost all the way off--you’ve got the speed down whereas Eddie is methodical-- and by the time Eddie returns from the few feet he walked away, you’re rolling back the cap. 
“That’s my job,” Eddie laughs, but he’s already reaching for the oil. It’s only been a couple days since you installed the wig but the air that rushes in feels orgasmic. 
You hum, a sigh falling out after it when Eddie begins to oil your scalp. The pressure is deep enough to scratch any itch you might’ve had and to relax you. “Your fingers are magic,” you whisper. 
“Thanks. I think my future wife said something similar.”
“Yeah, and the majority of my TikTok followers,” you laugh. You weren’t a TikTok influencer, only using the app for your entertainment and to hopefully bring a smile to someone else’s day to. You are a much more frequent user than Eddie and just recently, you posted on TikTok--a sped up and voiced over video of you and Eddie doing each other’s hair. You gave him space buns and laid edges. He redid your twist out. But there is one spot in the video where Eddie insisted on giving you a scalp massage, which you didn’t protest too much again and there are quite a few screencaps of your face melting in bliss that have floated around. Many folks commented that it looked like Eddie was giving you the best scalp massage of your life, to which you’d readily agreed. You always twisted tight to your scalp to get longevity and Eddie, though he was good, always a loose start so there is always a bit of relief that accompanies his work in your hand. 
The comments of course did spread to center around his fingers. It was a semi frequent occurrence given the nature of Eddie’s online presence. 
Eddie moonlights as a rockstar--playing a few shows locally, posting a cover or two once every few months onto his socials. Eddie is adamantly against using social media outside of his music and the occasional video you orchestrated for him to do. All the ones you do are usually centered around Eddie playing his guitar too. The videos were most often transition trends on TikTok where you directed Eddie on what to do, where to look, what to lip sync, and focusing when he played any song in these videos on his ringed fingers working up and down the frets. Eddie enjoyed the ones where there were low lit, him lit from behind and the camera shooting up at him from below as he played a cover. It provided an air of mystery and appeal. Sure it is helped that he is usually shirtless or with his shirt open as he plays that adds a bit of an appeal to it as well. But Eddie finds that he gets to play a small game of pretend. He is the rockstar he wants to be, but it’s in microdoses. 
Eddie never minds being in your videos. In fact, when you wanted to shoot something, even if it was something simple like you walking over to him after the two of you got dressed for date night and the camera is only aimed at your feet to show off your heels and his sneakers he was excited that you liked to show him off. The anonymity of the faceless videos eased some of the worry Eddie had so his face wouldn’t be out on the internet so much. 
The ones where his face is showing are usually brief or sped up so it takes more effort to capture his face. 
It’s all a balance and though you can indulge in the silly trends, getting Eddie to help you film between your natural face and then your glammed up work, the rhinestones either dripping down your cheeks like tears or around your eyes like a cateye you kept it real with the faceless but voice recorded silly fights: Eddie leaving the toilet seat up and you falling in and you making him check that you don’t have a bruise from how hard you feel against the rim or the time you record the sink, post Eddie washing dishes with the dirty water still standing though the suds from the water were starting to fizzle out which results in pretending to make Eddie sleep on Ozzy bed. Ozzy only eyed the intruder and then climbed up onto Eddie’s neck and cuddled around him. 
It’s all real and just like Eddie moves to rub circles around your temples it’s all yours. 
“I’m about to fall asleep right here,” you sigh. 
“I wouldn’t stop you,” Eddie laughs. 
“Did you make the chirocrapter appointment?”
“Not yet.”
“Eddie you’re killing your back with your posture.”
“I like it when you rub it for me,” Eddie counters simply. 
“I cannot put your back into alignment.”
“I-It’s so expensive.”
“Why do we have a flexible health saving account if you’re never going to use it?” you huff. 
“Because what if you need it? Or what if something more serious comes up?”
Eddie would run himself into the ground and only go to the doctor if he was dying. You know how hard it is to not have the money or to have insurance while growing up. You’re scared to even catch a cold sometimes worried it’s going to send you into the negative. 
But the two of you have always been smart with your money now that you’re making more of it. “Consider it your one splurge,” you counter. You know Eddie hadn’t used his one splurge for the year. “We’ve got less three more months to spend the excess. Please just get the alignment. I’ll even call and make the appointment for you. You won’t have to talk to anyone until you show up.”
“Fine. But only since you’re making it. The nurses scare me sometimes.”
“I know, bub. I got you.”
You say it a lot. Eddie always believes it, but his heart soars each time he hears it. I got you and you’d yet to let the promise fall so flat it couldn’t get back up. Sure, you stumbled, but you always worked to show Eddie that you were going to be there through hell and high water. 
“Have I told you I love you yet today?” Eddie questions, bending now to bump his nose over yours. 
“Hmm, my memory needs a refresher,” you smile. 
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sirthisisa-wendys · 6 months
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Okay to all my black girlies out there…
DOES ANYONE HAVE A WASH AND GO ROUTINE THAT LEAVES YOUR CURLS JUST REGULAR AND THEY DONT NEED TO BE FINGER COILED BECAUSE I WANT TO STOP USING MY WRISTS FOR THAT
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Aevin Dugas on “The Doctors” with the world’s biggest afro!
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notreallyimportant · 1 year
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I truly hate women who goes out of their way to use a product not meant for them and then gets mad when it doesn’t work for them.
Like black people in general have all of two sections of 5 shelves in Walmart that have hair products that were made specifically for their hair and maybe a shelf of makeup for our skin tones, and more likely than not it’s locked behind a glass door. But we can’t have shit. And yes I’m talking about the Mielle Rosemary Mint Oil.
“ It’s just hair products”
No it’s not. It doesn’t even work for a white person’s hair because (1) it’s supposed to be left in your hair not washed out and (2) y’all break out when you’re hair is too oily.
Imagine for like five seconds that you have eczema. And there’s only five shelves of lotion for eczema prone skin. You find that one brand that works for you. All of a sudden, some random person without eczema was like “ I heard it’s not too oily, and felt light. But I put it on and I’m starting to have issues with acne” meanwhile all of the lotion you normally use is gone… that is what many black women go through every time a white woman is like “ I heard coconut and turmeric was good for your hair so I went out and bought this coconut and turmeric shampoo and conditioner,but blah, blah”. You get the picture.
Again, when it comes to beauty products made for black people, it’s pretty limited. Whether it’s makeup( because they still lock up darker foundations), or hair care. Even if you go to stores that specifically cater to black hair care, it’s hard to find one when you’re in the minority of the demographic and actually comfortable( you’d be surprised as to how many black hair shops are owned by nonblack people that are hella racist. Some are racist, some aren’t) going into. And even most grocery stores have all of 5 shelves with products that we actually use.
And if you’re a part of that demographic of women that use the product because it actually works for your hair, then I’m not talking about you.
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Victoria Monét x Camille Rose 🤎🌹
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heavensmoisture · 3 months
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