Kitty doesn't have to end up with some girl to make her bi+ awakening arc valid or anything. But I do wish people didn't pretend that Kitty‘s bisexuality will obviously no longer play a major role in the show anymore now that she's gotten rid of Dae through her "harmless" crush on Yuri. (And then jump to defend why Min-ho is certainly going to be endgame—Besides, if Kitty ends up serious about Yuri, that'll imply that she emotionally cheated on perfect Dae simply to satisfy her bicuriousity. We don't want that bi slander now, do we?)

What if I told you there was a secret third option?

I think we need to all clarify that Kitty being attracted to Yuri in the first place was not an implication of bisexuals being prone to infidelity or dissatisfaction. Kitty never shopped around for new potential partners (read: girls) while she was really with Dae. It only started when Kitty was just beginning to give up on him. As she nursed her heartbreak, she developed feelings for this new person—Yuri—who just happened to be a girl. By the time Kitty and Dae were together again, Kitty had already moved on from their relationship. Her heart was no longer in it.

As they explicitly discussed in the show, it's valid to have a silly crush while you're in a steady relationship, but something that intense and serious only happens when you're open to really being with someone. I think it just makes sense that Kitty is falling in love with Yuri, and her feelings for her were not just a temporary launch pad to get rid of Dae.

Logically if (hopefully!) we get a second season, I think Kitty will end up dating Min-ho for a while (as a sort-of rebound after Dae, sort-of trying to forget her crush on Yuri) but eventually break things off. And that Yuri will find that things are not the same with Julianna anymore after such a long time apart, even though their circumstances were unfair and out of their hands (paralleling what happened between Dae and Kitty in S1).

I think that the two of them will circle back to each other, mutually. Not because it has to happen for Kitty to remain bi+ (it really, really doesn't), but simply because of the narrative satisfaction it brings to a romcom/drama like this. Their moms were best friends, they were archenemies at first. They bumped into each other the same way LJ and Peter did, long before they fell in love and became endgame. Kitty thought she knew everything about love, but in her coming-of-age she finds that herself in love with someone impossible—a woman.

And, well, no, I’m never going to assume the queerness of a canonically bi+ protagonist (regardless of how much or how little it’s addressed) exists simply for the sake of token representation or queerbaiting or whatever. Because in real life, bi people just are, you know? But boy is this show set up beautifully for Kitty x Yuri to happen as a neat ending.

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Ok, I just have one more thing to add about this whole Kit Connor situation, because I think this opens up a really important conversation on bi+ erasure. This is just another piece of evidence that biphobia and bi+ erasure is still rampant in the LGBTQ community. So, this bisexuality awareness month, let's all do better to continue to fight the toxic culture against the bi+ community.

YOU ARE VALID.

Bisexuals just keep winning

“I always fell in love with a person. Sometimes that person was a man, and sometimes it was a woman. But the important thing was that I fell in love with that person.” – Tove Jansson

Happy ASAW 2024, here's something about community !

Oh how the tables have turned

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary, which is still not all-encompassing) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

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my contribution to the fandom

"There is a large gap between bisexual visibility and bisexual community. Since I don’t think scientists are on the brink of discovering the key to human teleportation, we’re going to have to create and attend bi spaces ourselves in order to feel less alone. We, the bi people of the world, are going to have to build bi communities."

The time change is throwing me off so bad :(

If this post gets:

100 notes I'll explain my gender to my friends and tell them my pronouns

500 notes I'll explain my romantic orientation to my friends (they think I'm aroace, I just identify as ace) ✓

1000 notes I'll come out to my sibling (they're agender, I know they'll support me)

10 000 notes I'll come out to my sister (she has pronouns in her discord bio, it'll be fine)

100 000 notes I'll tell my best friend I love her

1 000 000 notes I'll come out to my homophobic, transphobic conservative Christan family that I live with (they still talk to my agender sibling, so it'll just be very awkward for the next few years...)

All panic is gay to me, because I’m both pansexual/genderfluid and ALSO terrified of everyone

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